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Can You Bear To Deal With Your Shame?

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Shame strikes you more deeply than any other emotion – straight at your CORE – at the very junction where your physical and non-physical worlds collide. 

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Shame not only affects your ability to truly know and find affinity with your REAL Self, but as an adult, your ability to show up and function effectively and authentically in the world.

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Shame can also be one of the most elusive and slippery emotions to grasp.

Shame and embarrassment around being seen as your true Self is most often a direct by-product of your childhood experiences.  Being humiliated, reprimanded, criticised, neglected or overlooked, rejected, abandoned, violated, physically punished or otherwise abused – essentially being made to feel fundamentally flawed or unworthy of the innate need to be yourself, validated and unconditionally loved, are key factors that contribute to deeply seated shame.  In fact, core-level embarrassment or shame can be so deeply submerged that perhaps you are reading this now, doubting that in your case, there might very possibly be significant amounts there.

The ‘seeds of shame’ are most often planted in and/or around the home environment in the formative developmental years.  They germinate and grow out into the school and neighbourhood environments, extra-curricular and special interest groups, and later on in the arenas of further education, job opportunities, love interests and relationships, health and well-being. The germination of these seeds of shame causes a split between your Real, core self and the boy or girl you believed at the time you needed to be in order to survive.  That is, there was a definite quota of emotional nurturance, physical sustenance, validation, and love that you required, and indeed we all require as children, to survive and grow. And as a human being, you are wired to do whatever it takes to maximize your chances of survival – even if that means scraping by on meagre or warped rations of approval, validation, and love to match the diminished view of yourself you unknowingly accepted at that time.

Shame works on the deepest levels of your psyche to shape your understanding of who you think you are.  

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Shame diminishes your understanding of your inherent magnificence.  

Shame causes you to shrink into a ball of unworthiness around being able to know and truly, deeply, appreciate, honour, and love yourself.

Ultimately, shame affects your ability to be fully present in your life and fashion it into an exciting everyday experience that validates and inspires you and sets your senses alive.  

Deeply held embarrassment and shame teaches through your journey from childhood into adulthood how to function at a greatly reduced fraction of who you really ARE – to the point that it isn’t uncommon for you to begin believing in and creating experiences that reinforce struggle, unhappiness, frustration, isolation, and lack.  When you consider, however, that these emotions are symptoms of a life lived from a place of being out of kilter with your truth, you can see that they exist more to try and swerve you back into alignment with your authentic Self, rather than being destinations in and of themselves.

If you are finding yourself resonating with these notions and yet struggling to identify precisely where your shame lies, realise that your pockets of shame are by their very nature, shrouded.  They are hidden from view, not least because they are the dwelling places of some of your most deep-seated pain.  It makes perfect sense that on a very fundamental level, you would want them to be banished for good.  As you grow, learn, and mature, these pockets of shame, far from being inert, to a large extent inform your abilities, personality characteristics, and traits according to the limits you have accepted as the equivalent of this unique type of amnesia to self-preserve.  You become heavily invested in showing up exactly how you have always been, as the person you believe yourself to be because you know exactly what you can expect in this place.  Here life is predictable and there are few surprises.  As much as you feel frustrated and stuck, you are in control.

The feeling of being in control of your life is very desirable when you have inadvertently been creating your life from an unconscious place of fear.

Conversely, the feeling of being ‘out of control’ in your life can trigger your anxiety around your learned mistrust of your Real Self and the resulting tendency to want to avoid the unknown.

Often I see or encounter people for whom the experience of these symptoms is so embedded in their day to day lives that they literally believe that is truly all there is.  Energetically this is the place they are resonating at and it is very difficult for them to see or sense anything happier, more fulfilling, or life-restoring beyond the exhaustion, sadness, and drudgery that for them, feels extremely real.

Much like heat from radioactive processes within the earth’s interior causes tectonic shifts, it is the nature of your inborn wisdom to seek expression and validation in the outer world.  The symptoms mentioned above – sense of struggle, unhappiness, frustration, isolation, and lack – are like the earthquakes and volcanic eruptions that result when the earth’s plates come into violent contact with each other.  This edge between your inner tectonic plates – your real and adapted Selves – is perhaps one of the most scary inner places at which you can find yourself.  To deliberately push past it is often tantamount to opening the floodgates that have been containing your hidden potential yes, but also, your deep-seated pain.

But your truth has always been an untapped gold mine within, infused with the wisdom of your soul.  And no matter how far removed this feels, this tremendous inner resource is there, right now, seeking healing and release.

Far from signifying that you’ve reached a dead-end in your life, these earthquakes and volcanic eruptions in your life are trying to signal to your conscious mind that there is SO much inspiration and creative potential that wants to make its way into the world through YOU. 

The key here is to accept with humility and self-love, once and for all, that you are at a crossroads, and that your tried and true way of responding to life hasn’t really enabled you to create the life you envisioned for yourself.  It is imperative you recognise that you need to change tack, open up to the huge journey of awakening and self-growth that wants to unfold, and allow it exactly the space and time it demands.

One of the biggest things that gets overlooked when you are going through particularly challenging times is the idea that, beneath the aspect of yourself that is engaged in the energy and exchanges of struggle, doubt, and lack, there is a part of you that is and has always been the primary observer in your life.

Being able to consider that you the observer and the part of you that has been creating your experiences from a place of unwitting unworthiness and soul-level pain are actually separate and function pretty independently of each other has the potential to stop everything around you, dead in its tracks.

And the silence can be deafening, but oh-so profound.  It is here that you can find refuge from the untruths you have been building your relationships and experiences around.  It is here that you can take inventory of what is actually REAL – your most heartfelt needs and personal truth.  And no matter how chaotic, stressful, or unhappy the experiences you find yourself enmeshed in on your outer, really consider that consciously shifting your allegiance away from this to the part of you that is determined to create change, no matter what, is how you get the tide to finally turn.

Martin Luther King Jr. once said:

Take the first step in faith.  You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.

But beware, there are no crutches, patterns, or self-defeating negative habits to rely upon once you make this shift.  Making this shift signals to your wise Self and to your world that you are beginning to connect into and honour the golden river of wisdom and pure potentiality that runs deep within your soul.  You will be, in effect, making a declaration that you are readying yourself to bring more happiness, meaning, purpose, abundance, and joy into your world!

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A Spiritual Perspective On Smoking Cannabis: An Important Viewpoint To Consider

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  • The Facts:

    In the video below, Sadhguru shares his perspective on smoking marijuana and why it's not truly needed to achieve the feeling one may receive to do it.

  • Reflect On:

    I'm not saying there isn't medicinal value and that we should outlaw this plant, I'm saying we have a very large societal challenge, just like with alcohol, where we are not facing our inner challenges and are using substances to cover them up.

I was having a conversation yesterday about something that has always been a reflection point for me. Since I was a kid, I was never drawn to substances, even alcohol. I always felt great, high even, when just being.

As I got older and I finally tried cannabis for the first time, and then a few more times after that as years went on, I started to realize it actually brought my state of being and clarity down. The tough part was trying to explain that to others when having conversations about how these substances don’t produce a true experience of higher consciousness, but more so give you a glimpse in a sense.

Before we go on, I want to bring something up. The challenge with this topic is that we tend to get very emotional and rigid about it. Not only that, but we aggressively try to lump people into FOR or AGAINST cannabis. I’m not here to do that. I’m simply creating a reflection point as my desire is to help shift consciousness and empower us within to create a world where we can truly thrive. So for a moment, set aside your own hard coded beliefs and just be open to what this article is shining light on.

Societal Cannabis Culture

For the most part society either breaks down into people who judge cannabis as a drug that is for ‘stoners’ and are very against it. These people tend to believe there are no positives to cannabis. On the flip side are the people who feel cannabis is an amazing wonder plant that can do no wrong, and that the “highs” it provides expand the mind and we experience peace.

The truth is, cannabis has good aspects and not so good aspects to it. And while the positives can be really helpful for a very small subset of people on this planet, smoking it is one of the worst ways to use cannabis health wise. Not only that, society is using its medical benefits to turn attention away from the addiction many users have to it. This is a tough pill to swallow and makes many people aggressive and angry when I bring it up, but it’s true. In a big way, but not all the time, we are using cannabis as a society to help cope with feelings deep down that we want to shut off or hide from. As a note, we are also using food, TV and other things in the same way, but right now I want to focus on this reflection.

Cannabis can assist people with autism, people who have seizures, and in some cases it may have helped people cure cancer. There are benefits that can come from this plant being used in a proper medicinal way, but we must remember to look at the downsides that come from regular cannabis use that many simply don’t want to acknowledge.

A Note On Legalization

First off, I do not believe the plant ever needed to be illegal to begin with. In fact I’ve done much research on how it became illegal and it really had more to do with protecting an industry more than anything else.

That said, there is something to consider here that many of us aren’t looking at too clearly when it comes to what legalization really means. It means that powerful people are going to be the ones who profit most from it, that’s why it’s becoming legal. Not only that, but the reason it is taking so long is so they can get in place the many aspects required to make sure they achieve what they want: stripping medicinal aspects out of the plant profiles, controlling the seeds, and ultimately feeding society cannabis focused solely on creating a THC based ‘high’. This is no different than controlling alcohol and feeding it to society in the ways we currently do.

The cannabis industry is worth over $40 billion, making it the second-most-valuable crop in the U.S. after corn. As stated in a powerful article by GQ, “And even though weed is still federally forbidden, it sounded like whoever was behind BioTech Institute had spent the past several years surreptitiously maneuvering to grab every marijuana farmer, vendor, and scientist in the country by the balls, so that once the drug became legal, all they’d have to do to collect payment is squeeze.”

Humans should be able to make choices as to what they want to do to themselves and their bodies i.e. smoke cannabis or consume alcohol, but I believe greater education needs to be placed behind both and ultimately: we must start looking at the real reasons as to why we use both of these substances so often.

Looking At Cannabis Differently

I see that in many ways the use of cannabis is making the average user numb, in the same way alcohol does. I’ve used cannabis before, in a number of ways -smoking, edibles etc. I’m not saying the feeling is the same for every single user, but I’ve also been around thousands of cannabis users in my lifetime while they were high and you notice the same ‘vibe’ virtually every time. Perhaps there are varying degrees, but for the most part it numbs us out and sometimes quiets the thoughts to create a calmness. Is this like meditation? No, but it can be confused as that. I know, I’ve been there too.

Below is a video of a perspective on cannabis I feel is very important for us to consider. Let me be clear, I’m not saying there isn’t medicinal value and that we should outlaw this plant, I’m saying we have a very large societal challenge, just like with alcohol, where we are not facing our inner challenges and are using substances to cover them up. I am inspired to help create a world where we can truly empower ourselves form within, move beyond our mind and egoic challenges that help us grow and do just that – grow. But if we continually bury our challenges in substance, we won’t.

I believe it’s time we come to the uncomfortable truth and face the fact that as a society we have not done the greatest job in encouraging one another to truly explore, express and move beyond many of the emotional challenges life’s experiences have provided us, that are there for our growth. Think about it, do we want to just cope through life? Or do we want to truly move beyond our stuff? There is SO much suffering we can prevent by making it a societal norm to work through our challenges on a deep level. This is where I believe we must go.

Note: You can try meditation to help calm the mind and move more clearly through challenges. Here are more tools as well.

Lost relationships, divorces, losing jobs, feeling unloved, lack of confidence, depression etc. All of these things are not here so that we can use bandaids everyday to cover them up and get through them, they are here for us to learn more about ourselves, grow and evolve as people and as a society. To create a world where we can truly thrive. To get there, we must begin to face our challenges.

I made this choice 10 years ago when I started to discover meditation and inner reflection, and although I wasn’t a user of substances like alcohol or cannabis, I would use food to cover up my emotions or I would distract myself with TV, whatever worked. But I can share from experience, the incredible changes that come from shifting those stories within and gaining true empowerment will change everything in your life, and everyone can do it.

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New Moon In Virgo: Efficiency & Practicality

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We are having a New Moon in Virgo on September 17th. This is initiating a 29.5 day lunar cycle and new wave of energy for the coming month; however, the astrological configurations mentioned in this article will be more prominent over the following two weeks. This cycle will include a Full Moon in Aries on October 1st/2nd.

Virgo season began on August 22nd/23rd, nearly a month prior to this Lunation, and will end on September 22nd/23rd when Libra season begins. However, his New Moon will still carry some of its Virgo themes into the first eight days of Libra season prior to the Full Moon.

This is a good period of working with and co-creating with the energies of this sign. Virgo is associated with productivity, duties, service, health, cleanliness, and purity. It is organized, adaptable, conscientious, skillful, orderly, punctual, diligent, efficient, analytical, detailed, discerning, precise, and practical.

Virgo is about problem solving, adjusting to changing conditions, and coming up with solutions. Negatively, this energy can be cynical, fussy, high strung, and perfectionistic. It can also be exorbitantly mentally oriented as well as overly critical and discriminating.

Mars began its retrograde a week prior to this New Moon which will last until mid-November. This energy is a significant part of the current astrological backdrop. Generally it is a time that can ultimately help to facilitate a change in how we apply ourselves in certain areas of life, however, the retrograde period itself can bring frustrations and challenges that help with that process. You can read more about this Mars Retrograde here.

New Moon Trine Saturn & Quincunx Mars Retrograde

This New Moon is in a tight trine with Saturn in Capricorn which is transitioning out of its retrograde at the end of the month. This can be a good period for operating in a responsible, cautious, orderly, productive, realistic and practical way. However, considering that Saturn is finishing up its backwards motion, these next couple of weeks are generally better for getting things sorted out and prepared as well as perhaps focusing on tasks that you have already been working on.

It is possible that in late September and in early October, we can experience some sort of shift, or change in gears, that can take things into a different direction. Saturn will be in a square with Mars Retrograde at that time, and we may have to contend with limitations and obstacles that can affect how certain things move forward.

This New Moon is also in a quincunx with Mars retrograde which can reflect annoyances, tension, or conflicts that may require adjustments and adaptability. Issues that come up may be at odds with our needs or the way we want to express ourselves. This energy is the strongest on the 19th/20th but can also be more noticeable on the day of the New Moon.

New Moon Square Lunar Nodes, Mercury Square Jupiter

This New Moon is also in a close square to the North Node in Gemini opposing the South Node in Sagittarius. We may be at odds between the past (South Node) and the future (North Node), beliefs (Sagittarius) and facts (Gemini), our immediate aspects of life (Gemini) and the world at large (Sagittarius).

However, the focal point should be the North Node in Gemini and expressions of the South Node in Sagittarius energy should be serving that focal point and not be the emphasis. The rulers of the Nodes, Mercury (Gemini) and Jupiter (Sagittarius) are also in a tight square with each other at the time of this New Moon. This can reflect tension between these two sides and potentially conflicts between ideas, viewpoints, and opinions.

Jupiter is in the limiting Saturnian sign of Capricorn while Mercury is better placed in Libra, the sign of diplomacy, seeking common ground, considering different needs/perspectives, and fairness. Mercury square Jupiter can be good for learning but it can also be excessive when it comes to information and we can more easily be mentally scattered.

Mercury Quincunx Neptune, Then Square Pluto, Saturn & Opposing Mars

Mercury is in a quincunx with Neptune which is strongest on the 18th/19th. This energy makes it harder to integrate or juggle our intuitive, creative, imaginative, compassionate or spiritual expression with our mind, communication, tasks, and thought process. Issues pertaining to lack of boundaries, flakiness, delusion, escapism, intoxication, may come up.

Mercury moves towards a square with Pluto which is strongest on the 20th/21st. Our thoughts and communications can be deep, powerful, penetrating, investigative, raw, real, and potentially intense. This can also reflect obsessive or compulsive behavior, suspicion, fears, anxiety, or conflicts pertaining to power or authority.

Mercury then moves to a square with Saturn (22nd/23rd) followed by an opposition to Mars retrograde (23rd/24th), creating a t-square formation in that time period with the separating Pluto energy (20th/21st, mentioned above) tied into it a bit. This can be a time of obstacles, delays, communication issues, pessimism, and conflicts while we can get more easily irritated or angered. Circumstances may come up that can be pushing us to be more cautious, realistic, or responsible.

This period is the beginning of Mercury’s pre-shadow period in which it will be returning to another square with Saturn. Some of the issues or developments that occur at this time may be connected to things that will play out during the retrograde (October 13th/14th until November 3rd/4th) and weeks surrounding that period. It will also be the Equinox and therefore this energy is imprinted into the following three months in which it can manifest in other ways/areas separate from this initial period.

Making Intentions & Things To Consider

What can you do to be more practical, productive, and efficient? Is there anything you can or should implement to improve your health and functionality? What have the circumstances, developments, or challenges over the last week (leading up to this New Moon) shown you in how you should be applying yourself? Do you need to implement stronger boundaries? Do you need to be more adaptable? Are you clinging to the past or are you willing to take steps to help you grow? What aspects or details of your immediate life, surroundings, or relationships do you need to focus on more and what excesses or broad aspects of your life are getting in the way of that?

These are just some examples of what to consider or focus your intentions on at this time. However, it is good to reflect on anything else that is coming up for you. It is generally best to make any intentions within the first 24 hours following a New Moon. The exact moment it will occur is 11:00am Universal Time on September 17th. You can click here to see what that is in your time zone.

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Why We Get Into Fights When Sharing Information

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We’re in a time when mainstream media and traditional conversations are failing to address a number of important topics within society, anything from current events to politics and so on, and this is birthing a great deal of ‘alternative conversation’ that often stems from alternative media.

But with this, comes to the common ‘fight’ between various ideas and ideologies that is much more avoidable than we often realize. I wanted to share a quick tid bit from a recent episode discussing how we can reflect to develop better communication and connection faculties that can make a big difference in how we communicate important ideas that are emerging without creating such huge divides ad tension.

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