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Are We All A Little Bisexual? Exploring Gender Identities & Cultural Programming

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Are we all bisexual at our core? How much of our sexual orientation is influenced by cultural programming around sexual identity?

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My curiosity with these questions was sparked after reading an article by Mike Iamele, fascinatingly titled, I’m An Otherwise Straight Man (Who Fell In Love With His Best Friend). Mike unabashedly shared his story with the world, which revealed how he developed romantic feelings for his best friend and roommate, Garrett, after a life threatening illness left Mike debhilitated and needing assistance. Because of their close friendship and shared living situation, Garrett stepped up as Mike’s caretaker.

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“My roommate, Garrett, one of my best friends at the time, took pity on me. He took care of me. He picked up my prescriptions from the pharmacy. He cooked me dinner. He stayed in on Friday nights to watch movies. He’d even rub my back when I was in pain.”

Two months into the routine, Mike said romantic thoughts began to creep into his head.

“I had a thought — a tiny, little thought — that I loved him. It seemed preposterous. It seemed laughable. I shooed it away immediately. But that thought started creeping into my mind whenever he was away. That thought sneaked in whenever he did something nice or made me laugh.”

Eventually Mike came to terms with these thoughts as something very real. He decided to tell Garrett one evening, and Garrett revealed to Mike that he “loved him too.”

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“We had no idea how to make this work. We had no idea if this even could work. Sometimes we still don’t. It took time — years even — to figure it out. But it’s a relationship. None of us know what we’re doing. We just try and negotiate and compromise. And, little by little, you become just another boring couple.”

Mike revealed that yes, he is an otherwise ‘straight’ man in love with another man. His thoughts around his relationship are fascinating,

“I would never reduce Garrett down to just being a man… He’s a pharmacist and a good cook and a great cards player… I love him for who he is, not what he is. We’re more than our gender. We’re more than one attribute. And sometimes we need to remember that. We have this myth of identity — that who we are is the summation of a lot of choices we made in the past. In every moment, we’re changing and evolving and growing. In every moment, we’re reconstructing our identity. We’re not defined by our decisions from two years ago. We’re not even defined by our decisions from two minutes ago. We’re defined by who we choose to be in this very moment.”

Mike’s words are powerful and couldn’t be more accurate. Should we so quickly and directly be defined by our decisions? Should our sexual identity be limited by predisposed cultural programs? I became very curious about human sexuality.

At our core, are we all open to bi-sexual experiences? Is our mono-sexual (hetero or homo) orientation and identity more so influenced and decided by cultural programming?

Bi-Sexuality In The Animal Kingdom

Many animal species exhibit bisexual behaviours.

Many animal species exhibit bisexual behaviours.

When looking at our animal relatives, the Bonobo Chimpanzees, we quickly learn that bisexuality is commonplace among various chimp groups. They engage in sexual acts with one another for many reasons, whether they are hungry, tired, tense, or whether they just want to play.

In fact, as of 1999, over 1500 species have been observed to showcase bisexual behaviours, including lions, lizards, swans, and dolphins.

Sexual and gender expression in the animal world displays exuberant variety, including same-sex courtship, pair-bonding, sex, and co-parenting–even instances of lifelong homosexual bonding in species that do not have lifelong heterosexual bonding.

Could this observation tell us something about our own innate sexual curiosity?

Are We Born Naturally Inclined To Bi-Sexuality?

Neurologist Sigmund Freud suggested that we were all innately bisexual.

Neurologist Sigmund Freud suggested that we were all innately bisexual.

Famous neurologist Sigmund Freud was one of the first public figures to address the concept of innate bisexuality.

The conclusions that he drew were based on the fact that at early stages of development, humans undergo a period of hermaphrodism. Based on this, he asserts that all humans are born predisposed to bisexuality but gain other sexualities throughout later psychological development – with bisexuality remaining latent.

This develops into a general theory that attraction to both sexes is possible, but that one is more common for each sex. From there, it is the supposition of some that the way in which humans express or enjoy themselves sexually is indifferent to the gender of the person from which that erotic fulfillment is derived.

Late author Gore Vidal spoke about innate bisexuality during a time when the idea was widely condemned. He said it is the “tribal taboos” that have taken our innate bisexuality away, whereas in fact it is a matter of our human condition that we are all responsive to sexual stimuli from whichever gender it should come from.

Male And Female Same-Sex Experiences: Double Standards?

Traditionally, if a man has experienced even one same-sex encounter, his sexual orientation is almost immediately equated to being article-2514246-19AC6E4200000578-495_634x826homosexual. This old cultural idea effectively erases the possibility of bisexuality being possible for a man.

Yet conversely, it seems bisexuality is more commonly accepted in women. If a woman has a one-time sexual experience with another woman, she is less likely to be categorized as ‘gay’ or ‘lesbian’ as opposed to two men in the same circumstance.

In the past there seemed to be more sexual identity standards with regards to men as opposed to women.

Even those identifying as bisexual have often been stigmatized, sometimes being described as simply being in transition into pure homosexuality, or being sex crazed.  Other social attitudes towards bisexuals paints them as neurotic or ‘incapable of making up their minds.’

In this way, bisexual individuals have been subject to double discrimination, facing hostility from both heterosexuals and homosexuals.

The point is that all too often we get caught up in defining our sexuality and thereby limit our potential as free and open beings. We are quick to place gender labels on people based on predisposed cultural ideas of gender norms. But is this all beginning to change?

Survey Says?

Perhaps the labeling of sexuality is dissolving in our current era. In a 2011 study published in the Journal of Bisexuality titled Aren’t We All a Little Bisexual?: The Recognition of Bisexuality in an Unlikely Place, a group of heterosexual male sports players from universities across the US were asked about same-sex experiences.

Researchers asked the men questions such as, “If a straight guy had sex with a guy once, would it make him gay?”. A common answer was, “Only if he wasn’t attracted to women.” article-2514246-19AC6E4F00000578-381_306x423

Instead of viewing sexuality as a polarized ‘either/or’ identity, most of these men were interested in discussing issues of sexuality through a recognition of its complexity.

On participant said, “What does it really mean to be gay anyhow?”. When asked to ‘describe bisexuality’ many of these men initially offered an explanation that being bisexual means being sexually attracted to men and women.

Almost all of the men in the study maintained that bisexuality exists among men, and most even recognize bisexuality in themselves, but few know male friends who publicly identify as bisexual.

One of the participants elaborated, “It’s cool right now for girls to be into other girls. I don’t think it’s bad for guys to say they are into other guys… I don’t think there is much homophobia [biphobia], but it’s also not ‘cool’ yet. Maybe it will be in a few years. But, right now, a guy just doesn’t get the same credit with his friends for doing guys as he does for doing girls. So if you’re a guy, and you like girls [too,] I guess it just make sense to say you’re straight.”

Another participant chimed in, “I don’t get it. Why do we have to be straight or gay, or whatever? Why can’t we just be?”

In an article written for the Daily Mail titled Rise of the Female Flexi-Sexuala study revealed that in 2010 16% of women admitted to sexual experiences with other women, compared to only 4% claiming the same in 1990.

On top of that, women said that they enjoyed the experience, but wouldn’t necessarily classify themselves as bisexual. It seems that our current era offers more sexual freedom without the worry of gender labels.

Dropping The Labels

All of these findings are fascinating indeed, they signify that sexuality is best understood as a spectrum rather than a definitive label. It’s important to take into account multiple variables in understanding sexuality, including emotional preference, social preference and more.

The questions begs, if we were born into a society that was completely neutral and void of gender and sexuality standards, would we all be open to sexual experiences with either sex? Is there an innate same-sex curiosity in all of us, that has been buried by layers of cultural programming around sexual norms?

These are all important questions which will continue to evolve as sexual freedom and non-identification becomes more ubiquitous throughout society. For now, let’s drop the identities and labels around sexual orientation and let sexual expression flow both naturally and freely.

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Abductions & Car Vandalism – Startling Australian UFO Report Unclassified

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An uncovered Australian report performed by their Department of Defence. “Scientific Intelligence — General — Unidentified Flying Objects” is trending again. Those who have done extensive research on UFOs will find the Australian version of disclosure to be far more intellectually honest than the American version. Albeit it was conducted decades ago.

According to ex-US intelligence official Luis Elizondo, the Defense Department’s Inspector General is presently conducting three reviews. The inquiries vary from the Department of Defense’s handling of UFO claims to Elizondo’s alleged whistleblower retribution. The open IG cases are crucial to Australia’s report because they establish beyond a shadow of a doubt that the US Department of Defense is being dishonest and shady when it comes to the UFO subject. For decades, Australia has been a loyal friend of the United States. Within Australia’s boundaries, they share a military installation (Pine Gap). When a close defense ally’s intelligence agencies determined that the US was not being intellectually honest in its approach, perhaps it is reasonable to conclude that there is more to the tale than the 144 incidents studied since 2004 by the UAPTF.

The CIA became alarmed at the overloading of military communications during the mass sightings of 1952 and considered the possibility that the USSR may take advantage of such a situation.

Australian UFO study.

According to the summary, OSI, acting through the Robertson-Panel, encouraged the USAF to use Project Blue Book to publicly “debunk” UFOs. In a tragic twist of fate, when Australian authorities sought explanations from the US Air Force, the allegation was debunked. The authors of the study were depicted as conspiratorial and even crazy by the US Air Force. Ross Coulthart reported this, and it may be heard in a recent Project Unity interview. Courthart is an award-winning investigative journalist who is drawn to forbidden subjects. He also stated on the same podcast that a senior US Navy official identified as Nat Kobitz told him that the US had been in the midst of reverse-engineering numerous non-human craft. According to his obituary, Mr. Kobitz was a former Director of Research and Development at Naval Sea Systems Command.

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New UFO Film Questions What The US Government Is Hiding

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The US recently released its highly anticipated Pentagon UAP report, but it wasn’t much more than a 9 page rundown of what has been known for decades. Regardless, for many, what was promising was that the UFO subject was being taken seriously again – and perhaps many more scientists might get involved.

For decades many have been warning about leaving UFO disclosure in the hands of a government that likes to use crisis’ or current events to expand its defense budgets. Further, why would we suddenly expect a government, who has been lying about this subject for 70 years, to suddenly come forth with the truth? What would inspire them to suddenly change their mind?

Perhaps it’s because the search for ET is an idea who’s time has truly come. We’ve reporting on this for over 13 years, and are mongst a community of researchers who have been encouraging humanity to look at the evidence for more than 70 years. It feels like an idea that human collective consciousness is more than ready to explore.

The impact the ET question has on our individual and collective worldview has the power to truly change the way we view ourselves and the meaning of life here on earth. Think of the implications answers to this question could have on how we set up and run our society as well. Technology, culture, collaboration etc – I spoke about this more in great detail in my extended interview for Greer’s. prior film Close Encounters of The Fifth Kind here.

Now, a new documentary from Dr. Steven Greer, directed by my good friend Michael Mazzola, seeks to explore what the films calls “the current government and media disinformation campaign promoting 3 big lies:”

1. We do not know what these UAPs/ UFOs are. WE DO.
2. Humans cannot make craft that can maneuver like UFOs. WE CAN and WE DO.
3. The UFOs are a threat. THEY ARE NOT.

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PGA Tour To End COVID Testing For Both Vaccinated & Non-Vaccinated Players

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    The PGA Tour has announced that it will stop testing players every week, regardless of whether they have been vaccinated or not.

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    Are PCR tests appropriate to identify infectious people? Should people who are healthy and not sick be tested at all, anywhere?

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The picture you see above is of John Rahm, a professional golfer on the PGA tour being carted off the golf course after tournament officials told him he had COVID. He was healthy and had no symptoms, yet was forced to withdraw from the tournament. He was told in front of the camera’s, and a big scene was made out of the event. You would think something like that, especially when you are a big time sports figure, would be done behind closed doors with some privacy.

Earlier on in June a spokesperson for the PGA Tour said that more than 50 percent of players on the PGA tour have been vaccinated. Although it seems that the majority of players on the tour will be fully vaccinated judging by this statement, it does leave a fairly large minority who won’t be, and that’s something we’re seeing across the globe as COVID vaccine hesitancy remains high for multiple reasons.

We are pleased to announce, after consultation with PGA Tour medical advisors, that due to the high rate of vaccination among all constituents on the PGA Tour, as well as other positively trending factors across the country, testing for COVID-19 will no longer be required as a condition of competition beginning with the 3M Open. – PGA tour Senior VP Tyler Dennis

The tour recently announced that the testing of players every week will stop starting in July for both the vaccinated and the unvaccinated. This was an unexpected announcement given the fact that, at least it seems in some countries, vaccinated individuals will enjoy previous rights and freedoms that everyone did before the pandemic. Travelling without need to quarantine and possibly in the future not having to be tested could be a few of those privileges. Others may include attending concerts, sporting events, or perhaps even keeping their job depending on whether or not their employer deems it to be mandatory, if that’s even legally possible. We will see what happens.

Luckily for professional golfers, regardless of their vaccination status they won’t have to worry about testing positive for COVID, especially if they’re not sick. This is the appropriate move by the PGA tour, who is represented by their players and it’s a move that the players themselves may have had a say in. It’s important because PCR tests are not designed nor are they appropriate for identifying infectious people. A number of scientists have been emphasizing this since the beginning of the pandemic. More recently, a letter to the editor published in the Journal of infection explain why more than half of al “positive” PCR tests are likely to have been people who are not infectious, otherwise known as “false positives.”

This is why the Swedish Public Health agency has a notice on their website explaining how and why polymerase chain reaction (PCR) tests are not useful for determining if someone is infected with COVID or if someone can transmit it to others, and it’s better to use someone who is actually showing symptoms as a judgement call of whether or not they could be infected or free from infection.

PCR tests using a high cycle threshold are extremely sensitive. An article published in the journal Clinical Infectious Diseases found that among positive PCR samples with a cycle count over 35, only 3 percent of the samples showed viral replication. This can be interpreted as, if someone tests positive via PCR when a Ct of 35 or higher is used, the probability that said person is actually infected is less than 3%, and the probability that said result is a false positive is 97 percent. This begs the question, why has Manitoba, Canada, for example, using cycle thresholds of up to 45 to identify “positive” people?

When it comes to golf, the fact that spread occurring in an outdoor setting is highly unlikely could have been a factor, but it’s also important to mention that asymptomatic spread within one’s own household is also considerably rare. It really makes you wonder what’s going on here, doesn’t it?

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