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Quitting The Job You Hate: Four Reasons To Consider A Drastic Change In Your Life

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It’s time to quit that job you hate. You know it, I know it, your boss knows it. But maybe you’re having second thoughts. That’s okay — we’ll talk it out.

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People quit their jobs for all sorts of reasons, but what are yours?

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You Only Stay at Your Job for the Paycheque

Don't Stay at a Job You Hate Just for the Paycheck

Maybe it actually started before you even took the job — you had rent due and bills to pay, not to mention your daily requirement for food. So sure, the job didn’t look glorious, but it was enough to pay your bills.

There’s no shame in staying at a job for the paycheque when you really need it, but that doesn’t mean you should stay there forever for that same reason. If you’re thinking about quitting the job you hate because it’s only worth the paycheque, then there are some real steps you can take toward moving on.

Start by honestly assessing how much you make each month, and exactly where all that money goes. Do you drive places you could walk or take public transit to instead? Do you go out several nights a week? Do you cook at home, or mostly eat out?

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Anywhere you can cut costs offers another opportunity to save — and you’ll need a healthy savings account to take a risk on switching to a new job without letting your bills fall behind.

Also, learning to live on less can help you be more flexible when vetting new jobs. You might not need to quit the next job you work at if you can choose one you love, rather than just one that pays well.

Your Job Doesn’t Prepare You For The Career You Want

Every job can be considered a stepping stone. Any experience looks good on a resume, though nobody will disagree that a job closer to your field will look even better. Before you quit that job you hate, assess whether it’s helping you get where you want, or holding you back.

Take an honest look at where you want to be in five or ten years, then ask yourself, “Will the people I want to be working with in the future see the value in the job I’m holding now?” You might not have the experience, education, or skills to land your dream job today, but that doesn’t mean you should be killing time instead of trying to get as close as you can.

For many skilled trades, this can mean finding someone to apprentice under  easy if you’re a plumber or a carpenter. But if your career path is something more formal like becoming a doctor, why not hunt down a job working the desk or back office at someone’s private practice? You’ll not only pick up some great skills working with someone in your field, but you’ll have experience that will set you apart from others seeking similar work.

If you’re hoping to do something more nuanced with your life, just look at the person most like who you want to become yourself. What jobs did they hold when they were younger? Who works under them or around them?

Every small step you can take closer to the future you want will reveal opportunities you could never have dreamed of, and a job that you’ll never want to quit.

You Aren’t Utilizing Your Best Skills

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It’s not always just about being prepared for the future — you have real skills today that can help you shine. If the job you hate isn’t letting you use those, you might have a very good reason to quit.

Nobody masters everything, but most people have certain innate abilities that set them apart. If you can’t be working your dream job, and you can’t be working a job directly on your career path, at least try to find a job that lets you excel.

By flexing your best skills, you’ll be able to impress everyone you work with, leaving you with glowing recommendations and great opportunities for promotions and raises. This may not be your ideal job now, but those opportunities might lead you to a position you love more than the job you thought you wanted, because of the skills you’re mastering.

Your Job Has Left You Shackled to a Life You Hate

Shackled to a Job You Hate

One of the most difficult things to admit is that it’s not the job itself you hate, but the life you have to lead because of it. This can be because of your location, your coworkers, your hours, the pay, or any number of factors, but let’s face it — you just aren’t happy.

This is another problem that requires you to take a hard look at your finances. More than just quitting a job you hate, you might be in need of a drastic life change, and that requires a lot of planning and saving to handle gracefully.

Spend some time dreaming up the life you want  where you’d live, how you’d spend your time, what your job would look like, what kind of people you would want to be around — and then ask yourself the hard questions about what it would take to get those things.

Quitting the job you hate might be difficult, but if you can create a plan for getting the life you want, it might be the best thing you could ever do.

The Challenge of Moving Forward

The more you look at what you have to do to take control of your life and quit the job you hate, the more daunted you may begin to feel. If you find yourself wondering, “How am I going to figure this all out on my own?” feel assured that you aren’t alone.

This article is only the start. I told you that I wanted to help you get ready to quit your job, and I’d like to be able to talk to you directly. Superhero Academy is holding a free webinar later this month to walk you through these steps we’ve already discussed, and much more.

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How To Have Your Own Personal Zen Master Around Anytime You Descend Into Stress

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When you look at a true spiritual master, guru or yogi, one of the most remarkable things you might notice is that they don’t seem to experience stress. You might conclude that they arrive at this state through meditation, fasting, prayer, or other such disciplines. This is only partly true. Those spiritual practices can certainly contribute to stress reduction, but their ultimate effect is to support the maintenance of ONE KEY THOUGHT that spiritual masters hold in their minds (and bodies) with unfailing certainty.

Granted, this key thought is not easy to grasp, hold as truth, and then deeply embody within yourself. Throughout history spiritual masters have done their darndest to articulate it for those hoping for inner peace and harmony. The limitations of language, of all human languages, is woefully revealed in these attempts. But if you are ready, open, and genuinely seeking–an ‘aspirant’ as they say in yoga–then it becomes possible for a certain expression or turn of phrase to begin to activate your deeper inner knowledge of the state some call samadhi, enlightenment, Christ consciousness, or what I like to simply term presence. Are you ready?

Stress-Free Perception

In a true state of presence it is impossible to feel stress. Impossible. That is because stress is predicated on our seeing the world as dualistic. In a state of presence we embody a perception of singularity. The apperception of the world as whole, as unified, is truth unmasked.

From a perception of unity there is no past or future, there is only now. Note that human experience is only ever experienced through the now, past experiences were only ever experienced in the now, and the same will hold for our future experiences. Having the experience of presence helps us get a glimpse that time itself is a fabrication, a ‘program’ that helps our intentionally limited minds have a particularly lush and interesting kind of experience in the physical world.

How We Create Stress

But let’s get back to our everyday time-bound consciousness. For those of you who earnestly seek to dissolve your stress, and are open and willing to let go of anything your mind is clinging to in order to achieve it, I will try to explain the one key thought.

The experience of stress is the experience of the tension or dissonance between two things: how your world IS in any moment, and how you think it SHOULD BE. You create stress by carrying in your mind an image of how something in the NOW—yourself and others, the presence or absence of things, the weather—is NOT OK as it is. That puts you into a self-created adversarial relationship with the only point of contact you have with life.

Fortunately, your emotions alert you to this crazy confabulation, by making you aware of internal discomfort you label as STRESS. This STRESS is nothing more than an urgent signal from your higher intelligence to return to presence. But in a state of stress how can you possibly return to presence?

The One Key Thought Into Presence

You need to get into the habit of using your awareness of your own stress as a trigger to align yourself with this one key thought: everything is perfect as it is. It’s like having your own personal Zen master around any time you descend into stress asking you the well-worn koan, ‘What, in this moment, is lacking?’

It works. Trust me.

But it only works to the extent that you are willing to let go of the past (and future), along with all your judgments, grievances, ‘shoulds’, hopes, and fears that arise out of a dualistic perception. If you are truly willing and able to deeply hold this one key thought as ULTIMATE truth, above ALL other beliefs and opinions, you will start to feel it working.

Spiritual Context

If you have doubts about this one key thought representing ultimate truth, allow me to provide the spiritual context I work with in which the statement makes perfect sense.

A common thread at the heart of all great spiritual traditions is that we are all immortal souls who are currently having a ‘human’ experience. The circumstances of this life experience were chosen by us to facilitate our soul’s evolution. So any time you feel stress, you can see it as the universe prodding you to take an evolutionary step. That evolutionary step is to see the perfection in everything, if only for a moment at first. If you’re game, these brief moments of clarity add up quickly to a more permanent step up.

An Example

Let’s say for example you’re stuck in traffic, and realize you are going to be late for a meeting. Maybe it’s even your ‘fault’, because you left late or didn’t check your GPS. If you’re feeling stressed about it, realize it’s because things are not how your mind thinks they should be. Your mind thinks you ‘should’ be at the meeting on time–to get some important information, perhaps, or because your reputation as a reliable person is at stake, and you will be judged by others at the meeting in a way that may impact your future success.

Now, you can continue to be stressed in that moment (and subsequently for the entire drive to the office), or you can take ALL that very reasonable blather of ‘oughts’ and ‘shoulds’, roll it up in a ball, and drop it into your faux-ashtray. You will be able to do this if you reach for presence, if you remind yourself that there is only the present moment, and in the present moment you can choose to experience stress, or choose to experience peace. If you choose to be fully present you accept the present moment exactly as it is, realize there is nothing you can DO in that moment to remedy the so-called problem, and take the evolutionary step of seeing everything as perfect in this so-called ‘stressful’ moment. There is no problem now–and you will deal with the ‘problem’ when the ‘problem’ arises. You are simply in a car driving. You will then start to feel relief, and gain confidence that if you maintain presence through your arrival to the office, your late entry into the meeting, and your conversations afterwards, the ‘problem’ will never arise and you will literally breeze through the whole experience. You will be ‘ok’ with whatever happens.

Common Fears About Presence

FEAR: If I go into presence I will lose my mind.

Maybe-but only in a good way. Lol. Seriously, presence is not losing one’s mind, it is aligning one’s mind properly, with the timeless ‘true mind’ playing the role of master and the time-bound ‘false mind’ (ego) playing the role of servant, allowing the true mind to interface as it pleases with the time-governed physical world.

FEAR: If I go into presence I will stop trying to make my life better.

Perhaps. After all, what is better than presence, where everything is perfect? But there is more to it. You may be surprised to hear that a state of presence does not thwart action, it only thwarts reaction, fear-based, ego-sponsored drives to alleviate doubt, fear, insecurity, stress. In a state of presence the true mind decides on action, the best action for the situation, which is then carried out in perfect flow with the environment.

FEAR: It’s too hard to do and I’ll ultimately fail.

Failure is impossible. Patience, though, is required. The evolution of consciousness might seem like waves rising and falling on the shore, but the high water marks accumulate and eventually produce a stable higher state of awareness. Remembering and forgetting presence is natural, but with persistence it is remembered more often, maintained for a longer period of time, and eventually becomes part of your normal, base perception. With this as your base perception, then, it is truly possible for you to experience a life free of stress.

 

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Are We Well Adjusted To A Profoundly Sick Society?

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Following up on a classic quote from Jiddu Krishnamurti, what does it mean to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society?

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How To Ground Yourself: A Simple Yet Powerful Technique

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Mental health challenges, depression and even physical illness, are all on the rise. All three are believed by emerging research to be linked to trauma.

Thankfully, nervous system health and trauma are becoming a big part of what people talk about as it seems people are looking to get to the root of these issues more now than ever before.

After coming to my own realization that I was traumatized from experiences I had, I began studying trauma to not only help myself but to see how I could further improve my own media work – which has been, in essence, trauma-informed, since 2009.

What I’ve come to feel is that trauma affects almost all of us in some way, while there is not much data to back that up, I truly believe this to be the case. Learning useful skills to work through that trauma is becoming important in order to take our health into our own hands.

In the video below, I talk a bit about how events going on in the world can make us feel anxious and worried, and how that affects our bodies, minds, and health. I also share a simple yet powerful technique for sensory grounding.

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