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Four Steps To Becoming ‘A New Human’ & Awakening To Your Soul Path

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9Having waded from the shallow waters of a material existence into the deep profundity of an ‘awakened’ lifestyle, spiritual healers and twin-flame soulmates Eden and John have now dedicated their lives to helping others discover what it is to become a New Human. Here they share some tips on letting go, calming down and listening to our hearts.

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What is the concept behind your Becoming A New Human project and how exactly would you define a New Human?

zEden_ShootPromo2Eden: The New Human concept came about in our experiences working with people at the soul level. Those who are awakening are realizing there is something more to who we are, and that humanity as a whole has the ability to completely transform itself. We are using a fraction of our abilities. We are just barely beginning to understand the true powers we hold in creating our reality and being in harmony with Earth. There is an absolute difference in the abilities of those who have shifted in the last 10 years, such as being more empathic and sensing others’ energy, visioning or “3rd eye” psychic abilities, as well as the ability to help others heal. There is also a lot of information coming through on the actual physical changes we are undergoing in order to hold a greater energy for all of these changes.

JohnGermainLeto_PromoShotJohn:  For me, the New Human is about taking the components that are the deepest elements in life, and bringing them to the foreground. It’s reversing the way that most people live in life. Instead of the priority being the literal level, mental level, emotional level, and then spiritual level, it’s flipping it so that the order of importance is the spiritual, emotional, mental, then the literal.

How can those interested join the initiative, or benefit from the work you are doing on this project?

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It’s more of a movement than a project meaning we encourage each person to find their own highest path and listen to their soul’s calling. Once you set your intention to awaken and re-remember who you are, you will absolutely be guided and supported in your awakening in a way that’s right for you.

We’ve organized the initiative into 4 core areas on our website, and we provide concepts and specific energetic tools to be able to fulfill the intentions in each area!

Otherwise we’re always honored to work with people in session to help them find their own highest path and help awaken their own abilities in healing, seeing, and connecting to the higher realms. We also welcome people to join us for our sacred travel to sites around the world.  We are currently leading a very special trip to Peru this coming June 2014 to work with the indigenous shaman and visit sacred sites.

You speak of four core elements that embody becoming the New Human. Can you break down and explain the idea behind each section for us?

 

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The four components are Calm Down, Let the Past Go, Enlighten Yourself and Create Abundance.  We feel that each of these aspects are the keys to a soulful life.

Calming Down:  It is certainly important to slow down, empty ourselves, and connect to our centers. This area provides information, meditation techniques, and other ways to ground oneself and connect deeply to our core. From this point, all becomes possible.

Let the Past Go:  We learned that it’s very hard to move forward in life if you are still carrying a lot of heavy energy from the past.  We all go through experiences in our lives where we’re meant to learn lessons. It’s important to keep the lessons, but let go of the old stories of how we got them. This section provides tools and techniques to let the past go so that people can be freer to go in a higher direction.

Enlighten Yourself:  This is all about raising our consciousness and vibration. Simply put, there are many different ways to approach our Soul’s journey and the path we take. There are many practices, beliefs, and traditions. The purpose is to respond to experiences from a place of love while also powerfully co-creating life in alignment with your highest path.

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Create Abundance:  We are each Creators at our core. We can, absolutely, create the life we dream on all levels. This section explores ways to be a more empowered Creator.

How can holding onto the past hinder people in their health, well-being and in their daily lives?

When we hold on to the past we’re not truly free to create in the present moment. We place the experience of our past into the potential of our future, leading us to repeat the same patterns and life lessons until we heal them. What that means is that instead of allowing a moment to be what it is, we bring a wealth of old emotions, hurt, anger, sadness, or regret that creates disharmony.  This disharmony, over time, can often manifest as physical health problems which is why when someone has a repeating health issue, it’s generally best to look at it from the level of the energetic, in addition to treating the actual physical condition.

Calming down and Letting go of the Past are especially difficult in todays fast paced lifestyle. What changes can someone make in their personal lives to help them to achieve these goals?

Succinctly, to calm down someone could be more aware of their breathing and breath more deeply into their belly. Prevention is always the best medicine — even 5 minutes each morning standing on the earth in bare feet (when possible) and taking deep breaths into your core can help tremendously. Over a few weeks, this becomes a grounding ritual for the day you can always come back to.  During the day even five seconds – five long seconds – of closing your eyes, breathing, and imagining energy running up and down your divine line (center column in front of your spine) can do wonders to bring you back to your center point.

For Letting the Past Go, we suggest a daily practice of clearing your personal energy field.  This can be done in numerous ways. Also upon going to bed, take one full minute to make a mental note of everything you were grateful for from that day. Building gratitude helps you stay focused on what is working, not what isn’t.

 

Before beginning your own personal journeys to becoming New Humans, you both had successful careers as entrepreneurs. What were the catalysts for your spiritual awakenings?

Eden: For me, the catalyst was hitting rock bottom following a variety of challenges that came all around the same time — a crumbling marriage, a massive car accident, and losing a company I was co-founder and CEO of. I also had issues from my childhood and teenage years I was still holding on to that needed healing. I was miserable and having a mid-life crisis, unsure of who I was or how to be happy. Of course everything happens for a reason, and it made me seek out energy healers for deeper work. Within 6 months I found myself in the Amazon jungle with local indigenous shamans. Those two weeks changed my life; I came home, separated from my husband the next day, moved out 4 weeks later to a new city, and completely started a new life with a new outlook.

John: For me it was a deep underlying sense of not being totally fulfilled. Material success certainly does not equal soul fulfillment. Before someone starts a true spiritual exploration, we often just do what people expect us to do. When we start asking ourselves the questions that don’t have easy answers, and we commit ourselves to finding them, then awakenings can occur.

What was it that you realized was wrong with your old ways of living and how easy was it to adapt to a new lifestyle? 

Eden:  My major shift first happened during my work in the Amazon jungle. I had radical awakenings and insights into who I really was, what my purpose was here, and worked through years – and lifetimes – of pain that needed to heal. I saw where I held on to pain and suffering, where I had continually allowed people to cross my boundaries and hurt me, and how I had stopped listening to my heart. It wasn’t that the old ways were wrong so much as not in alignment with what I was here for and what I was truly capable of.  I came back transformed, but also got thrown in to massive changes as a result.  But thankfully, things began happening effortlessly, I was supported during my entire journey in more ways I ever could have imagined.  The more I trusted the shifts, the more beautiful they became.

How dramatically have your lives changed?

Eden: Completely!  I used to be highly stressed working 12 to 14 hour days, striving for material things (nice home, nice car, nice clothes, nice shoes), being in a relationship with someone who always put me down and was emotionally abusive, and didn’t honor me (or the feminine) or things that were important to me.  I had no voice, never spoke my truth, and my heart always hurt.  I thought being with a “soul mate” and being able to live a life of travel and freedom and spirituality was for other people. I was resigned.  Yet after my awakening, I met my twin flame who I’m completely in alignment with on all four levels – emotionally, physically, mentally and spiritually – and is someone who deeply honors the feminine and my soul path.  We live in a beautiful home near the ocean in a city I had always dreamed of living in (but never thought possible), and I get to work from home, on projects I love and being creative. I do healing sessions with clients, being in service to other’s soul path.  We also travel the world as often as we can leading sacred ceremonies and connecting with sacred sites. And this year, we also welcomed in our baby daughter.  My life is so radically different than before, but it’s absolutely perfect and a reflection of who I truly am.  All of my dreams came true once I trusted.

John:  One of the biggest changes in my life is my relationship to my work. My personal path has fueled the way that I’m meant to be of service to others. This evolution was essential. If I’m going to help others find and then step powerfully onto their highest path, then I’d better be on mine. Also, there’s just a deeper sense of satisfaction now that I’ve aligned my life purpose with my soul’s purpose. 

What advice would you give to someone who has realized they are not on their Right Path and are yearning for more from life but are not quite sure what direction to take next?

We hear this a lot.  As humanity is being pulled forward into stronger energies of love and unity consciousness, people everywhere are yearning to live their soul’s purpose and a path that’s truly in alignment with who they are. Many people can’t just live life on auto-pilot anymore, but they may feel stuck on what to do.  The hard part is we rarely see the big picture or have any idea where our new life may take us.  So our best advice is simple:  listen to your heart.  Find time in stillness and ask yourself what it is you truly desire. Don’t feel stuck!  You ARE the creator of your life and you are more powerful than you can imagine.

The trick is, you need to become still enough to truly listen to your heart and make a choice to awaken. Once you set your intentions – truly in your heart – to follow your highest soul’s path, simply ask your Guides or Angels or the Universe (or whomever you feel is there to support you) in helping bring this to you.  Trust it can and will happen and be open to the signs, teachers, lessons, and messages that get put in your path. Trust the process of opening; it will bring you everything you need.

One other way to get in touch in a deeper way is to journal. Try to see if you can “just have a conversation with your mind” and open up to something greater that wants to flow through you. It’s in that “something greater” that you’ll experience the clues to your highest path.

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Find out more about the New Human movement or contact John and Eden directly via their website JohnandEden.com

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When Marilyn Manson Speaks, This Is Why We Should Listen

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    To those who have not heard Marilyn Manson speak, many may conclude on appearance alone that he has nothing meaningful to say.

  • Reflect On:

    What could be the value for people on their spiritual journey to examine the practices and words of someone who so starkly embodies the paradox of darkness and light?

For many people, Marilyn Manson should not be seen or heard. The very essence of his intentional persona–dark, irreverent, grotesque–makes many recoil in horror and disgust. Yet perhaps that is the very reason we may find value in listening to what he has to say.

Fans of his goth-shock rock show aside, individuals seeking to ascend the ladder of consciousness may be able to see in Marilyn Manson a part of their own suppressed fear and darkness turned inside-out. Coming to terms with Marilyn Manson could in some ways help us come to terms with ourselves.

To begin with, most people who have heard Marilyn Manson speak are aware that he is clearly not as he appears to be. In fact, he relishes embodying the paradox of darkness and light like few others. He is thoughtful, soft-spoken, and usually sprinkles in his disarming wit when we are least expecting it. What is undeniable is that he has given much contemplation to the philosophy of life, not in the academic sense as much as with regards to the embodiment of spiritual principles he believes in.

The Rejection Of Religious Dogma

One of the mainstays of Manson’s spiritual paradigm is the recognition that the fundamentalist side of Christianity within Western society is not going to lead to any healing or growth on the part of human individuals. This is because the rituals of Christianity, like going to church and repeating phrases mindlessly, only serve to keep our personal darkness hidden from us. These practices may temporarily assuage our trepidation about our inner chaos, but this is gained at the cost of relinquishing our sense of power to heal ourselves. In the video below, Manson touches upon his views about true spiritual practice:

I think church has very little to do with spirituality. I think it’s something you have to find in yourself, it’s about expressing your deepest fears and emotions, and putting it in something. It’s not about living in fear, and praying, and hoping you’re not going to go to hell, that’s not very spiritual to me.

Manson makes an important distinction between the teachings of Jesus and the trappings of fundamentalist Christianity, and it is a point of discernment that is certainly worth contemplating. He considers himself to be aligned with many of Jesus’ teachings and even suggests in his usual irreverent way that his own life and the life of Jesus have many similarities:

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Usually people hate what they’re afraid of, it’s in the classic story, I think that even kinda goes back to Jesus, you know, they were afraid, didn’t understand him, so they killed him. I think the same thing exists in music, you know, maybe I should just become a Christian, and make them all happy, but, I think if I found Jesus, which–I didn’t know he was lost in the first place–if I did, I don’t think he would probably be that much different than me, you know, he’s a long-haired guy that likes to dress sexy. A lot of chicks were into him.

It’s not that different from what I do, you know, that probably horrifies Christians more than anything to hear that, but, I don’t disagree with a lot of the ideals that he was trying to get across. I just don’t like the way people abuse them to exploit others, and make, even children, feel guilty for having imagination or wanting to be individuals.

It is certainly thought-provoking to imagine how a dark shock-rocker sees similarities between himself and the pure-white savior of mankind. After all, Manson is a strong advocate of Aliester Crowley’s Law of Thelema, “Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law.” Does this not contradict the Golden Rule that was espoused by Jesus, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”?

Walking The Knife’s Edge

Not necessarily. But we need to be able to walk the knife’s edge in order to see how these two aspects can co-exist. And as you come to understand how these aspects can coexist, you are able to resolve the paradox named Marilyn Monroe Charles Manson.

Manson’s rejection of Christianity is based on his own experience that virtues like individuality, self-expression, and creativity are repressed in orthodox Christian practice. Certainly Friedrich Nietzsche, who Manson greatly admires, had the same condemnation for the institution that was the Catholic Church, where he criticizes the church for its attack on individual passion, desire, and by extension life itself. As Nietzsche says in his book Twilight of the Idols,

The church fights passion with excision in every sense: its practice, its “cure,” is castration. It never asks: “How can one spiritualize, beautify, deify a desire?” It has at all times laid the stress of discipline on extirpation–of sensuality, of pride, of the lust to rule, of avarice, of vengefulness. But an attack on the roots of passion means an attack on the roots of life: the practice of the church is hostile to life.

Manson became a flashpoint for many people because he embodied their highest hope: freedom from the restrictive structures of church and state. His popularity among his followers is in part founded on his embodiment of the emancipation of passion, desire, and individual self-expression, no matter that it is an expression of darkness more often than of light.

Humility

I won’t deny that Marilyn Manson is a troubled person that still has many inner wounds to heal, and the outward projection of that trauma can often be angry and violent. That being said, it seems clear that Manson understands the golden rule as self-evident, and when grounded, his orientation is towards being of service to other people. In general, he is humble enough not to take himself as seriously as many others do, and sees himself as a frail and fallible individual who continues searching for ways to find inner peace and fulfillment.

I like to look at all different religions, you know, I find valuable elements in, you know, Judaism, and Satanism, and Buddhism, and in Christianity as well, I think you can take different things that you can apply to your life, but if you follow anything solely, that’s as stupid as listening to everything that I have to say.

The Takeaway

Insofar as Marilyn Manson embodies a person who is willing to be vulnerable and authentically speak his mind, he inspires people to become more aware of who they are and whether or not they are living authentically. His recognition that we all must be willing to express our deepest fears and emotions, and in so doing expose them to the light of consciousness, is the reason we may be able to find some interesting clues within his provocative life about our own healing journey.

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6 Signs Of Growth To Start Giving Yourself Credit For

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  • The Facts:

    Most of us are our own biggest critics in life. And while that self-criticism can at times be helpful when it comes to accountability, it can also be quite detrimental if all we ever do is mentally bully ourselves.

  • Reflect On:

    What does your internal dialogue primarily consist of? Are you giving yourself enough credit for how you've grown over the years, are do you instead choose to beat yourself up for what you're not?

Whether or not you find yourself regularly on the receiving end of criticism from others, most would agree that the old adage that we are our own toughest critics is true. Even when we manage to accomplish one of the many goals we set out for ourselves, it typically doesn’t take our mind very long to find something within it to criticize.

A common reason for this is that the subjective expectation that so many of us set for ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously, is perfection. And while this frame of mind may seem both ambitious and healthy, as Tony Robbins infamously reminds us:

“Perfection is the lowest standard in the world. Because if you’re trying to be perfect, you know you can’t be. So what you really have is a standard you can never achieve.”

While there are plenty of tools, such as affirmations, meditation and the emotional freedom technique, designed to help us cut back on negative thought–which has been found to take up upwards of 70% of our mental chatter–I’ve found that one of the strongest antidotes is concrete evidence of the opposite.

Start Giving Yourself Credit For Your Successes

To assist in creating this, I’ve put together a list of six signs of growth that we all need to start giving ourselves credit for:

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1. You’re Less Impacted By The Opinions Of Others

While part of this certainly comes naturally with age, the ability to genuinely be YOU regardless of what others may think, say or do about it deserves plenty of recognition. This is especially true in the social media driven world that so many of us are entrenched in, where sending and receiving criticism has never been easier.

So even if there are only certain areas of your life where you can confidently say you are not impacted by the opinions of others, each of those areas is a great accomplishment to celebrate.

2. You’re Not Afraid To Say “No”

To some of us, it comes naturally, while to others it’s one of the toughest words to say despite being only two letters and one syllable. This is especially true when it comes to situations in which it must be said to either a loved one or a figure of authority.

The ability to say ‘no’ to situations you would genuinely not be comfortable in, tasks that you do not have the capacity for, and ideas you don’t believe in, is a superpower that if you are lucky enough to boast, is worth giving yourself credit for.

3. You’re Grateful For Your Past

Whether or not a substantial portion of your past has been riddled in hardship, everything that you’ve experienced in life thus far has played a role in making you into who you are today. The ability to recognize that, by seeing the bigger picture to even the most unfortunate of situations, rather than opting to forever dwell in fear, blame or regret is quite the accomplishment.

4. You Trust The Process

One thing is for certain: no matter our age, body of experience, or list of accomplishments in life, we are all consistently a work-in-progress. The ability to recognize that and know that even a rougher today is paving the way for a smoother tomorrow, rather than overreacting to any and all hardship that comes your way is a rare trait to behold and appreciate.

5. You’re Willing To Genuinely Listen

Despite how seemingly natural listening is, it’s amazing how few of us can genuinely classify ourselves as an effective listener. Unsure as to whether or not you are? Think back on the last non-drama filled conversation that you had with a friend or colleague. When not speaking, did you actually pay attention to and process everything that was said to you? Or did you either find your mind drifting to something unrelated or consistently formulating your next response?

If you not only know how to effectively listen, but you recognize the importance of it and how much can be given and gained from it, give yourself credit for that rare skill.

6. You Celebrate Rather Than Compare Yourself To Others

No matter how accomplished you are in life, you will never be the only one to attain goals similar to those that you are striving for–thankfully! And one of the clearest indicators of growth is gauging your reaction when you first discover the successes of others.

Do you choose to be genuinely happy for them and further inspired by their feat? Or do you find yourself riddled in envy? If you are best described by the first option, then be uplifted by your ability to be a true team player.


Originally written for and published by UPLIFT Connect as 6 Signs You’re Making Great Progress In Life.

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Are You A Spiritual Narcissist?

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    Narcissism, in a nutshell, is self-absorption to the extent that it will adopt any set of rationale to protect the ego which often includes a degree of self-deception. Is this happening to many in spiritual trends?

  • Reflect On:

    There is authentic being, and then there is self-absorption which pretending to be authenticity, are we aware of the difference?

We humans often have a hard time finding middle ground. We may be drowning in lack of self-worth one moment, and trampling over other’s with our own self indulgence the next as we struggle to find balance. Narcissism is not simply about enjoying selfies in our social media-saturated world, it goes deeper than that.

It appears as liberation but is a trap that can ruin relationships, increase personal suffering, and keep a person from their true spiritual aspirations. Not surprisingly, increased mindfulness and compassion for this tricky human quirk is the best way to heal it.

What is Spiritual Narcissism?

The capacity to become overly self-indulgent is within all of us, and it becomes increasingly dangerous when we confuse it with spirituality. In many ways it is easy to see that all of humanity is dealing with a certain degree of self-absorption while we desecrate forests and oceans, causing plants and animals to go extinct on our material quests. In his famous book, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, Chogyam Trungpa gave a good foundation for westerners to navigate the pitfalls of our materialistic abundance.

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The capacity to become overly self-indulgent is within all of us

We do not have to be ashamed of what we are. As sentient beings we have wonderful backgrounds. These backgrounds may not be particularly enlightened or peaceful or intelligent. Nevertheless, we have soil good enough to cultivate; we can plant anything in it. – Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

There is a difference between ego-self and the deeper universal soul within us, differentiating the two is important. Sadly, we have spiritual philosophies and religions that have been constructed to feed the ego, inflate self-righteousness, and create division while giving justification for all manner of activities including killing, exploitation, and oppression. Ethical conduct, regardless of spirituality, requires honoring the other and the self as one with each deserving to be respected, heard, and seen with compassion.

No matter what the practice or teaching, ego loves to wait in ambush to appropriate spirituality for its own survival and gain. – Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

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There is a difference between ego-self and the deeper universal soul within us

Finding the Antidote to Self-absorption

Narcissism, in a nutshell, is self-absorption to the extent that it will adopt any set of rationale to protect the ego which often includes a degree of self-deception. Ego is an important aspect of our selves, it is part of self-preservation but when it becomes out of balance it actually has the ability to destroy us and harm relationships.

Many spiritual practices seek to increase our ability to witness and bring mindful awareness to ego drives which allow us to master, instead of being enslaved by our ego. When ego gets too big it can be hard to swallow, yet spiritual liberation invites us to expand our sense of self beyond the ego, beyond time and space.

The goal is to find a balance between the inner experience and the outer reality. How do we embody healthy self-love without becoming an ego-maniac and hurting personal relationships? Meanwhile, self-loathing, and low self-esteem are also manifestations of ego out of balance. Selflessness can often be quite selfish, over-engagement can be as problematic as disengagement socially. Luckily we are here to find this balance through living fully, from making mistakes, and evolving our sense of self-awareness. Healthy self-awareness is the only antidote to self-absorption.

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How do we embody healthy self-love without becoming an ego-maniac?

The Story of Narcissus and Echo

One day Narcissus was walking in the woods when Echo, an Oread (mountain nymph) saw him, fell deeply in love, and followed him. Narcissus sensed he was being followed and shouted “Who’s there?”. Echo repeated “Who’s there?”. She eventually revealed her identity and attempted to embrace him. He stepped away and told her to leave him alone. She was heartbroken and spent the rest of her life in lonely glens until nothing but an echo sound remained of her. Nemesis, the goddess of revenge, learned of this story and decided to punish Narcissus. She lured him to a pool where he saw his own reflection. He didn’t realize it was only an image and fell in love with it. He eventually recognized that his love could not be reciprocated and committed suicide. -Wikipedia

Since intention is subjective, a person is often understood within their community by their actions or image. This becomes extra tricky in our age of social media and the materialism that has found it’s way into yoga, meditation, and spirituality. It is possible to put on a good act, to fool those around us and ourselves (temporarily).

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We can have the latest yoga clothes, read the right books and hang out with all the “cool” people, but if our actions are not grounded in a deeper spiritual practice, basic consideration for others, and respect, it is still hollow. A common analogy is the guy who everyone likes but then goes home kicks his dog, or is rude and unaccountable to his wife.

Deep spirituality makes us more sensitive to the feeling of others, encouraging an open stance of courage where we can drop our protective shields and accept the vulnerability to be seen as we are. Narcissistic sensitivity, however, is focused solely on the subtle nuances one’s own internality, and resists looking at hard, uncomfortable truths that may upset the self image. One who is narcissistically sensitive is easily offended by the “coarseness” of others, seeks to make his environment change to align with the contours of his needs, and gets angry or offended when this does not happen. -The Allure of Narcissistic Spirituality, Huffington Post

How to Identify Narcissistic Behavior

The ability to identify narcissistic behavior in yourself and others is the best way to heal it. It is not your job to diagnose others or tell them they are narcissistic if they are not interested in hearing it or healing it. However, if you draw appropriate boundaries for them you will protect yourself and encourage them to become more mindful. This is a loving and compassionate way to handle narcissism.

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It is always healthy to make boundaries and speak your truth in a loving and compassionate way. Whether the narcissist hears it or not is out of your control. Common responses from narcissists will include belittling your feelings, a hollow apology without effort to modify behavior, or ignoring you altogether. Basically, they will use any excuse they can in order to not look at it, or to make the situation your fault. This is your cue to make appropriate boundaries for yourself.

Within yourself be open and receptive when others tell you that you have been inconsiderate of them. Accepting constructive feedback from loved ones is a great way to keep a balance between internal needs and external relationships. This is also how we grow as individuals.

Common traits of narcissism courtesy of BPD Central.

  • Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
  • Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
  • Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
  • Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
  • Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
  • Requires excessive admiration
  • Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
  • Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
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Evolving Unhealthy Patterns

Hopefully, this will help you navigate tough interpersonal relationships and also better yourself. It is a beautiful thing that psychology is allowing us to have terms to identify and evolve unhealthy patterns emotionally. As we learn to live in community, we learn many aspects of love. This is how we help ourselves and those around us grow!

I’m republishing,  for the CE audience, this piece I wrote for Uplift Connect.

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