We often look for that “vacation,” that sigh of relief, sense of fulfillment or “peace of mind” that we think our fulfilled hopes would bring. But are we so sure this would be the answer to our discontentment?
My mind once believed that “if at least some opportunity could present in my life, I would feel freer.” I now have more options and openings being created in my life, the very scenario my mind was once asking for. And guess what? It is now trying to depict which choice is “the ideal” choice, analyze each options and measure the pros and cons, find reasons to feel “good” or “disappointed” about a certain choice, project future outcomes of what could go “right” and what could go “wrong” etc. Is that the freedom I was looking for? Or is this just as busy of a mind as I experienced before?
When we get what we thought would make us happy, it’s often short-lived and eventually made into another big puzzle. Look at all the celebrities living a luxurious lifestyle. I’m pretty sure that is what they prayed for at some point, yet look how many still reach out to drugs and alcohol for “peace of mind.” They can never get enough plastic surgeries, are depressed, aren’t themselves, feel isolated, or even regret becoming famous…
“I hope everybody could get rich and famous and will have everything they ever dreamed of, so they will know that its not the answer.” – Jim Carrey
So we’re grumpy when we don’t get what we want, but when life says “HERE YA GO, some of what you ‘wanted’, play with it!” and we manifest something once labeled as “positive” into our lives, we can still entertain doubts and what ifs, overanalyze and define it, or even end up finding other reasons to feel grumpy and unsatisfied once again. The chase for perfection never ends…
Why can’t we just STAY happy? It’s simple: it never was the mind’s job to find peace and contentment. The mind is a computer; a tool that measures, calculates, runs programs, interprets and channels information. You can send a command “FIND HAPPINESS”… but all it can bring up are files, programs and movies. You can look for definitions on google but all you’re gonna find are definitions…
The preciousness and sacredness of Life, of Love, can NEVER be understood by the conceptual mind as it can only ‘know’ concepts and descriptions, but never the thing itself.” – Michael Jeffreys
We have basically misinterpreted the use of the mind. We have been chasing for the mind’s ability to create SENSATIONS of thrill and excitement and have mistaken chemical brain processes and responses for true inner-peace. Sensations and emotions all come and go. They don’t stay. In a sense, they are really only for entertainment, for the enjoyment of the momentary experience. We may have some programs of what “happiness” is supposed to look like with a set of rules to get there, but they are simply files and documents stored in our minds, many of which are quite misleading. How can you tell a machine to “BE happy?
A-HA! BE is the difference. Mind thinks and calculates, Being IS. We do not need to think in order to be, it is out of being that arises thoughts! After all, without BEING here first, there is no thoughts to be witnessed. So what does that tell us about the inability to STAY happy? Of course we won’t stay happy if our version of happiness is the results of passing thoughts and calculations in our minds. “I’m happy because of this and that, I won’t be happy without this but will stay happy if this stays ___ + ___ = Happiness…” This is not happiness, this is bargaining thoughts – trying to contain what is passing.
When I say true happiness, I don’t mean an outcome or a passing emotional response, I mean a state of being. Many like to refer to this state as joy and peace as opposed to happiness, because of how happiness has been interpreted as a pursuit or a thrill.
“Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas joy arises from within.” – Eckhart Tolle
True joy and inner-peace are not a product of the mind, they are simply the joy of being, the joy of experiencing life as it is, instead of through mental interpretation. If I had to compare my level of peace when I was over-thinking about the new events and options in my life, versus when I let it be and brought my awareness back to simply experiencing life in the present moment, it was quite significant. What struck me the most is that while my external reality seemed to lack action and options, I judged and analyzed the situation. And when some desired options and action finally manifested in my life, I also watched my mind judge and analyze what was happening or could happen. Why get the mind in the way of just experience life as it is?
“If you don’t get what you want, you suffer; if you get what you don’t want, you suffer; even when you get exactly what you want, you still suffer because you can’t hold on to it forever.”
― Dan Millman, Way of the Peaceful Warrior
Peace and clarity wasn’t the outcome of getting what I wanted, nor was it the outcome of living a quiet uneventful life. It simply wasn’t an outcome! It was simply the recognition that I AM HERE to experience life, to be open to all experiences and learn through them. Our being is naturally open to life, because that is what it is here to experience. All else is a made up of thought or belief clouding the obvious: The world is a playground, and we’re here to play and learn!
We need to let go of relying on our “computer” to tell us what’s best for us. Truth is, it really doesn’t know – it simply assumes based on what programs and perceptions we choose to keep. This is why the space of unknown is the greatest place we can allow ourselves to be in to reconnect with our being. We need to first accept that we don’t know, or more so, let our mind know that it’s not its job to know what life is.
If we journey through life being OPEN for experiences, it will be very hard to experience constant disappointment or anxiety. Disappointment and anxiety are for the ones relying on mind to define life, joy and peace. Joy, peace and aliveness are for the ones who define nothing and experience what is real: the present moment.
“Happiness is a journey, not a destination.” – Souza
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