The Problem With Porn: Something We Should All Consider

Porn: It’s the elephant in the room. In today’s state of overt sexuality, it is nearly impossible to avoid the barrage of erotic propaganda portrayed in all forms of media. Whether it’s the soft-core exposure of celebrities in film and television, or the hard-core pornography that so dominates the myriad of internet tube sites today, it is easy to say that we’ve all been subjected, whether willingly or unwillingly, to pornography in some form or another.

It seems as though porn has become more ‘mainstream’ in the last ten years, progressing away from the small corner in movie rental shops and making its way into almost every form of media today. Varying opinions peg gratuitous sexuality and pornography either as a ‘liberation of sexual expression’ or a ‘condemnation of a sacred monogamous practice.’ The moral and ethical debate around porn is multifaceted, but one thing is for sure: The ubiquity of sexuality and pornography has gone too far.

Porn: A History

Illustrations of a sexual nature date back thousands of years; depictions such as the Venus figurines and rock art have existed since prehistoric times. However, the concept of pornography as we understand it today did not exist until the Victorian era. For example, a French Impressionist painting by Édouard Manet titled “Olympia,” which featured a nude French courtesan — literally, a “prostitute picture” — was considered quite controversial at the time. Nineteenth-century legislation eventually outlawed the publication, retail, and trafficking of certain writings and images regarded as pornographic and would order the destruction of shop and warehouse stock meant for sale. [1]

Dolce-Gabbana-Spring-2010-Campaign-male-models-18689986-800-534 nicole-scherzinger-pussycat-dolls-underwear porn_headerThis took a turn in the late 19th-early 20th century, as pornographic film production commenced almost immediately after the invention of the motion picture in 1895. The 1896 film Le Coucher de la Mariée  showed Louise Willy performing a striptease. Pirou’s film inspired a genre of risqué French films showing women disrobing, and other filmmakers soon realized profits could be made from such films.

In 1970, a federal study estimated the total retail value of pornography to be around $10 million. Shockingly, by 2001, a study put that total (including video, pay-per-view, internet, and magazines) between $2.6 billion and $3.9 billion. That profit number should be a red flag for anyone trying to understand the morality behind pornography, as any corporate-influenced industry usually leaves ethics and human wellness at the door when promoting their profit margins. [2][3][4]

Is Porn Ruining Sex?

In an article titled “The Problem With Porn,” Brett and Kate Mckay from theartofmanliess.com wrote

Pornography is such a polarizing issue, that it’s easy for people to take extreme sides when approaching it. Oftentimes, religious people, while very sincere in their beliefs, brand porn as vile filth that turns good men into sexual perverts and unclean lepers… The other extreme sees porn as just a healthy expression of sexuality. Pornography is heartily encouraged in order to help people discover what pleases them sexually, no matter how graphic or violent the material is. The people in this camp will argue that as long as consenting adults are involved and no one gets hurt, then anything goes. However, this approach fails to recognize the detrimental effects porn can have on an individual, on women, and on society. [5]

Pornography watching, without a doubt, can become a compulsive practice.  It’s more like food to a compulsive overeater. Once you make those pleasure connections in your brain, they can be very hard to break. And it’s not an exaggeration to say that porn can ruin your life. The false standards and ideals established through porn affect men and women more so than you might think. Some might disagree with this notion, but pornography objectifies both women and men. For the longest time, the subject of objectification was based solely on women, and this held true for many years.  However, one cannot deny that in our current culture, men are objectified just as much in the media. In pornography especially (heterosexual and homosexual), men and women are looked at as sexually gratifying ‘things,’ leaving out the need to connect spiritually, emotionally, or intellectually. porn

Another problem with watching porn is the support of the dirty industry behind it. People are getting paid to have sex, which means porn is glamorized prostitution. The density surrounding this concept is real. To attain a proper perspective on the matter, a question to ask yourself would be, how would you feel if your brother, sister, mother, or father participated in these kinds of acts? If the answer is ‘uncomfortable,’ then perhaps there needs to be the same standard applied to the people who engage in porn.

One of the largest issues with pornography is the false standards and expectations that exist as its entourage. The men usually have shredded bodies and large penises, the women are usually tiny with massive breast implants. When children see these types of images at a young age, insecurities arise due to erroneous definitions of what ‘men’ and ‘women’ are stated to be.

Where’s The Love, Y’all?

There is no love associated with sex in porn. Instead, sex is portrayed as an aggressive, animalistic type of practice whose only purpose is the gratified ending. There is a massive mis-education done through pornography that creates unrealistic ideas of what ‘good’ sex is. In some cases this can create a big problem in the bedroom, with some people even having to revert to sexual fantasies while having sex in order to reach orgasm. Furthermore, watching porn on a regular basis can diminish the need for sexual pleasure within a relationship.

After repeated exposure to the stimuli, your pleasure plateaus. At this point, people often reach for more — more food, more sex, more porn, etc. — in order to recover the initial pleasure they once took in the experience. But this only begins a vicious cycle in which you must seek ever greater and more intense stimulation to return to your initial pleasure level. Eventually you overwhelm and numb your pleasure receptors. Author Naomi Wolfe touched upon this in her New York Magazine article “The Porn Myth”:

Pornography works in the most basic of ways on the brain: It is Pavlovian. An orgasm is one of the biggest reinforcers imaginable. If you associate orgasm with your wife, a kiss, a scent, a body, that is what, over time, will turn you on; if you open your focus to an endless stream of ever-more-transgressive images of cybersex slaves, that is what it will take to turn you on. The ubiquity of sexual images does not free eros, but dilutes it. Other cultures know this. I am not advocating a return to the days of hiding female sexuality, but I am noting that the power and charge of sex are maintained when there is some sacredness to it, when it is not on tap all the time.

sexWith all that being said, it must be made clear that I am not denouncing masturbation. Exploring self-pleasure is an essential aspect of being human. After all, those pleasure centers are innate for a reason.

What I’m saying is that there has been a massive misrepresentation of sexual intimacy through the media and porn industry for many years, and these falsifications have destroyed the sacredness of the act. Sex has lost the self-giving, mutually reciprocating intimacy that it was designed for. As we move forward as a society, the media-based values and principles surrounding sexuality need to be readdressed and perhaps fully erased to make room for a new foundation for sex, one without definition and limitation, and one that realigns our bodies with the true nature of intimacy and pleasure.

References:

1.)    H. Montgomery Hyde. A History Of Pornography. (1969). London, Heinemann. Pg 16.

2.)    Bottomore, Stephen. Who’s Who of Victorian Cinema. (1996). British Film Institute.

3.)    President’s Commission on Obscenity and Pornography. Report of The Commission on Obscenity and Pornography (1970), Washington, D.C.: U. S. Government Printing Office.

4.)    Ackman, Dan. How Big Is Porn?.  Forbes.com. (May 25 2001).

5.)    http://www.artofmanliness.com/2009/05/11/the-problem-with-porn/ 6.)    http://nymag.com/nymetro/news/trends/n_9437/

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145 comments
  1. Science has PROVEN that the propensity for PORN has contributed in a great way to the increase in ‘ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION’ disorders – caused less by physical conditions with the genitalia and more with the ‘chemical re-wiring’ done to the brain with the repeated use of porn for stimuli (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU). You would hope that people would change their use of porn first of all, as it relates to the negative effects on society as a whole, but now also because of the very real and personal health effects that this can cause. Sadly, now drug companies keep pushing medications that can help overcome this issue – and the problem is getting worse as people can ‘pop a pill’ to help them ‘get a grip’ on this problem. But what happens when a person’s brain eventually adjusts and no longer responds to the chemical help either? Stronger and stronger drugs that melt your brain, destroy your relationships, and run your life?

    1. I watched that video and realised I have ALL those symptoms. I checked out the nofap community and it’s amazing how many people have completely turned their lives around and rewired their brains all from removing one simple (although difficult) habit, or addiction in this case. Thanks for the wake-up call.

  2. Thanks to digital media, couples can turn this to their advantage by making their own ‘house’ porn, to enjoy while apart. Trust, is the only issue… Don’t want it to go viral!

  3. This is very easy for someone who doesn’t suffer from sex addiction. I began watching porn at age 13 and yes it has been a factor in my life. But I wouldn’t say it has destroyed my view of women. In fact I love a woman’s body more. I pay attention to her wants and needs. I think I masturbated for all of my teenage years and waited to have sex when I was 18. I may be the exception though. I was married to the same woman for 12 years until we got divorced. Porn has become a part of our society. There is no denying that. But society as whole would have to agree to change this mindset. Unfortunately because of revenue generated it’s not going to go away anytime soon. Funny thing is I met a porn star and she was one of the coolest people I’ve ever met non sexually.

  4. I’m clean 8 weeks from porn. I perform leaps and bounds better than I did as a porn user. I had erectile dysfunction type issues at 24 from all the porn and acting out from the age of 14 until I started getting a grip on things at around 26. Porn is bad and absolutely rewires the brain in a bad way

  5. While porn may be bad in many ways, it certainly helped me learn alot about my body. I have better control over myself and I have a lot more imagination from all the things I saw (doesn’t mean I’m going to pull some hardcore move just like that). While the industry in itself is bad, I don’t think it only have negatives effects.

  6. Pornography lowers self esteem. Many young men and women become depressed and self inflicted because of the standard “porn star”. Men who are not chisled and glistening with a large erect penis or a young woman who does not have a tiny waist and large perky breasts tend to become depressed and inflict many things upon them selves to look this way because that is what the X-rated film industry passes for an acceptable specimen to be put in front of the camera. Playboy magazine is legal to men and women over the age of 18 and these women are the exact image of what the average american teenager (18) wants to look like, tall, thin, with large breasts, and someone who is “big boned” or a bit more round in the mid section is teasea by peers which often leads to bullying and more suicides. Pornography has a way of spiraling down to the “gutters” of society which is socially and inhumanely unacceptable.

    1. Invalid points. I watch porn I am not as cut or buff or as big as some of the guys in porn, do I choose to allow that to bother me? No. That is a choice some one makes, that is not what porn inherently instills in people. (besides that size and looks isn’t all that, it’s all about how it’s done. Most guys in porn are not very talented when it comes to that. Hence the impractical chiseled muscles and penis enlargement. They are making up for lack of skill half the time lmao.)
      I recognize that there are all different shapes and sizes of bodies, they only way that could ever bother me is if I chose to be a self loathing person with a low self esteem.

    2. From what porn I’ve seen these days they are many different shapes and sizes of male and female bodies available in the videos, sure certain attributes are more popular than others and there is a stereotypical figure, but there is a lot of variety out there available if one is looking for it. I’ve found that through my relationships I have discovered what we both enjoy most regarding body parts, positions, techniques etc and seeking these out in porn has helped me to explore this further leading to more confidence to express this when with a partner. Perhaps its the way the sites present it to us that is part of the problem, nearly all of them will have intrusive ads and pops ups advertising penis enlargements and adult casual sex sites which adds the seedy depressing edge to it. Nothing can replace the bliss of sex with a loved partner and intimate connection that surpasses physical desire, but I think porn can be used in a balanced way to help empower ones self sexually.

  7. Very interesting, thank you.

    One thing for sure is that human sexuality is on the brink of a major paradigm shift… huge game-changing stuff: http://vx.tc/projectx

    It’s becoming increasingly clear that we’re still in the middle ages when it comes to sex. Time for a new sexual revolution? I’m looking forward to it.

  8. Women have put me through so much crap in my life. I really can’t stand them. Thanks to porn, I do not have to allow myself to be abused just to get sex. YAY PORN!

    1. That’s just your bitterness talking….I think deep down you wish for a woman to love you unconditionally and i wholeheartedly wish you will find her.

  9. “People are getting paid to have sex, i.e., porn is glamorized prostitution.”
    So the hell what?

    “To attain a proper perspective on the matter, a question to ask yourself would be how would you feel if your brother, sister, mother, or father participated in these kinds of acts?”

    I honestly wouldn’t care as long as it was regulated and they were practicing safe sex.

    The only actual good points made were about body image, desensitizing, and what “good sex” is. Everything else was very biased and short-sighted. You have a very skewed image of sex workers, and need to stop shaming them just because you wouldn’t be one.

    As long as there is consent and it is hygienic, then leave it alone.

    People who sell porn are facilitators. Just because the opportunity is presented doesn’t mean you have to engage in it. Have some self-control and understand when to draw the line. The fact that we need so many tests and doctors to tell us what to do and think nowadays is ridiculous.

    If you’re having sexual problems and you suspect pornography may be causing them, try stopping for a while. If it works, then monitor your watching habits and moderate them. That’s what is known as “discipline”. This culture of “all or nothing” we have going on here is basically treating us like children. People are either addicted or ascetic. You can be in the middle ground, it’s ok.

    1. I think you raise some valid points, but there is much exploitation in all aspects of the sex industry, be it prostitution or pornographic films. Many women are exploited as performers on webcams, here in Spain many immigrants whilst being remunerated to work in the sex industry, their basic freedom of movement and choice is removed, I do no take a moral high ground on either aspect and respect peoples free will to be involved in the industry as consumer or supplier.

      Someone with a compulsive personality will find infinite ways to fill what was in my case (an ex drinker) a bottomless pit until making progress that I would describe as of a spiritual nature.

      1. There is much exploitation because in most of the places sex industry is illegal, but it takes place regardless. And it’ll continue that way. If the concern is how to protect them, what it needs to be done is to regulate it.

  10. imho it all depends on the way you are wired. whether you tend to compare yourself to what you see, whether you are the person who wants ice cream when seeing someone else eating ice cream, what the level of your self esteem is, and whether you already know what you like sexually,… it depends on so many factors, what kind of effect porn or other media have on you. addiction and excessiveness almost always lead to problems, and of course on a neuro-level things happen, but the way of consumption, the kinds of porn, and the way of interpretation varies so greatly, that i wouldn’t generalize too much.

    love your self, love your body, watch what pleases and emancipates you, and stay aware of the effect what your watching has on you 🙂 imho nothing can go wrong that way.

  11. While I admire the attempt, this article is remarkably one-dimensional , ill informed, and reminds me once again how closely New Age, progressive, or forward moving thinkers, can come to sounding like old fire and brimstone Bible thumpers of a Puritan age.

    The assumption of purity, goodness, truth, and sex as a higher spiritual calling, is a decidedly judeo-christian puritan exercise, despite the authors seemingly Pro love, pro family, pro female, Pro spirituality position.

    While I personally agree that the level and intensity of porn, can get way out of hand, this is a multi-faceted subject that this article fails to cover adequately, instead, steering squarely into moral dictation, unqualified ethical statements, and a decidedly one-dimensional, tone about some of this Society’s most pressing issues, including power, economics, religion, social Mores, and human perception.

    While this article may make some people feel good or justified in a new-agey condemnation of rutting, whorish, slutty human behavior, it does little more than reinforce every stereotype promoted by the church, and by sex-obsessed Westerners intense on censoring that which publicly offends, and privately titilates them.

    This is a subject worthy of far finer distinction and focus.

    1. I agree in that pornography and porn addiction are symptoms of a society that represses sexuality in a normal setting. Most parents don’t know how to talk to their kids about sex. They don’t know how to address the physical and emotional aspects of safe sex. And when people can’t explore their sexual feelings because they are looked down on in their community due to religion or otherwise, they will turn to the internet. And this is when porn can infiltrate in a negative way and give people false perceptions on what love and aex are. Sex is a huge part of everyone’s personal life and without open conversation it can become a source of shame and confusion.

    2. Couldn’t agree more… its also a very American perspective
      Besides, not all porn is extreme, purely physically objectifying or without depictions of intimacy.

    3. Maybe we should forbid p9rnography and prostitution like it was quite a few years ago.

      Just think of your wife, sister, daugther get raped by some thugs that can’t control their inner animal.

      The tries to tame the human spirit are good, but the more light you wish the more shadow you will create.
      The dark wishes within people can not be tamed and will breakthrough if you least expect it.

      Porn isn’t the root of evil, it’s a symptom of the meaninglessness in many peoples life.
      Especially young, sexually inexpierenced people get their first experiences from porn, because the parents failed educating and training them.
      (Have a look at the discepiancy f.e. in germany with many youths from suburbs having their first intercourse at the age of 12/13 vs higher educated youths starting with 16/18 …).

      It’s easy to point the finger at porn for various reasons, like on drugs.
      But everytime you point, 3 fingers point at you, so think about:
      1. Am i open to my children
      2. Am i happy with myself
      3. Do i mix root and symptom?

  12. The singling out of pornography as a problem isn’t convincing enough. Although, pornography can be seen as a cause for a myriad of social problems, it is merely a symptom of a much more deep-rooted occurrence and is systemic in nature. Pornography may seem to wear down on those who have issues surrounding self-discipline and willpower. However, those facing self-disciplinary type issues will not exclusively find themselves suffering from just one impulsive act. The biological processes of all addictions are the same within the brain whether it be compulsive porn watching, gambling, smoking, drug abuse, shopping, working, you name it. The real miseducation comes from those who appear to have a vast amount of knowledge on a subject and their intention toward informing others by targeting a symptom in hopes for social change. That’s like relieving a skin condition when you truly had some serious problems with your hormonal system.

    Furthermore, is the real problem with pornography the objectification of sexes? Wouldn’t movies be the objectification of people in general? You said “men and women are looked at as sexually gratifying things.” Wouldn’t men and women also be looked at as “non-sexually” gratifying on screen. We use people for pleasure and entertainment on movie screens. It seems to me that this is just as much objectification but explicitly less sexual.

  13. It can do you worlds of good by not taking to much notice of porn and paying more attention to your own imagination. It comes across as bias because the writer is being as dramatic as possible. It is true what is written it does more damage than good. Not all people are worse off but most are. I can enjoy an occasional exotic cigarette but that doesn’t mean smoking should be good for everybody. See I dont have an addictive nature but that doesn’t make production of cigarettes to the masses right.

  14. Use of porn images to attract one’s attention is so common! How ironical, this article intended to deliver a positive message about this however uses a absolute porno image of a young couple in a compromising position in FB to render viewers a compulsive read!

    Such is the plight these days. Sympathetic.

  15. Objectification of genders has been going on since the beginning of time. It is not some new thing that just suddenly happened with the invention of cameras. Humans have glorified sex since always. The reason you don’t see pornography like today in history is because of religious persecution and a lack of education for the masses. Before cameras, you had to be educated and wealthy enough to get paper and pen to write with, or get whatever medium for artistic expression. Artistic talent helps.

    If the ancients had access to film and the internet, I guarantee you there would be porno that was even more insane and depraved than what we have today.

  16. Thank you for writing this article. Porn promotes carnal desires within people. If there was no porn industry i think we would see more people in healthier relationships. Its an industry,one of many today, that are degrading the individual and in turn society.

  17. Im not supporting the malculture evolution but you should understand the awareness of porn life was originated in begining of human evolution as marked in the religious books (adam and eve).
    They stared thinking of another kind of feeling that can co-exist with our good life motos. So no need to blame this generation. Its a part of time.. if you dont like to be part of this, stay away. you are helping.. you did your part well.
    thank you.

  18. Why not just leave people to do what they want, and see what they want. I dont really see why porn would be any other peoples business.
    If you dont like it, then dont watch it.
    As simple as that..
    If some get problems after watching porn, they properbly had these issues before aswell. I am getting tired of all this we need to blaime something or someone else, instead of taking responsibillity for our own issues and actions.

    We live in a world full of terrible events, and sick people. There is more important things to take action against than porn.

    1. I definitely agree that we should always strive to make the right decisions for ourselves, and that blaming other people is a bad thing. However, if you caught someone selling cocaine, or maybe even just cigarettes to middle schoolers would you be cool with it? Say that they can make their own decisions and that they shouldn’t blame the person taking advantage for money? Now you can say “oh well they are young they don’t know any better.” But I personally, and most people I hear about, are exposed at VERY young ages and it then continues to plague them for the rest of their lives. Now you could say “oh well your older and smarter now you can just choose to stop and stop blaming other people” and YES I CAN. but unless you have ever been in this situation you won’t understand that something that starts THAT young and is THAT ingrained into your mind and life is not easy to drop. In fact its nigh impossible at times. I have years and years of innocent ignorance and habits that follow me constantly. Because of these things it will ALWAYS be a struggle, always be a burden. Now you could say “your parents should have been more careful, you werent raised right, you were a freak accident” guess what? It literally takes me 10 seconds to type in “sex” and I get thousands of hits. add another 10 seconds and I can be watching something. What if your parents dont know about blocks? what if they have blocks so you work around them or go to a friends house, or find a magazine? my point? that is is SO easily accessible and so idealized that as a well meaning adult I’m hard pressed to think of a day that I don’t accidentally see some form of sex idolization or “sexy” content. Yes adults should be able to make a choice and live by that, but when kids are exposed and have such easy access how could we not want to stop this? It would be like a cigarette machine that doesnt check ID. Or a bar that sells to 10 yr olds and says “oh they grew up to be an alcoholic and died from poisoning? their choice!” habits and patterns you form early define who you become. You CAN change, and I am doing my absolute best to, but its NOT easy and if i could do it all over again, I would in a heartbeat. You CAN’T say that we all have a choice and use it to excuse everything bad in the world. because guess what? The people sitting behind a desk raking in money that preys on people’s insecurities and addictions and say “screw it if kids see this they will be functioning rational adults some day!”. Those people are making a CHOICE and their choice is killing our generation. And we are making the CHOICE to let them and justifying it because we don’t want our precious porn sites to fall down to the ground with us.

    2. The problem is our kids are easily exposed to it. Its every where on social media and main stream media soft core and hardcore. When your exposed to it at a very young age it really takes a toll on your brain and leaves lasting affects. The fact is pornography is a huge issue.

    3. Porn is one of the main reasons any of the “terrible events” occur (as you mentioned). It is what twists people’s minds in the first place. The point of the article is not to criticize people who watch porn, but to explain what it can do to one’s mind. It’s a caution. Porn is an addiction in which the watcher continually needs more and more of it. Throughout the process, the one addicted needs variety and change in the videos, meaning he/she can’t watch the same “kind” or literally the SAME video every time. The addiction gets worse and worse and the watcher moves on and on from one video to the next. Eventually this habit can lead to things such as divorce; you get tired of your wife/husband and feel the need to move on. The same goes with cheating; one spouse gets tired of having sex with the same person, and starts getting interested in another. It’s a pattern.

      All “terrible events,” as you mentioned, have to have a root; they don’t just happen. Believe it or not, many problems besides divorce such as murder, want for power, homosexuality, rape, etc, all started with the habit of watching porn. (This is not true for every case, but it has been for many). It is a habit of dissatisfaction, shame, and the need to go farther with sexual activities.

  19. I can honestly say that my porn habits has destroyed my life. Started at 14, it was a corner stone of my life. I never realized it was a problem until I tried to stop at 24. Fast foward now, 3 years later, I’m still trying to quit. I went to hell and back trying to quit, but it’s still there. Also it’s true that it makes you prefer porn over real sex, at least it is in my case.

    1. Very sorry to hear and you are in my prayers. The big guy upstairs is the only freedom from any addiction.

      1. I cannot disagree more…. religion is just the replacement addiction… its honesty with oneself and those that love you, complete control of your actions, and sheer willpower that help cease the problem…. I’ve known many drug addicts in my lifetime that, before using drugs, had no religious beliefs (not meaning they don’t believe, just that they weren’t overly zealous about it) then when they come clean and sober, religion is all they do…. hence my statement of religion being the new addiction,…. instead of dosing themselves with a drug all the time, they are dosing themselves with a church gathering or bible reading, etc etc …. at the same time, tho, this statement of mine does not ring true for all, and I understand that… to each their own

  20. Good expressions. I believe you took all the aspects of this social evil in the today’s world. Keep writing.. 🙂

  21. Stop it. You always find what you search for, whether consciously or subconsciously. There are plenty of “small” penis tubes or anything else you are curious about widely available. Stop blaming the industry and start highlighting the choices each individual makes when consuming this material. It’s the individual watching who chooses to be out of balance, not the industry. Stop blaming the medium and take personal responsibility for your own indulges and stop trying to make others feel bad for their interests however foreign they may be to you. The shaming of an industry is what makes it unhealthy, because you push it underground, therefore forcing people to hide something they may have otherwise openly celebrated. You always have the power to watch or not, to make it healthy or not. You have personal power. USE IT

    1. “So are you saying when a person gives a druggie who is trying to quit more drugs he is not at all in the wrong?”

      No one is trying to give you porn. You watch porn of your own free will, just as a druggie chooses to do drugs. Is there no personal responsibility anymore?

      Food, like sex, is a natural thing. By your logic, the people who supply food to obese individuals are to blame in some way, rather than simply the obese individual. So should the food industry stop producing food for everyone because there exist people who eat themselves into disease and death? Or should that obese individual perhaps make better choices in what to consume?

      C’mon now.

      1. Sure, we can choose to stop watching just about every movie that comes out now, and even most TV shows, but why is that fair at all? The people who wanna watch porn can go watch their porn, but they can also watch it in just about everything else directed. Porn is now commonplace, I am utterly shocked when I watch a movie that is void of nudity or sex. Yes, we can choose to not see it, but that means cutting out all visual media. Completely.

      2. Its called an addition for a reason. Its basic, supply and demand. If the demand is gone there will be no need for it. Unfortunately we all have a sin nature, no one is perfect. Thus still will have the supply. Unlike a druggie who had meetings they can go to, porn addition is looked at as a huge sin and how dare you talk about that, why would you even do that in the first place? They are shamed and not allowed to deal with it so why stop just keep doing it so know one has to know. Now if you admit you have a food addition or drug addition you can go on the biggest loser or to a rehab resort and get counselling, but having an addition to porn is not ok. Because its the persons fault while i agree the person should take responsibility, but you sir are defending an industry that traffics young woman and forces them into this industry. Yes some choose it, but most don’t. So if you want to say it is the individuals fault then its that girls fault as wel that she was taken from her family or sold and now forced to have sex with a man for the pleasure of another person…and no they are not always paid there life is threatened and eventually they are ok with there life. I

  22. However you spin it, media standards have slowly digressed, slowly desensitizing us and our children to pornography. What director or exec isn’t trying to push the envelope of what is taboo under the guise of artistic purposes. Second, the industry is prostitution on film and while there are some an individual has the choice in seeing or not.

    There are other strategies like the over the top love scene that catches you by surprise in a movie or in shows like “teen wolf” which are marketed to children. (Ironically airs right before a show called “pregnant at 16), Like it or not we have a culture that is growing up taking in and being taught by images on a screen, in a magazine, or a poster at the mall. What’s attractive, what isn’t attractive, and what is socially accepted as sexually moral or not is driven by marketing and there is no avoiding it.

  23. The article is both valid and meaningless at the same time.
    Replace Porn with Violence?
    And there are easily 10 other catagories equally contentious.
    We must make our own, hopefully informed choices

    1. Practice opening your mind to aspects of both genders that you did not consider to be beautiful until now, now that you’ve taken the time to look at those things that porn discounts.

  24. The day I see a wide segment of the population recognize that all marketing and advertizing is coercive brain washing and nothing less than psychic assault I will take this moralizing BS seriously. The one thing lacking here is real empirical science. The reason people have a deranged sexual appetite is puritanism and the endemic puritanism of this culture. This said I think the article raises some questions worth considering. If people were choosing self gratification and porn over real human intimacy, that would be sad. But so long as someone is not doing real harm to someone else leave them alone. Now for me, porn is in the take it or leave it category but I LOVE EXTREME VIOLENCE. If you even hint at taking that away, I will kill you all, horribly.

  25. I used to watch porn, but once I started knowing/being attracted to real girls, it just did not work for me anymore – 1. I need to feel some sort of emotional connection, which is never there whereas I can imagine it, and 2. Simply by the girl being in a porno means I know I wouldn’t actually sleep with her, as I wouldn’t sleep with anyone that did that. Plus they all look fake and horrible 9/10 times. This is coming from a virgin guy btw

    1. The ultimate reality is that Porn has very little to do with real life. It is someone’s fantasy and the author is correct, the actors are just being paid to have sex, in other words they are ALL man and women whores. There is simply nothing more degrading than that. You should not waste your precious time or care what any whore does. If they are happy that way, so be it. If you are a person of true integrity and self respect, simply don’t pay any attention to it.

  26. Porn in and of itself is not the problem. It can be useful in the context of a relationship with self and others. It serves a purpose and is not all bad, or degrading to women. Within the context of a loving relationship, porn can have its place. The problem with porn is secret-keeping. If a person, male or female, has a difficulty with intimacy and shame, then he or she may watch porn sneakily. This is what destroys the sacredness of any relationship, not the porn itself. Like any other relationship with an addict, there is a lack of honesty and therefore, intimacy. However, watching porn in and of itself, does not mean a person is addicted. Let’s see what purpose it can serve within the context of a healthy relationship, with self or others. Shame should not be associated with porn, nor should it degrade anyone. However, we ought not to throw the baby out with the bathwater, since certain couples and certain types of porn can be useful to enhance, rather than erode, intimacy. The key to intimacy is honesty on all levels, even about our sexuality.

    1. Did you not read the same article as I did? You’re totally wrong. Porn is animalistic and violent, while sex between consensual partners is supposed to be sweet and loving. You won’t find that with a pizza delivery boy and a sorority house full of coeds. Sorry just isn’t the same. And the fact you think it is is the exact problem this article was talking about.

      1. Not all porn is violent, degrading, or soulless senseless banging. Phd is entirely correct in my opinion. A person has a right to choose what porn they watch, and the amount. It is like he said, there are many reasons that could send a person into an addiction regarding porn, but a good solution is honesty from the start. The article gives a bias opinion, so therefore should be taken with a grain of salt and level of opposing research. Also we cannot blame porn for fantasies or even try to define what sex should be between people. Everyone is different, and even in the absence of porn couples can get bored. Sometimes adding something new is what a relationship needs whether it is discovered through media or one’s own creativity. Eradicating it will solve nothing, but honestly in my opinion like with many other bans, push it further into a dark unhealthy vice sold on an unregulated, and unsafe market. These are my opinion, use them as you will.

    2. Yes! Yes! Yes! Thank you I wish I could have said this my self but you sir are much more articulate than I.

  27. I think everyone has forgotten the real reason for sex…. ..procreation.
    Society has turned it into something other.
    On that point, how can two men procreate or two women?

    1. It’s the reason if you are ONLY an animal, not a mind, or a spirit. i find literalists and fundies oddly materialistic, worshipping form instead of content, dogma instead of spirit. Funny thing is, they aren’t even aware of it.

  28. I as a avid porn watcher believes porn has severed a connection between fantasy and reality ..although some fantasy can become real .human touch emotional connections this thing called love has been lost on some level …

  29. You ought to consider the fact that you are contributing to this sickening epidemic by the article links that follow your article that have pornographic images themselves…

  30. A very good article.
    I don’t think that pornography is “solvable,” though, because addiction isn’t a product of that which you are addicted to. It’s a product of the addict.
    Pornography has become the go-to sexual release medium for a significant majority of those who are shy, socially awkward, rejected, or afraid of sexual contact for whatever reason. This makes it “cool” enough for people who COULD enjoy sexual contact as an intimate, spiritual experience to mix some porn into their experience as well. And it has become normal for people to strip themselves of body hair or any kind of body “imperfections” in order to not be considered disgusting even by people they have no intention of connecting with sexually.
    So it’s a pandemic, and somehow it has become important to emulate porn, rather than eradicate it.
    I appreciate this article because it points out what many people suspect but dare not mention: there is the possibility of a better, richer experience …if we can step out of conformity to a corporate-influenced industry.

    (and the same thing, by the way, goes for the use of pharmaceuticals)

    1. Especially good and insightful response. And I can attest to the “better richer experience” in regards to sex and drugs….but people tell me I am an anomaly.. hope they are wrong.

    2. what is the obsession with no body hair? in porn it’s so you can see al the bits but now people think its dirty to have pubic hair FFS it looks like you haven’t reached puberty – bit iffy really

    1. nope because that’s about 2 people in real life having sex – porn is made up masturbation material/acting which is pretty uninteresting and low level – scripted ooos and ahhs and grimaces in the right place are all it is

  31. Porn and all other forms and varying degrees of nudity are the reasons my significant other and I don’t fully commit. If he can get it all through them, what’s he need me for? It’s kind of like dating my brother..

    1. Maybe the problem is you? At the beginning of my relationship, my soon-to-be wife had us watch porn together. We picked up ideas etc and we use them. Her mentality? “People always say porn causes unreal expectations, but why are they unreal? If watching rather than doing it with is more satisfying, then you’re doing it wrong.” We’ve hence stopped watching and now find pleasure in each other. But if you won’t commit because of readily available nudity, you have commitment issues. If I can get it through porn, why do I need my significant other? Love maybe? Sounds like you just gotta figure things out.

      1. stop blaming the woman for the dick of a partners obsession with porn – he’s addicted to the trash – porn is not sex – it’s blow up dolls doing tricks so you can masturbate and then try the tricks yourself and wonder why they don’t work – because …. it’s acting

  32. If you think the ones working in this business are OK?! Think again!! Have you not heard about person trafficking, you think those people are happy to have meaningless sex, and even if they do at first, it all becomes routine in a while. And those paying for this business sustain a life of misery for the ones working for it. I’m sorry, but the ones sustaining porn do not see the big picture, they only see what they want to see, that is why they consume this product. Just like you never see how poisoning Coke is when you consume it and all the chemicals in the food big companies sell. They eat them because they taste good. Humans are unconscious of their own behavior.

    1. Actually yes. Sure, there are some who don’t, just like there are some car mechanics who hate working on cars. Some in the porn industry love what they do. I knew a girl who said she was loving life, could afford whatever she wanted and told everyone who judged her to screw themselves, because she was happy. I hope you never buy anything made in sweatshops or anything exploiting poor workers. I would hate for you to consume a product and further such s terrible practice.

  33. What we need to do is repeal the First Amendment right to free speech and have the government monitor all speech for impurity. Especially pictures. Women need to be covered up. Totally.

  34. If one’s addicted to porn.. the best way to start is refraining from masturbation.. google ‘nafap’ .. its an online portal where hundreds n thousands of Fapstronauts help each other to get over porb addiction.. #LiveFree

  35. I feel that alot of people are commenting what they want others to perceived them as. The fact is, porn can become a terrible addiction but just like a beer or weed, in moderation, it can do good and really help at times. There is porn that really helped people and some even empowered women. Again, relax, I am not saying that you should consume porn night and day. No.. What I am saying is: explore the question before judging and pointing. Nothing is just black and white.

  36. Porn seeks to eroticize this sadism. In porn women are paid to repeat the same tired mantras. They plead to be physically abused. Porn caters to degrading racist stereotypes. Black men are sexually potent beasts stalking white women. Black women have a raw, primitive lust. Latin women are sultry and hotblooded. Asian women are meek, sexually submissive geishas. In porn, human imperfections do not exist. The oversized silicone breasts, the pouting, gel-inflated lips, the bodies sculpted by plastic surgeons, the drug-induced erections that never subside and the shaved pubic regions—which cater to porn’s pedophilia—turn performers into pieces of plastic. Smell, sweat, breath, heartbeats and touch are erased along with tenderness. Women in porn are packaged commodities. They are pleasure dolls and sexual puppets. They are stripped of true emotions.

  37. Porn is not about sex, if one defines sex as a mutual act between two partners.. but about MASTURBATION, a solitary auto-arousal devoid of intimacy and love. The cult of the self—that is the essence of porn—lies at the core of corporate culture. Porn, like global capitalism, is where human beings are sent to die.

    1. I totally agree!! It is completely about self-gratification and “getting off”. It has nothing to do with love and it makes me sick.. -__-

  38. I disagree with this article.. All the points stated can just as easily be addressed to any other topic. Like saying don’t eat chocolate because some cocoa plantation worker might have been exploited and it causes addiction and is not good for you. I’m more inclined to believe that we are animals that are programed to have sex, porn serves more as a means to calm sexual desire. I believe that in countries that do not have easy access to porn, people have a lot more sexual problems (underage marriages, bestiality and so on). Calling grown women whores because they have made a choice of what to do with their own bodies is the actual root of the problem. If your boyfriend doesn’t want to commit it’s not because porn made him numb to emotion, maybe you are just a boring sexual partner. Instead of condemning porn try watching it together with an open mind

    1. Agree with you Gege.

      The writer of the article tries to be a bit objective but he is only focussing on the negatives and shifting the blame. With the law of supply and demand, the excesses we can access and consume, whether it be porn, junk food or alcohol, is only a reflection of society’s demands, not the sole cause of it.

      It’s also very western-centric. Countries which prohibit or have restrictive access to porn do not necessarily have better sex lives or treat women better. If anything, it appears that westernised cultures with the most access and acceptance to porn speak more loudly for women’s rights and equality than others. Not saying that is caused by porn – just that porn is irrelevant to an increase or decrease in issues of sexism.

      1. bit of a long bow there mate – porn is shitty – you can have a good sex life without it and it has nothing to do with women’s rights – trying to make yourself feel better?

  39. the artice attempts to opens with the wide aspects of pornography…. then rapidly moves to reinforce the view that all porn is violent, animalistic, without feeling and participants as sex slaves…. lots of porn actually depicts some level of emotion and connection between the participants… (its actually hard to have sex without it !!) Maybe more real research looking into how people involved in the industry acually feel and are effected, from which real awareness can be raised and vulnerable people protected. Taking such a black and white veiw on things based on a few articles may only add and perpeptuate guilt and shame around sex…. which on the other hand is trying to point out that it is part of the problem :/

  40. Porn is healthy, relaxing and take out of you when you masturbate or have an orgasm all dirty energy and in this humanity we do have a lot of dirty energy brought here by the alien of zeta reticuli the source of all dirty energy. If you not masturbate or have an orgasm you are probably getting sick sooner than later!!

    1. And what about the fact that porn is increasingly more and more about violence and abuse of women? This is healthy in your opinion?
      Its a known fact that more and more young males are experiencing ED and sexual problems. Not being about to perform in their 20s. I think the porn of today is much different than the porn of yesteryears. Nonstop, overstimulating digital porn has quite a different effect on the human brain.

    2. Oh really !? and are you telling this from some personal experience? I don’t think so..
      Lets try something out, for giving you a better perspective of what sexual energy is.. – Try to keep your sperm inside your body for at least 2 weeks and tell me how you’ll feel on the last day.

      Your sperm is creating a new seeds all the time, its like a cycle of energy. an infinite energy. every time you masturbate, and releasing for nothing, you just wasting your energy and you are getting to a low state of energy. you don’t give your body a chance to grow with that infinite energy, you just waste it every day for nothing.
      When you keep your energy inside your body, you start feeling your infinite potential. you start raising that energy level, and you feel it right away.

      1. I’m gonna try that one on my husband! Ha ha! No Honey, keep your energy inside…You think that’ll get him to help me around the house? I don’t care for porn at all but he does…I don’t care that he wants to watch it, but I also don’t care that he needs that stimuli so, if he wants to watch porn, he can whack it to the porn, if he wants to make love to his wife, he can whack it to me!

  41. Many societies have a long histories of porn. Yet they’ve never had the same problems as this puritanical mentally midget sized minds nation.
    There is no problem with porn, the problem is in the mental abilities of those who do have a problem. We must live our lives in balance, the problem happens when that balance goes out of kilter.

    1. I agree. It’s about balance. Something humanity has not come close to learning because of the other forces at work within the matrix.

  42. How interesting …… porn can ruin relationships, but watching some stranger doing it with another stranger, shifting partners …… just…really not a good example for anyone. Just my 2 cents in.

    1. Porn is essential. Without porn you would have men running around raping chicks much more, and there would be a 95% divorce rate (rather than 40%). Women who are against porn have NO IDEA how the male species functions.

      1. Your a fool if you believe that. A lack of porn will NOT lead men to go and rape people, more so the opppsite, people who get so indulged with porn believe sex is the most important thing in life and will do whatever it takes to get that thrill! Porn damages our minds and makes our expectations of a husband or a wife so highly revolved round sex and pleasing the other, which I wouldnt doubt is a large contubuter the the increase in divorce! Get out of your bubble if you believe men are completely acceptable in just masturbating over porn when it pleases them, honestly its shameful, why would anyone be attracted to some guy who thinks watching have sex from behind a screen all the time is healthy?

        1. You realize that the sexual drive is more an impulse than a desire? I don’t agree that men who don’t watch porn are going to rape or do other nasty stuff, but I highly disagree that it damages our minds if it was done moderately. It depends whether one is single or married/in an intimate relationship and there’s no shame in it at all if it was the first case, doesn’t have to damage the mind or anything.

      2. rubbish – it’s not a turn on – you may find it so but it’s a big turn off if some guy gets horny from porn and tries to then have sex with their partner and expects them to replicate the film – really not cool

      3. Porn is not essential. I have no idea how you think without porn men would just start raping. So if your ideals are true if we took away action movies people would go crazy and start shooting everyone?

      1. Good to know you have a great respect for women, and are not sexist what so ever

      2. Wow, either you’re and idiot or purposely feigning ignorance. Unrealsitic porn creates unrealistic expectations in the bedroom and when the other person can fulfill these unrealistic desires, both are left unsatisfied which in turn, can destroy a relationship. My step-dad would watch the most disgusting porn constantly (I accidentally ran across some and was scarred lol). At first, he would just watch basic things but it soon became boring so he had to keep looking for more and more crazy stuff until he couldn’t stop! Porn is NOT the same as making love with someone – it is an addiction to mindless pleasures of the flesh and it was one of the main contributors to ending my parent’s marriage. So, please, spare me your rhetoric on how porn is a good thing LOL

        1. CAN’T fulfill** (really wish I could edit all the typos of my previous comment lol)

  43. Yep…It keeps us trapped in the second chakra and keeps us obsessed with the flesh. It’s a means for the entities who have control of the planet to cause us to not evolve and use sexuality in the proper way. Sex with someone opens gateways. Imagine all the dark energies we are inviting in when we engage in low vibrational acts such as loveless sex and watching pornography. Scary. Its a huge contributor to the negative energy in the Earth’s vibrational field. People need to see the bigger picture and stop only looking at what they (their ego) like. My opinion.

  44. I agree porn shouldn’t be as commercial as it is. However, debating whether or not something should be produced is still based on individual opinion. The same arguments used in this article as to why porn is “bad”, can also be said about other types of films and art, such as, but not limited to, chick flicks and novels such as 50 shades of grey. The same idea applies. They create false expectations and they also support big film industries. Not to mention novels and chick flicks are more commercial and more widely accepted. In fact, I can’t think of too many love novels or romantic films where the characters are unattractive. The stories themselves set such a high standard that people today feel if they can’t meet those expectations, that love is meant for people like them. Eliminating porn altogether would not fix these issues of false standards and expectations is basically the point I’m trying to get across. And eliminating films and novels such the 1s I mentioned would only limit our creativity as writers. Rather than condemn porn or any other forms of art, we should look within to find what is right for us as unique individuals. Stop looking at what the media is presenting and arguing that it’s bad for society. Be part of finding a solution and how it can be presented so that whatever it is they present no longer has the big effect it currently has. Just my opinion.

  45. The writer of the article tries to be a bit objective but he is only focussing on the negatives and shifting the blame. With the law of supply and demand, the excesses we can access and consume, whether it be porn, junk food or alcohol, is only a reflection of society’s demands, not the sole cause of it.

    It’s also very western-centric. Countries which prohibit or have restrictive access to porn do not necessarily have better sex lives or treat women better. If anything, it appears that westernised cultures with the most access and acceptance to porn speak more loudly for women’s rights and equality than others. Not saying that is caused by porn – just that porn is irrelevant to an increase or decrease in issues of sexism.

    I like watching action movies (which means there is lots of violence – by good and bad guys) – but it doesn’t mean I like to shoot and beat up people, or that these movies are desensitising me to violence so I’m more abusive!

    Taking away porn will not restore everyone’s morality any more than taking away children from perverted priests will cleanse them of paedophillic intentions. Immorality has been documented even in Biblical times long before porn was accessible.

    1. No one here is saying we should take away porn. Porn has made its way into society and its here to stay until it becomes unsustainable and then we will discard it as a species. The article here is to remind and awaken us to what we subject ourselves to when we watch porn and the effects of our choice to give it energy. I for one grew up in the early 90’s when the internet became mainstream and everyone had a home computer. Internet pages took on a whole to scheme. Movies, are movies, and when it comes to aliens and horror we can tell the difference between reality and falsehood…but porn blurs the line between whats real and not real, ESPECIALLY for teenagers. Yes, a teenage boy can be a feminist, but he may think he has to change himself or spit game to “possess” a women. Porn is someone else’s idea of pleasure and when it influences people its takes away their discernment to find out what’s honestly pleasurable for themselves. Porn may not be causing wars, and it may not go away, but the heart of being a good person is dreaming of a better world and making a change.

    2. I read only your first sentence, but I can reply that positivity of porn is not lasting but negativity: In the long term, it is dangerous, specially for people who discovered porn before sex.

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  47. Interesting debate, I did my dissertation on Pornography on the Internet on the basis of should/can it be censored. Pornography, now a multi $billion industry can take credit for shaping the Internet basically shaping technology we now take for granted such as card payment, webcams, streaming media etc.

    Pornography is documented with the ancient Greeks having images and sculptures of fornication between men, women even animals that were accessible for all, it was only the prude Victorian elite that when discovering such pornography hid it from the working class, thinking if they were exposed to it the British economy would collapse as men would all become crazed perverts, even though the gentry were privy to it. This is as we know, not the case and I think through exposure and education not censorship and filtering porn should become less stigmatised and more accepted of conformity of basic human nature- this in turn would lessen the seediness and current fascination with the porn industry.
    You only have to look at new campaigns like #freethenipple to see that when something is exposed in mainstream society it becomes accepted and eventually the furore over it passes (men were only allowed to bathe with their nipples out from the 1930’s!)

    Yes pornography in its current state, where it’s representation is primarily for a male western audience, is wrong as it objectifies women. Although through exposure to sexual education where pornography is portrayed for a balanced audience and more akin to the natural act that it is, Society could finally accept sex simply as another human behaviour. So if greater Pornography means less Victorian prudish then I’m all for it. Now for a mass debate..

    1. It is a natural act, but given by God. Sex is not dirty, but this is a perversion of its design.

  48. Interesting debate, I did my dissertation on Pornography on the Internet on the basis of should/can it be censored. Pornography, now a multi $billion industry can take credit for shaping the Internet basically shaping technology we now take for granted such as card payment, webcams, streaming media etc.

    Pornography is documented with the ancient Greeks having images and sculptures of fornication between men, women even animals that were accessible for all, it was only the prude Victorian elite that when discovering such pornography hid it from the working class, thinking if they were exposed to it the British economy would collapse as men would all become crazed perverts, even though the gentry were privy to it. This is as we know, not the case and I think through exposure and education not censorship and filtering porn should become less stigmatised and more accepted of conformity of basic human nature- this in turn would lessen the seediness and current fascination with the porn industry.
    You only have to look at new campaigns like #freethenipple to see that when something is exposed in mainstream society it becomes accepted and eventually the furore over it passes (men were only allowed to bathe with their nipples out from the 1930’s!)

    Yes pornography in its current state, where it’s representation is primarily for a male western audience, is wrong as it objectifies women. Although through exposure to sexual education where pornography is portrayed for a balanced audience and more akin to the natural act that it is, Society could finally accept sex simply as another human behaviour. So if greater Pornography means less Victorian prudish then I’m all for it.

  49. When in your Utopian version of history did this occur…. ‘Sex has lost the self-giving, mutually reciprocating intimacy that it was designed for.’ I have watched porn and used it as a way to de-stress at times in my life when I was single or my partner was not ‘in the mood’. It did not change my intimacy level at all and to the contrary enhanced my stamina and therefore ability to be intimate.

  50. This article holds true for me. It can become an addiction through association with masturbation. I admit that it is something that I still find myself struggle with. Even though I know what negative effects it holds, i will say that when I was experimenting with magic mushrooms I had no desire to go back to porn. I was acutely aware of the insecurities I have about sex and was able to make the easy decision to resist and do relevant things.

  51. I would like to point out as well that not all women who participate in porn are doing it with full consent. There are a lot of women tricked into doing porn that end up in situations that they don’t want to be in and are essentially raped. Porn comes from so many places, you never know the story behind what your watching unless it’s one of the more well known porn stars. It’s not hard to blackmail someone into pretending they enjoy something. It gets into even more sketchy territory if it’s women who look like they aren’t enjoying it. If watching it to learn, then I would more-so watch something like Real Sex or Sex Now on HBO rather than internet porn.

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