What are new love affairs made of? Butterflies and rainbows. Fantasies and dreams. Sex that makes your toes curl spiced with passionate screams. These are the things new love affairs are made of. End scene. Exit characters. Time to face reality.
Falling in love has always made my head spin, in a beautiful flowy way. At least that’s what I thought in those moments. And each and every time, I eventually became dizzy, lost control, and bumped into the wall of reality. People are complicated and falling in love has a tricky way of gently coating this fact. So a challenge arose from this, one of the toughest I’ve encountered.
This magical encounter rekindles our longing to belong to someone deeply and have this other person belong to us. It’s almost inexplicable what exactly attracts us to a particular woman or man, and maybe that is precisely what turns us into unconscious love zombies where it’s ‘lights out’ and our vision becomes blurred.
It may be interesting to pause for a moment and inquire — maybe for the sake of being truthful to ourselves or our partners, maybe for the sake of taking responsibility for those moments of unconsciousness and its consequences, and maybe just for the sake of sheer curiosity to understand how our minds work. We may find signs that can reveal precious information to us about what we’re looking for, what we desire, or what we should run away from.
It’s worthwhile taking a moment and becoming aware of some red flags that may be true about your current love relationship or looking back at some relationships from the past or new ones that are forming right now. Not necessarily in order to end or change them, but rather to create conscious choice and less projection into them.
Here are a few of these red lights that can provide insight into the deeper dynamics behind what we call ‘love.’ Remember, it’s not necessarily about changing these, but being aware of what experience they might create. Mindfulness is key here.
I love your potential.
Potential is something everyone has. There is a sincere longing in most people to manifest that potential, but on the path of life there may be innumerable circumstances and misunderstandings that won’t allow us to realize it.
It is beautiful to recognize someone’s potential, but to build a relationship based on it is a wild bet at best. Even more than that, if that potential is not realized, we will usually feel disappointed because the love for it also carried the expectation and even the demand for its manifestation.
You challenge me to grow.
Suddenly there is someone out there who doesn’t allow us to find the easy way out, but demands that we give our best and try harder. Who doesn’t want someone to believe in us? In most cases this need to push another originates from our own need to discover something more in ourselves.
However, once the challenge has been taken and accomplished, we no longer have the need for that person to push us and the relationship lacks that urgency for change.
I can learn so much from you. (Imbalance)
This is more so about when we have an imbalance in roles. Learning from each other is what relationships are about. But what happens when just YOU see the other as a teacher? One partner becomes superior and the other inferior, as the teacher is leading the relationship and the other is following. The result is dependence.
In most cases the teacher doesn’t take his or her partner seriously and subsequently the mutual respect is hurt. The student can feel the imbalance and won’t feel good enough. Over time, once more matured, the student will look for a more balanced partnership.
I love someone much older or younger than me.
Love can cross many boundaries and age is one of them. When there is a large age gap it also means that one has already lived significant life stages while the other has not. Having a family is one such significant life experience. In order for partnerships to work it is important that both can look forward into a joint future, which for many people means having children. And for older partners this means being ready to start over again, while for the younger it’s critical to respect the past the older partner is coming with into the relationship.
You are a special person.
Who doesn’t want to feel special? We all do, and yet it is perhaps one of the most common relationship traps. “You’re the most amazing person I’ve ever met” is a common sentence when we’re in love, and yet, come on. It is a way for us to feel special by being with such a special person, but as time does it’s thing, we sober up and begin meeting the ordinary person our partner is.
Wanting and often manipulating the relationship to stay special by way of idealization is a sure way to stay blind to who our partner is and to avoid mature love. Oddly enough, a deep love needs to acknowledge the ordinariness both bring into the partnership, and find the love and care that wants to nourish this ordinariness by moving through the ups and downs of life.
‘I love your quirks’ and ‘I love you back because you love them.’
You surely know the personal traits of your partner that you found so cute and different at the outset of the love affair. Maybe it was an obsession with detail or an awkwardness when talking to people. In any case, it is only a matter of time until the quirk will create a division between you and your partner.
What we call quirks are often a distortion in our personality and they often create pain for ourselves and others. Seeing one another for who we really are is an act of love.
Our values and cultural backgrounds are not important; our love can withstand everything.
It is a high aspiration for us all to move beyond religion, traditions, beliefs, languages or any other defining characteristics. Yet our cultural upbringing can subconsciously define us. It gives us a large part of our identity and sets us apart from others. Often cultural differences within the same country can impact a relationship. Our background in many ways is our parents and as much as we want to break free, we are deeply connected to our roots.
A love that discards those difference dismisses what we deeply love, and that is our family and cultural heritage. Even if we call it a blind love, it still is love. Respecting our love for what is familiar keeps us humble to what is true to us, instead of using idealism to look away at what sets us apart.
No doubt that these difference are meaningless on a deeper level and as spiritual beings, but still need to be met with respect and awareness.
Our intimacy creates such strong connection.
Sexual chemistry between two people is a substantial and important connecting force. We can be blinded by strong sexual attraction and chemistry, and label it as love. Good sex or intimacy can point to physical and emotional needs that are fulfilled, and at the same time we need to ask ourselves if other areas of the relationship are working well too. Intimacy often serves as an escape from dealing with our inner complexities and fear when it comes to relating with another person, while giving the impression that a deep connection is present.
Who Lucifer Actually Is & Why They Are Here (Part 1)
- The Facts:
Lucifer is etymologically defined as the 'light bearer' and 'morning star', the bringer of light and wisdom. Yet Lucifer is also widely considered as the embodiment of pure 'evil.'
- Reflect On:
How can we come to understand Lucifer in a way that reconciles the apparent contradictions about who he is? It's time we view their role in a neutral light to begin to understand their purpose in our reality.
Of all subjects to venture into, writing about Lucifer could be among the most contentious of them all. Many readers will likely come into the discussion with pre-conceived notions and emotional triggers that are difficult to lay aside, even just for the amount of time it takes to read this article. But put them aside we must, if we are to have a fruitful conversation.
I am not out to convince anybody about an opinion. I am out to elaborate upon an understanding of who and what Lucifer is that I find best explains the entire body of information that is out there about him. Further, this explanation resonates the most with the paradigm I currently hold about spirituality and my understanding about why we are here on the planet at this time.
Some of my information comes from a forum thread between a self-proclaimed “generational member of a Ruling Bloodline Family,” and forum members who pose questions to the person going under the moniker ‘Hidden-Hand.’ I found this information particularly, ahem, illuminating.
A general understanding that I work with about our life here on the planet is that we have incarnated into this ‘3rd density’ reality to evolve, individually and collectively, to the 4th and higher densities. David Wilcock and others speak about our ascension into the 4th density as an event that was slated around the end of the Mayan calendar in December 2012, and remains imminent, as he speaks about in his book The Ascension Mysteries.
This ascension of our individual and group souls, unfolding in accordance with astrological cycles that our solar system is tied into, is the quintessential spiritual ‘movement’ of all sentient beings in our universe, whether they are focusing on their own advances up through the densities, ending in a return to oneness with the supreme creator, or holding themselves back by choice to help other beings rise out of those lower densities. This is the ‘game’ that has been set up, to give life its vitality, direction, and purpose.
A very simple way to explain how ‘Creation’ works within this context will help in our understanding of who Lucifer is. Basically, the one ‘Supreme Creator’ did not create all there is as such. The one ‘Supreme Creator’ created many ‘sub-creators.’ A sub-creator (also known as a ‘logos’) could then create ‘sub-sub-creators.’ In other words, there is something of a hierarchy or ‘chain’ of creation that goes from the unmanifest ‘Supreme Creator’ all the way down to us as individual souls, who are also ‘creators’ in our own right. Simply stated, there are creator-beings who are creators of planets, suns, galaxies, and even universes.
When asked who directly created us, Hidden-Hand replies thusly:
Your Creator, the one you have called ‘Yahweh’, is not “God” inasmuch as your bible refers to him as being “the One True God”. He is ‘a’ Creator (or Sub-Sub-Logos) rather than the One Infinite Creator. He is not even a Galactic level Logos, but rather, is the Planetary Logos for this one planet.
Stay with me now. If we can entertain the possibility that creation is multi-leveled, and that at the ‘planetary’ level the ‘creator’ of a planet has free will to create as they choose, then the stories we hear from the book of Genesis take on far more meaning. Apparently, Yahweh decided to create a nice planet that was somewhat of a paradise, because essentially evil didn’t exist there and the human beings lived in a state of reverence and obedience towards Yahweh, who was providing humans all they needed.
Nonetheless, in the absence of conflict, challenge, or stress, neither the humans nor Yahweh himself were evolving towards reunion with ‘Supreme Creator,’ which as we previously mentioned is the ‘game’ that we all signed up for. Humans did not have any ‘free will’ because in the absence of evil in their world things were ‘all good’ and they had nothing to choose from.
According to Hidden-Hand, Lucifer (the ‘light-bearer’) is an advanced 6th-density being (or ‘group soul’) that agreed to descend into 3rd density on planet Earth to provide the ‘context’ by which human beings could experience free choice. That context was made possible by the introduction of ‘evil.’ In the face of ‘evil’ humans would for the first time be able to choose ‘good’ over something else.
Hidden-Hand describes how polarity and the presence of evil first came into mankind’s experience:
Yahweh agreed that we would introduce the concept of Free Will to Earth’s inhabitants, by offering them an initial choice, as to whether they ‘wanted’ it or not. Hence, “The Tree of the Knowledge of ‘Good and Evil'” (or more accurately, the Knowledge of Polarity, of Positive or Negative).
Yahweh takes his inhabitants to a new ‘garden’ and tells them you can do anything you like, except this one thing, thus creating the desire to do the one thing there are told they cannot. Hence, a “Choice”. We provide the Catalyst by telling them the benefits of attaining Knowledge, they eat from the tree, and the rest is history.
Hence Lucifer ‘tempts’ humanity into polarity, as polarity is the one context through which knowledge can be acquired. In essence, Lucifer has agreed to play a very challenging role on our planet in order to be a catalyst for our evolution into the higher densities.
Not An Endorsement Of Luciferianism
If you are still with me, you undoubtedly agree that conversations like this require a high level of discernment between what is being said and what is not being said. While Lucifer has so far been characterized as a highly evolved bringer of light and knowledge, for example, there has been no support given to the principles or the practice of Luciferianism or the ‘Luciferian Doctrine.’ I hope you will rejoin me when we deal with those concepts in Part 2.
Your life path number can tell you A LOT about you.
Why Is Everyone Getting Offended All The Time? This Explains It
- The Facts:
We get offended because we're hopelessly trapped in our ego's, beliefs and identities. We are being trained to be this way, but also have a huge learning opportunity through this current reality. Listen to the podcast for deep details.
- Reflect On:
Are you finding yourself getting offended easily? Is it true that we can ever truly be free if we can allow someone to offend us at all times? Is it not ourselves who choose to be offended?
“I’m so offended by that.” “Wow, that was so offensive!”
Think about it: People become enraged every day about things they read online, hear in the news, or witness on social media, about topics ranging from the words people use to gender politics, race, sports teams, diet, perceptions, etc. It’s everywhere! It appears as though everything is offensive and everyone has something to say about it.
Whether it is social justice warriors going to extremes to try and make everything safe or whether it’s is us personally getting upset at someone around us who says something we don’t like, the reality of how offended everyone is getting these days comes down to something very simple: we’re hopelessly trapped in our ego’s, beliefs and identities. And this is happening systematically for multiple reasons.
The good news is, it’s also happening so we can evolve.
This is going to go a bit deeper than some societal outlooks on what is taking place today, but we need to as we need to get to the core vs just looking at it like we typically do which is to just simply say things like “Ahh people are too sensitive etc” This is about taking it to the core of why we truly operate the way we do.
It breaks down into two key things: creating the division purposely at a high level, and the opportunity for consciousness evolution that also exists within that division.
Note: You can listen to the podcast episode here if you prefer. I only cover a few larger overview details in the article, the podcast has much more.
The Systematic Design of Division
Part one of the reason we are so offended all the time is that we are being trained to. There is a Deep State working to maintain control of a populace, whose consciousness is shifting and raising as each day goes by, and they are fearful of how much humanity is changing. This is causing them to work much harder to divide the public through getting everyone all tied up in their ego about various issues. Media is used to put out extreme situations with extreme sides so as to get people to buy into one side or another. Then we see a ton of attention being given to the battles and wars that are caused via these issues in order to further push into even greater battles.
Part of the play is to create a narrative people identify with via race, gender, age, culture etc. Then within those identities, we further divide ourselves by other factors, thus causing us to always see the differences in other vs the similarities. The narrative is then for people in each subgroup to FIGHT for what they want, causing subgroups everywhere to disagree and fight with one another.
From this point of view, this is about getting people to stay away and mad at one another so we cannot unite collectively. This also helps keep us so distracted that we cannot focus on things that truly matter. We are meant to focus on small minor issues that often take up time and energy so we do not see the big picture of what is truly happening on our planet and who is causing it. It appears the more truth comes into awareness of the public, the more distractions that come and follow.
Further, when it comes to the FIGHT, when has fighting in that way truly changed anything?
The Evolutionary Opportunity
Of course, within this landscape comes the opportunity for an evolution in human consciousness. What does this mean? When you have so much bubbling to the surface, and you have outbursts of emotion, you begin to see where people are at, what they believe, how they feel and so forth. Most importantly we get to see this about ourselves. And in that we have the opportunity to reflect on a number of things; how we identify, how much our ego and mind are in control, and what we believe about certain situations. It shows us what our perceptions look like and how we color situations and don’t allow ourselves to see them clearly.
When we get upset or offended, we see where we give up our power, our power to stay in a state of peace within ourselves. Wouldn’t it be nice if someone could walk up to you and say “Republicans are all idiots!” and you, as a Republican, are able to just observe and feel unmoved emotionally? Of course! But instead we go off in anger, judgement of another and we race to find a comeback. This unconsciousness is what not only keeps the cycle going but is also what is being brought to the surface through this entire journey of people becoming intensely offended about EVERYTHING!
I go into much greater detail in the podcast as I mentioned above, this article is simply a look at some of the more high-level reflections. Please consider listening to the podcast below.
Your life path number can tell you A LOT about you.
8 Comics Showing How Much Today’s Childhood Differs From Ours
- The Facts:
The childhood experience today is inevitably affected by--and sometimes even centered on--technology.
- Reflect On:
What is technology giving to our children, and what is it taking away? Should we be more proactive about our children's exposure to technology?
When I was a child, there was no shortage of getting told by our parents and other adults about how much better we had things than they did when they were children. Stories of having to walk for miles to go to school, sleeping in the same bed until they became an adult, having the same food all the time, and having only a few simple toys to last them several years were not uncommon at all. There was a definite sense that as society modernized, things were getting better for children.
And as children we certainly didn’t disagree — hearing our parents’ stories did indeed make us feel that we were better off than they were. We certainly would not be inclined to exchange our childhood for their more rugged, austere version. And yes, to some extent these stories gave us a bit more ‘appreciation’ for what we had, despite not showing enough of it to satisfy our parents.
How About Today?
Today, I’m not sure that familiar line of conversation that has spanned many generations is going on anymore between parents and children. As the father of a 4-year old, the most immediate difference I notice is that we seem to have less time for our children than our parents did, especially if both parents are working full-time, which is just about a requirement these days.
The other major difference is the level of technology children have access to. And in some ways, technology has come in and ‘filled the gap’ where a parent’s attention is absent. Now, undoubtedly, there are some benefits to technology for our children. But when we take time to reflect on it, we might recognize that we have come to a particular stage in the modernization of our society where most of us are not sure that ‘newer, bigger, faster, more convenient’ is necessarily better, especially with regards to the type of childhood that serves as a foundation for a happy and prosperous adult life.
Here are 8 pictures comparing childhoods then and now, where technology has become ubiquitous in the lives of our children. Do you think our children have it better than we did?
Are they having more fun?
Are they being more creative?
Are they more ambitious?
Are they healthier?
Are they understanding consequences better?
Are they feeling things more deeply?
Are they experiencing more frustration?
Is their sense of wonder being cultivated more?
How Did You Score It?
How you answer these questions might give you some insight into how much you want your children’s early experiences to be influenced by technology. As everyone knows, childhood is the most formative time of a person’s life, which is why, as parents, some of the choices within our control that we make about our children’s exposure to technology might have a significant impact.
Drawings courtesy of Sergey Raskovalov.
Your life path number can tell you A LOT about you.
Who Lucifer Actually Is & Why They Are Here (Part 2: Bloodline Families)
(Note: If you have not read part 1 of this article, my strong recommendation is to follow the link and...
Who Lucifer Actually Is & Why They Are Here (Part 1)
Of all subjects to venture into, writing about Lucifer could be among the most contentious of them all. Many readers...