We are on the cusp of a whole new chapter in love, relationships, and sexuality.
The old ways are dying, and more quickly every day. We no longer define relationships like our parents and grandparents did. We are redefining love in every way. And we know that we are missing something in our sex lives – that it’s more than just going for a simple orgasm, that we’re supposed to feel differently afterwards, that it’s supposed to bring us closer together, and that it’s supposed to be a kind of spiritual experience that truly leaves us content, blissful, and happy.
And so we are writing a new mythology for the generations to come.
Joseph Campbell defines a mythology as a cultural framework for a society or people to educate their young. We are the result of the stories of the mythology that we were raised in. But those old rules, constructs, and boxes just aren’t working for us anymore. And the next generation isn’t buying them. They are looking for something much more in life.
The Next Generation
I first observed this in my own children and their friends. When I first started teaching and sharing tantra, my kids were teenagers and so there was always a pile of kids in our home. And so we would often gather in our living room and talk. We would discuss how tantric intimacy worked — how it wasn’t all about sex, but rather about connection; how there were so many ways to intimately connect with someone without even taking your clothes off.
And we would also talk about sexuality because the whole topic was still taboo and connected with shame, and they were all sexually active.Yet the idea that they could have mind-blowing, intimate, loving experiences that would stay with them for days (and years) instead of the uncomfortable and short-lived pleasure of what was happening in the back of their parents’ minivan was incredibly appealing!
We Are Waking Up
But it isn’t just the young people who know that there’s more. I see it in all my workshops and courses.
People walk in unsure of what exactly is going to happen. But as the workshop begins, I see people relax into a space where they just listen and watch. When I ask if they have questions, they say, “No, just keep going.” And then later we do a check-in and the number one response is, “You are saying what I’ve known inside for so long, but I just couldn’t put it into words… and I didn’t know how to apply them to my life.”
Tantra is what we are made for. It is the most natural way to love, relate, and be intimate with others. It requires no tricks and no fancy techniques. But what it does require is to let go of the programming that we’ve gathered from the mythologies and stories that our society has been built on. And there are no short-cuts. We can’t skip the first step and go on to step two. We have to do the work.
We truly have to evolve.
The Next Stage Of Love, Relationships, & Sexuality
1. We Will Experience Real Love
One of the foundations of tantra is to experience divine energy running through us in every aspect of our lives.
Love is this divine energy.
This hasn’t changed from our previous mythologies. We have always been taught that love was kind, compassionate, eternal, and healing, and that our lives are completely fulfilled when we have it.
Previously, we have tried to control it, keep it, and define it, but we know that trying to control divine energy is a lot like trying to herd cats. The more you try to control it, the more it slips out of your hands. And if you try to put it in a box to keep it forever, it will simply die or disappear.
Instead, we will relax and know that we are filled with love all of the time. It is within us. It is in everyone around us and we can access it any time we want.
And when we have done our personal work, we won’t “need” the love of another to make us feel whole, happy, or worthy. Instead, we will simply feel love, give love, and receive love. We will know what a gift it is. But since we are complete unto ourselves, we will allow love to flow naturally — no controlling it, just allowing it to flow from us into others and allowing it to nourish us completely.
2. We Will Experience True Connection
Carl Jung once said that “The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.”
Because tantra connects us with the divine within us, we feel strong enough in ourselves to be vulnerable. We are able to drop our walls and barriers to each other.
When we do this, that infinite, divine aspect of us starts to flow. And when two open people connect these infinite energies, we can go to places that we can’t go alone.
This includes all of our intimate connections. Imagine being wonderfully present and open with your children, parents, siblings, friends, colleagues, and even strangers on the street — truly impacting each other’s lives simply by being present and loving and open.
No fears, rules, expectations or roles to play — just being fully present with each other, sharing your essence.
Genuine connection all of the time.
3. We Will Experience True Tantric Sexuality
Intimate tantric union is like nothing we’ve experienced in previous stages.
Previously, because sexuality was taboo, we were not taught anything. But going forward, learning the art of lovemaking will be as normal as learning to drive a car. Since we are going beyond the primal urge of procreation and simple intercourse, we must learn the wisdom of the ancients to access what we are truly capable of.
We will be completely open and vulnerable and so we will be able to truly merge with another. As we make love, our bodies will disappear into each other. There will be no sense of giver and receiver, because we will be completely joined – body, mind, and spirit.
Within this union, the infinite parts of ourselves will combine and dance and play together. Each time will be completely new and different. After all, how many ways can you combine infinity?
Our breath and focus will carry the orgasmic energy from our genitals throughout our whole body. As this energy courses through one body, it will flow into the other’s. And this energy will circulate and build upon itself, taking us to places that we can’t even imagine.
This lovemaking will nourish every cell in our body, mind, and spirit. It will not “just be sex.” It will be an incredible intimate connection.
A true connection of souls.
It’s Time For A New Mythology
The Iroquois say that with each decision, we must consider the impact on the next seven generations.
So what do we want for the generations to come? What will our legacy be?
For the first time in our existence, we have the freedom, time, and desire to explore the deeper aspects of being human. We are able to expand into who we are. In many parts of the world, there is equality between the sexes. So there is full freedom to truly expand into who we truly are as physical and spiritual beings.
And it isn’t just for the young. It’s for all of us who hear the call. And you know who you are because you hear a “yes” inside of you.
Because it’s time. And it’s so exciting!
The Top Reasons Why We Resist Change & How To Stop
- The Facts:
We resist change for many reasons, but ultimately, this comes down to our core. We want to hold onto belief systems, being right, stories that protect our egos. Alternatively, we may fear the unknown, but what is that fear?
- Reflect On:
Why do you feel the way you do about certain changes in your life? Must you feel this way? Why do some people embrace change better than others? Is it perhaps they give less power to the stories of their mind?
Our world is full of change right now, and for good reason! Deep down we know and feel that something is a bit ‘stale,’ and we’re following that feeling with outward projections of emotions about our system, politics, what others do, our jobs – quite frankly, many of us are feeling frustrated with how things are.
But do you ever notice yourself resisting events happening in your life? We all go through many different experiences, this article is not to say we cannot make changes and choose to avoid un-favorable experiences entirely, it is simply to say, sometimes we can find ourselves being very resistant to changes that are going on in our lives, and this causes a lot of suffering and ‘stuckness.’
From positive to negative, pain to happiness, laughter to suffering, we must always remember that these are all just experiences. They are part of what allows us to grow and move towards a greater awareness within our soul and life experience.
As tough experiences happen, whether it be a breakup, a lost job, having to move to a new place, not having enough finances, finishing something that can be challenging etc, we generally have two choices. We can choose the route of remaining upset and resisting the whole process, making it very difficult to learn from as we inevitably get stuck in judging what is happening. Or we can choose to accept it for the time being as something that is in our path, a certain temporary barrier if you will, and see what we can gain from it in terms of growth. As we react to the situations, observe the thoughts and emotions that present themselves. ‘Why am I so upset about a lost job?” “Why am I so worried about change?” “What do these changes represent to me that make me feel upset?” “Why am I trying to control the experience so heavily?”
Why We Resist Change – The Core Truth
Now it might be easy to say that these are all natural feelings anyone would feel when going through these experiences because they are ‘human nature,’ but this would not be true, simply because these reactions are learned behaviours we get from how we have been taught to react to certain experiences. It is not an innate knowing from our soul for us to be upset and freak out when we lose a job for example. Some of us react and some of us don’t. These reactions are typically fueled by our own patterns, triggers, belief systems, fears, and can be further fueled by collective consciousness. This is why we resist change, plain and simple. We are protecting or running from the various aspects of ourselves listed above that keep us confined in our minds, re-playing the same reactions and experiences over and over.
Some people will suggest that some of us embrace change better than others, the simple answer to why that is is that some of us don’t give as much power to our minds stories. That’s truly all it is at its core. Not resisting change comes down to letting go of the mind’s stories about everything you do or are about to do.
We are very much in control of how we feel during inevitable changes and challenges as we can choose to disempower the suffering that we often dive into. The truth is, we can feel peace in many of these circumstances, we simply need to remain conscious, aware and reflective as the events play out, and pay attention to what might be pulling us out of peace. We can, of course, FEEL what is first expressed, sit with it and truly understand it, but how long we sit with this is up to us, and is not the fault of the experience.
Resisting change is sometimes like trying to swim against the current. Sometimes we do not always see the perfection in what might be playing out so we try hard to keep it all in place i.e. we resist! Think about letting go of the need to control and instead let things go and flow as they need to. In most cases, we find that things are never as bad as we often assume they will be, and in the end, we feel great for having experienced it all.
How We Can Stop Resisting Change
So next time we find ourselves resisting, remember to try out these steps:
1. Pause for a moment in the situation
2. Observe your current emotions, sit with them if you must. Taking the time to slow down and understand what is going on within you will give you clarity so you aren’t simply saying “I’m mad” but instead are able to say “I’m mad because I’m feeling insecure or disempowered or disrespected etc”
3. Reflect on why these things truly bother you. As you understand what the emotions or triggers are that are coming up you will see what power you give to them and why.
4. Let go of what you are trying to control or avoid (keeping yourself out of danger of course)
5. Choose to take the situation moment by moment without judging it
6. Write down how you feel if it helps, likewise, you can talk to someone.
Why am I afraid of what’s to come? What are all the possible reasons that come up in my mind?
What do I feel is going to happen that I’m so worried about? Will it affect how people perceive me? My financial stability? Where do these stories even come from? Society? My friends? Parents?
The bottom line is, when you notice yourself going back to the same frustrations, judgements, anger, blame, fear, worry, or anxiety about something, you know there is something there that’s triggering you, and it’s within you. The only way to peace and moving beyond that suffering is through processing the emotions and letting go of the belief systems, patterns of ideas in your mind that are causing such reactions.
New Moon In Sagittarius: Pursuing Ideals
We are having a New Moon in Sagittarius on December 7th, 2018 in most of the world and late night December 6th in Western North America. This is initiating a 29.5-day Lunar cycle and a new wave of energy for the coming month. This cycle will peak at the Full Moon in Cancer on December 22nd.
The Sun entered Sagittarius on November 22nd, while Jupiter and Mercury Retrograde have also been in this sign, so we have already been experiencing much of its qualities already. However, in this case we can experience more of a ‘kick start’ of Sagittarian energies due to this New Moon as well as Mercury beginning to move forward.
Sagittarius is about exploration, experience, learning/teaching, travel, foreign countries, philosophies, beliefs, idealism, and optimism. It is also associated with things like marketing, media, and sales. It is passionate and instinctual, yet can be excessive, blunt, egotistical, argumentative, opinionated, preachy, unrealistic, and have a ‘know-it-all’ complex. However, this New Moon is an opportunity to work with Sagittarian energies in new or revamped ways.
Mercury has been retrograde since mid-November which ends 10 hours before this New Moon. Since then, we could have been experiencing some adjustments, challenges, realizations, or a different outlook in certain areas of our lives connected to Sagittarian themes mentioned. From this point on until December 24th, we will gain more clarity, momentum, productivity, or final conclusions around the aspects of our lives that been affected by the retrograde.
It is good to look back at the period between November 25th-28th which was the most significant part of this retrograde. Certain thoughts, conversations, and developments that occurred during that time could provide some of the more important realizations and understandings which could influence how things develop over the coming months. However, it is also important to see how things fall into place over the coming weeks.
New Moon Square Mars-Neptune Conjunction In Pisces
Mars in Pisces has been moving towards a conjunction with Neptune which peaks at this New Moon, yet this energy will also affect the entire lunar cycle to a certain degree. This can be good for doing anything creative, spiritual, inspiring, idealistic, compassionate, relaxing, selfless, or something that involves water. It can make us more easy going, in the flow, and could even feel magical for some people.
Escapism or intoxication tendencies can also be strong for people who are more susceptible to that. Our actions or drive can also be unrealistic and fantasy based. Considering that Mercury is also changing motion during the peak of this aspect, it can be more difficult to do mundane and practical tasks. We can also experience more challenges or delays due to lack of attention or cloudy thinking.
This conjunction is in a square with the New Moon in Sagittarius, which can contribute to being less focused, scattered, and/or confused. Perhaps in some cases there can be a conflict around beliefs and opinions. However, this square can also be good for taking creative, spiritual, visual, or inspired action towards Sagittarius activities related to learning/teaching, travel, or media.
Mercury In Grand Trine With Chiron and North Node while in a Quincunx With Uranus
As Mercury ends its retrograde in late Scorpio, it stays nearly still while in a grand trine with Chiron in Pisces and the North Node in Cancer. Our thinking or communications can have themes connected to healing, holistic understanding, unorthodox approaches, bridging ideas/things, wholeness, and spiritual integration.
Considerations of the future and where we are headed could come up. Moving forward instead of staying stuck in the past, or perhaps utilizing challenges of the past to help us move forward. This grand trine is occurring in water signs which can make this energy emotional, passionate, sensitive, and intuitive.
Mercury is also in a quincunx with Uranus which is strongest from December 9th -12th. This occurs just before Mercury returns to Sagittarius. This can manifest as disruptions, unexpected developments, or changes which could require us to make necessary adjustments.
This can also play out as challenges around communication, or perhaps previously unforeseen details coming into our awareness which could require a change in the way think about something. In some cases, this period can have some complications that are usually associated with Mercury retrograde.
Venus Still In Post-Retrograde Shadow Period, Moving Towards Sextile With Saturn
Although Venus ended its retrograde in mid-November, the ‘post-retrograde shadow’ period is a month long in itself. This is when it appears to gradually pick up speed in forward motion and travels back to the same parts of the zodiac where it was previously during the retrograde.
During this time, we gain more clarity, as well as forward moving developments regarding Venus, ruled areas of love, relationships, friendships, values, money, aesthetic undertakings, life’s pleasures, or perhaps other social themes. It is possible there could be some significant Venus related developments that could occur between December 6th-9th, and more likely from December 7th-8th. If so, it could be connected to what was playing out or thoughts that have occurred in late October.
Venus is also moving towards a sextile with Saturn in Capricorn which is exact on December 16th, the same day that the Venus shadow period ends. This could also be another significant period for some people regarding Venus issues. Perhaps there can be some sort of conclusion to what the Venus retrograde was about for you.
The aspect with Saturn could bring some stabilizing or solidifying energy to Venus-ruled areas, and perhaps can having something to do with commitments or responsibilities. Mars will also be in a sextile with Pluto at the same time. These energies combined can be good for making great progress in different areas of life, depending on how this is all interacting with your personal natal chart.
Making Intentions And Things To Consider
What insights or developments have occurred in the last few days? What thoughts or intuitions have you been having? Have there been any synchronicities or repeating themes coming up around you, through communications with others, or perhaps through any type of media you have been consuming? How does that connect to what has been playing out for you over the last 5 weeks? How do you currently think you should proceed based on this?
In what ways do you need to expand in your life? What can you do to better live your truth? Have your beliefs or perspectives changed or perhaps challenged? What are your relationships showing you? What are your ideals?
These are just some examples of what to consider or focus your intentions on at this time, however, it is good to reflect on anything else that is coming up for you. It is generally best to make any intentions within the first 24 hours following a New Moon. However, the closer the better and can be as early as 30 minutes prior to the exact moment of it. This New Moon will be occurring at 7:20am Universal Time on December 7th. You can click here to see what that is in your time zone.
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The Deep State Has A Big Problem In France, Here’s Why
- The Facts:
We are seeing glimpses of unity in France that could be an opportunity to show the world what it looks like when you don't play the Deep State's game.
- Reflect On:
We power the system of the deep state, as does our consciousness. If we simply unite, come together, and walk away from their game, will they have anyone to play with?
It’s a fiery scene in France. On Saturdays during protests, tear gas fills the air in Paris as the ‘Yellow Vests’ gather in the tens of thousands to protest against a new fuel tax that pushed citizens over the edge.
Clashes between police and protesters were in the plenty as this became the biggest and most violent protest in over 50 years for France. But there was a slightly different scene just a few days ago as police officers began removing their helmets in solidarity with protestors – as guess what, they are people too! And they are affected by the wealth squeezing decisions coming from the Macron administration. We covered this story in deep detail here.
In this article, we turn our attention to something slightly different. Yes, we will still discuss this unifying event of police removing their helmets, and firefighters turning their backs on elected officials, but we will be diving into the deeper aspects of what these signs of unity can mean if they spread.
Peace and Unity Evolves Us Beyond Our Current Woes
Think of someone who masterfully takes insults from another while remaining calm and simply responding with intellect until the other person either leaves the conversation or has no choice but to open up to the points being made by the one they attack. It’s also like the martial art of Aikido which is one of peace and non-violence. It uses the energy of an attacker to dismantle the attacker, without any other force. In essence, it opts out of getting riled up or triggered by apparent attacks and instead remains in peace. Situations are diffused and peace ensues.
This is what we are seeing glimpses of when we watch police, firefighters, and protesters unify as people. Beyond their uniforms, they are all just people, living through an experience that affects them all. This is a terrifying reality for the Deep State as they and their system thrives off of humanity being divided, at war with one another and emotionally triggered and invested in the cabals system.
This is probably one of the biggest reasons why mainstream media doesn’t talk about this particular story, one where people are unifying. Instead, they want to focus on the crazy, wild protester vs the calm, needed police who protect the establishment.
These images are truly an incredible thing to see as they inspire a knowing within us that when we come together in peace, we not only SEE each other but we can evolve beyond the challenges we face. We KNOW this deep down. It’s truly beautiful.
in the video below, I go into much greater detail about what is going on in France and why the Deep State are likely shaking.
Solving the issues we face as humanity within ourselves, systems and structures come down to elevating our consciousness to a place where we no longer seek to solve issues within the level of consciousness that created them to begin with, but to solve them from a whole new state altogether.
Enough with the polarity right fighting, comparison, and let’s begin unifying under a peaceful state of being that simply walks away from the game of the deep state. Without our participation, they have no power. We are seeing glimpses of this in France.
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