The New Year is generally a time where people feel pressured to think of a resolution for the year, something in our lives that we would like to change, to work on, to learn, to let go of etc. The media does a great job of reminding us of this too and more often than not, the most common resolution, is to lose weight.
It’s no wonder that gym membership sales soar during this time. If you’re anything like me, this thought of a resolution isn’t even really crossing your mind until after Christmas is over and then it’s just kind of like, “okay what’s not working? What should I try to change this year?”
Often we put little thought into these resolutions or we aren’t being fully serious about them. Instead of scrambling last-minute to think of something that we’d like to change during the upcoming year or feeling guilty because it’s now 3 weeks into 2018 and we have yet to even get started, maybe we should start thinking a bit more long-term. What do we want for ourselves? Do you ever ask yourself this simple question – what do I want? Rather than just thinking “I want to lose weight,” we could think a bit more holistically and long-term; “I want to change my eating habits, I want to eat more fruits and vegetables, I would like to live a more active lifestyle.”
This will inevitably bring you the weight loss that you’re after in a more sustainable way. So you could say by 2019, “I plan to have learned more about healthy eating, figured out which type of exercise I enjoy, and naturally have lost a few pounds,” if that’s your goal.
This common form of last minute thinking, or little focused YOU time, is exactly why we created The 5 Days of You Challenge here at CE. It includes videos, worksheets, exercises and a clear plan for you to get clear on what you want, align with your soul and journey towards self realization.
Thinking more long-term can have a dramatic impact on your goals and from there you can take the baby steps needed in order to reach that goal. Also, no joke, a vision board can be quite beneficial to help you to keep your eye on the prize so to speak and have a daily visual reminder of how you want your life to look and what you can do to get there… it’s important to be realistic with yourself. And I don’t mean in terms of what you can accomplish, because I want you to know, in case you don’t already know – you are a powerful being, and you are capable of creating, and manifesting absolutely anything you desire for yourself.
So, be realistic in terms of what you actually want, not what you think you should want. According to westernized society, we should all aim to get a degree, get married, buy a house, have children, etc. If that’s not what you truly desire in your heart, then don’t make that your goal. These dreams are for you and you alone. If you are unsure of this, then hey, don’t stress, you still have about 11 ¼ months to get clear… nah.. Undoubtedly this can take time, but you still have to get started and for that, I highly recommend writing in a journal. It’s interesting how powerful and effective writing in a journal can actually be. It’s as if when you put all of your jumbled up thoughts down on paper, you are clearing the space in your head and you are literally communicating with the universe. What you put out you will get back.
Science has found that people with a higher level of self-efficacy and internal locus of control tend to radically outperform others.
Self-efficacy meaning your belief in your own ability to achieve your goals. How confident are you? And how’s your self talk? Do you tend to not think very highly of yourself and doubt your ability to actually achieve the things that you want for yourself?
Internal locus of control meaning a belief that you, not an external circumstance will determine the outcomes of your life.
External locus of control meaning a belief that factors that are outside of you determine the outcomes of your life.
The fact of the matter is that the majority of the population have low self-efficacy and an external locus of control and research has shown that people with these two traits,
- Don’t set challenging goals
- Don’t take on leadership roles
- Experience learned helplessness
- Have a higher chance of depression and anxiety
- Lack motivation
- Have a pessimistic view of the future
- Have low job satisfaction and low job performance
- Have low life satisfaction
- Have low engagement in both work and life
- Have greater health problems
- Experience more stress
So, are you a part of the majority? If so, then chances are that unless you check yourself, accomplishing your goals might be more difficult for you. But it is important for you to know that you and only you, are in control of your own life. Things are going to happen in the world, as they tend to all the time. But you are still in charge of your own life and how you react to those circumstances is entirely up to you. You have the power, you just have to realize that.
It’s easy to look at the lives of others and think to ourselves, “oh lucky them. They had a better chance, their parents have money, they had a better start,” but where is playing the victim really going to get you? Also, don’t forget that WE ALL FACE STRUGGLES in our lives, all of us, yes – even the rich and famous. As Abraham Lincoln once said,
“The best way to predict your future is to create it.”
Some important things to remember,
- You have to believe that YOU ARE IN CONTROL of what happens to you in your life.
- You have to believe in YOUR OWN ABILITY to make things happen in your life, you have to remember that you are a powerful manifestor and can literally create anything you want for yourself. We are given the circumstances and challenges in our lives because we are strong and capable enough to overcome them.
- You and only you are responsible for the choices you make, your goals aren’t going to achieve themselves, stay focussed.
- You can’t lose hope, that’s a dangerous slope. ANYTHING is possible! Don’t ever forget that.
There are numerous books on this topic that can potentially help you to see this in yourself. Check out a list here! Also, a few that I have found to be quite insightful are, Excuses Begone! By Dr. Wayne Dyer and Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself, by Dr. Joe Dispenza.
And one more inspiring quote to leave you with,
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own lights shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. -Marianne Williamson
Join the 5 Days of You Challenge that begins Monday January 29th 2018. The challenge includes videos, worksheets, exercises and a clear plan for you to get clear on what you want, align with your soul and journey towards self realization. You also get access to a private support community!
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