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7 Habits For Healthy Relationships

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1. Understanding Self 

 “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” – Aristotle

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Like most things we do in life the first step always begins with how we relate to ourselves as humans and how comfortable we are with ourselves. We have a far better chance to share more meaningful relationships with others if we are at peace with ourselves.  As humans we spend much of our time engaging in trivial or superficial dialogue and not in deeper more meaningful conversation, we exist at this artificial level of  consciousness. At such a superficial level we find it difficult to experience our ultimate feeling of connection and communion with others. Only upon silent reflection and understanding of ourselves can we begin to let go and let others enter our lives without  fear, prejudice and preconceived ideas. We continually evolve during the course of our lives. We develop and grow at a physical, emotional and spiritual level. We are  products of our past experiences, unfortunately too often we let these control how we react to situations and relationships. We must come to the realisation that we are able to consciously control how we engage with others. Often we see people coming out of poor relationships only to fall back into the trap of having the same experiences again.  This cycle of dependency and patterning can see people in destructive and unhappy relationships for many years, decades and often lifetimes.

To love someone and find happiness we must achieve inner contentment with who we are and what we believe. It is only when we are content within ourselves that we are able to release the expectations we would otherwise place on others. We are free to love unconditionally when we are free from our ‘ego’ centred self. So how do we truly get to know and love ourselves?

2. Letting Go of Fear & Insecurity

“Whenever you’re in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” – William James

Have you ever entered into a relationship because at the time you thought it would make you happy? Be honest. You were a little unsatisfied with life and in need of something to bring some variety or distraction into your life. We look for relationships that will enhance our lives in the hope that they will bring us a multitude of different feelings and experiences. Our thoughts can sabotage any hope of a truly meaningful connection if we see relationships as something that seek to bring us happiness. Until we realise that happiness comes from within and that relationships are but a common and enriching sharing of experiences, then we will always struggle to have meaningful long-term relationships. Needing someone to add value to our lives is a sure way of dooming any relationship. By understanding our ego needs we can let go of any need to seek satisfaction by grasping to others to fulfil these needs. Until we understand no one can complete us and make us truly happy we will always be living a life of turbulence. Others can enrich our world, yet it is ultimately up to us to find inner happiness and contentment. A sure way to destroy any relationship is to harbour fear and insecurity in a relationship. Inner happiness can only be found within. Any reliance on others to bring us happiness will be short term at best or will eventually lead to disappointment.

3. Living Without Expectations

“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.” – Marcel Proust

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What do you expect from any relationship? Love? Security? The feeling of being needed?  An underlying cause of relationship failures, whether people are aware of it or not, is that they enter into relationships based on expectation. That is, they enter into the relationship hoping to receive something in return. Relationship breakdowns often occur because people rarely discuss their expectations prior to entering into a relationship. Too often we enter relationships and want to change something about the other person to suit our ego model of how things ‘should be.’ Many couples have ‘requirements’ for potential partners. These may include such things as appearance,  social standing, employment criteria, so on and so forth. I am not advocating that we find a partner we have nothing in common with. It does make sense to look deeper than the ‘ego related’ requirements we look for in our relationships. We must ask ourselves, are we using our relationships purely to satisfy the ego? Expectation can be the killer of relationships, with undue influence, pressure and demands creating relationship tensions. We must learn to let the other person be who they are and free from our expectations.

4. Communicating Effectively

“Every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you.” – Richard Bach

According to Doctors Lonnie Barbach & Linda Levine in their book, ‘Shared Intimacy,’ “Good communication in a relationship is similar to a solid foundation for a house. If a house is built with a strong foundation, it will be able to withstand the stress caused by such natural disasters such as hurricanes or tornadoes. Even if the rest of the house is damaged or destroyed, if the foundation is solid the house can be rebuilt.” Direct and honest communication leaves no doubt to the meaning of communicative interactions. Being able to share problems and issues within a relationship helps build a stronger bond between partners and stimulate a deeper more meaningful relationship. Participating equally in the communication process by listening and interacting, creates an atmosphere of two way communication.

While poor communication underlies many of the destructive forces that harm and ruin relationships, positive communication plays an important part in helping build and sustain meaningful relationships. Over time, the day-to-day reality of living, responsibilities and family commitments, allows familiarity and complacency to creep into our relationships. When this happens it is easy to start taking our partner for granted. A combination of familiarity and stress may create unnecessary conflict within a relationship. These conflicts may be short lived or ongoing and can be the foundation for relationship decline. It is imperative to have a firm understanding of our partner’s communication style so we can consciously appreciate each other fully as human beings. How do you communicate with others and what are the communication styles of your loved ones? While everyone has slightly different communication styles a simple way to ensure you maintain and foster healthy communication is to put yourself in the other persons shoes. Think about how you would like to be treated.

5. Unconditional Love

“The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.” – Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

The foundation of all great relationships is based on unconditional love. Unconditional love is when we give love and in return want nothing back. It is caring about the happiness of another person without any need for reciprocation. It is something sages, mystics, artists and great leaders have talked about throughout the millennia. It is the greatest power on earth, yet in this modern world of excess we struggle to understand how to give unconditionally. It is a powerful force that can change everything. Unconditional love is free of restrictions or expectations as nothing is expected in return. A classic example can be seen in parenting. A parent may love their child unconditionally and while the feeling may be reciprocated by the child, the parent’s love will endure regardless of how the child feels, behaves or acts. It is seeking the best for others and understanding that they need to be free and make their own choices. It is not judging others regardless of their decisions and actions.

6. Honesty the Best Policy

“Trust is the glue of life. It’s the most effective ingredient in effective communication. It’s the foundational principle that holds all relationships.” – Stephen R. Covey

It goes without saying that one of the keys to a successful relationship is honesty, openness and mutual trust. Honesty builds trust which is essential for enduring relationships of any kind. The trust of another is the most important thing we can ever receive from another. Not only does it help develop confidence and respect for the other person, it establishes life long bonds. A strong relationship through sincere honesty can endure almost anything. If strong communication is the foundation of a good relationship, then honesty is the cement that holds it together. In honest relationships we are open and frank with each other and hold nothing back. Our honesty sets us free from guilt, worry and any other form of potential sabotage we can bring forth to destroy our relationships. Any relationship that does not harbour honesty will eventually cause stress, grief and suffering to one or both parties. Intimacy is lost when people are not completely open and honest with each other. Once trust has been broken it is extremely difficult, if not impossible to restore. When everything is shared, people can experience relaxed, comfortable and more complete interactions with others. With intimacy comes a deep connection, understanding and knowledge of each other. This sharing of feelings, experiences and communication is the ultimate expression of love and makes for happy and fulfilling relationships

7. Freedom to be Yourself and Let Others be Themselves

“Love is the only freedom in the world because it so elevates the spirit that the laws of humanity and the phenomena of nature do not alter its course.” – Kahlil Gibran

As we have mentioned previously, expectation is often a heavy burden that weighs down and places undue pressure on relationships. The opposite of expectation is unconditional love, as this allows complete freedom from any rules, regulation, mandates or conditional behaviours. We place conditional expectations on people often without realising. We may want to spend more time with a partner, we may prefer they didn’t do certain activities, we may want certain feelings returned from a relationship and we often send messages of disapproval in many non-verbal ways. By remembering that a relationship is a two way street and we must take into account what others feel and wish for in a relationship. By requesting or pushing for certain things from a relationship, we are effectively trying to change the behaviour of others. Freedom in a relationship, be it an intimate interpersonal relationship, a friendship, or a working relationship, promotes trust, respect and provides an environment for happy and enduring relationships to blossom.

Article by Andrew Martin editor of onenesspublishing  and author of  One ~ A Survival Guide for the Future…

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Indigenous Leaders Share the Prophecy of the Reunion of the Condor and Eagle (VIDEO)

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  • The Facts:

    Indigenous cultures from around the globe all share a prophecy about the time we are living in now. It states that the people of Earth will unite in some sort of spiritual awakening with the common goal of peace on Earth.

  • Reflect On:

    Think about how much human consciousness has changed within the past 10 years alone. We are starting to see through the lies and deception, we are starting to realize that it's really time to change things here on our planet. We are in the process.

Indigenous cultures today struggle to remember their teachings. It doesn’t help that the western world portrays them in a certain light, but the fact remains that indigenous cultures were extremely advanced. They understood how to live in harmony with the Earth, and their teachings were very profound, insightful and spiritual. You don’t need to look far to see how knowledgable they were, and their knowledge of our planet, the cosmos, science and mathematics still baffles experts today. How they were able to acquire certain knowledge and build various structures is still a mystery, as many of these things would be difficult to replicate even using modern technology. We see this with the pyramids built by various indigenous cultures throughout history, pieces of artwork, and several other anomalous artifacts that really don’t receive much media attention. These people were highly advanced, but unfortunately colonization and the arrival of the Europeans changed all of that. I still get upset when I hear people interpret these cultures as very ‘primitive,’ as if they just lived in forests. That interpretation is very far from the truth.

Scholars have estimated that, prior to the ‘discovery’ of the Americas by Europeans, the pre-contact era population could have been as high as 100 million people. American anthropologist and ethnohistorian Henry F. Dobyns, most known for his published research on American Indians and Hispanic peoples in Latin and North America, estimated that more than one hundred twelve million people inhabited the Americas prior to European arrival. (source)(source)(source)

When these cultures were wiped out, so were their teachings, knowledge and wisdom. It was replaced with religious indoctrination, and indigenous cultures throughout the world, especially in North America, have since struggled to regain and retain the knowledge and teachings that were lost.

But things are changing.

These cultures also had prophecies, and many of them speak of a time when all of this knowledge would be lost, but then would eventually return to Earth. Prophecies speak of indigenous cultures and bloodlines reuniting. We’re living in a special time right now because that ancient indigenous prophecy wasn’t just referring to the ‘spiritual awakening’ of their own people, but of the entire planet, and this is the process we’re going through today.

It gives me chills just thinking about it. The time has come where many desire a cleaner, greener, more cooperative human experience where everybody can thrive. Humanity has the potential to live in peace and meet the needs of everyone easily. We can live in harmony with nature and work with it, not against it.

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Here at Collective Evolution, we refer to this time as the shift in consciousness, and we are currently living through it. The ‘darkness’ is being exposed, and this ‘darkness’ has primarily relied on the manipulation of human consciousness. Our thoughts, feelings and perceptions about what is happening on our planet have been completely altered by the same forces that once sought to wipe out indigenous knowledge and implant their own ideals. Just as the surviving indigenous after European arrival were brainwashed and indoctrinated, we too have been brainwashed and indoctrinated.

Today, we live in a society that manipulates our consciousness in order to justify wars, wars based on false premises. We are made to believe that, even with all our technological advancements and potential to provide abundance for all, that this is not ‘economically feasible.’ We’ve been made to believe that our medicines are helping us, and that we can ‘out-do’ nature and rise above it. So many of humanity’s actions are not in harmony with the planet and all life on it.

Thankfully, this mass spiritual awakening is here. Not only is humanity becoming aware of the fact that we can change the human experience to one that resonates with all, but we are also realizing that we’ve been manipulated, that we have the power to change, and that a world beyond our physical material world exists. Non-material science is becoming stronger, and awareness of the metaphysical world is becoming the norm.

Many activist movements are growing, and truth movements and campaigns have been gaining attention and popularity for years. We are no longer sitting idle, we are raising our voice, we are acting, and we are bringing about a shift in consciousness and a spiritual awakening that was prophesied  long before we were even here. It’s a beautiful time to be alive, and the best way to bring about peace, love, unity and cooperation is to embody these qualities within ourselves.

Below is a video of indigenous leaders and elders sharing and explaining the current transitional time that we are living in.

There have been wounds of injustice, of oppression, of colonization, of greed, of superstition, all those things which injure the human heart. At the same time there’s been no way for this to be expressed, it’s been held inside. So this ancestral wound is this wound that’s been carried on from generation to generation to generation, this intergenerational trauma. But it was also prophesied  and promised that after a period of 500 years that a great, great spiritual spring time would emerge with such power and such intensity that all that had been covered in the cold bitter snow would be revealed and cleansed and purified. And that we would emerge galvanized, reunited as not only the reunion of the Condor and Eagle, but a reunion of the entire human family. This time is now. (This quote was taken from the video below.)

The Takeaway

We are truly living in an apocalypse. But that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world, but rather a disclosure or revelation of knowledge. A lot of truths are being exposed today within several different subjects, be it food, politics, health, etc. We are being presented with knowledge that severely contrasts what we’ve been indoctrinated to believe. Having our collective belief systems questioned and challenged is not an easy process, and many are still fighting to hang on to old ways and belief systems. This is all part of the current spiritual transformation/shift in consciousness that the human race is experiencing as a collective. It’s all part of these ancient prophecies.

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Prince Harry & Meghan Markle Plan To Raise Their Child ‘Gender-Fluid’; Part Of A Bigger Agenda?

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  • The Facts:

    Meghan Markle is among several high-profile women coming out these days saying that her child will be raised 'gender fluid', 'genderless,' or 'gender-neutral.'

  • Reflect On:

    Is this simply the 'empowering, modern parenting style' the mainstream is making it out to be, or could it be a small part of a larger and more sinister agenda?

It’s a good time for us to take a step back and try to examine what exactly is going on in our society today with regards to gender identity, especially in the way we are dealing with children too young to be able to make any informed choices. It’s a tricky subject, to be sure, but as with many other issues, the devil is in the polarities.

We come from a past in which only heterosexual men and women were considered to be of value to a society, while any deviations from this norm were muted and hidden, shed off as outcasts and relegated to the dark shadows of social standing. Any sign of deviation from the gender stereotypes of assertive, action-oriented men and submissive, child-rearing women was a black mark not only on an individual but on the individual’s family as well. As a consequence, children were not only encouraged, but compelled, sometimes under the threat of disownment or even death, to fit themselves into the established norms.

Pendulum Swing

We can certainly be proud that, as a society, we have moved away from this extremity. We have generally developed a much higher level of acceptance, certainly in the Western world, for many sexual and gender preferences that differ from the norm. But are we actually pushing it too far now, and waging an all-out attack on an old extremity while promoting a new one?

In this Vanity Fair article, we are told that ‘Meghan plans to pursue an empowering, modern parenting style,’ based on the following information from a source:

“Meghan has been talking to some of her friends about the birth and how she and Harry plan to raise their baby. Her exact word was ‘fluid’. She said they plan to raise their child with a fluid approach to gender and they won’t be imposing any stereotypes.”

This means, among other things, that the nursery might not be filled with toy trains and cars, even if rumors that a boy is coming are true. The Sussexes have already planned a gender-neutral nursery and opted for whites and grays over conventional blue and pink colors. While these particular choices don’t seem extreme, their relationship to other promotions going on, such as Celine Dion’s creepy launch of gender-neutral clothing, should give us reason to pause.

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Tremendous Influence

We need to notice that there is a kind of forced righteousness in the discussion of a ‘fluid approach to gender’ and the denigration of ‘gender stereotypes’. I personally believe the remnants of gender stereotyping in the West are no longer at a level where we need celebrities making right by their children by declaring they will be raised as ‘gender-neutral’ or ‘gender fluid’. In raising my own five year old, I never gave a thought to ‘gender stereotypes’ simply because it wasn’t important to me whether or not my son acted in ways that conformed to a certain stereotype. I am simply ready to accept my son as he is in all regards and encourage him to have the experiences he wants. But at the same time I’m not going to run out and buy a dress every time I buy him a shirt and pants and continually ask him what he wants to wear.

A Royal couple making a simple declaration to take ‘a fluid approach to gender’ can plant a subtle seed in the minds of millions of people. The words of celebrities can have a similar effect. The same article talks about Kate Hudson wanting to raise her daughter ‘genderless’ and Angelina Jolie aspiring to raise her children without stereotyped ideas about gender. While any particular comment from one person can be taken at face value, the confluence of opinions that are knocking traditional gender identification cannot be ignored. It seems like subtle suggestions are being put out to millions of parents to encourage and highlight their children’s ambivalent feelings around gender while avoiding the reinforcement of identification with traditional gender norms.

Here’s the problem with that. Children need positive reinforcement about their identity and sense of self. They cannot be expected to make all the choices themselves about who they are, as though they were the adult in the room aware of what it takes to build self-esteem and confidence. However, the soldiers of this ’empowering, modern parenting style’ march on.

A Bigger Agenda

I have written in the past about how gender confusion is being manifested in our society as part of a much bigger agenda. In my article ‘Illuminati Pedophilia: Attempts To Normalize Sex Between Adults And Children (Part 1),’ the discussion centers around how ambivalent feelings around gender within children are being heightened and exploited through a sinister campaign that involves not only the Royals (Bloodline Families) but the government and Education ministry. Here’s how Joachim Hagopian, who worked with abused children as a licensed mental health therapist before becoming an alternative media journalist, puts it:

Former President Obama and his minions pushed Common Core and his LGBT agenda down our throats through his federalized public education system, willfully harming our children right out of the kindergarten gate with developmentally inappropriate, sexually explicit dogma that’s been damaging, overloading and confusing recent generations of young Americans toward gender identity issues that commonly manifest as confused gender roles, sexual acting out and interpersonal relationship barriers that reflect a normalized cultural and sexual pathology and dysfunction. Obama’s statist attack on both family and parental rights along with religion is but part of the elite’s massive mind control operation to further its sinister agenda. (source)

It should not come as a surprise that the latest en-vogue Royal couple to get pregnant should take center stage in soft-pedalling child-raising strategies that can lead to dysfunction, and not only because of the tremendous influence that their opinions on child-raising have in the public domain. As detailed by a former Illuminati bloodline family member in ‘Svali Speaks’, child abuse is in-bred in Illuminati bloodline ‘Royal’ families, an essential part of their Satanic programming that they believe has helped them retain power in the world over countless generations. And these are the very people behind an enslavement agenda that is advanced by an increase in gender confusion in our society.

The Takeaway

At the highest levels, I believe we are all souls that are not tied to a particular gender. That being said, in healthy, vibrant civilizations, the Divine Masculine And Divine Feminine are seen as the source of life. These are great energies that are to be aspired to, not denigrated and emasculated. Thus, while we can fully agree that there is no point forcing people into stereotypical ‘roles’ that don’t suit them, and that every single individual in society has equal value, that does not mean we should suddenly discourage men from being masculine and women from being feminine. Any efforts to do so are likely grounded in an agenda to destabilize a society for the purposes of controlling it.

It is important that we consider that this new vogue trend to raise children as ‘gender fluid’ may simply be one branch of ‘the elite’s massive mind control operation’, one that has already led to an increase in gender confusion and emotional distress among our children. Using our own instincts and discernment about what is best for our own child’s health and well-being, rather than paying attention to new and dangerous parenting catch-phrases promoted by public figures, many of whom are a part of an enslavement agenda, is the best way forward.

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How To Improve Your Life In 3 Simple Steps

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  • The Facts:

    The world of personal development is oversaturated in content promising to provide you the keys to happiness, success, etc. Here is the simplest technique you'll ever come across to immediately improve your life.

  • Reflect On:

    Am I making my life more complicated and difficult than it needs to be? What stops me from regularly applying all of the great things I've read about and learned to date?

The world of personal development is certainly an interesting one. As the shelves in your local bookstore and the search results on Google suggest, it is undoubtedly quite oversaturated with both redundant and often contradictory advice on how to improve your life.

Whether it be coming from well-recognized forces in the industry such as Tony Robbins and Lisa Nichols, or from people such as myself who would love to one day become that much of a force, there are plenty of resources available to us. And while I’m sure we can all list off a self-help book or two we’ve read that we believe the world would be better without, the main reason why this content continues to be created at such a rapid pace is that we continue to seek it out.

You’d think that the content’s intention to improve our lives from that point forward would naturally give the industry a relatively short life, but it instead continues to thrive because we collectively seem to have an incredibly difficult time applying it. We get amped up after reading a great chapter or after completing a powerful exercise, but two days later forget what we’ve learned and slip back into the busy nature of our daily lives.

With this piece I’d like to combat that tendency by making personal development as easy as possible. Here’s my take on how to improve your life in 3 simple steps:

Step 1 – What Makes You Happy?

Step 1 simply involves taking 10-15 minutes to write out everything (and I mean everything) that makes you happy in life. If you enjoy taking your dog for a walk, write it down. If you enjoy reading in bed, write it down. If you enjoy playing rugby, write it down.

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Step 2 – What’s Regularly On Your To Do List?

Whether or not you actively create a to do list, step 2 requires you to set aside another 10-15 minutes to write out everything that you currently do on a regular weekly basis. From going to work to making meals to playing a sport to driving your kids to and from school, write out anything and everything that typically consumes your time.

Step 3 – Adjust Accordingly

You may have guessed where this was going, but yes, the mind-blowing, life-altering advice is to simultaneously look at both of those lists and adjust accordingly.

The human experience may be incredibly complicated, and I’m sure that we all have deep seeded issues that we would likely benefit from an in-depth analysis on, but we’re also not as complicated as we think.

And no, I am not suggesting that we all immediately ditch everything on list number 2 to instead strictly dedicate our lives to the items on list number 1. What I am suggesting is that one of the simplest ways to profoundly improve our lives is by making more regular time for the things that we enjoy.

I know that we all lead busy lives and that we have our fair share of responsibilities, but if you found the time to read this article I’m willing to bet that you have at least a little wiggle room. It ultimately boils down to prioritization, and what could be better than to prioritize the things that you genuinely love at least a bit more?


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