Sex is an act of give and take — giving yourself fully and unapologetically and allowing the same space for your partner. Sex also creates an energetic connection between you and your partner that goes beyond the physical. The more you understand and recognize your own presence, needs and wants, the deeper the experience will be for you and your partner. This can almost be said for any aspect of life.
By having an awareness of your own emotions and connection, you can help your partner to share that awareness, ensuring that the sex you are about to partake in brings you both together.
One of the best ways to recognize your desire is to meditate. There are many positives that are affiliated with giving your mind a time out mentally and physically. Meditation has been known to increase grey matter in the brain and can even help with gastrointestinal disorders, so it’s no wonder that it can play a major role in increasing our libido and even having deeper sexual experiences.
During sex, not only are you physically and energetically connecting with your partner, you are connecting with yourself too, so when you are overworked and stressed out you are creating a block that can prevent you from enjoying one of the most relaxing and satisfying practices known to man. “If stress is impacting our sex—which it is—and if meditation is the most effective stress-relieving tool that we have, then it stands to reason that if you’re practicing meditation, it may in fact make your sex better,” says Emily Fletcher, creator of Ziva Meditation.
After Emily started teaching Vedic Meditation, she started receiving interesting feedback from her students, with one claiming that she had an orgasm every time she hit the sheets.
One study already delved into this theory that meditation can increase sexual desire, finding that group mindfulness-based therapy significantly improves sexual desire in women. “Treatment significantly improved sexual desire, sexual arousal, lubrication, sexual satisfaction, and overall sexual functioning. Sex-related distress significantly decreased in both conditions, regardless of treatment, as did orgasmic difficulties and depressive symptoms.”
The Energy Of Sex
For those who are familiar with chakras and body meridians, this energetic component of sex may seem blindingly obvious, “There are 108 energetic meridians in the body, and the biggest one runs from the base of the spine up,” Fletcher explains. According to her, “meditation will start to clear out those channels quite spontaneously, but most of us are pretty blocked in our chakras, and the first block that the energy hits is the sexual chakra. So that energy coming up gets blocked, and then it dissipates and creates arousal.”
But spirituality aside, the biggest and most immediate benefit of meditation is that it promotes the act of being present. In keeping with our society’s current model of instant gratification, it seems as though sex today is often less about exploring ourselves and our partners and more about completing a task that guarantees a big payoff (to some) in the end. Meditation and presence can change that.
When you create the habit of meditating daily, the act of being present can trickle into other aspects of your life, including between the sheets. When you are fully engaged and present in sex, your chances of achieving long-lasting arousal and orgasm can only increase.
By trying this meditation below, you are giving yourself the opportunity to be fully present and aware of yourself AND your partner. You are giving each other a chance to really get to know each other.
Below is Emily Fletcher’s favourite five-minute meditation for better sex — partner optional.
Come to Your Senses
This exercise puts you so firmly into your body—into the right now—that it’s hard to be stressed. For the first few times, do the meditation seated with your eyes closed, but once you’ve got the hang of it, you could do it as you’re putting on your lingerie, as you’re making the bed, or as you’re showering.
1. Sit with your back supported and your head free. Take a few breaths, close your eyes, and settle in.
2. Then, walk through each of your five senses.
3. Start with what you’re hearing. What’s the most prevalent sound you can detect right now? And then, if you have extra time, listen for the most subtle.
4. With the next breath, feel what you’re feeling. What’s the most prevalent tactile sensation you can feel right now? Can you feel the chair beneath you, can you feel your skin beneath your clothes? And then, if you have time, what’s the most subtle?
5. With your next breath, move on to what you’re seeing—and it might just be blackness, or the light coming through your eyelids. And then once you get advanced and can do this with your eyes open, just think, what’s the most beautiful thing you can detect right now?
6. Next breath, what’s the most prevalent smell you can smell right now, and what’s the most subtle? And then do the same for taste.
It’s so simple—you’re just walking through each of your senses, and then once you’ve done all five, you want to pull back and see if you can hold all five senses in your awareness at the same time. So hear what you’re hearing, feel what you’re feeling, see what you’re seeing, taste what you’re tasting, and smell what you’re smelling, all at the same time.
Doing this can’t help but improve sex, because sex is such a five-sensory experience.
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Life Lessons For A Modern Peaceful Warrior
- The Facts:
The parable told in the Bhagavad Gita remind us of the eternal challenges that humans face and how to conquer our demons even if we'd rather do nothing.
- Reflect On:
How do you approach tackling the challenges life brings you? Do you find yourself being hard on yourself? Forgetting to be compassionate towards yourself?
The strength to face the challenges in our life always rewards us with a refinement and evolution of our soul regardless if we win or lose the battle.
We all strive to live our soul’s purpose, but sometimes our mind conflicts with our feelings and causes confusion. The Bhagavad Gita is an ancient Hindu text that has an important teaching for those of us who experience this internal struggle. In this story, Arjuna the peaceful warrior is faced with a choice to act or not act in what he feels is a no-win situation for himself. If you have ever felt confusion or inner conflict holding you back, then the timeless wisdom in this story can bring clarity and relief.
Ahimsa is the principle of non-violence, which is a fundamental tenet of Hinduism. It is rooted in the belief that all lives, both human and non-human, are sacred. This is why on the eve of a great war, the choice between duty and non-violence leaves Arjuna in a state of inner conflict in this story. Being a peaceful warrior requires you to stand firmly in your spiritual path, dharma, but sometimes we don’t have the clarity to know what the best choice is. This requires an active fearlessness and non-attachment, which is embodied in the famous parable of Arjuna and Krishna’s discussion on the battlefield.
The story begins with a young prince, Arjuna, who realizes that the enemies he’ll be fighting in an upcoming battle are his own relatives, beloved friends, and revered teachers. He turns to his charioteer confessing his conflicting emotions and his fears. His charioteer is actually the eternally wise Krishna. Here Arjuna talks to Krishna about his confusion:
…it is not proper for us to kill our own kinsmen, the sons of Dhritarashtra. For how, Krishna, shall we be happy after killing our own relatives? If the sons of Dhritarashtra, weapon in hand, should kill me in battle, me weaponless and not defending myself, that would be better for me. – Bhagavad Gita
As he contemplates no action at all and allowing his enemies to kill him, he hopes to stay true to his dedication to non-violence (ahimsa), but Krishna recognizes this as a cop-out. Compassion is said to come in the form of a lamb and a lion. We must accept that we are not perfect. This humility allows each of us to evolve forward from the place that we stand, rather than jump to absolute ideals.
Though Arjuna has mentally justified that he is being fearless and selfless to let his enemies kill him unarmed, he is actually avoiding his own dharma and here Krishna reminds him of this:
One’s own duty, though defective, is better than another’s duty well performed. – Bhagavad Gita
This is a call to hone one’s own inner voice and stay true to it; trusting that there are no wrong choices, only lessons to be learned. Duty is usually associated with something we don’t want to do, but it can feel quite empowering once we accept our role in a situation. When I was in my 20s, I was passionate about the environment and saving the world, but I was broke. I had gone past being able to be picky about a job that would help me pay the bills or feed myself, so I begrudgingly took a job as a landscaper.
Swinging a pick-axe in the hot sun, I was given the task of putting irrigation lines in to grow plants and grass that should not have been planted in the arid climate of Arizona. Non-native, drought-tolerant plants waste precious water in the desert landscape. I was miserable while I worked and felt a bit self-righteous about my sustainability ideals. Angry at the universe that I should have to do such a lowly chore, I put my nose to the grindstone and woke up early every day to make ends meet.
If you have ever felt conflicted about your life path then you will understand this feeling. In acceptance of the task at hand comes a certain humility, self-compassion, a sense of service, mental liberation, and even empowerment. This is central to karma yoga, which teaches us not to be attached to the outcome of our work, but to do it as a form of devotion to our own inner evolution.
Your business is with action alone; not by any means with the fruit of action. Let not the fruit of action be your motive to action. Let not your attachment be fixed on inaction.Therefore, always perform action, which must be performed, without attachment. For a man, performing action without attachment attains the Supreme. – Krishna to Arjuna
Even the most mundane actions in our day-to-day life are the result of choices we have made. The parable of Arjuna’s indecision on the battlefield is an extreme expression of this common circumstance and that is why it holds such value for us today. With clarity of mind, or mindfulness, along with personal accountability and non-attachment to outcome, we can have the courage to face any battle. A situation can be terrifying and feel like life or death even if it is not. The strength to face the challenges in our life always rewards us with a refinement and evolution of our soul, regardless if we win or lose the battle.
To one that is born, death is certain; and to one that dies, birth is certain. Therefore, you should not grieve about things that are unavoidable. – Krishna to Arjuna
Sometimes it is the fear itself that dies (or an ego death) on this journey. Each one of us is here at this time for something greater than we can know or understand. The world is filled with terrifying possibilities, and mistakes are easy to come by. Sometimes the fear of making the wrong choice is scarier than the choices themselves, yet we are all here to fail as much as we are here to succeed.
Anyone with great success can also boast many failures. In this process, we learn to be more compassionate to ourselves and to those who have wronged us with their own poor behavior. The journey of soul evolution continues regardless. We must always put one foot in front of the other, and the path will appear with each step.
In this path to final emancipation, nothing that is commenced becomes wasted effort; no obstacles exist; and even a little of this form of sacred duty protects one from great danger. – Krishna to Arjuna
Knowing that we are in line with our dharma, and on the path (not the right path or the wrong path, just on the path), we begin to liberate and empower ourselves. These ancient parables, like the one told in the Bhagavad Gita, are meant to remind us of the eternal challenges that humans face and how to conquer our demons, even if we’d rather do nothing. Arjuna contemplates not taking up arms in battle, but after speaking with Krishna he follows his dharma and fights.
Being a peaceful warrior does not mean that you should be without your sword, as you never know when you might be called to unsheathe it. You can stand fearlessly in whatever circumstance you may face, knowing that you are not alone on the journey to personal evolution.
Great News: Meditation Is On The Rise Among U.S. Adults & Kids
- The Facts:
Meditation is on the rise in the US amongst adults, kids and teens! A new NIH survey revealed increases in both yoga and meditation amongst said age demographics over the last 5 years. It appears people are turning within!
- Reflect On:
Have you tried meditation before? What is your perspective on what meditation even is? If you find yourself falling off meditation regularly, simplify your process and practice. Try out the free meditation at the bottom of the article.
11 years. The amount of time I have been observing the truth about what is going on in our world.
10 years. The amount of time I have been meditating while also learning about what is going on in our world.
Point blank: the benefits of meditation for health, lifestyle, wellness, and being able to see more clearly what’s going on in our world are undeniable.
I’ve said this for a very long time, there is no separation between what you can learn via independent media about what’s truly happening in our world and spirituality. Sure, this is a more specific statement when you are accessing conscious media, like what we do here at Collective Evolution, but in general, the world around us IS a reflection of our individual and collective consciousness. For us to properly understand our world and move past what we don’t favor, we must understand the nature of why certain things are happening in the first place. And no, it’s not because of political policies.
This is why it’s inspiring to see that more and more people are becoming friends with meditation. Trying it is half the battle!
The good news is that in the last 5 years, the number of American adults and children who practice meditation has significantly increased. This is known through the results of a questionnaire administered by the National Health Interview Survey (NHIS) every 5 years. Thousands of Americans respond to questions about their health, wellness, and illness-related experiences.
Results indicate that about 14 percent of adults practiced yoga and meditation in 2017. That’s up from about 9.5 percent and 4 percent respectively compared to a similar survey fielded five years ago.
“The survey data suggest that more people are turning to mind and body approaches than ever before,” NCCIH acting director David Shurtleff said in a press release.
Kids & Teens Are Meditating More Too
Children between the ages 4 to 17 are also practicing yoga more often. Those numbers jumped from 3.1 percent in 2012 to 8.4 percent in 2017. Meditation rose by around 5% as well amongst younger people, jumping from 0.6 percent in 2012 to 5.4 percent in 2017.
What is the cause of this increase? It’s tough to say. Personally, I point to what we have pointed to over the last 10 years in reporting about news, consciousness and more here at CE: there is a shift taking place within our individual and collective consciousness. At a foundational level, we are moving from the mind to the heart a hell of a lot more often because we, as a collective, feel the old ways simply aren’t working anymore and it’s time for something different.
When there is an innate evolution of consciousness like this taking place across the planet, trends begin, increase and we eventually see what sticks. Meditation is an age-old practice and its benefits were always widely discussed. Now that people are realizing the corporate influence over science and general health care, they are turning to different methods for certain daily challenges and illnesses. Maybe not virally yet, but it’s growing.
As I have always said, if you feel our world around us is chaotic with all that is going on, there is no better reason to begin meditation. I work in media every day, combing through the different stories, drama and crazy reactions people are having to our world events. You would think it’s exhausting, negative or taxing, but it isn’t. The reason for this is I have developed a deep meditative practice over the years that has helped me see the truth about myself, the world and us all as humans. Drama, negativity and polarity are things of the ego. The less you exist in that state, the more you see things for what they are and remain in peace. It’s powerful. Once again, this is why CE is built the way it is. neutral, conscious media that explores the deep truth behind our daily events.
We believe this form of media is truly what the world needs in a time where things are so divided, bias, misleading and emotional. This is why we created our conscious media movement campaign as well.
Here are some further details from the report regarding adults:
– Yoga was the most commonly used complementary health approach among U.S. adults in 2012 (9.5 percent) and 2017 (14.3 percent). The use of meditation increased more than threefold from 4.1 percent in 2012 to 14.2 percent in 2017.
– The use of chiropractors increased from 9.1 percent in 2012 to 10.3 percent in 2017.
– In 2017, women were more likely to use yoga, meditation and chiropractors in the past 12 months than men.
– Non-Hispanic white adults were more likely to use yoga, meditation and chiropractors than Hispanic and non-Hispanic black adults.
And here are some for children:
– The percentage of children aged 4-17 years who used yoga in the past 12 months increased significantly from 3.1 percent in 2012 to 8.4 percent in 2017.
– Meditation increased significantly from 0.6 percent in 2012 to 5.4 percent in 2017.
– There was no statistically significant difference in the use of a chiropractor between 2012 and 2017 (3.5 percent and 3.4 percent, respectively).
– In 2017, girls were more likely to have used yoga during the past 12 months than boys.
– In 2017, older children (aged 12-17 years) were more likely to have used meditation and a chiropractor in the past 12 months than younger children (aged 4-11 years).
– Non-Hispanic white children were more likely to have used yoga and a chiropractor in the past 12 months than non-Hispanic black children or Hispanic children.
When it comes to daily life, or when you dive into understanding what is happening in our world, there are serious benefits to including meditation into this practice. I go into this in deep detail when I discuss the link between ‘conspiracies’ and spirituality in an episode of the CE podcast.
Meditation is an excellent practice to be using regularly as it not only helps in exploring our consciousness, changing our lives, making an impact on our world but also helps us to find ease and peace within what we see happening around us. From there, from the state of peace, we actually see VERY CLEARLY the actions to take in order to help make change. You will notice they never come from an aggressive, emotional place – like much of what we see happening today.
Not sure where to get started with meditation? Grab this meditation I have used for the last 10 years that I built from a number of different techniques. It’s simple, quick and effective.
New Moon In Scorpio: Deep Growth & Constructive Change
We are having a New Moon in Scorpio on November 7th at 4:02 pm Universal Time. This is initiating a 29.5-day Lunar cycle and a new wave of energy for the coming month. This cycle will peak at the Full Moon in Gemini that is occurring on November 22nd/23rd.
The Sun has already been in Scorpio for the previous few weeks yet this New Moon will trigger this energy even more so. This sign is associated with power, transformation, sexuality, regeneration, passion, and depth. It is calculated, complex, mysterious and also associated with money/resourceS when it is shared, as well as inheritances, and debts.
It can be also vengeful, secretive, manipulative, fearful, compulsive, and obsessive. As a fixed water sign, it is emotional, intuitive, and strong-willed. However, Scorpio can be very stealthy when it comes to exposing their true feelings, emotions, and vulnerabilities.
The Sun and Moon are moving towards a sextile with Pluto which is a modern sub-ruler of Scorpio. This aspect emphasizes what I have already written especially the positive qualities of this sign. This can be a great energy for making positive change, overcoming fears, and breaking out of challenges that are holding us back. Jupiter is also in its final day in Scorpio which also reinforces some this energy.
Scorpio Ruler Mars Trine Venus Retrograde
At the time of this New Moon, Mars in Aquarius is making a trine to Venus retrograde in Libra, which will be strongest a few days later. This is occurring in Air signs while Venus is in its last week of its retrograde. This can be a great energy for social interactions, romance, or perhaps even working on something creative or aesthetic, especially if it was initiated in the past.
However, with Venus still being retrograde, whatever occurs during this period will also play a role in the reorientation of how we apply ourselves in Venus ruled areas which will conclude in the coming weeks. Venus rules relationships (socially and romantically), money, beauty, love, values, as well as creativity and pleasures. You can read more about this Venus retrograde here.
Jupiter Entering Sagittarius, Mercury Going Retrograde Soon
As mentioned above, Jupiter is changing signs less than a day after this New Moon. It has been in Scorpio since October 2017 and transitions to its home sign of Sagittarius where it will stay until December 2019. However, its themes have been gradually building up since July after it ended its last retrograde.
Jupiter is the planet of travel, luck, higher education, experience, exploration, philosophy, religion, beliefs and is ‘big picture’ oriented. In its own sign of Sagittarius, Jupiter gets to express these energies at its fullest potential as Sagittarius is also associated with the same things. This next year is a period to expand and broaden our horizons. The area of life that will be affected by Jupiter in Sagittarius also depends on what house it is travelling in and what planets it is interacting within your natal chart.
Mercury is also slowing down to go retrograde on November 16th/17th, so it is possible that you may have started to notice some common retrograde complications. The pre-shadow period for it began on October 28th/29th and therefore some developments that have occurred since then may go through some changes and adjustments during (and following) the retrograde period which ends on December 6th/7th.
Interestingly, most of this retrograde occurs in Sagittarius, and this combined with Jupiter (and the Sun eventually) really highlights Sagittarian themes during that period. I will be writing a separate article on this Mercury Retrograde, you can be notified when it is released by joining my mailing list here.
Lunar Nodes Changing Signs, Uranus Re-Enters Aries While Square Nodes
Less than a day before this New Moon, the Lunar Nodes change from the Leo/Aquarius axis (where they have been since May 2017) and into the Cancer/Capricorn axis. They will stay there for the following 18 months and will also be triggered by upcoming eclipses as well as a previous Solar Eclipse in Cancer.
This is beginning a process of changes of how we work with energies of these signs. This is pushing us towards being more caring, protective, nurturing, and connecting emotionally with loved ones. It is also about making changes towards structures and ambitions that do not serve us.
Uranus retrograde is also returning to Aries less than an hour after the Lunar Nodes change signs (Nov 6th) while it is in a square aspect with them. This is a rare occurrence. The square between Uranus and the Nodes could reflect challenges and developments which ultimately help us to consider the past and the future, or between old behaviours and new ways of expressing ourselves. This could also indicate a turning point for some.
With Uranus changing signs its energy gets amplified and this could reflect sudden changes, disruptions, surprises, and sometimes accidents. Perhaps we can also be revisiting a theme connected to authentic individuality which has been playing out since 2011. Whenever Uranus transitions signs it can be pretty obvious by observing news media and looking at what is happening in the world in the days surrounding it.
Making Intentions And Things To Consider
What has been coming up for you over the last month regarding social/romantic relationships, matters of love, sexuality, or money? What do you need to shift in how you apply yourself in these areas? What part of your life should you approach with greater depth and realness? What can you release or transform to help empower you? What fears do you need to overcome, or perhaps you have already began doing so? How can you expand and broaden your horizons?
These are just some examples of what to consider or focus your intentions on at this time, however, it is good to reflect on anything else that is coming up for you. It is generally best to make any intentions within the first 24 hours following a New Moon. However, the closer the better and can be as early as 30 minutes prior to the exact moment of it. This New Moon will be occurring at 4:02pm Universal Time. You can click here to see what that is in your time zone.
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