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Can’t Lose Weight? Ask Yourself These 5 Questions

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Ah, weight loss. If there is one topic that is both heavily and emotionally charged, and at the same time talked about like it is no big deal, weight loss would be that topic.

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There are a million and a half theories out there on what the best method for losing weight is, and to be honest, most of them have their valid points. There is no shortage of weight loss information – you could spend the rest of your life reading books, listening to lectures and chatting with experts, learning all there is to learn on the subject.

But even with this abundance of information, for many weight loss is still a really tough endeavour. I think we have all come to the conclusion that calories in versus calories out is only a very small fraction of the puzzle that is long term healthy weight loss, and I believe that most of us now understand that there is so much more to it than what you eat.

What You Eat Matters

Of course what you eat matters – and there are several ‘experts’ out there that are going to try to tell you that their diet is the best. I am not here to shove food facts down your throat, or to try to convince you that there is one sure fire way to lose weight and keep it off for good.

The reason? I don’t really believe that there is any one ‘diet’ or ‘lifestyle’ that is right for everyone.

I believe that the real secret to long term healthy weight loss is for you to tune into yourself. For you to tune into your innate wisdom.

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I believe that your body is designed to be healthy. Your body is designed to naturally exist at a weight that allows you to live life to the fullest.

I believe that if you are to truly tap into all of the information that exists in your physical vehicle that you will have no problems finding a diet and lifestyle plan that serves you and your health.

Tap Into YOU!

You do not need a ‘health expert’ to give you a diet or exercise plan. You can totally get ideas and inspirations from people, but in truth the most effective route to personal health is tapping into your own intuition and body knowledge.

So with that, if you are struggling to lose weight, here are five questions you can ask yourself that may help lead you in the healthy direction you wish to go.

Question 1: Are You Really Listening To Your Body?

You have have most likely heard health experts tell you that you need to ‘listen to your body’ so many times, that now it probably feels cliche. Which is really sad because the act of really tuning into your body and listening to what it has to say to you is so profoundly healing. But what does listening to your body actually, practically look like? This is one of those areas where I feel that there is a huge difference between understanding a concept, and actually following through with a concept.

Truly listening to your body means that:

  • You are not on any sort of rigid routine or set pattern.
  • You sleep when you are tired.
  • You get up and move when you feel like moving.
  • You listen when your body asks for a particular food AND you notice how that food makes you feel after you eat it.
  • You pay attention to your body and its communications with you.
  • You eat what you are craving, trusting your body to lead you to the right foods.

I know that many people feel like if they really listened to their bodies and ate what they felt like eating, that they would end up eating buckets of ice cream and thousands of chicken wings.

The truth is, if you are truly listening to your body, you are tuning into how you are feeling before, during and after you eat. You may think your body is craving ice cream – but the subsequent stomach ache and feelings of lethargy are a good sign that it was not your body that was asking for the ice cream at all.

Learning to trust your body, to actually eat when you are hungry, stop eating when you are full, sleep when you are tired and move when you feel like moving will set you up for weight loss and health success for the long term. It may take some time to re-open the lines of communication between your mind and your body – but it is time well spent.

Take Home Tip:

For one day, commit to following your body’s guidance. Commit to eating when you feel hungry – not when you are bored, restless or tired. Commit to sleeping when you are sleepy. Commit to moving when you feel energized. Then commit to noticing how it feels when you do these things. This one day will show you that your body is trustworthy, and that you just need to tune back into it to access its knowledge.

Question 2: Are You Conscious When You Eat?

It is really easy to eat mindlessly now a days. In fact, I would say it is way easier to eat mindlessly than it is to eat mindfully. There are so many things to distract you from fully engaging in your meal – TV, driving, work, your cell phone, children, friends and even your own thoughts.

When you eat while distracted, many things are happening:

1. You are impairing proper digestion because you are most likely not going to be chewing your food properly. Digestion starts in the mouth, and your stomach does not have teeth. Your stomach acid and digestive enzymes are designed to process food that has been liquified – not large chunks. These un-chewed pieces of food will pass through your digestive tract un-digested causing gas, bloating, and may even lead to damage to your intestinal tract.

2. You are not going to be aware of your satiety signals. It takes about 20 minutes for your brain to register that your stomach is full. If you are mindlessly mowing down your meal, there is a high chance that you are going to eat beyond your hunger, and will end up feeling overly full and uncomfortable by the time you get the message that you are satisfied.

3. You will be mentally missing your meal, meaning you are going to be much more likely to walk away unsatisfied, even if you eat enough. Remember that the ritual of eating is a complete sensory experience – you are meant to look at your food, smell it, notice its textures, enjoy its flavours – not just pile it in.

4. You will most likely miss any signs from your body about the food you are eating and whether it is something that is serving your health or not. You do not need to eat an entire bag of cookies before you notice that they did not make you feel good. If you are paying attention, you can eat a few bites of a cookie and know that it is not optimal for you. When you are paying attention you can avoid future pain.

All of the above can lead to weight gain, difficulty losing weight and other health problems.

Take Home Tip:

Next time you eat, do so with as few distractions as possible. Turn off your phone and the TV. If you are going to listen to music, choose something calming and soothing. Have light conversation or no conversation at all. Just experiment with this and see how it makes you feel.

Question 3: Are You Processing Your Emotions?

You may not think that your emotions have anything to do with your weight, but the truth is all of your unprocessed emotions have an effect on you.

This is not some hippy dippy, airy fairy idea either. The idea that having unresolved emotional pain can cause you to create habits that lead to weight gain actually makes a lot of logical sense.

Food Is A Numbing Agent

Food is our nations number one numbing drug.

There are millions of neurone like receptors in your gut – this is where your ‘gut feelings’ come from. What this means for your eating and your weight is if you have filled your digestive system with lots of food, those neurone like receptors are going to be so busy orchestrating all that must occur for you to digest your food, that you literally will not be able to experience any intense emotions at the same time. Essentially the more you eat, the more you will be dulling any intense emotions that may be causing you distress. If you have a lot of unresolved pain, there is a good chance that you will be turning to food to help you cope more often than your body can compensate for – which will lead to weight gain.

Food The Mood Moulder 

The other reason that emotional issues can lead to weight gain is because food can alter your mood. We all know that refined sugars will give you an energy boost that may make you feel happier for a period of time. Caffeine and other stimulating foods can help pump up your energy when you are feeling down. Rich and fatty foods that help to mellow you out and take the harsh edges off of life.

Your emotional state will drive your eating habits if you are not consciously aware of what is going on within you. Also remember that in our society we are basically taught to use food as a way to avoid our emotions. We are given ‘treats’ as children when we are sad to make us feel better. We are taught that yelling, crying, throwing a tantrum or otherwise expressing negative emotions is bad and that we need to repress these things. Learning to actually deal with and process what is going on within you may be a bit of a daunting task at first, but remember that it is going to improve your life in so many ways – including your waist line.

Take Home Tip:

Next time you feel a strong negative emotion, set a timer for 30 seconds, and allow yourself just to sit in it. Do not try to distract yourself with food or the  TV. Just sit with it. Allow it to be and see if you can just observe yourself in the moment, rather than attaching to the feeling or reacting to it. This simple allowing is the first step in the process of processing. After the 30 seconds is up, you may carry on with whatever you feel is best to do. Try this every time you feel a negative emotion.

Question 4: Are You Killing Your Metabolism With Exercise?

Here is the deal – exercise doesn’t make you thin. Exercise wont make you lean, healthy, toned and/or ripped. Exercise will make you fit – meaning it will improve your muscle strength and size, it will decrease your resting heart rate, it will help mobilize lymphatic tissue, it will help to move toxins out through your skin, it will help to increase your lung capacity – all of which are amazing things, but it won’t make you skinny.

There are a few reasons for this.

1. The amount of calories you burn during exercise is generally not enough to have any significant effect on your overall calorie balance. You have to workout pretty hard in order to make any significant gains.

2. The foods you eat are the real heavy weight hitters when it comes to your body weight. Have you ever heard the saying that you can’t out exercise a bad diet? This is totally and completely true. You can be a marathon runner that still carries extra weight if you are not eating properly.

3. If you are over-exercising or otherwise stressing your body beyond a natural, normal level, you are going to cause your adrenal glands to start creating stress hormones. These stress hormones will mess with your blood sugar levels, and they will cause your body to go into protection mode. For example, they will cause your body to go into a ‘fight or flight’ state, which over time actually leads to a reduction in your metabolic rate and storage of body fat. This is also going to lead to things like inflammation, the destruction of body tissues, depression, excess fatigue, mood swings and a whole host of other issues.

Basically, killing yourself in the gym is not going to help you get thin and may in fact lead to weight gain.

Take Home Tip:

Choose activity that you actually enjoy doing, and only do it for as long as it feels good. If that means starting with a 10-15 minute walk, start with a 10-15 minute walk. As your fitness increases you will most likely gain the motivation to walk a little longer. Making your fitness routine fun is going to ensure that you stay motivated to move your body for the rest of your life. This will lead to you gaining all the amazing benefits of exercise, without leading to any of the pitfalls that come with over-exercising. In the long run this is going to have a much more desirable effect on your body weight and your health overall.

Question 5: Are You Finding Joy Each Day?

Lastly, if you are stressed to the max, working yourself to the bone or otherwise not finding time each day to do the things that make you happy, you are most likely not going to achieve your ideal weight. As with over-exercising, living in a perpetually stressed out state is going to cause your body to over produce stress hormones, which do lead to weight gain as a way of protecting you.

Your stress hormones are actually an ancient tool your body used to use to protect you from the dangers of living in the wild. Adrenaline and Cortisol both work to mobilize stored blood sugars so that they are usable for your cells, they move blood away from your digestive organs out to your arms and legs, they reduce digestive function, increase inflammation and give you what you need in order to effectively fight or run away from danger.

If you are constantly producing stress hormones in today’s world, you are most likely not burning them off through the physical activity of fighting or fleeing, nor are you likely to be resting and recovering after the stressor has ended. This means that you are going to be throwing your whole hormonal system out of balance, decreasing your bodies ability to digest your food properly, and throwing your blood sugar levels out of whack – all of which will cause cravings and weight gain.

The second reason that not having joy in your life can cause weight issues is because of the fact that as a human, you are wired for pleasure. It is in your DNA to seek out pleasurable situations. If you are not getting your pleasurable needs met, then food may become your one and only source of pleasure. When this happens, food takes a disproportionally large place in your life, because now it has to fill two roles – the role of nourishment and the roles of pleasure and entertainment. It is this issue that tends to cause things like food addiction.

Take Home Tip:

Add fun to your life that has nothing to do with food. Choose an activity you really enjoy doing -like reading, playing sudoku, snuggling with your kids or whatever else brings you joy, and commit to doing it every day for at least 15 minutes. Then really take note of how it makes you feel, and how it affects your desire to eat.

So what do you think? Do any of these ideas resonate with you? I would love to hear your perspectives and experiences!

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50 Years of Near Death Experience Research Suggests That The “Soul” Is Real

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  • The Facts:

    50 years of research conducted by scientists into Near Death Experiences is summarized below. The research shows that consciousness, or the soul, or something continues to have awareness after "death."

  • Reflect On:

    Evidence of sensitive and touchy topics in science have always been dismissed and ridiculed. Why, no matter how strong the evidence, are discoveries ridiculed or swept under the rug? Are our minds that closed?

Nikola Tesla once said that, “The day science begins to study non-physical phenomena, it will make more progress in one decade than in all the previous centuries of its existence.”

Fast forward to today, and we now have hundreds of notable world-renowned scientists studying “non-material” science. Science the birth of quantum mechanics, the mysteries of consciousness have been at the forefront of scientific study, and we now know today that consciousness plays a crucial part, in several different ways, when it comes to perceiving what we call our physical material world.

Most of our founding fathers of science, especially physics, were all spiritual mystics.  Max Plack, a physicist who originated quantum theory, regarded consciousness as “fundamental,” and matter as “derivative from consciousness.” He said that “we cannot get behind consciousness. Everything that we talk about, everything that we regard as existing, postulates consciousness.” 

Eugene Wigner, a physicist and mathematician told the world that “it was not possible to formulate the laws of quantum mechanics in a fully consistent way without reference to consciousness.”

With all of this being said, there is still a resistance to the new discoveries that non-material science is making, especially when it comes to topics on the umbrella of parapsychology, like telepathy, remote viewing (which was used by the US government for intelligence purposes for 25 years), for example, near death experiences (NDE’s) and much more.

Here is a video of CIA contracted Physicist Russel Targ sharing everything he knows about ESP.

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“Despite the unrivalled empirical success of quantum theory, the very suggestion that it may be literally true as a description of nature is still greeted with cynicism, incomprehension and even anger.” 

– (T. Folger, “Quantum Shmantum”; Discover 22:37-43, 2001)

This is, again, perhaps why so many scientists are coming together to create awareness about this and emphasize some very important points about non-material science.

You can read more, in detail, about that here.

Near Death Experiences (NDE’s) are one area of study under parapsychology and non-material science.  What happens when we die? Does some aspect of us survive death? Some non-material aspect, like consciousness, for example?  Does consciousness originate in the brain, or is it a receiver of it?

It’s been the topic of discussion in philosophy and theology for years, and in the 20th century it has become the subject of scientific research. One of the people responsible for starting this initiative was Ian Stevenson, who, as the Chair of University of Virginia’s Department of Psychiatry, in 1967, created a research unit within the department to study if anything of the human personality survives after death.

His research investigated multiple hundreds of children who claimed to recall past lives and there are many examples. These children are able to give remarkable details about their past lives, and in some cases include describing how they died, locating past family members of who they used to be that are still living, and more details that would otherwise be impossible to describe.

You can see some specific examples in an article we’ve previously published, linked below:

6 Extraordinary Cases of Kids Who Remember Their Past Lives 

Here is a video of Dr. Bruce Greyson speaking at a conference that was held by the United Nations. He is considered to be one of the “fathers” of near death studies. He is Professor Emeritus of Psychiatry and Neuro-behavioral Science at UVA. In the video he describes documented cases of individuals who were clinically dead (showing no brain activity), but observing everything that was happening to them on the medical table below at the same time. He describes how there have been many instances of this – where individuals are able to describe things that should have been impossible to describe.

Another significant statement by Dr. Greyson posits that this type of study has been discouraged due to our tendency to view science as completely materialistic. Seeing is believing, so to speak, in the scientific community. It’s unfortunate that just because we cannot explain something through materialistic means, it must be instantly discredited. The simple fact that “consciousness” itself is a non-physical “thing” is troubling for some scientists to comprehend, and as a result of it being non material, they believe it cannot be studied by science.

To access some of the published research in this area, you can refer to this article.

Below is a lecture that was filmed at the UVA by the medical department. It features Jim B. Tucker Bruce Greyson Edward F. Kelly J. Kim Penberthy, from the Division of Perceptual Studies.

Large studies have shown that a significant amount of people who have been clinically dead, experience some type of ‘awareness’ during that time. For example, one patient – a 57-year-old man at the time, despite being pronounced “dead” and completely unconscious, with no detectable biological activity going on, recalled watching the entire process of his resuscitation.

On a side note, Certified Master Hypnotherapist Michael Newton developed a technique to regress his clients back in time to recall memories from their past lives. During this process he stumbled upon a discovery of enormous proportions. He was able to bring the souls back to the place where they go before their next life — a life between lives. Out of 7,000 regressions, a large majority had eerily similar recollections of a place that many of them called “home.”

You can read more about that here.

The proofs for the existence of worlds beyond this one go well past this topic and this article, and this cited research.

A New Groundbreaking Documentary About Post-Materialist Science

It’s interesting because as far back as 1999, statistics professor Jessica Utts at UC Irvine, published a paper showing that parapsychological experiments have produced much stronger results than those showing a daily dose of aspirin helping to prevent heart attacks. Utts also showed that these results are much stronger than the research behind various drugs like antiplatelets, for example.

This new film, called Expanding Reality  can be purchased  here.

“Expanding Reality is about the emerging postmaterialist paradigm and the next great scientific revolution. Why is it important? Because this paradigm has far-reaching implications. For instance, it re-enchants the world and profoundly alters the vision we have of ourselves, giving us back our dignity and power as human beings. The postmaterialist paradigm also fosters positive values such as compassion, respect, care, love, and peace, because it makes us realize that the boundaries between self and others are permeable. In doing so, this paradigm promotes an awareness of the deep interconnection between ourselves and Nature at large. In that sense, the model of reality associated with the postmaterialist paradigm may help humanity to create a sustainable civilization and to blossom.” – Mario Beauregard, PhD, from the University of Arizona

These people have exhausted their own resources in order to make Expanding Reality for the world, show your support by purchasing the movie HERE. You won’t be disappointed.

The Takeaway

The takeaway here is to recognize the evidence existing suggesting the soul, or consciousness, or some type of awareness exists after death. Now, what consciousness encompasses, might be different from the soul, etc, but those are much deeper discussions to be had.

When will science recognize something that’s clearly observable given the witness testimony and similarity of the experiences, and that phenomena that can’t be explained can still be real?

The parameters of modern day science really prevents us from moving forward, which is why we are seeing such a large growth in non-material science, the next step after quantum physics.

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If You Do One Thing At Christmas Make It This: Acts Of Kindness

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Gentleness and kindness will make our homes a paradise upon earth. C. A. Bartol

As we enter into the ‘silly season’ I felt inspired to write about what I wish Christmas could mean for everyone.

In a world where we have so much focus on material goods, (and never is this more obvious than at Christmas time)  I think its time to touch on something that is far more important.

And that is, have you ever thought about what exactly the true meaning of Christmas might be? What do you think it is?  Being with family and friends? Eating a lot of good food or going away somewhere nice?  Yes it can be all of that, but for me, it is more about giving.

Not the giving of expensive presents to family members and friends, but instead, giving to those that need it most.

Yes, I know that is a cliche, but its a valid one, and it is so very important right now.

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Only We Will Make The Changes Needed

Looking at the state of the world, with all of it’s chaos, more and more people are suffering.  Homelessness is reaching unprecedented levels in many ‘first world’ countries, there are more than 114,000 people living on the streets alone in California (with likely even more since those terrifying fires a few weeks ago), and in the UK, it has recently been reported that 1 in 200 people are homeless.   Hungary have recently declared that homelessness is a crime.

We are countries with access to enormous wealth, yet our governments are cutting funding for important programs to look after our most vulnerable people.

A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men. Thomas Carlyle

Seeing that this has become a global problem, and one that is not improving,  it has become clearer to me, that only WE can really make the differences needed now.  It truly sits on our shoulders as individuals to make more of a conscious effort to help those around us.

We have to stop waiting for others to sweep in and make these changes, we have to help do it ourselves.

I know, many may say ‘I am struggling myself to survive’ or ‘ I don’t have any spare money’, but kindness to others can be totally free.

For inspiration, please watch this beautiful and touching clip below that really lets you feel the power of kindness.  I am sure that even by watching this clip, many of you will be inspired now to go and do something for someone in need.  I was inspired to write this article after viewing this clip and I know it will create a domino effect!

You know, it’s not actually that hard to be kind.  You just have to have your mind ready to see an opportunity for being helpful to someone else.

Being kind to others, is actually a gift to yourself, the joy you feel in your heart when you do something nice and thoughtful for others, is a truly amazing feeling. It literally gives your heart a big happy bursting feeling. It feels like real love.

Science Shows Kindness Is Good For You

There actually is scientific evidence that being kind is very good for your own health, and for the other people who experience your kindness.  Kindness can also create a domino effect, and your act alone could end up helping many people, perhaps hundreds of event thousands.

Giving beats any short lived feeling you get from buying something material when you know that you have made a difference to someone else, especially when it helps them when they are at their lowest point.

If I have spare change in my bag, I do try and give to homeless people, (or instead buy them a meal) and despite that some will say ‘we shouldn’t encourage it’ I feel this is very unfair, as we never know their back story and how they ended up on the streets.

I think many of us turn our backs on them (like I used to) because if we really thought about it, we are probably petrified that we could end up like that.  For this reason alone, if you can, give, because would you not hope that people would help you if you were in the same position?

A little thought and a little kindness are often worth more than a great deal of money. John Ruskin

Kindness unites people like nothing else can and it is what we desperately need to bring our fractured societies back together.   With so much division between us now, what can heal this is our acts of kindness.

Everyone Matters

Every single person wants to feel that they matter, it’s embedded into our consciousness.  When a stranger does something kind for someone they don’t know it is even more special, because it was their way of saying ‘I see you, I don’t know you, but I care and you matter to me’

I have had many people be kind to me, in times of severe depression, where I nearly ended my life, I always had people show me that I mattered to them and not to give up.

I know this is what got me through those very dark times.  Their acts of kindness, made me realise I wasn’t worthless or truly alone, which brought me to be here today.

I am very lucky now to have this opportunity here at Collective Evolution to now be able to share important things with millions of readers around the world.

Who Will Benefit From Your Own Ripple Effects?

What if no one had of been kind to me when I was so low and in a desperate place? Would I not be here today? I really believe no, that I wouldn’t be.  We all are capable of creating positive ripple effects that can literally go around the world.

This is the power we all have, that you have, to impact someone else’s life positively, and maybe even many other peoples lives.

No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted. Aesop

Kindness comes in so many forms, and we are all capable of doing many of them.  You just have to open your heart and want to make the effort to do it.

I hope this Christmas you experience kindness in action, and could maybe even consider making a pact to continue this long after the festive season is over.

Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again. Og Mandino

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The Top Reasons Why We Resist Change & How To Stop

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  • The Facts:

    We resist change for many reasons, but ultimately, this comes down to our core. We want to hold onto belief systems, being right, stories that protect our egos. Alternatively, we may fear the unknown, but what is that fear?

  • Reflect On:

    Why do you feel the way you do about certain changes in your life? Must you feel this way? Why do some people embrace change better than others? Is it perhaps they give less power to the stories of their mind?

Our world is full of change right now, and for good reason! Deep down we know and feel that something is a bit ‘stale,’ and we’re following that feeling with outward projections of emotions about our system, politics, what others do, our jobs – quite frankly, many of us are feeling frustrated with how things are.

But do you ever notice yourself resisting events happening in your life? We all go through many different experiences, this article is not to say we cannot make changes and choose to avoid un-favorable experiences entirely, it is simply to say, sometimes we can find ourselves being very resistant to changes that are going on in our lives, and this causes a lot of suffering and ‘stuckness.’

From positive to negative, pain to happiness, laughter to suffering, we must always remember that these are all just experiences. They are part of what allows us to grow and move towards a greater awareness within our soul and life experience.

As tough experiences happen, whether it be a breakup, a lost job, having to move to a new place, not having enough finances, finishing something that can be challenging etc, we generally have two choices. We can choose the route of remaining upset and resisting the whole process, making it very difficult to learn from as we inevitably get stuck in judging what is happening. Or we can choose to accept it for the time being as something that is in our path, a certain temporary barrier if you will, and see what we can gain from it in terms of growth. As we react to the situations, observe the thoughts and emotions that present themselves. ‘Why am I so upset about a lost job?” “Why am I so worried about change?” “What do these changes represent to me that make me feel upset?” “Why am I trying to control the experience so heavily?”

Why We Resist Change – The Core Truth

Now it might be easy to say that these are all natural feelings anyone would feel when going through these experiences because they are ‘human nature,’ but this would not be true, simply because these reactions are learned behaviours we get from how we have been taught to react to certain experiences. It is not an innate knowing from our soul for us to be upset and freak out when we lose a job for example. Some of us react and some of us don’t. These reactions are typically fueled by our own patterns, triggers, belief systems, fears, and can be further fueled by collective consciousness. This is why we resist change, plain and simple. We are protecting or running from the various aspects of ourselves listed above that keep us confined in our minds, re-playing the same reactions and experiences over and over.

Some people will suggest that some of us embrace change better than others, the simple answer to why that is is that some of us don’t give as much power to our minds stories. That’s truly all it is at its core. Not resisting change comes down to letting go of the mind’s stories about everything you do or are about to do.

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We are very much in control of how we feel during inevitable changes and challenges as we can choose to disempower the suffering that we often dive into. The truth is, we can feel peace in many of these circumstances, we simply need to remain conscious, aware and reflective as the events play out, and pay attention to what might be pulling us out of peace. We can, of course, FEEL what is first expressed, sit with it and truly understand it, but how long we sit with this is up to us, and is not the fault of the experience.

Resisting change is sometimes like trying to swim against the current. Sometimes we do not always see the perfection in what might be playing out so we try hard to keep it all in place i.e. we resist! Think about letting go of the need to control and instead let things go and flow as they need to. In most cases, we find that things are never as bad as we often assume they will be, and in the end, we feel great for having experienced it all.

How We Can Stop Resisting Change

So next time we find ourselves resisting, remember to try out these steps:

1. Pause for a moment in the situation
2. Observe your current emotions, sit with them if you must. Taking the time to slow down and understand what is going on within you will give you clarity so you aren’t simply saying “I’m mad” but instead are able to say “I’m mad because I’m feeling insecure or disempowered or disrespected etc”
3. Reflect on why these things truly bother you. As you understand what the emotions or triggers are that are coming up you will see what power you give to them and why.
4. Let go of what you are trying to control or avoid (keeping yourself out of danger of course)
5. Choose to take the situation moment by moment without judging it
6. Write down how you feel if it helps, likewise, you can talk to someone.

Helpful questions:

Why am I afraid of what’s to come? What are all the possible reasons that come up in my mind?

What do I feel is going to happen that I’m so worried about? Will it affect how people perceive me? My financial stability? Where do these stories even come from? Society? My friends? Parents?

The Takeaway

The bottom line is, when you notice yourself going back to the same frustrations, judgements, anger, blame, fear, worry, or anxiety about something, you know there is something there that’s triggering you, and it’s within you. The only way to peace and moving beyond that suffering is through processing the emotions and letting go of the belief systems, patterns of ideas in your mind that are causing such reactions.

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