What does “raising consciousness” actually mean? It is often portrayed as some sort of super-human accomplishment that will grant us spiritual super powers… but it is simply about becoming freer within ourselves. The freer we feel within – not “because” of this or that – the LIGHTER we are. Becoming enlightened is simply about lightening up. We can now forget about becoming something more “special.” Raising our consciousness is simply the process of lightening up our load of baggage so we can move freely and fluidly as the light beings that we already are!
Here are 11 tips and insights (with links to talks and guided clearing meditations) that have personally helped me lighten up my own load and shift my consciousness.
1. Be You In Every Moment
Yep, it’s that simple. Replace pretense with your presence. You don’t have to wait until you feel “good,” “perfect,” “enlightened” or wait for something to happen for you to relax into your own being. You don’t need to look at anothers journey and compare, judge or doubt yourself either. This type of thinking just tricks you out of the perfection of you in this moment anyways. No matter what you are feeling or what the situation is, just be you and let the rest unfold.
“Find that place which is effortlessly at rest within itself. Be there—be one with that.” – Mooji
2. Let Go of the Fear of Feeling
This is a big one. Discovering who we are is no different than opening the door of a house – the house being a metaphor for our human mind. It’s a great step, we’re letting some light in! But does it mean we have visited it thoroughly? Does it necessarily mean we have experienced each room, opened every closet, and even spent some time in the “scary” basement? Perhaps we have quickly peaked in each room, but have we taken the time to explore them fully, meditate in them, open the windows to let some light in, and perhaps do a little clean up? Are we okay with leaving the doors open for us and others to see?
The light of our awareness isn’t limited to entering what is comfortable and acceptable to the mind. It is here to illuminate all rooms – even those dusty closets with all of the old, emotionally charged baggage we have been reluctant to explore. What has laid dormant within each room is often ignored. But now, the winds of change are blowing all doors open and many of us are feeling and re-experiencing many emotions that we have once protected ourselves from feeling again. The only thing that blocks us from seeing the blessing in letting the wind blow us open is the fear of feeling. When we choose to not be controlled and defined by this fear anymore, we naturally keep all of our doors open knowing that it cannot break who we are, but only identities with old patterns that were limiting our inner-freedom and peace anyways.
“The intent of this journey isn’t to ‘feel good,’ but rather to feel whats actually unfolding within us right now. in other words, our intent isn’t to feel better, but to get better at feeling. Our authentic state of presence is joyful, harmonious, peaceful and loving. However, to awaken to our presence initially requires journeying through the current condition of the emotional body.” – Michael Brown, The Presence Process
3. Identify With Nothing (Not Even a Spiritual Identity)
Dis-identify from labels: Can you identify as nothing in particular? For example, look at a bunny, a bird or a flower. Is the bunny hopping around thinking it’s a bunny, is the bird singing because it knows “that’s what birds do,” and is the beauty of a flower experienced via it’s name, or is it simply witnessed in silence? The same goes with us. Let’s not dismiss the BEING within the term “human being.” The less we let ourselves be defined by identity, the more space we allow for our own authentic presence to shine through, and the lighter and more alive we feel. Take a moment to breathe in this very moment and identify as NO-THING. There you are…
Dis-identify from thoughts and emotions: This is also a great reminder when it comes to letting ourselves feel. We are currently living in times where a lot of stuff is coming to the surface for release, whether it be belief systems, blocked emotions, trauma imprints, identities and perceptions. The smoothest way to move through it all is to not only release the fear of feeling, but to not always jump to identify with what stories and emotions come through. This can be a challenge, but it helps to know that dis-identifying is not something we DO, but is something we ARE underneath all that we’re trying to do! Underneath the mental noise, we are HERE, observing what passes and feeling all sensations without judging or identifying. When we consciously move from identification to detached observation, we shift from resistance and confusion to peace and clarity.
“Feelings are Just Visitors – Don’t Identify” – Mooji
4. Don’t Be so Hard on Yourself
“Raising consciousness” is not a serious mission. There’s no self-judgment or “I won’t make it” kind of thinking required. Remember, we’re here to be human and awaken through this human form – not deny it altogether. We’re not lacking peace because we have allowed ourselves to be human, we lack peace because we judge and resist certain aspects of being human while chasing and overvaluing others. We are not here to make ourselves an enemy and seek to destroy our ego; we are simply choosing to become conscious of how it currently operates and make some adjustments without an ounce of judgment. We can definitely give ourselves a pat on the back, planet Earth is one intense school. But it is with great love and excitement that our souls are intending to make a shift, not with self-judgment.
“Do you really think you can embody your true nature of peace and unconditional love by fighting and judging yourself?” – Higher Self
5. Don’t Make Personal Growth Into a Means To “Get What You Want”
When we are identified with the ego, we believe in the thought “I lack and therefore must fill” when in truth, we are whole and complete. Even when it comes to our own spiritual development, we can get caught up thinking “if I clear this pattern, I can then manifest the ‘ideal’ relationship, stop that experience and get what I want instead” or “If I clear my fear right now, I can prevent it from happening later.” As much as a shift in consciousness does shift our reality, holding on to expectations still focuses our awareness outside of us and therefore keeps us in the very state we think we want to move beyond.
Notice how in this state of expectation, we still judge our current experience – our very messenger and teacher – and look outside of ourselves for something “better.” When we are truly beyond past fears and insecurities, not “getting what we want” won’t affect our inner-peace because our true source of peace is within anyways. It doesn’t mean we can’t have what we desire, it only means our entire sense of self and inner-peace won’t be dependent on it. In a state of inner-freedom, not only more possibilities will open up to us, we’ll have the eyes to see it!
If I had to invent a mantra about this, it would be this one: I am releasing what no longer serves to be FREE within myself, not to project outcomes.
“You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level.” – Eckhart Tolle
6. Be More Interested in Your Reaction Than In Who/What Triggered It
If we tend to always react in the same old ways to specific scenarios, it might be time to question our reactions instead of pointing our fingers out there. I can tell you from experience: focusing solely on external triggers leads nowhere. When we accept that outer circumstances and other souls can play certain roles to make us aware of our sensitivities, we realize it is futile to shoot the messengers. We should actually thank the messengers for the message they bring! Sure, the urge to react can be strong, but this is a perfect opportunity to apply the wisdom and simply sit with our feelings. By allowing what we feel to just be, we are able to detach from our reaction and see things from a higher perspective.
“I reacted this way because I let myself be affected by other’s judgment,” “This person attacked me because of their own insecurity,” “It upset me because it reminds me of a past scenario I have not yet made peace with…” These are examples of what realizations may occur when we take the time to observe what is taking place. When we acknowledge the core beliefs behind of our reactions and let them go, our consciousness naturally raises beyond old patterns.
“We don’t blame the mail carrier for bills that are delivered, just as we don’t blame the mirror for what it reflects. Likewise, it’s pointless reacting to reflections of our un-integrated emotional charge.” – Michael Brown, The Presence Process
P.S. Even when it comes to the corruption of this world, it is not by always RE-ACTING in the same old ways that we are going to CREATE real change. Observing the world instead of reacting to the world doesn’t mean apathy or being passive. It is a complete and neutral acknowledgment of reality, in which we are free to create something different. Reaction tends to go in circles and perpetuate a victim mentality instead of bringing the awareness that we are all co-creators.
7. Make Friends With The Unknown
Ahhh the scary unknown… but what if it’s not that scary? What if the unknown is simply what we haven’t created yet? BINGO! That’s exactly what it is. We create moment to moment from a field of infinite possibilities. We are naturally fluid beings. If we are really afraid of the unknown, we should be screaming right now because we’re in it! But that’s not the state we want to be in.
We want to quit dragging the past along with us and stop projecting an image of what our future should or could look like. When we do this, it is like watching three channels superposed on one screen: we got our past, our present and an imagined future all playing at once. We can’t see clearly! However, when we dis-identify from the past and let the future be unknown, all that is left for us to see is what is real: This moment. In this moment, everything is clear and fresh, everything is for us to experience and create with. Freedom can only be felt in this moment! After all, it’s by constantly projecting a known past into an unknown present that we get stuck in our patterns.
“It is amazing the energy we spend holding on to our past fears in order to predict our future misery. We’d rather be afraid and in control, than to dare fully enjoy the present moment.” – François Lange
8. Don’t Over-Analyze
Gonna quote my pal Joe Martino here: “Answers to our challenges are often quite simple. If you find yourself analyzing and re-analyzing all the time, it’s likely you are spending too much time in your head. Get out of your mind! The answers will come when they need to.”
This is a very valuable insight. We tend to believe the mind knows what is best for us and will exhaust ourselves by depicting the moment, a past event or future potential in every angle possible. We can relax; it is not the mind’s job to “figure out” how to receive insight. The mind is a practical tool for tasks that can be completed NOW, but was never meant to go on over-drive when it’s not needed. All creativity, insight and wisdom actually comes from the space between our thoughts – from BEING. So it can save us some time to know that not all answers are found in the mind.
“If we think about it, if we begin to analyze it, if we start to argue with it or try to “figure it out,” we’ll become lost in thought. No one gets anywhere trying to figure out a sunrise. A sunrise is something you just be with. And you get from it whatever you get from it. If you try to analyze a sunrise, the experience the sunrise has for you will go away.” – Neale Donald Walsch
9. Be In The Body
One, if not THE most effective way to connect with the moment, quiet the mind, release resistance, drop judgment, feel our inner-guidance and raise our consciousness is to connect with our body. When we are caught up in the mind, notice how our whole attention and energy seems to be scattered around our head and body – not here, now and within. An effective way to bring us back to reality is to connect with what is naturally present – such as the movement of our breath and the very sensations of our body. This brings our awareness out of the stream of compulsive thinking and into the silent movement of energy within.
“Go into your inner body, feel that your energy field is alive. And you’ll notice, you’re not thinking anymore. You can still listen.” – Eckhart Tolle
10. Love Freely
Do you carry barriers and protections around your heart, preventing love to flow freely? Many of us have adopted the belief that love can hurt, or that conditions need to be met before we can allow love to flow. This one hits home for me since I have often closed myself off when I felt rejected or saw that love wasn’t equally reciprocated. I can see now how this is a very restrictive illusion that actually creates more tension and suffering.
If we truly want to lighten up, we need to let the doors of our hearts open even if this means releasing built up pain from the past. This will not only release our old perceptions of conditional love, but will also give us the opportunity to experience the freedom of unconditional love for others and most importantly ourselves.
The truth is, love always flows effortlessly between all beings regardless of external appearances and roles. We ARE Love, and we are one! When we let go of the fear of feeling and allow energy to flow in and out of the heart, we will realize it is not love that hurts. Unconditional love is our natural state; what is “hurting” are the protections and conditions we build around it.
“How we relate, or rather how well we love, depends on how empty we are of ideas, concepts, expectations.” – Kim Eng
11. Look at a Picture of Planet Earth
“You see how diminutive your life and concerns are compared to other things In the universe… The result is that you enjoy the life that is before you… It allows you to have inner peace.” – Astronaut Edward Gibson
Mercury Retrograde In Sagittarius: Revising Our Perspectives
Mercury began the latest edition of its retrograde process on November 16th/17th, which will last until December 6th/7th. In the weeks (and especially days) leading up to it we start to notice its influence as Mercury slows down and comes to a stop before moving the other way. This is known as the ‘pre-shadow’ period which began on October 29th.
If you have read my previous Mercury retrograde articles, the first two sections of this article are nearly the same and you can skip to the third section if you don’t want to re-read all the general themes associated with these periods. The other sections are more specific to this edition of it.
Mercury retrograde is known for the problematic effects it often has on communication technology, transactions, motor vehicles, anything with moving parts, and commuting in general. Some people even get headaches near the beginning of it. We could experience some challenges, misunderstandings, and errors around our communications, numbers/details, and commerce, as well as changes, cancellations, or delays in our schedules. We may also feel more challenged when we are doing excessive analytical work without using our internal guidance.
Although there is a higher probability of experiencing more of these problems during this time, they won’t necessarily apply to every situation. Some people may not notice these energies as much, depending on what types of things they are doing and how the astrology is playing out unique to the person’s astrological blueprint.
Mercury Retrograde can also be a good time to revisit or redo tasks, projects, ideas, or anything else that was initiated in the past. It can give us a different perspective or shift in thinking that can help us to approach these things in ways we wouldn’t have done so before. This may also be a period of reconnecting with old friends, family, sometimes lovers, or others you haven’t seen in a while.
The Deeper Purpose of Mercury Retrograde
Ultimately, Mercury Retrograde is a time for us to recalibrate and adjust specific areas of our lives as well as how we apply our minds towards these issues. It is a period in which we may receive important insights and see things in a new light. In most cases, it can be mildly transformational, but in some cases it can facilitate more major transformations depending on how it corresponds to your personal astrological chart.
During and following the retrograde, certain areas of our lives can go through changes or shifts, or we can experience a reorientation of some sort which influences how we proceed over the coming months or in some cases, it can have a more long-term significance. In the 2 weeks afterwards, known as the ‘post-shadow’ period, we move forward with some sort of new awareness, adjustment, as well as new ideas and thoughts that have been seeded which will develop as time progresses.
The things that you have been doing or circumstances in the two to three weeks leading up to this period could determine how and where this energy plays out. It is also possible that there could have been changes put in place at that time which may go through a sorting out process. There could have been unknown variables, both positive and negative, that were either unseen or hadn’t been conceived yet, which may become apparent over the coming weeks.
The sign(s) and element(s) in which Mercury retrograde travels shows the energy we are re-orienting ourselves with. More importantly, if you are more familiar with your natal astrology chart, your house(s) or any planetary placements being affected will show more specifically what areas of life you will be experiencing its energy in. For the astrologically literate, it began at 13’30 degrees of Leo and will retrograde all the way to 27’17 degrees of the Scorpio, before turning forward again.
This One Is Occurring Mostly In Sagittarius, Part of A Series In Fire Signs
Mercury retrograde always happens in primarily one element for more than a year. It is currently occurring in the Fire element which is about passion, creativity, instinct, inspiration, assertiveness, courage, confidence, and spirit. It also ends in the Water sign of Scorpio leading to the transition into Water signs which kicks off more so at the next Mercury retrograde in Pisces.
This Fire period is about re-aligning ourselves with these themes and expressing them in new or revamped ways. This ‘Fire process’ began in the spring of 2017 as it was transitioning out of Earth signs, with the first Mercury Retrograde to be completely in Fire occurring last December.
This one is more specific to a reorientation around Sagittarius themes, which is about beliefs, opinions, perspectives, teaching, hope, optimism, exploration, travel, and higher education. It is visionary and ‘big picture’ oriented. Sagittarius is also associated with marketing, sales, publishing, and media. It is idealistic, philosophical, and expansive. Expressed negatively, Sagittarius energy can also be judgemental, excessive, blunt, egotistical, argumentative, preachy, too scattered, and have a ‘know-it-all’ complex.
Mercury Retrograde Begins With a Square To Neptune
Mercury in Sagittarius begins its retrograde in a square with Neptune in Pisces which it will return to at the end of the post-shadow period. The combination can make it a little difficult to focus and deal with details and facts. However, it can stimulate abstract thought and help us to perceive things symbolically.
An evolutionary theme of this retrograde for many people could be about the reworking of how we apply Mercury and Neptune energies together. Mercury rules communication, the mind, commuting, communication technology, and how we process information. Neptune is associated with creativity, imagination, visual or musical arts, selflessness, oneness, compassion, idealism, dreams, spirituality, and mysticism.
Negative expressions of this energy that may come up that we need to work on could be connected to deception, addictions, escapism, illusions, flakiness, delusion, confusion, and lack of boundaries. Then you can also factor in the Sagittarian themes mentioned above.
Jupiter Recently Entered Sagittarius, Venus Finished Retrograde
The ruler of Sagittarius, Jupiter, has returned to its own sign on November 8th where it will stay until December 2019. Jupiter, the planet of expansion, rules the same things associated with Sagittarius and therefore this combined with the current Mercury retrograde really amplifies the Sagittarian themes mentioned earlier in the article.
Mercury will be aligned with Jupiter on its retrograde path which indicates that certain things that play out over the next month will help to set the stage for what Jupiter will bring into our lives over the next year. This month can be a period of tremendous learning, and perhaps even revamping certain perspectives, and how to incorporate the ‘big picture’ in how we proceed following the retrograde.
Venus ended its retrograde less than half a day prior to Mercury going retrograde. For many people, the Venus related developments, issues, or reorientations that have come up in recent weeks might be connected to any adjustments Mercury will be facilitating.
Venus will be in its post-retrograde shadow period until mid-December which will be 11 days after Mercury ends its retrograde. As time progresses over the next month, there will be more forward momentum around Venus-ruled areas of relationships (romantically and socially), values, money, pleasures, or perhaps something to do with aesthetics.
Mercury Retrograde Timeline
*Below, are some of the dates and information for some of the major astrological configurations during this retrograde. However, I also regularly post about other astro energies happening on my social media via Instagram and Facebook, you can follow on those platforms for more forecast content.
Earlier dates are for those in the Western part of the world and later dates for those in the East.
Nov 16th/17th – Mercury begins its retrograde at 1:33 am Universal Time. The days surrounding this period are a time in which complications may be amplified, but you may also start to get a better sense of what these retrograde themes mean for you.
Nov 22nd/23rd – Full Moon In Gemini. We may feel that we are being pulled in many directions and can get easily scattered and restless. There is a possibility of a clash, conflict, or competitiveness around of ideas and viewpoints. I will be doing a separate article on this Full Moon, join my mailing list here to be notified when it gets released.
Nov 25th-28th – Mercury’s Inferior Conjunction, Mercury square Mars, Mercury/Sun Conjunct Jupiter, and Mars Sextile Saturn. This is that halfway point of Mercury retrograde and can be a period of increased insights yet complications can also be stronger at this time depending on how you are applying yourself. Ideas and thoughts that are seeded now may develop over the coming months. This can also be a period where we are more irritable, impulsive, and perhaps have some conflict in some cases. However this can also be a highly productive period if Mercury retrograde complications do not get in the way. This can be a very mind opening period, perhaps lucky and expansive. Considering the ‘big picture’ is a strong theme now.
Nov 30th – Dec 2nd – Venus opposite Uranus, Mercury enters Scorpio while semi-sextile Venus, Mercury quincunx Uranus. Changes, disruptions, or surprises may come up at this time which may require some adjustments. This may affect relationships or financial matters, however, there is also a possibility of some exciting energy as well. Mercury shifting into Scorpio can help us think deeper or in an investigative way. Hidden matters connected to the past may come up.
Dec 3rd/4th – Mercury Trine Chiron and Lunar Nodes. There is a possibility for growth and healing at this time. There can be communications, connections or developments made which can benefit our future. Greater awareness of strengths and weaknesses can be beneficial for where we are headed.
Dec 6th/7th – Mercury Goes Direct in Late Scorpio with New Moon 10 hours later, Mars Conjunct Neptune. Mercury ends its retrograde and will slowly begin to move forward over the coming days. The areas of our lives that have been affected by this retrograde will start to become more clear and things will fall into place more easily. There will be a New Moon shortly afterwards which will help to kickstart new developments due to what has transpired.
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5 Real-World Examples of Time Travel That Prove It’s Real
- The Facts:
Time travel has been demonstrated in our world in multiple ways, but it's always been thought of as the stuff of science fiction. This article provides multiple real-world examples.
- Reflect On:
Humanity has made some interesting discoveries, and some of them we can't explain. As a result, we shy away from them and label unexplainable things as false as "pseudoscience." What are the implications of accepting these things as completely real?
Time travel is one of those fun topics that triggers visions of a young Michael J. Fox racing through time, literally, in the DeLorean, or Bill and Ted reliving famous moments in history thanks to their time-travelling phone booth. However, time travel isn’t just a movie plot line. It’s a real scientific phenomenon. Einstein’s theory of special relativity, after all, tells us that time slows down or speeds up depending on how fast you are moving relative to something else. So, we are all travelling through time on a daily basis. But it gets much spookier than that. Here are five real-world examples of time travel.
Time travellers are walking around on planet Earth right now. And they work for NASA! Astronauts who spend time on the International Space Station or long rocket trips out in our solar system age slightly slower than the rest of us down here. Not enough to notice, but enough to measure (100 years of time in space equals one-second forward in time). That means astronauts are not just space travellers, but time travellers, too. For those who believe that aliens are visiting planet Earth in speedy spaceships, the evidence for time travel could even extend to UFO videos and photos of advanced, inter-dimensional craft, because if Earth’s astronauts are able to travel through time, more advanced extraterrestrial astronauts should be able to as well.
Jack Kasher, Ph.D, a professor emeritus of physics at the University of Nebraska, points out that “there is another way, whether it’s wormholes or warping space, there’s got to be a way to generate energy so that you can pull it out of the vacuum, and the fact that they’re here shows us that they found a way.” (source)
The Science Lab
Time travel was once just a math equation jotted down on a notepad, a conversation topic over coffee, or the center of a sci-fi movie plot. But today time travel is a serious scientific study. In one recent experiment, Washington State University physicists were able to slow down the movement of particles so much that “negative mass” was created, causing the particles to accelerate forward when they were pushed away. The physicists concluded that the particles went backward in time! As well, physicists at the University of Queensland in Australia were able to make a single photon, or particle of light, go through a wormhole and interact with its older self on the other side.
There is also what’s called the delayed choice experiment. the delayed choice experiment illustrates how what happens in the present can change what happens(ed) in the past. It also shows how time can go backwards, how cause and effect can be reversed, and how the future caused the past. You can read more about that here.
Remote Viewers and Psychics
Scientists have yet to find a way for the human body to safely travel through time, but they may have figured out a way for the human mind to travel through time. According to Wikipedia, remote viewing is “the practice of seeking impressions about a distant or unseen target” using extrasensory perception, or ESP. In 1984, under the top-secret cover of the Stargate Project, the CIA conducted an experiment where they asked a human subject to remote view Mars in ancient times. Ingo Swann, a famed psychic who was part of the Stargate Project, claimed to have astral projected to Jupiter.
Here’s one of the most recent, heavily sources articles CE published on Remote Viewing.
Psychics are more well-known than remote viewers. They seem to be everywhere, and come in all varieties, from the TV show host to the fortune teller to your aunt. Some police departments even hire psychics to help locate missing bodies. Then there are revered psychics like Edgar Cayce and religious figures like Jesus Christ who have made bold and incredible predictions about the future that all came true.
Dreams That Come True
It’s possible that every time we drift off to sleep, we have the potential to drift off to a different time and space. At least in our minds. Many people relate to the experience of having a premonition in a dream, and in fact, many have gone on record about their foreshadowing dream (or nightmare). For example, Jo Jo Billingsley, a vocalist for the 1970s band Lynard Skynard, dreamed about her band mates suffering in a plane crash the night before it happened. There was also the case of Abraham Lincoln, the 16th President of the United States, who reportedly dreamed about his death a few nights before he was assassinated.
Remembering Past Lives
The belief in reincarnation is an ancient one. Along with reincarnation comes the belief in past lives. But for some, it’s much more than a belief. Some people remember their past lives, starting from a young age like Sam Taylor, who shared memories with his late grandfather, or more commonly, after a hypnotherapy session. If it’s possible for the human brain to view a past life and learn from past life experience, then maybe the human brain is the best time machine of all.
Because most of us can’t time travel, the subject matter continues to hang out in sci-fi books and movies and doesn’t factor into our day-to-day reality. However, if time travel is real, the implications for humanity are really great. Time travel could explain other mysterious phenomena, like ghosts, UFOs, and even the Mandela Effect. Time travel could also motivate mankind to open up its mind to a new universe of possibility, where the secrets of the future and past are revealed. It can be argued that it’s only a matter of time before humanity unlocks the secret powers of time travel.
There is still a lot we don’t know, and a lot of our most interesting science is locked away within black budget programs. We are capable of so much and still have so much to discover about our reality and ourselves. When the human race is ready and our intentions shift to looking at ourselves as a whole, perhaps then these ‘knowing’ will be ready to be utilized by the public.
Are You A ‘Self-Help’ Junkie Dying For REAL CHANGE?!
- The Facts:
The coaching industry is for the most part, unregulated. Anyone can decide they want to be a coach without having the skills, experience, self-awareness and depth of understanding of the complexities of the human condition, which are essential.
- Reflect On:
If you are considering or already working with a coach it is important firstly, that you are crystal clear on the primary role and responsibility you possess over your wellbeing. And secondly, that you do due diligence on any coach you hire.
As someone who’s been working closely with clients for the past 16 years in a personal growth capacity and who, in that time has been working on myself and my own growth as well, my life has changed more than I could ever have imagined was possible. I have been through many growth experiences that have seen me move countries twice, become a wife and a mother and now, I enjoy a beautiful existence in a small countryside town where I run my boutique-style business on Mallorca, off the coast of Spain.
My experience on both sides of the coaching and personal development industry however is what I want to highlight because it uniquely qualifies me to point out more than a few things. I want to speak to, in my experience, the many folks who have been blindsided and gotten caught up in searching for their next ‘fix’, be it through coaches or coaching programs ‘designed’ to address your most dire life/relationship/money/health problems and needs.
As they refer to it in the industry, your ‘pain’.
The thing is, I have come to believe that many of the promises made by some of the players in the self-improvement industry, are built (most times unconsciously) upon inherent untruths and assumptions about who YOU, the consumer ARE.
I don’t only believe this for you. I know it to be true because I, along with many of my colleagues and clients have been burned too.
I have have had to find another way. I have had to find my own way.
There are a significant number of coaches and coaching programs out there that simply FAIL to adequately acknowledge your inner resources, wisdom, resilience and strength, what you deserve, have the potential to create AND to bring these to the fore.
If your Facebook experience is anything like mine, these are the tentacles that reach out, flailing at you, trying to grab your attention every time you scroll down your feed.
It is both my observation and personal experience that as much as the industry is filled with practitioners who are conscious, in integrity and awake, it is also full of practitioners who, driven by their own fear, lack an overwhelming desire for a profitable bottom line, are unaware of the covert ‘personal development’ business building techniques they have been taught to bring unsuspecting, often vulnerable clients in.
Without calling any names, you can think here of some of the high-visiblity players in the industry. Consider the fanfare and energy around their launches, the tone of their copy, the well-oiled funnels, landing pages and up-selling strategies they use to bring large numbers of clients in. We are confronted by this kind of marketing everyday. It would be interesting to know exactly what percentage of their students/clients feel, by the end of these programs, that the promises made had been fulfilled. It is a number that we will never know, but what I do know is this…
Those who find themselves disappointed in their results and by extension, their coaches and themselves, THESE are the clients that tend to make the rounds because they feel forlorn, hopeless and lost. These are the ‘personal development junkies’ who are searching for their next FIX.
If this is YOU, I invite you to stop whatever it is you’ve been desperately throwing your energy, attention, hopes and dreams at and take this truth in:
No matter what shiny new modality, course, coach, coaching program or product promises to change your life, here is what 9 times out of 10, they won’t say…or if they do, they have no idea how to hold the space needed for it to root itself into your muscle memory and bones…
More than anything, it takes confidence and self-belief as well as deep connection and communication with YOURSELF to create what you most desire and need.
In other words, if you haven’t been actively acknowledging this truth, theres a good chance that you’ve been unwittingly been buying into the untruth for the solution to all your problems, your ability to call in your needs and heart’s desires lies outside of yourself, in someone else’s hands.
What can you do to change this subversive belief?
You can DECIDE once and for all that you are no longer going to let yourself be distracted by the plethora of ‘mindset’ modalities and teachers clamouring for your attention out there. That is not to say that there isn’t value in investing in mentorship and support, but the point here is this:
In your life, YOU call the shots.
The answers to your problems all lie within you and can only be unearthed firstly by cultivating a solid relationship with yourself so that YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE.
YOU get to take full ownership for your growth and decide, based on your wisdom, what support you most need.
You too can and are meant to find YOUR OWN WAY.
Your Vagina Is More Beautiful Than You Think
It was 11 years ago and I was in a big documentary phase. I had watched hundreds of documentaries in...
US Government Accidentally Releases Electromagnetic Mind Control Documents In FOIA Request
When researcher Curtis Waltman of the website Muckrock received files resulting from his Freedom of Information Act request on Antifa and...