Bullying – something that happens far too often to us (or by us) as we grow up. When we’re young we almost don’t realize the impacts of it. We don’t put two and two together, or have the knowledge and understanding to realize that something we say to someone today could affect them forever.
The lasting effects of bullying aren’t the result of being weak or unable to move beyond the names we are called, but can rather be attributed to the fact that often we don’t have the tools or the know-how to pick ourselves up after we have fallen. After all, our society does not see a profit in that kind of personal strength, and so attention to such skills and tools fall behind the lines and numbers that train us to become cogs in a machine. We’re then left to figure it out for ourselves, if we have the time, wisdom, or support around us to make it happen.
I can recall times when I was young where I was involved in name calling, I can also remember times of rejection, where everything in my world turned upside down as the people around me suddenly gave me the cold shoulder, all because I didn’t choose to fit in with what they did. Both hurt.
Fast forward to today, and running Collective Evolution brings all of its own challenges. It’s the INTERNET! The magical place where you can share amazing and empowering information but also have people hate you for doing so even though they don’t know you. Where people have the freedom to talk crap and make up so much about you without knowing even a little bit about who you really are. Over the past 5 years I’ve heard it all. Anything from evil hidden agendas to being a crazy extremist simply because I feel we’re capable of doing more than we do now.
Just recently I went through a couple days of feeling down simply because I slipped up for a short period. I let the names, the attacks, the accusations – all completely misguided – get to me. I ignored the 90% of people who say amazing things, who love what I share and offer words of encouragement. Instead, my focus shifted and those 10% became really loud. As a person who does what he does because he loves other people, wants the best for the world, and is kind and honest with everyone, I couldn’t believe the misguided perceptions some people had of me.
But that’s only because for those moments I forgot it was the internet. I forgot that these people don’t actually know me. I forgot that most of the time poeple lash out because of their own unconsciousness and their own pain. It’s not about me, it’s not about what I say, it’s about how they feel within themselves.
Don’t Take Things Personally!
For the reasons stated above it’s important to not take things personally. Ask yourself; what is it about what someone said that makes you feel sad? Do you believe it about yourself? Do you think they are right? Why is it that we are affected so much? Reflecting of this can often help us learn more about ourselves also.
We live in a world where learning to navigate your emotions and how you feel is not important. We live in a world where being depressed and taking medication for it is more common than people being happy. The video below shares a powerful message. It just so happened to fall into my lap two days ago, when I was feeling down and out by what others have said.
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