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Why & How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

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“It’s easy to feel less than when we have access to everyone’s lives at our fingertips. In mere seconds, we can view hundreds of our online “friends,” updates and photos of their celebrations and daily nuances that they experience. As exciting and inspiring as it is to be able to share our lives instantly with the world, this can also bring us down when we start to compare our lives to those around us.” – Vanessa Petronelli

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Several years ago the marriage boom began happening in my group of friends. One by one, I witnessed a large portion of my social circle enter into this next stage of life. Of course I was thrilled to bask in their excitement alongside each of them. But in other ways, I was starting to feel left behind. I had prioritized my spiritual and self-developmental path as well as my small business in my early to mid-twenties and hadn’t been thinking about marriage, buying a home or planning to have children. In my heart, I knew I was in my purpose and enchanted by the woman I was becoming, but I was still finding myself feeling defeated because I didn’t have what others had. I starting comparing myself to my friends in ways that made me feel inadequate, rather than feeling fulfilled and proud of my personal and professional accomplishments.

We all have a unique life purpose and plan. But contrary to this understanding, there still appears to be a, “template” and timeline that society reinforces us to follow. For those of you reading this and living in the West, I am certain that you are familiar with what that template is. We go to school, get our education, find a job, meet a partner, get married or live together, have a family and continue to support our lifestyles and pay our bills. This template may work for many people, but it can also be a trap in making us believe that life is a one size fits all kind of deal. What about those who dare to be different and choose to follow an alternative path? What if we aren’t meant to have our life roll out in that exact order and fashion? Does that mean we should feel down and out about ourselves?

When we are taught from an early age that life should unfold in a certain way, it’s easy to get caught up in the comparison game frequently, especially if our path and purpose isn’t in alignment with that societal template. It’s important to remember that when we compare ourselves to the rest of the world we are preventing ourselves from living at our fullest capacity and discovering the person we are really meant to be.

From an early age I was constantly questioning the world around me. I knew that my purpose in life wasn’t in alignment with that template. I made a vow to myself that I would only engage in and make choices from my heart rather than abide by what society dictated. I made many sacrifices and unorthodox decisions and choices in contrast to my peers. Some of those decisions and choices challenged me and sometimes I suffered. But many of those decisions and choices liberated me and made me into the person I am today. If I wasn’t the person I am today, I wouldn’t be sharing this article and assisting the world with what I do. From time to time I do fall into the trap of comparing my life to others’, however, I always remind myself that I wouldn’t change my life and who I am for the world.

If you find that you are beating yourself up, feeling down, less than, not good enough, inadequate, depressed, in the dumps, jealous, envious, anxious, judgmental of others, critical and angry because you are comparing yourself to those around you, here are few quick tips to end the damaging impact of comparison.

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1) People Only Want You To See & Hear What They Want You To See & Hear

The next time you find yourself feeling negative while perusing your social media accounts of what appears to be the seemingly endless brigade of celebratory status updates and photos OR you are on the listening end of someone sharing their exciting news…REMEMBER THIS PLEASE!

Although many of us are privy to and privileged to have access to loved ones innermost secrets and struggles, sometimes we may not always know the full story. Even those that are closest to us may not fully divulge what they had to really go through to get to where they are today. Everyone has their own challenges that they are dealing with daily. Many people have had to go through all kinds of challenges just to achieve what they are sharing with you at that moment. It is not always what it looks or sounds like to the outside world. Yes, sometimes things do and have come to those more easily and without difficulty, but do not forget that being human means we live and play in a duality for now. There will always be ups and downs, triumphs and heartaches. So even though some people’s lives appear to be exciting, abundant, happy and truly amazing, you don’t always know what is going on behind closed doors.

2) When GOOD Happens To Others It Is A VERY GOOD Sign For YOU! (Even if you aren’t feeling or experiencing those things in your reality right now)

jealous2How is this possible you’re asking? Whatever is in your reality you have somehow created with your thoughts and feelings for your own growth. This is the occurrence of the Universal Law of Attraction in effect. If wonderful things are happening to others around you that you desire to experience and have, that means that it may also be possible for you to have that or something similar if you hold a genuine loving and positive attitude toward others’ successes and if it is in the highest good for you and others around.

When you act and feel jealous, envious, critical, competitive, judgmental, vindictive, sad or angry toward others’ good fortune, all that you are really doing is continuing to suffer, holding yourself back and repelling good things from coming into your world. These things continue to come into your life until you let go and learn the lessons you need to. The wisest choice you can make is to be sincerely happy for others. If you don’t know how to be genuinely supportive and enthusiastic for others then it is wise to become more curious, ask more questions, listen and be open to learning about why you feel this way within yourself. It is always in the Universe’s best interest to see us satisfied and fulfilled because we are more available, open and willing to be in our highest purpose and servitude on the planet. It’s merely your own free will and thinking that can get in the way of you having the life that you dream of.

3) There Is ONLY ONE Of YOU! Celebrate That & Stop Trying To Be Like Everyone Else!

There are 7 billion people on this planet. Not one other person in the world has the exact same DNA and blueprint as you. No one has seen and experienced the world as you have. Nobody else has the same story as you. You were created to be unique and were gifted with a set of skills and a purpose solely given to you so that you could share that with the world. So why would you want to be like everyone else? Why would you want your life to mimic anyone else’s? If you can’t celebrate and be proud of who you are then start developing your confidence, work on your self-worth and begin to love yourself so that you can start sharing YOU in your fullest! Get to know yourself better. Be your own best friend and cheerleader. Dare to be different. Be fearless in following the path least taken. We need more R(EVOL)UTIONARIES and change-makers now more than ever. In the words of Oscar Wilde, “Be Yourself. Everyone else is taken.”

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An Animation That Beautifully Explores ‘The War On Consciousness’

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  • The Facts:

    Many feel there is a great effort to suppress human consciousness. Not just our will, but the exploration of who we truly are. This shows up in many ways, originating top-down from corporations to governments etc.

  • Reflect On:

    There is no actual 'war.' This is a state of perception. If we see it as war, we create fighting. Instead, let's simply evolve and expand our consciousness knowing we're more powerful than those who suppress. Spreading knowledge and living it is key.

The animation below is great and Graham Hancock’s message in it is also powerful, but I want to address something important quickly before we start, as what I’m about to say is a crucial part of the message we have been working so hard to convey here at CE since inception.

I get that ‘the war on consciousness’ is a figure of speech in the case of this talk, but with 10 years working in this field of journalism and consciousness, I do see many of us getting caught up in the idea that we have to fight and that there is a war to be won.

I see this as a state of consciousness that will keep us locked in a state of disconnection and loss of power.

Moving Beyond A Key Myth

One of the biggest myths that gets spread around this movement is that we must get angry to change the world. The truth is, some of us might get angry at first, and that’s totally fine! But we have to shift beyond the consciousness of being angry about our world before we can change it in any way that will TRULY cause change.

When we change things out of anger, spite, judgement or anxiety, we don’t create systems from the heart, this we will need to break them down again in a very short time. Not because we have evolved beyond them again, but because they are systems created from a polarized state of being. THIS is what we’re moving beyond in this shift.

Change Starts Within.

This is neutrality in action. This is how we evolve beyond what we see in our world.

What does it mean to evolve beyond it? It’s to be in a state of being and emotion where these events can no longer happen. When you assume you must fight for something, you are saying that there needs to be a fight, thus you are met with a fight. That emotion and idea comes from a disconnected state of consciousness where we can still create that experience.

If we as individuals evolve beyond the need for the fight, it would mean to be in a state of being where we do not need to see the fight. That comes from changing our view and perception of something.

Being present, being here now, and not identifying so strongly with the body, our identity, culture, skin color, struggle etc is powerful. We instead see and live in a state of being where we practice the knowing of our pure potential, living through the heart, collaborative oneness and true heart guidance.

Thus, to evolve beyond it is to change your state of being so that this type of reality no longer exists as it can’t be created from that new state of being. When we achieve this collectively, it no longer exists in our world.

Now that I got that out of the way, one last note is, Graham Hancock will speak of psychedelics in his talk. They have become incredibly trendy today, and while they can help people, research is suggesting this happens when done in specific ways and with specific intentions. Many are starting to put all their power into these plants as if it will do the work for them. They don’t, and won’t.

You can also achieve these exact same insights without the use of these plants. It’s important we maintain a grounded and realistic approach to these plants so they can be used with respect and for their intended purpose. We explore the purpose of psychedelics deeply in an episode of The Collective Evolution Podcast here.

 The ‘War’ On Consciousness

This animation was created by the talented team over at After Skool. You can check out their channel here.

Transcript

What is death? Our materialist science reduces everything to matter, materialist science in the West says that we are just meat, we’re just our bodies. So when the brain is dead, that’s the end of consciousness, there is no life after death, there is no soul; we just rot and are gone. Actually, many honest scientists should admit that consciousness is the greatest mystery of science and that we don’t know exactly how it works.

The brain is involved in it some way but we’re not sure how. It could be that the brain generates consciousness the way a generator makes electricity, if you hold to that paradigm, then, of course, you can’t believe in life after death, when the generator’s broken, consciousness is gone. But it’s equally possible that the relationship — and nothing in neuroscience rules it out – that the relationship is more like the relationship of the TV signal to the TV set, and in that case, when the TV set is broken, of course the TV signal continues. And this is the paradigm of all spiritual traditions, that we are immortal souls temporarily incarnated in these physical forms.

If we want to understand consciousness, the last people we should ask are materialist scientists. Instead, we should look at ancient cultures, like the Egyptians, who highly valued dream states. Many ancient cultures around the world used hallucinogenic plants to understand consciousness and expand their minds.

However, in today’s society, visionary plants are highly illegal because they promote a state of consciousness that does not agree with the agenda of profit. Substances, like coffee, alcohol, sugar and pharmaceuticals, are forced upon the population, but possession of even small quantities of cannabis, Ayahuasca or psilocybin will land you in jail. If we do not recognize the right of adult sovereignty over consciousness, then we can NOT claim to be free.

Look at what our moderns state of consciousness has done. We have destroyed the natural gifts of the earth in pursuit of short-term, selfish gain. We must reconnect with spirit immediately or else we will encounter disaster. Visionary plants could be the remedy for our current sickness.

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Smiling At Cashiers & Other Sparks Of Divinity

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  • The Facts:

    It is possible to have profound experiences in some of the most mundane encounters with others.

  • Reflect On:

    How would your life change if every interaction you had with other people was infused with the conviction that we are all one?

It’s one of the things I like to do, as the receipt is being put in my hand: offer a grateful ‘thank-you,’ and look in the cashier’s eyes for an extra split-second and smile, and see if they are ready to share a spark of divinity that crosses between our souls.

Sometimes they are, as happened to me recently at a ‘No Frills’ express lane. I looked at the girl as she handed me the bill, she looked at me, and then came the recognition in her eyes, in her smile, whether conscious or not, that we are connected, that we see each other, that we are grateful to be alive to have this kind of experience. Magic.

Sometimes the cashier is not ready, and my smile is met with a furtive glance, back to the next matter at hand, the next customer in line. No matter. No effort to connect is wasted. Some of the energy still gets through and gives the person a lift.

Sometimes it is me who is not ready, and the smile from the cashier awakens me into appreciation. Imagine, they are the ones working a long, tiring, repetitive job and they take a moment to wake ME up!

When the cashier is efficient, friendly, light, then my appreciation for what they are doing pours out into that moment. When the cashier is slow, tired, fed-up, it is not so easy for me. But at times, I am prepared to take the opportunity to help reconnect that person to the vitality of life. Have you ever eased a busy, ragged, overwhelmed cashier into a moment of divinity with a warm smile of empathy? Have you ever made a frowning, wrinkled face light up? Try it! This may be the best experience of them all.

Learned Practice

I’m just grateful to have found this practice. It did not come naturally to me. I was always shy, cautious, pensive, ‘in my head’. It was through years of watching a few trusted friends, seeing how they interacted easily and openly with strangers, that I started to try to adopt a new approach.

I had long been a student of philosophy and spirituality. But if the study of esoteric matters remains on the pages, in the words, in the concepts, simply a tool of the intellect to make one feel smart, evolved, superior, then the whole point is missed, not only about spiritual knowledge but about life itself.

At first, the practice for me was about trying to feel connected myself; it served to make me feel more comfortable in the world, especially around other people. As I continued to practice, and expand that practice into other situations, not just with strangers but with friends, loved ones, enemies, it really broadened and deepened my understanding of spiritual principles which I had previously fancied myself an expert in. Perhaps one of the most important realizations I’ve had through all this is that true knowledge is humbling. If one’s knowledge base serves to inflate one’s sense of self-importance in the world in comparison to other people, then it is not true knowledge.

The Unbearable Lightness Of Being

Our lives on this planet are fraught with difficult emotions: fear, sadness, anxiety, and many others. One of the great healing salves is to endeavor to demonstrate to others the knowledge that we are all one. Most likely, you have had this kind of experience in some situations in your life, like smiling at a cashier or hugging a loved one. The key to a great life is to work to expand this experience into all our interactions with people, to overcome the barriers of separation, not only in others but especially the ones within ourselves.

This is the task of the bringers of light. And whether we are conscious of it or not, we are all here to bring our light upon the darkness, and collectively transform our world into our shared vision of harmony.

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Expanding Reality Through Consciousness: A Fascinating Interview With A Neurosurgeon

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  • The Facts:

    Joe recently sat down with Dr. Mario Beauregard for an in-depth discussion into consciousness, current events and how we can begin responding to the emerging desire for change.

  • Reflect On:

    What direction is our global society moving towards with regards to understanding the true nature of consciousness? Is a new consciousness emerging within us that no longer resonates with the 'old world?'

Mario Beauregard, PhD., is a neuroscientist currently affiliated with the Department of Psychology, University of Arizona. He has received a bachelor degree in psychology and a doctorate degree in neuroscience from the University of Montreal. He has also underwent postdoctoral fellowships at the University of Texas Medical School (Houston) and the Montreal Neurological Institute (MNI), McGill University.

Dr. Beauregard is the author of more than 100 publications (articles, essays, book chapters) in neuroscience, psychology, and psychiatry. He was the first neuroscientist to use neuroimaging to investigate the neural underpinnings of voluntary control in relation to emotion. Because of his research into the neuroscience of consciousness, he was selected (2000) by the World Media Net to be one of the “One Hundred Pioneers of the 21st Century.”

In the episode below, Collective Evolution founder Joe Martino and Dr. Beauregard sit down to discuss what transhumanism, AI, near death experiences and our current events have in common, which is consciousness. They all stem from what level of consciousness we are creating these things out of. Joe explores this topic with Dr. Beauregard in a recent episode of The Collective Evolution Show on CETV.

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