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10 Reasons To Love Being Single

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fortuneI think I have spent most of my life as a single person. Sure, I’ve had a couple of long term relationships, and a couple of short term ones, and yeah, there were some really awesome parts to it, but there were also some not so awesome parts as well. What I have come to learn through all of this is that it’s really important to know yourself, accept yourself and love yourself first, especially before learning to know, accept and love someone else.

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Also, what I have noticed is that people (present party at times included) tend to think that being in a relationship will surely bring rainbows and butterflies and buckets filled with the purest happiness of all; not being in a relationship then clearly equals sadness, loneliness, tears, etc., which when you think about it, couldn’t be further from the truth. As lovely as it may be to have a boyfriend as romantic as Noah from the Notebook or a girlfriend who is willing to play Warcraft with you, relationships require a lot of hard work, time invested, compromise, sweat, tears, money and God knows what else. And when you think that a relationship could turn into marriage and into the possibility of spending the rest of your remaining days with that same person, then the thought of having some alone time first becomes quite appealing, wouldn’t you agree?

But mind you, being alone does not mean you have to be lonely. It simply means that you have enough time to think clearly and chemical-free about yourself and to put yourself first (no dopamine or oxytocin or endorphins there to screw you up and make you a blind, lovey-dovey, goofy, romantic person), before putting a husband or wife, a job and three kids ahead.

So I thought about all of the reasons why you should love being single, and I wanted to share a couple of them with you lovely people:

1. You get to invest your precious time in developing yourself

Think about all the things you always wanted to do and never really had time for. Learning a new language, taking dancing classes, taking up a new sport, conferences or classes about some of the subjects you’re really interested in, reading, writing, painting, you name it.

Sometimes when you’re in a relationship, you tend to lose yourself and start thinking for two instead of one, with an emphasis on the other person. You worry more about them, and you lose sight of what you want or who you want to be. Being single is the perfect opportunity to figure that out and build a hard-to-break foundation of yourself that will be difficult to knock down when it gets together with someone else’s.

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2. No one to answer to when it comes to who you were out with

I don’t know about you, but one of the things I used to hate when being in a relationship was the guilt I felt when I was put on the spot for going out with male friends. It was worse than being parented.

I learned that sometimes people can get very jealous, especially when they are not comfortable in their own skin or when they have trust issues.

Being unattached gives you a unique sense of freedom and it also means less worrying about who you spend time with. Again, I think it’s important to get to know yourself and trust yourself before finding someone who would be as perfectly imperfect as you are to start something beautiful with.

3. That feeling of independence and freedom

Just think about it. You could practically jump into a car right now and just drive to wherever your heart desires. You could move to another country, visit Indonesia, or take a tour of Europe if you want. You could spend every night out partying, crash at friends, try new sports, do things you wouldn’t normally do, take risks, make changes.

You are pretty much free to do whatever it is that you want to do.

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4. You can do whatever you want and no one will nag you for it

Girls, no one is going to roll their eyes if you want to watch PS I Love You again tonight. Just go for it! Take that decadent chocolate chip ice-cream and enjoy a night in your comfy jammies while watching a 6 pack match between Gerard Butler and Jeffrey Dean Morgan.

And guys, there’s no one there to nag you for wanting to start another round of Starcraft with your buddies. Take out your 6-pack of beer, bags of chips and enjoy a couple of hours of gameplaying with Kerrigan and a herd of Zergs at your command.

5. Pre-falling in love process is awesome

Falling in love is such a wonderful feeling, but the whole process before you get to the point where you actually admit that to each other before riding into the sunset together is even better.

Making that first eye contact with someone and feeling your stomach twinge and twist, the first conversation, the first date, the first kiss. For some people, dating is even better than being in an actual relationship. What do you think about this?

6. Opportunities that you might not have taken if you were in a relationship

Sometimes we get to face some tough choices that could change our entire future. Sometimes those choices turn out to be blessings in disguise, other times they turn out to be misfortunes. When you get an opportunity that could redirect the course of your life, you have to think about what’s in it for you, how does that impact you, how does it change you, where does it take you? Often times we say no to such opportunities because we choose love, and for good reason too. But one of the perks of being single is not having to think twice when it comes to such opportunities.

7. The only thing you’ll be crying for are the Grey’s Anatomy episodes

This may just be for the girls out there, but honestly, the only thing you should be crying and feel sad about are the sappy movies you’re watching. I spent a lot of nights crying myself to sleep over the guys in my life, and it was no fun. Sure, I was foolish too and I had my own share of blame, but sometimes, I simply feel like it’s so much better not having to deal with the drama of relationships; I like my drama to stay in TV shows, thank you very much.

8. No compromises

One of the hardest things to do is compromise who you are for the sake of a relationship. Sometimes it’s worth it, other times you just end up giving up a piece of yourself to fix something that can’t be fixed. At the end of the day you got to realize that some people, even if they are meant to fall in love, are not meant to stay together, so you need to choose carefully, what you’re willing to give and what to gain.

9. Other perks include:

Staying in your underwear or XXL t-shirt whenever you feel like it, having an entire bed to just yourself, not worrying about leaving the toothpaste cap off, or having to move the toilet seat according to your preferences, and while speaking of preferences, sticking to your own regarding shaving; no annoyances, no fights, no Valentine’s Day obligations, no pressure to find the perfect birthday gift, no unrealistic expectations, no worries about being scolded for leaving the milk carton open in the fridge.

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10. The chance to be YOU

This post may come off as being an anti-relationship rant, which partly is, but what I really want you to focus on is the importance of finding yourself in all of this, and being completely prepared for when the time comes to fully accept another person into your heart and into your life. It’s not easy to be with someone when you can’t even see who you really are.

So take this time to find out everything there is to know about you: what you like, what you hate, what you want to become, where you want to go, how you like to be loved, what you want to give to someone else, what you don’t want to compromise, and what type of person you would like to wake up next to. Give yourself enough time to learn and make mistakes and evolve into the best you that you can possible be, and let the magic happen all by itself: your perfect someone will find you when you’re both at your best.

Stay posted to CE over the next week or two for a follow-up post on ’10 Reasons Why You Should Love Being In A Relationship.’

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Weekly Q&A: Trump’s Role, Censorship, CETV, Reader Love

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    Each week we do a Q&A based on questions we receive throughout the week. Our goal is to dive DEEPER into content through the questions. This video covers a few questions from Sept 16 - Sept 22, 2018.

  • Reflect On:

    If you have any questions for us, contact us at contact@collective-evolution.com

We have decided to begin doing weekly public Q&A’s based on all the questions we get throughout the week. We have found that people often ask very similar questions (and great questions!) about what’s going on and often times we feel these responses are great for everyone to be hearing as it adds a deeper perspective to what we cover each week. your questions often get us thinking down different paths too, which is awesome and why this community is so damn powerful.

So THANK YOU for your great questions, for engaging and for being part of this all.

I want to also say, for those wanting to get our weekly behind the scenes updates as well as our daily content sent right to your inbox, click here. We know facebook simply does not work anymore for distributing content, so email is the best way.

Update For Sept 16 – Sept 22, 2018

In the video below I go over everything. Be sure to check out the TIMECODES in the description if you want to skip ahead to other topics. I’m through in how I cover things, I know sometimes people want things faster but I don’t see value in not going deep so this is what it is!

This week’s rundown includes:

01:05 : Question regarding Trump’s role
08:50 : Thoughts on recent censorship, are we afraid?
18:00 : New CETV conscious media platform
21:12 : Beautiful email from a reader!

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The Hero’s Adventure: What Movies Can Teach Us About Facing Our Shadow

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    The Hero's Journey is a multi-staged adventure whereby the 'hero' grows to become a new version of themselves, one that is evolved and at a 'higher level' per se.

  • Reflect On:

    Movies can be viewed in many ways. Some see it as programming others as inspiration. How can we use what we see in movies in our own lives? To grow and evolve as people? To recognize our true callings vs those of Hollywood?

The hero’s adventure is a term popularised by Joseph Campbell based upon his 1949 work “The Hero with a Thousand Faces”. The late Campbell was an American Professor of Literature and a philosopher who described the adventure one must embark upon to fully realise who he/she is.

A simple explanation from Campbell:

“A hero ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow man.”

Campbell uses the word monomyth to describe this adventure which was taken from James Joyce’s book Finnegans Wake.

According to Campbell the monomyth contains 3 stages, with 17 subsections. Not all journeys contain all sections and no two adventures are the same, yet the hero’s adventure follows a surprisingly similar pattern. The 3 stages are 1. A call to seek out some kind of adventure. 2. A trial or initiatory period where the hero must face an obstacle or series of obstacles. 3. The return back home with that which you were seeking to find. This often repeats in a number of ways, with various steps being repeated, but this is the idea.

The 17 Steps Of The Heroes Adventure:

The Call:

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  1. The call to adventure
  2. Refusal of the call
  3. Supernatural aid
  4. Crossing the threshold
  5. Belly of the whale

The Initiation:

  1. The road of trials
  2. The meeting with the goddess
  3. Woman as temptress
  4. Atonement with the father
  5. Apotheosis
  6. The ultimate boon

The Return:

  1. Refusal of the return
  2. The magic flight
  3. Rescue from without
  4. The crossing of the return threshold
  5. Master of two worlds
  6. Freedom to live

When you look to Hollywood movies and best selling fiction books they all follow the same pattern. Star Wars writer, George Lucas, was a friend of Joseph Campbell and famously said that without Campbell there would have been no Star Wars.

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If you take Star Wars, it is the perfect example of the Hero’s Journey:

The Call: Luke Skywalker is living a mundane existence, and then while cleaning R2D2 he is shown a holographic recording seeking help from Princess Leia.

The Initiation: Obi-Wan becomes a mentor to Luke, and teaches him to “use the force”. Along the way he meets Han Solo, Chewbacca and other unsuspecting helpers until he completes his apprentice (which he does not know is taking place). Finally after much fighting, Luke is able to rescue Princess Leia and destroy the death star.

The Return: Then he returns home a new man where Leia awards Luke with medals for his heroism.

The Matrix

The Matrix is another example.

The Call: Thomas Anderson is fed up with life at a dead end job and knows there is more to his existence. He has a dream in which his computer types “follow the white rabbit” when someone comes to buy illegal computer programmes from him they ask him to join them on a night out. He declines, but when one of the group turns, she has a tattoo of a white rabbit, so he decides to follow.

The Initiation: Thomas Anderson becomes his computer alias Neo. He meets Trinity, and later Morpheus and is offered to be shown the truth in the form of the red pill (truth) or blue pill (fantasy). He opts for the truth pill and is initiated into a mysterious world where reality as he knew it is actually a computer programme. He gets to download multiple skills, thinks he is The One, but then realises he is not The One. Morpheus gets taken by the agents and he decides to save him.

The Return: Upon trying to save Morpheus he realises he is The One, saves him and defeats the agents. This is him returning with the realisation he is The One, although the return and initiation cross over a little.

This is the same structure you see in Harry Potter, The Wizard Of Oz, Alice In Wonderland, The Alchemist and just about every story based movie there is.

But how is this helpful?

This is the same story we can use as a metaphorical representation of who and where we are in our lives.

If you think life is meaningless and mundane, this means you should be on the lookout for synchronicities and clues of how to break free.

If you have just had a strong urge to go and do something very far removed from your comfort zone that has the potential to change your circumstances, then you probably should.

If you are stuck in a painful situation that seems to have no end, this means you are in an initiation. Being in an initiation does not guarantee you will pass “the test” but at some point you will be given an opportunity to break a cycle or take an opportunity.

If you have just been through an ordeal and conquered your inner (and sometimes outer) demons, bask in the glory, but remember there was 9 Star Wars movies, 4 Matrix movies and 8 Harry Potter books. Your Heroes Adventure may have many chapters, so strap in and try to enjoy the journey.

Much love, Luke.


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“The Consistency Is Mind Boggling” – University Professor On Alien Abductions

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    Dr. David M Jacobs, a recently retired Professor and historian, shares the fact that those who claim to have been abducted, and there are millions, share extreme consistency with their stories, and come back with proof.

  • Reflect On:

    Why is this not addressed? As Jacob's points out, if it's not true, then we have the greatest discovery of all time with regards to neurology.

We know that the phenomenon is very, very widespread around the world. People think that this is an American phenomenon, it is not. I’ve worked with people from Africa, and Asia, and Latin-America, and Europe and so forth… All say the same thing all around the world, it does not matter where they’re from. People often ask me whether there’s any consistency in abduction accounts, the consistency is mind-boggling.

The quote above comes from Dr. David M. Jacobs, a recently retired professor of History at Temple University, from the video below. He’s one of many academics who’ve been studying the ‘alien abduction’ phenomenon for a long time. We’re talking about full-out investigations and actual case work. Himself and practically every other researcher in this field would tell you that yes, the consistency is indeed jaw-dropping. People who claim to have been abducted by intelligent extraterrestrials, or come in contact with beings, and there are millions of them all over the world, all share remarkably consistent stories.

I work with people who have MD’s, or psychiatrists, psychologists… people who are university professors, and people who have never been able to hold a job…and everybody in-between. The vast material that they talk about has never been in the public domain, without consistency there is no phenomenon, and it is the consistency that keeps coming back…People are physically missing from their normal environments when they are abducted, people come back with unusual scars on their body, fully formed scars that weren’t there before.

It’s important to make a distinction here. There are all sorts of contacts happening. There are forced abductions, we call these people abductees, then there are simply contactees. Contactees don’t experience any type of forced abduction or strange procedures that are performed on them like abductees, there is also a wealth of data showing that a lot of people have friendly, informative, and mysterious type of contact experiences as well, and there are a range of beings (which also show up with consistency in multiple experiencer accounts) that have also been reported with consistency, including human looking ones. Along with these experiences come telepathic messages, in many cases appear to warn of future destruction unless human rapidly evolves and, grows up, so to speak.

Many abductees also report a sense of remorse and empathy within some of these forced abductions, others do not.

Here’s a great example, a case that involves more than 60 school children in Zimbabwe.

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Dr. Jacobs goes on to state, regarding abductions, a very interesting point

Now, let us suppose it is not happening, all those things still remain, and yet it’s not happening, there is no such thing as the abduction phenomenon. If that is the case, we have found the most important thing ever in the history of neurology, brain function, cognition… All these people are saying the same thing at their risk, this is not going to bring applause to them, that they say they’ve been abducted by aliens from outer space. High functioning people say thisnknowing full well it could destroy their careers, and they say this around the world…And it’s not happening, then what?

The mainstream world has and is currently addressing the UFO topic, but the talk of extraterrestrial visitation as one possible explanation for some of these UFO visitations has still been left out of the equation. For the latest updates on that, you can refer to this article:

The US Government Just Admitted to Recovering Materials From UFOs – Here Are The Latest Updates

All of these people, again, are not crazy. They are normal human beings, many of them who have or had no interest in the phenomenon prior. So, again, either something very important in the history of mental health is going on, or the exact opposite, and if we actually take time to examine the evidence, the answer becomes quite clear.

Some of what people report as UFOs are extraterrestrial (ET) vehicles. Some of those extraterrestrial vehicles actually have ET crews, and some of those ET crews catch and release humans.” — Dr. Don Donderi, a retired McGill University Professor of 40 years in the Department of Psychology (source)

Below is a brief account of one example that pertains to abductions, again, something different from regular contactee experience as mentioned earlier in the article. There is footage of Dr. Jacobs here as well.

Are We Being Prepared For Contact?

Behind the scenes, high-ranking Air Force officers are soberly concerned about the UFOs. But through official secrecy and ridicule, many citizens are led to believe the unknown flying objects are nonsense. To hide the facts, the Air Force has silenced its personnel – Roscoe Hiellenkoetter (source)

Now, with the emergence of mainstream UFO disclosure, although not really addressing the extraterrestrial question, these topics are slowly creeping into the mainstream. It appears that the process of ridicule which existed for so long, via mainstream media, movies, popular television shows and more, seems to have turned into a process of disclosure.

The topic touches all areas of humanity, including metaphysics, spirituality, not just science, technology and questions in those areas. It represents an evolution in all areas, most importantly an evolution in consciousness. It really forces us to question ourselves, and help us understand who we really are as well.

Humanity is at a crossroads, and our hesitance to accept certain realities these days is drifting, and acceptance is coming in. Our perception of reality is shifting, and that alone is creating action around the world to bring about something that can’t really be put into words.

Perhaps this is becoming more relevant at this because there is a message here for humanity, and the experiences of contactees and abductees could perhaps help us decipher that message if they haven’t already. The common theme is something we all internally know in our hearts, the golden rule, and the caretaking of our planet and life upon it.

We as humanity have an enormous amount of potential to create an experience where this type of existence can happen, where we can be free from the chains of economic slavery and allowed to grow and advance as a species. Our destiny is no doubt in the stars.

Recently we interviewed Susan Manewich about her research into this space as well. One of the many profound truths she shared was that of all the contactees they have studied, there is a strikingly similar message shared by all. Check it out below

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