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11 Signs Your Relationship Is Distant

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Separation in most cases does not start through the physical separation but instead begins to grow in all those places that create emotional distance between partners. The physical separation happens when one of the partners can no longer deal with the emotional distance and are overwhelmed with feelings of pain, frustration, or anger.

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 The 11 Signs of Separation

The 11 signs of separation shed light on the dynamics that are often hidden beneath the regular day-to-day interactions. If not addressed and carefully monitored they can create feelings of distance in a relationship. At times, it can be just one sign or reason that affects the partnership deeply, while in other cases several signs show up simultaneously and create the downward spiralling dynamic that leads to separation.

There can be many instances where we may have been hurt in the past and therefore seek healing today. The wounds show up clearly through problems we face in the partnership. Therefore, any given relationship can be a major source of learning for both partners if both are open to quality communication, authenticity, and the expression of needs.

Deeply understanding the patterns and reasons leading up to separation can help us stay together and heal together, or move on to grow consciously in the next relationship.

The Pitfall of Idealization

When we idealize how our partners should be we don’t really see the person as they really are. We place them on a pedestal where they lose the freedom to unfold their humanity and evolve as a human being through trial and error. Furthermore, it places the partner who idealizes in an often inferior or following position, which is a dangerous dynamic in a healthy and equal partnership. Whichever way we use idealization in our relationships, we essentially use our ideal standards to make ourselves feel safer in the partnership because we set high standards of morality and expectation. These unreachable expectations make it impossible for us to express the light and darkness inside. If we feel we cannot show our strengths and weaknesses, our good qualities and bad, it becomes difficult to allow ourselves to be human in an honest and authentic way to our partner and to ourselves.

Signs of Competition

Every person enters the relationship with his or her own values, beliefs, and personality. Out of these we naturally feel inclined to support certain actions. We feel righteous and justified to demand certain behaviors or actions, and sense moral superiority towards our partners on various topics. Competition can also extend to the male/ female divide from which peer struggles emerge. When partners get lost in competition with each other, they stop communicating and get stuck in their individual perspective, inherently viewing themselves as opposing their partner instead of working with them. With the lack of communication and cooperation, nourishing the openness of the relationship is lost.

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The Consequences of Betrayal

Betrayal is often created from one or both partner’s over-expectation for the other. It is not openly talked about and processed in the relationship but when the expectation is left unmet, the wedge of betrayal inserts itself between the partners. When a lot of expectations exist, and they often do, they point to a higher need of protection by the partners. The more expectations imposed on us, spoken or unspoken, the more protected partners wish to feel.

Over time these expectations can become a burden on the relationship, since they limit our natural need for expression. What we often righteously and easily call betrayal is really an attempt to protect ourselves and control our partners by having many personal needs expressed in the form of ‘expectations.’ When our partners do not meet our exerted expectations we feel insecure and unsafe, filling us with a sense of betrayal.

Jealousy Between Partners

Jealousy is essentially the same as comparison, and comparison mainly arises when our own self-worth is under attack, whether internally or externally. A certain level of unworthiness, conscious or unconscious, resides in almost everyone. The role of our personality is to actively attempt to create a life in which we feel ‘worthy.’ When we sense jealousy in our relationships, we need to return to our own sense of self to see why we feel jealousy for our partner. Once we figure that out, we need to strive after our own potential instead of pressuring our partners to limit themselves and burden them with feelings of guilt when they succeed.

The Lack of Intimacy

Both men and women have a natural drive to live and experience the whole spectrum of intimacy. When issues and conflicts arise between partners, one of the first things that suffers is the intimacy. The lack of intimacy causes emotional distance and often reflects unexpressed anger, shame, or fear. It is the sole faction of relationships that allows partners to have the opportunity to be exposed and to practice closeness. Relationships need an active intimacy. It is where closeness happens. Without intimacy only friendship remains, but the value of relating to the other is more limited.

Dishonesty

Every time we lie, keep secrets, or hide things about ourselves, we sense guilt and force subsequent self-punishment. In those moments of guilt, we believe we are not allowed to feel or express certain thoughts. We feel we deserve to be rejected for our dark side. As a result we distance ourselves from our partner subconsciously, because inside we feel ‘wrong’ and are afraid to show that to the other.

Unresolved Guilt

Feeling guilt during our lifetime is inevitable. Guilt itself has a strong social binding function and acts like a compass that protects us from exclusion. In relationships we face events that cause us to feel guilty. It’s a sign that we broke a certain rule, promise, or expectation. Often this guilt is taken out of proportion and carried on for longer than necessary for the one who may have made the ‘mistake.’ This sense of guilt also creates a dynamic of self-punishment and self-exclusion.

Revenge

When partners feel hurt by the other they are tempted to seek revenge quietly or openly. Quiet revenge can be expressed through heartbreak and suffering, while morality and temper tantrums are expressed openly. When we have been wronged, it is important to give our partner the chance to make up for it instead of simply forgiving or punishing them. This way balance and equality can be restored to the relationship. When partners are stuck on seeking revenge and play the righteous or innocent card, without the real chance of balancing the relationship, the other partner will develop anger and resentment over time.

Vague Future Plans

Once the falling in love phase is over and partners have grown past the initial phase of infatuation with the other person, they can begin their slow progression from the micro-cosmos of ‘twoness’ and look forward together into a common future. When this joint future beyond the ‘twoness’ can’t be felt or created together by both partners, its limitation are felt. After a certain point, the joint perspective is lost and the ‘twoness’ returns. A joint perspective on the future is necessary to maintain and deepen the bond between the partners.

Collective Disrespect and Resentment Between the Sexes

Our modern society has and is developing into one of equality and mutual respect, but on a collective level the animosity remains a dormant negative energy between the sexes. Centuries of abuse, humiliation, and rivalry have created deep hatred and resentment which has stayed with us in our collective subconscious. Even if it’s not politically correct, this deeply rooted distrust and lack of respect affects the way men and women perceive one another, and can create a rift between the partners if not addressed and worked on together.

Withholding Information From Your Partner

We are almost conditioned to hide certain feelings and thoughts since childhood. These inner secrets stay with us and become ingrained into our personality structures. But, when we keep secrets from those close to us, something breaks in the sense of intimacy and trust. Out of fear of losing the love of our partner or being judged, we hold back or hide parts of our ‘selves’ (angers, fears, needs). This can usually be felt by the one withholding back. This manifests through feelings of guilt, which then creates anger, since it is a strong feeling we don’t wish to feel. The other partner will usually feel the void of that which is withheld, which only serves to increase the emotional distance between partners.

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Is Marijuana Unhealthy? An In-Depth Look at the Research

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    There are large bodies of research that show the ups and downs of cannabis. Yes, much of it contradicts itself in many ways, but science is never all that cut and dry. Simply, cannabis does have negative side effects, but do they outweigh the pros?

  • Reflect On:

    Do you have an extreme pro or anti stance on cannabis? If so, why? Are we able to recognize the pros and the cons of cannabis and truly be open to them without getting triggered? Are we open to exploring spirituality without substances?

Here in Canada, Cannabis was recently legalized, essentially making it so that getting your hands on Cannabis and recreationally using it is now much easier and accepted. Let me be the first to say I feel this is a good thing, as I do not think the plant should have ever been illegal to begin with.

However, I do feel that this is quite a bit of a bait and switch by the government. We could go on for days about how this is simply a huge government control/profit tactic, huge tax opportunity and ultimately they will control the medical side even more etc. But we’ll leave this for another discussion. In fact, in just a few weeks I’m interviewing an incredibly knowledgeable figure in this space on the subject and much more on The Collective Evolution Podcast. So stay tuned.

Today, I simply want to explore some of the health effects of cannabis as I have found that anytime you have such extreme polarity around something, you get extreme beliefs, misinformation and falsehoods on either side. For example, someone reached out to us via email the other day simply because in one of our articles we stated that it was a good idea to not simply medicate ourselves with cannabis all the time when you are feeling down, but instead to also seek other forms of help. The person emailing was quite angry as they felt we were saying cannabis was bad. Meanwhile, all we were saying was, ‘medicine’ isn’t supposed to be taken every day.

The point is, some will have you think it’s the devil, while others think there is not a single negative side effect. Both are false. As the video below will summarize, “it’s totally wrong to say there are no negative health effects.” But are these health effects as bad as other common substances? No. So let’s ground this conversation and look at both sides objectively as that’s important.

One Quick Note On The Spiritual Aspects of Cannabis

Before we get into the health effects a bit more in the video below, I want to mention two quick things that come up a lot.

Often times people will assume my spiritual knowledge, calm way of being or state of consciousness must have come from either smoking weed or doing some other psychedelics. This is fair, as this is the CULTURE being aggressively pushed. Insight comes from psychedelics. If that were the case on a large scale, we’d see a massively spiritual world, but we don’t because it’s not that simple. This is, unfortunately, a ‘cure all’ culture that has gotten a bit out of control and makes it so that those new to the use of psychedelics can get lost or confused about them. If we remain grounded, in ANY subject, we can help many more people.

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For my journey, I did not grow up trying cannabis or using psychedelics. Cannabis experimentation came a bit later. All of what I currently know, in a spiritual sense, came from simply reflecting and practicing meditation and inner work. I have achieved ‘highs’ from meditation that you learn to bring into daily life in an incredible way. It’s not complicated, it just takes some practice.

Often times people claim that smoking cannabis connects them to god or their higherself. This is a fair thing to feel as I do know, from experience, that cannabis can help quiet the mind to some extent. If you are someone with a very active mind, smoking cannabis can show you what it’s like to have a less active mind. This can certainly be a good thing, but there’s more to this picture.

For me, I’ve experimented on multiple occasions with different strains, and have also ventured into edibles (which I knew wasn’t going to produce that result lol) and all I can say is, for me, this is not connecting to self or higherself. Nor was this the same type of ‘quiet mind’ that comes from meditation. Again, does it quiet your mind in a way? Yes. But something.. is missing.. so to speak, when we’re talking about truly connecting. It was not the same connection as in my normal waking state or my meditation states.

This led me to want to explore more about why people felt this way. Sure, in my direct experience, and I’m truly not meaning to offend here or anything as I feel this is an important conversation to have, but most of the people that were claiming they felt this ‘deep connection’ were not meditators nor practiced things of that nature. Intuitively I felt it was simply coming from the lack of knowledge and experience of what connecting to your true self or higherself actually is. Again, what I feel, and know from experience, is that what we feel when smoking cannabis is a quieter mind. To note, I can’t say that no one can connect to self on cannabis, as I imagine some may.

But I’ve been around people when they smoked, and their overall energy was not resonating in a place that was all that ‘high’, but more so sedated and relaxed. This did not remind me of the energy of being around a group of meditators for example. And this is what I mean by ‘something is missing.’ The energy, the state of being, is simply not the same.

So why do I say this? Why bring this up? Simply because I want to encourage those who are looking to go deeper, and find true inner peace in their waking life, to develop the necessary practices that will truly help them get there.

It feels as though, now, in this moment, and moving into 2019, the ‘trend,’ if you will, is going to evolve towards inner work. Less will we be pacifying and medicating (with things like food, sex, cannabis, alcohol etc.) in a sense, and more will we be truly looking to solve our challenges and turmoil from within. The substances we use may still be consumed for periods as we continue to explore this inner work, it’s not about having anything against them, for some of us, this helps us get through more difficult experience at the moment, but we also must look to do the true inner work that helps us evolve past these challenges, or else we will be pacifying our entire lives.

What can help us explore ourselves? I truly recommend committing to a 10-day meditation practice of just 10 minutes a day can provide enough insight into what this can look like that it can fuel a greater practice and understanding of what it is. For those wanting a bit more food for thought, check this out.

OK, enough about that, let’s jump into the research side of things.

Is Cannabis Healthy?

All of the research Mic refers to and links to support his work are in the video description on YouTube.

The Takeaway

As you probably noted in the video. Yes cannabis smoke, like other smoke, is harmful. It appears cannabis is mildly addictive or that people can make it habitually addictive, but it’s significantly less addictive than other substances like smoking or alcohol. Is it a gateway drug? Maybe slightly, but why do we ignoring alcohol as a gateway drug?

On a spiritual end, let’s truly attempt to develop that practice all the research and time-tested wisdom has always shown is the way to inner peace. Meditation! Start small and simple if you are intimidated. The point is, start!.

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Notable Scientist Publishes A Book About ‘Real Magic’ That Nobel Laureates Are Endorsing

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  • The Facts:

    Dean Radin, chief scientist at the Institute of Noetic Sciences, has published a book called "Real Magic." It has received praise from multiple scientists, including Nobel Laureates.

  • Reflect On:

    Despite the fact that controlled scientific experiments have produced significant results, this type of study is still labelled as pseudoscience by many academics, simply because it challenges what they've been trained to believe.

Is magic real? That depends on how you define it, but yes, I believe ‘magic’ is definitely real, and I’m clearly not the only one. Cases of ‘supernormal’ powers and ‘magic’ of all kinds have been reported throughout history and across almost all cultures–at least until religion was invented and these topics were ushered into the realm of the ‘demonic.’

Proponents of what we now call ‘magic’  include nearly all ancient literature from all parts of the world, from the Vedic texts and the yoga sutras, all the way to Moses, Jesus, Milarepa and Mohammed. Donald Lopez Jr., a professor of Buddhist and Tibetan Studies and the University of Michigan provides a great example in describing the Buddha:

With this enlightenment, he was believed to possess all manner of supernormal powers, including full knowledge of each of his own past lives and those of other beings, the ability to know others’ thoughts, the ability to create doubles of himself, the ability to rise into the air and simultaneously shoot fire and water from his body…Although he passed into nirvana at the age of eighty-one, he could have lived “for an aeon or until the end of the aeon” if only he had been asked to do so. (source)

The crazy thing is there are also modern day examples, but they mostly come from the black budget government programs. In 2016, I published a well-sourced article providing multiple examples from a CIA document that confirms the existence of humans with ‘special abilities’ who are able to do ‘impossible’ things. You can access that here.

‘Real Magic’

A book recently published by the Chief Scientist at the Institute of Noetic Sciences, Dean Radin, entitled “Real Magic” has received some great reviews. The main premise is the idea that a hidden power resides within every single human being, a power tied to our consciousness, a power that makes phenomena like psychokinesis, remote viewing, and precognition not only possible but something that will perhaps one day be a normal part of all our lives. The book offers a vision of a scientifically informed magic and explains why magic will play a key role in the frontiers of science.

This falls into the realm of a field of study called non-material science. Nikola Tesla was a huge proponent of this, as he had said that the day humanity begins to study this subject matter is the day that humanity will advance at an exponential rate.

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Far From “Pseudoscience”

Dr. Carl Jung once stated, “I shall not commit the fashionable stupidity of regarding everything I cannot explain as a fraud.” This is something we should all hold in our minds as we examine this or other claims that are not part of our current perception.

The amount of statistically significant results when it comes to this reality, usually dubbed as “parapsychology,” is very significant. We are talking about hundreds, if not thousands of studies that have been conducted worldwide for decades.

There seems to be a deep concern that the whole field will be tarnished by studying a phenomenon that is tainted by its association with superstition, spiritualism and magic. Protecting against this possibility sometimes seems more important than encouraging scientific exploration or protecting academic freedom. But this may be changing. Cassandra Vieten, PhD and President/CEO at the Institute of Noetic Sciences (source)

A lot of the statistical results for parapsychology are just as strong, if not in some cases more significant, than a lot of the results which emerge from hard sciences, like physics and mechanical engineering. The Department of Defense has stated that results in this area are a clear sign that these phenomena are real, despite the fact that they are still somewhat unexplainable. As far back as 1999, a statistics professor even published a paper showing the results dealing with parapsychology and mind-body connection are a lot stronger than the results used to approve some of our medications. That study was done by Dr. Jessica Utts, as statistics professor in California who had this to say about Radin’s book:

Real Magic illustrates the limitations of 20th century science and proposes a more comprehensive view that incorporates ideas that have been associated with magic throughout the ages. Blending history, humor, and plausible hypotheses, Dean Radin illustrates that there is a staggering amount of evidence for a broader view of science that offers hope for the future of humanity.” 

Another review:

“A thought-provoking book. The author makes a convincing case for the reality and significance of magic.” —Brian Josephson, Nobel Laureate in Physics and Emeritus Professor of Physics, University of Cambridge

Today, hundreds of scientists are coming together to emphasize that matter is not the only reality. They’ve created a manifesto, and you can find links and access more information about this initiative, which started a few years ago, in an article we published here.

“Some scientists are confident that we already know what is and is not possible. But the truth is that science is very much in its infancy. To advance our understanding requires bold excursions into domains some might consider heretical, including esoteric legends about magic that have persisted for thousands of years. This is what Dean Radin sets out to do with Real Magic. In my judgment, it succeeds in blazing new trails. Well worth the read.”  Kary Mullis PhD, Nobel Laureate (Chemistry)

The Global Elite Use Magic

While talking about magic in this sense, it’s also important to mention the global elite, and the idea that they also use metaphysical/magical ‘knowing’ and concepts. Unfortunately, they do so not for the joy of discovery, or from a place of good intention, but from a selfish, egoic place, a place that is in service to self, and not in service to others. This is a big point to consider when discussing whether humanity needs to take down the global elite in order to evolve. You can read more about my thoughts regarding magic and the global elite in the article ‘How Some of The World’s Elite Use Black Magic Rituals To Conjure Up Entities For More Power.’

I believe that as human consciousness evolves and we become more aware of who we are, and our capabilities, we will also realize that love, compassion, and empathy are all needed for us to thrive. Once we completely grasp this, I believe, these ‘abilities’ that lay dormant within us will begin to show themselves more and more.

The Takeaway

The takeaway here is to keep in open mind, and to recognize that what we think we know is always subject to change. Sometimes these things take a while, even if a sufficient amount of evidence has been provided. This type of study opens up new understandings about the nature of our reality, and would change ‘science’ and the current laws that govern it forever. Non-material science truly represents the next scientific revolution.

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Note To Selfie: Drop The Mask

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    On social media, it's common to see pictures that don't truly represent us or the situations we are capturing. In many cases, we photograph ourselves 10 - 15 times before selecting the 'accurate' photo we will use.

  • Reflect On:

    Why do we spend so much time creating an image of ourselves, even if it is not accurate?

What if we all put down our masks? What if we agreed, that there would be no more disguises? What if we allowed each other to be our authentic self? Imagine the effect on Instagram. It boggles the mind.

Too many people believe the content uploaded on social media is actually showing us truth. Far from it. The material chosen to be uploaded to Facebook, or liked on Instagram, bears little resemblance to true life. Each photo has been carefully chosen after taking a mind-numbing series of retakes.

Each photo must be meticulously studied to ensure the subject looks nothing like the real thing. After all, the real thing isn’t going to garner followers. No one uploads pictures of themselves returning bottles to the beer store in their slippers, or cleaning out the kitty litter. Followers equate to love. More follower = more love.

We are terrified that people will see our true self and our mundane lives won’t be nearly glamorous enough. So we take 12 pictures before deciding one is good enough.

Note to selfie: Make sure you extend your arms and snap the picture from above. You must be looking up. You will look younger. Social media doesn’t like wrinkles … bad skin … or skinny lips.

“Before I started being body positive on Instagram I would’ve posted the photo on the left (sucking in my tummy as much as possible) and said something along the lines of ‘gained a bit of fat this week’ when in reality, what I look relaxed currently is like the photo on the right.”

The harm that has been done to our psyche is profound. Apparently, the psyche is quite gullible. It does believe the stories shown on social media are true. So our psyche starts putting on some pretty outlandish masks to keep up with the Jones’ psyche. It is a constant challenge to keep up with the Joneses. The Joneses can’t even keep up with Joneses. No one can. It’s a sucker’s game.

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What is the result of wearing a mask? – depression, anxiety, frustration, shame. The “Mask-Wearer” knows it’s not true. And they are terrified of being found out. Imagine the fear of being outed as a fraud. And more unsettling is this; if someone falls for that mask you’ve been wearing, don’t believe they’ve fallen for you. They are enamoured with the mask: the image. And the image isn’t real.

Let’s bring a Revolution of Real. Put down the mask. And promise yourself that you will never be anything other than your most authentic self. Masks wear very thin, very fast. Authentic beauty lasts forever.

recommended Read: Instagram User Reveals The Truth Behind Those Fitness Photos

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