Romantic relationships mean different things to different people. On the one hand, they can be one of the most satisfying and fulfilling endeavours we ever undertake, while on the other hand, they can leave you feeling completely depleted and heart broken.
There are some things that are important to remember if you’re looking to have a spiritually satisfying relationship:
Nourish Your Spirit—Don’t Starve It
Although the spirit is not something that can be broken, there are certain experiences that can make you feel as though you are broken and depleted. There are also certain partners that can uplift, empower, and inspire you. When you choose a partner that creates chaos and drama in your life, you are choosing to allow that partner to be the focal point of your day.
If you’ve ever been in a toxic relationship, you know that it takes a lot of time and energy to maintain. In some cases, it takes a lot more energy from you than it gives. So, it’s important to recognize that when you have a toxic partner (or friend) in part of your life, you are agreeing to spend a great amount of time and energy on that person — and the challenges that come with them — rather than on yourself.
When you have a partner that uplifts and supports you and challenges you to grow, your relationship becomes about self-betterment instead of self-depletion.
Own Your Happiness
One of the most common relationship traps that I’ve found myself in on multiple occasions is to expect your partner to make you happy — or anyone else. We put a ton of pressure on the people in our lives when we do this and it’s simply unreasonable.
No one is “supposed” to make you happy. You are.
Make time to do the things you love. Make time to spend with those you love. Choose the career that fits you because people rarely say, “Stop making me happy, make yourself happy instead.” It takes someone who already owns their happiness to say something like that and mean it.
Let Your Partner Be
Osho said, “If you love a flower, don’t pick it up because if you pick it up, it dies and it ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.”
I love this quote because it presents an entirely different view of love. So many of us fall in love with our partners and then spend the relationship trying to change them into what we think they should be. If we maintain a stance of appreciation instead of possession then we release the responsibility of changing them. We allow them to be who they are and we give ourselves the opportunity to sit back and learn from what they have to teach us.
Enjoy The Journey
Relationships take us places. We learn from each other, get married, have kids, grow old, have new experiences and so on. But that’s the highlight reel. Relationships aren’t only about the moments that we like to share on Facebook. There are dark moments in every partnership. There are highs and lows, just like life. When we are consistently looking for the “big moments” we miss out on all of the beautiful times in between. We forget to appreciate the challenges that helped us grow into the people we are today. It’s important to remember to appreciate the journey every moment we can.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional. After a few rough relationships, I went through a period where I retreated so far deeply away from everyone but a select few people that I trusted. I built up so much emotional baggage and I hid behind it all. Hiding behind our barriers give us the false impression of safety. In truth, there is no way to avoid pain. Even when you prevent yourself from making new, healthy relationships, you’re depriving yourself of growth, learning, and moving forward, and that’s painful too.
After years of denying myself new relationships I realized that the pain was never the problem, it was the fear of having the same experience that was the problem. Humans are interesting creatures. We get hurt and our ego tries to keep us from repeating that same action because we believe that it will happen again in the same way.
This mechanism can be useful. For example, we usually only need to touch a hot stove once to know that it hurts, so then we don’t do it again. In the case of a painful relationship, the solution isn’t to avoid relationships altogether but to determine our feelings and deal with them appropriately. When we hide from our feelings and new experiences, we prevent ourselves from learning from them, and we often repeat the same experience. In spiritual terms, hiding from our emotions would block the heart center (or heart chakra).
If you have a blocked heart chakra, days can feel emotionally very heavy, relationships can be difficult to maintain, and it can be difficult to connect to others or be vulnerable at all. It can also make it difficult to go into social situations and meet new people. If you feel like this is the case for you, try out the mediation below; it’s specifically designed for unblocking the heart chakra of “heaviness” and opening it to new, positive experiences:
New relationships are exciting. So exciting that we can get lost in them.
There are some things that cannot be compromised. Always be aware of your own wants and needs in addition to your partner’s.
The key to harmony is a union of two complete, independent souls walking alongside each other.
All relationships are different but these are a few of the ingredients that I’ve found I cannot go without in any relationship. I hope that you’ve found them useful and if you have any to share, feel free to post them in the comments below.
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Why ‘Conspiracy Theories’ & Spirituality Are Intimately Connected
- The Facts:
Refusing to understand how our world truly functions and simply calling exploration into this as 'negative' is a common spiritual bypass. The elite/cabal is here for a reason, we must understand that.
- Reflect On:
Why do we find ourselves calling conspiracies negative or something we should not talk about? Why do we refuse to face some of the 'darker' things inside, or even outside, of ourselves?
Is it considered ‘not spiritual’ to talk about an elite or cabal running our world? This has become a commonplace today, and there is a great deal of ridicule that comes when people feel looking at the truth of what is playing out in our world is ‘crazy’ or a ‘negative’ thing to do. In fact, the ‘negative’ label on conspiracy theories we place is one of the biggest spiritual bypasses we can do. Let’s dive into this.
The truth is, understanding the way our world truly functions and consciousness evolution (spirituality) go hand in hand. Why? Because it is all part of life here. It is not separate! You don’t have spirituality on one side and conspiracies or truth on the other. It’s all interconnected in our life and human experience. And it’s time to bring them together.
Note: I did an amazing CE Podcast episode on this subject you can listen to here. It goes even deeper into the subject than this article.
This isn’t true 100% of the time of course, but in a lot of cases, we see those in the truth-seeking realm feel consciousness or spirituality is airy fairy and has no place in the big picture and is just a new age distraction. On the flip side, we see those engaged in spirituality-seeking feel conspiracy/truth-seeking people are crazy and negative. While there is truth to some extent in both cases, there is a lot more to the discussion and a very important purpose for both.
You’ve probably experienced it at some point, it’s believable that GMO’s are unhealthy and corporations are using them to make money in a number of ways but it’s damaging to people and the environment, but yet there is no possible way that’s happening with vaccines… or that 9/11 was an inside job. Let me be the first to say, there are a number of conspiracy theories that have no backing, no facts, are far-reaching and in many cases don’t even help us along our journey. But this is not the case with many, in fact, the amount of evidence is often staggering and it’s simply that we don’t want to believe it.
I’m writing this because I’m calling for an end of the reduction of conversation to ‘that’s crazy’ ‘that’s fake news’ ‘that’s a conspiracy’ etc. as it does nothing but maintain division, a lack of awareness and a misinformed world that can’t thrive. Time and time again what is often called ‘conspiracy’ turns out to be true only a few months or a year later. We can end this cycle by learning and choosing to listen instead of dismissing, then checking in with our hearts/souls about what role this is playing in our experience so we can dissolve the need for the cabal.
Why They Go Hand In Hand
Some of us view spirituality as learning techniques to feel good, as ways to cope with life and the challenges we have in our modern world. Some view it as a means to begin to feel better about the prospect of death. Others view it as a way to explore what’s beyond the physical and who we truly are.
From a conspiratorial side, when we’re talking about digging past mainstream media to find out what’s really going on in our world, some view it as a way to disempower the elite that does not have humanities best interests at heart. Others view it as a way to take back our power. Some see it as a way to uncover the truth of how our world truly works so we can begin to thrive. Some react to these truths with wanting revenge or justice, this is an important thing to note as this is where the spirituality comes in.
So it appears we have ‘two sides’ as we often like to do within ego states of consciousness. But what role does the elite and cabal play in our experience? How has that served to suppress our spirituality and why has it all happened? The two are intimately connected because part of the game we are playing on earth here is that we have to uncover what has been happening in our reality and remember who we truly are. This is a spiritual journey, that involves understanding the players in the game and the roles they play.
I’ve been running a conscious media and education company for 9.5 years now. Our mission is to bridge the gap between truth-seeking and spirituality via exploring a shift in consciousness taking place on our planet. We understand that both are part of one big picture in life and you can only go so far in each before you MUST bring in the other to deepen your understanding.
During the 9.5 years since I started Collective Evolution, I have seen thousands of people go through various stages of discovering and learning, both in truth-seeking and spirituality, that has sent them on different paths. Some begin to discover our food system is rigged for a lack of health and they begin eating cleaner. This leads them to understand our entire world is ‘rigged against us’ and suddenly there is a shift in how they see the world. I have seen others attend a yoga class and this begins a journey into connecting with self deeply.
But in both cases, I often see an identity form. The yogi becomes identified as a ‘spiritual person,’ dresses a certain way, talks a certain way and may refuse to look at anything the ‘truth-seekers’ are saying because they don’t want to fall into that crowd. The truth-seekers are often angry, pissed off at the world, call everyone else sheeple and think the elite need to die in prisons. They might look at the ‘yogi’ or ‘spiritual’ crowd as having fallen into pseudo-scientific new age deception because they look at consciousness and spirituality.
Then there are those who have journeyed beyond that stage and are simply authentic and understand how both ingredients, truth-seeking and spirituality, are one in the same and part of the journey. They are both a part of this game we call life and if we truly want to evolve, move forward, remove the cabal and so forth, we must see the truth and learn why it was there in the first place for our own evolution in consciousness.
The video below explores the role the elite/cabal play in our spiritual journey.
It’s A Role!
Remember, what the cabal and elite are doing isn’t negative in the big picture scheme of things. To our mind it might be, but not to our souls. This is why you must connect deeply with self to overcome the vengeful hateful view the mind creates when we observe them.
What they are doing simply is. And for our souls, it is the journey we asked for to challenge ourselves to remember who we truly are in a very disconnected system. The cabal, are just souls having an experience too, and we all agreed on this together. This doesn’t mean we accept what they are doing in the physical and just take it, no, it simply means we must evolve our consciousness and overcome the need for them for it to stop.
How does that look or happen? We must understand why it’s there by going beyond the judgement and the emotion and see what the trap it creates for us. With that understanding, we no longer can get trapped in the angry, hateful emotions that hold this world in place and instead we choose, from a consciousness point of view, to create a different world. This not only affects collective consciousness and helps others awaken, but we then now can create a new world, both physically and consciously, that comes from a higher state of consciousness and not one that is built in fear, anger and judgement of the old one. Remaining in that old state will only create more of the same world.
Again, I feel it is very important to listen to the podcast episode on this one as it goes into deep detail about this.
If you find yourself viewing matters in either of these polarized lights, challenge yourself to ask why? Why have this opposition to either side and why are we coloring things as positive or negative in the first place? What is that showing us about ourselves? Our fear of looking at our own ‘darkness?’ Collective ‘darkness?’ In many ways, what the elite/cabal are doing is just a reflection of our own journeys on a macro scale. It’s reflecting humanity’s current state of consciousness as we awaken to the truth. Change Starts Within.
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Who Lucifer Actually Is & Why They Are Here (Part 1)
- The Facts:
Lucifer is etymologically defined as the 'light bearer' and 'morning star', the bringer of light and wisdom. Yet Lucifer is also widely considered as the embodiment of pure 'evil.'
- Reflect On:
How can we come to understand Lucifer in a way that reconciles the apparent contradictions about who he is? It's time we view their role in a neutral light to begin to understand their purpose in our reality.
Of all subjects to venture into, writing about Lucifer could be among the most contentious of them all. Many readers will likely come into the discussion with pre-conceived notions and emotional triggers that are difficult to lay aside, even just for the amount of time it takes to read this article. But put them aside we must, if we are to have a fruitful conversation.
I am not out to convince anybody about an opinion. I am out to elaborate upon an understanding of who and what Lucifer is that I find best explains the entire body of information that is out there about him. Further, this explanation resonates the most with the paradigm I currently hold about spirituality and my understanding about why we are here on the planet at this time.
Some of my information comes from a forum thread between a self-proclaimed “generational member of a Ruling Bloodline Family,” and forum members who pose questions to the person going under the moniker ‘Hidden-Hand.’ I found this information particularly, ahem, illuminating.
A general understanding that I work with about our life here on the planet is that we have incarnated into this ‘3rd density’ reality to evolve, individually and collectively, to the 4th and higher densities. David Wilcock and others speak about our ascension into the 4th density as an event that was slated around the end of the Mayan calendar in December 2012, and remains imminent, as he speaks about in his book The Ascension Mysteries.
This ascension of our individual and group souls, unfolding in accordance with astrological cycles that our solar system is tied into, is the quintessential spiritual ‘movement’ of all sentient beings in our universe, whether they are focusing on their own advances up through the densities, ending in a return to oneness with the supreme creator, or holding themselves back by choice to help other beings rise out of those lower densities. This is the ‘game’ that has been set up, to give life its vitality, direction, and purpose.
A very simple way to explain how ‘Creation’ works within this context will help in our understanding of who Lucifer is. Basically, the one ‘Supreme Creator’ did not create all there is as such. The one ‘Supreme Creator’ created many ‘sub-creators.’ A sub-creator (also known as a ‘logos’) could then create ‘sub-sub-creators.’ In other words, there is something of a hierarchy or ‘chain’ of creation that goes from the unmanifest ‘Supreme Creator’ all the way down to us as individual souls, who are also ‘creators’ in our own right. Simply stated, there are creator-beings who are creators of planets, suns, galaxies, and even universes.
When asked who directly created us, Hidden-Hand replies thusly:
Your Creator, the one you have called ‘Yahweh’, is not “God” inasmuch as your bible refers to him as being “the One True God”. He is ‘a’ Creator (or Sub-Sub-Logos) rather than the One Infinite Creator. He is not even a Galactic level Logos, but rather, is the Planetary Logos for this one planet.
Stay with me now. If we can entertain the possibility that creation is multi-leveled, and that at the ‘planetary’ level the ‘creator’ of a planet has free will to create as they choose, then the stories we hear from the book of Genesis take on far more meaning. Apparently, Yahweh decided to create a nice planet that was somewhat of a paradise, because essentially evil didn’t exist there and the human beings lived in a state of reverence and obedience towards Yahweh, who was providing humans all they needed.
Nonetheless, in the absence of conflict, challenge, or stress, neither the humans nor Yahweh himself were evolving towards reunion with ‘Supreme Creator,’ which as we previously mentioned is the ‘game’ that we all signed up for. Humans did not have any ‘free will’ because in the absence of evil in their world things were ‘all good’ and they had nothing to choose from.
According to Hidden-Hand, Lucifer (the ‘light-bearer’) is an advanced 6th-density being (or ‘group soul’) that agreed to descend into 3rd density on planet Earth to provide the ‘context’ by which human beings could experience free choice. That context was made possible by the introduction of ‘evil.’ In the face of ‘evil’ humans would for the first time be able to choose ‘good’ over something else.
Hidden-Hand describes how polarity and the presence of evil first came into mankind’s experience:
Yahweh agreed that we would introduce the concept of Free Will to Earth’s inhabitants, by offering them an initial choice, as to whether they ‘wanted’ it or not. Hence, “The Tree of the Knowledge of ‘Good and Evil'” (or more accurately, the Knowledge of Polarity, of Positive or Negative).
Yahweh takes his inhabitants to a new ‘garden’ and tells them you can do anything you like, except this one thing, thus creating the desire to do the one thing there are told they cannot. Hence, a “Choice”. We provide the Catalyst by telling them the benefits of attaining Knowledge, they eat from the tree, and the rest is history.
Hence Lucifer ‘tempts’ humanity into polarity, as polarity is the one context through which knowledge can be acquired. In essence, Lucifer has agreed to play a very challenging role on our planet in order to be a catalyst for our evolution into the higher densities.
Not An Endorsement Of Luciferianism
If you are still with me, you undoubtedly agree that conversations like this require a high level of discernment between what is being said and what is not being said. While Lucifer has so far been characterized as a highly evolved bringer of light and knowledge, for example, there has been no support given to the principles or the practice of Luciferianism or the ‘Luciferian Doctrine.’ I hope you will rejoin me when we deal with those concepts in Part 2.
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New Moon In Gemini: New Perceptions & Ideas
We are having a New Moon in Gemini on June 13th, 2018 at 7:43 pm Universal Time. This is initiating a 29.5 Lunar cycle and a new wave of energy for the coming month. This cycle will peak at the Full Moon which is occurring on June 27th/28th.
The Solstice will also occur during this period (June 21st) which is when we have the longest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere and the shortest day of the year in the Southern Hemisphere. Solstices (and Equinoxes) initiate the transition into seasons as well as signs in the Tropical Zodiac.
At this Solstice, we are shifting from Gemini season into Cancer season. The signs of the Tropical Zodiac are distributed equally based on the Earth-Sun relationship and are not supposed to be aligned with constellations like many people believe. This was established and determined nearly 2000 years ago by the historical astronomer/astrologer Ptolemy and other astrologers at that time.
New Moon In Gemini
We have been in Gemini season since May 20th/21st with its ruler Mercury also in Gemini since May 29th. This is sign belongs to the Element of Air which is socially and mentally oriented, and is also a mutable sign which has adaptable and spreadable qualities.
Gemini’s energy is curious, communicative, articulate, informative, clever, and dualistic. It can also be gossipy, superficial, and inconsistent. Although the majority of this Moon cycle will be occurring while the Sun is in Cancer, the Gemini energy is imprinted onto it, especially influencing the first two weeks up until the next Full Moon.
In the weeks leading to this New Moon, the Gemini Sun, Mercury, and previous Full Moon have been in a hard square with Neptune. There may have been some confusion, scatteredness, miscommunications, or issues with communication technology, especially around June 5th/6th and near the Full Moon from May 28th-30th.
The Neptune energy is behind us, although its effects may still be lingering, we are now in a period in which Mercury is traveling ahead of the Sun (began after June 5th). We can have a new sense of clarity in which our minds are more aligned with our true needs, and any of the issues mentioned above can be more easily resolved. It is also possible that some of the clarity or resolutions that we experience now may be connected to themes that have been occurring or on our minds since April 1st or even prior.
Mercury Newly In Cancer, Sextile Uranus, Square Chiron, and Opposite Saturn
Just under 24 hours prior to this New Moon, Mercury enters Cancer where it will be until June 28th/29th. Cancer is ruled by the Moon while Gemini is ruled by Mercury, therefore these heavenly bodies are in each other’s signs. This is called a ‘mutual reception’ which is a harmonious configuration between them. Communications and perceptions can become more feeling based, sensitive, personal, and subjective during this time. Our thinking can be more reflective and aligned with what we feel at the gut level, however, since Cancer is a Cardinal sign, decision making can still be quick.
Mercury is in a tight sextile with Uranus in Taurus which gets strong as it enters Cancer and on the day of this New Moon. It will also be imprinted in the lunar cycle. Communications and thinking can be innovative, exciting, unconventional, liberating, or could involve Uranus ruled areas of technology and metaphysics. Insight, intuition, and great ideas can be stimulated by this configuration. It could be connected to a different way of thinking when it comes to values, money, or how we approach our routines. This New Moon is also in a wide sextile with Uranus which emphasizes the themes mentioned above.
Mercury is in a square with Chiron in Aries on this day as well while moving towards an opposition with Saturn. Wounds and blockages may be tied to thoughts and communications. and perhaps needing to get real about issues that are inhibiting. On June 14th-15th (16th in the East), Mercury opposing Saturn peaks which at best can be good for applying mental discipline. However, we can also face restrictions, delays, and or we can more easily become negative in our thoughts and words.
Venus Going Into Leo, Square Uranus
At the time of this New Moon, Venus is at the very end of Cancer and transitions into Leo a few hours later. It had been there since May 19th, a time during which Venus-ruled areas of relationships and social interactions have been more personal and have a nurturing or bonding quality. Venus being in Leo until July 9th can be more romantic, dramatic, fun, and creative. Social initiatives can be more self-expressive. Anything to do with aesthetics and beauty at this time can be more flashy or have more flair.
Venus is in a square which is strongest in the days following this lunation while some of the Mercury aspects mentioned above are happening. At best, this can bring excitement and new experiences, both socially and romantically, and can be impulsive. However, it can also be disruptive and separative. Depending on how it is hitting your natal astrology chart, instability in different types of relationships can be a theme during the coming weeks, and in some cases, the potential manifestations mentioned can play out in the realm of finances.
Mars And Neptune Going Retrograde
Mars is slowing down to go retrograde which will begin on June 26th. Mars retrogrades occur roughly every 2 years and last 2 months and are when it appears to be moving backward due to our vantage point. Ultimately it is a time in which we go through a process that allows us to make adjustments in how we assert and take action in our lives, in many cases sexually as well. Anger and aggression through us or around us can be heightened due to increased inner tension. However, we will be in a better place with a better approach in the weeks following August 27th as Mars slowly moves forward again.
I will be creating more content on this Mars retrograde as we get closer. You can join my mailing list here to be notified of when new work is published.
Currently, Neptune appears nearly stopped as it is also about to go retrograde, beginning on June 18th/19th and will last until November 24th/25th. Unlike Mars, Neptune and the other outer planets are retrograde roughly 40% of the time and therefore it doesn’t have the same significance. However, its transitions in motion are when we can notice it the most.
Neptune themes may be highlighted at this time and we may be reflecting on or revisiting things associated with this planet. It rules creativity, imagination, visual arts, film/photography, fantasy, dreams, spirituality, divinity, compassion, as well as practices and substances that induce psychedelic experiences. Neptune is also associated with escapism, drugs, alcohol, and behavior that is flaky, delusional and deceptive. It can also be confusing and lack definition. Whatever Neptune related stuff that is coming up at this time or in recent weeks, will have some sort of concluding factor or significant development when the retrograde ends in late November.
Making Intentions And Things To Consider
What was occurring around June 5th/6th and how do you need to proceed forward in your life based on your thoughts, communications, and whatever else has been happening at that time? What aspect of your thinking, perception, and communication needs to be improved on? Do you need to be more versatile and adaptable?
It is possible that certain initiatives and actions you are working towards could face some challenges and frustrations over the coming months, beginning with this Lunar cycle… Considering this, it could be a good idea to set an intention to receive clear guidance and signs from the Universe on the best way to apply yourself to minimize this.
These are just some examples, however, it is good to reflect on anything else that is coming up for you at this time. It is generally best to make any intentions within the first 24 hours following a New Moon. However, in this specific case, the first 17 hours would be best and can be as early as 30 minutes prior to the exact moment of it which is the most ideal. This New Moon will be occurring at 7:43 pm Universal Time. You can click here to see what that is in your time zone.
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