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Buckminister Fuller & Bertrand Russel On Why We Should Work Less, and Live & Learn More

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When I came across this discussion triggered by Josh Jones,  a writer and musician based in Durham, NC, from filmsforaction.org, I couldn’t help but ponder just how many people out there feel the same way about “work” and what we do in exchange for food on the table and a roof over our heads, among other things.

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From the day we are born, we are put into school for a couple of decades and told, not taught, how the world works, what path to take, why to follow it, and how to fit in and become a “productive” member of society. This basically means we have to spend a large majority of our lives striving for a degree or a diploma in order to qualify to work long hours and subsequently earn the right to live. There are many other roots than that as-well, much more appealing but they also require us to put in our time.

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This sentiment reminds me of a video published by The School of Life (click link to see), which brings to light the fact that no matter how little sleep we get or what problems we are having at home, mental blockages and other things that can arise during the human experience, we are and always have been told that we must be at work on time, ready to go without excuses.

This doesn’t seem normal or near natural, yet it’s something we are forced into.

Mental illness is on the rise, take depression for example, an issue that’s now affecting more than 15 million adults, and that’s just in America alone. Could the current human experience be one that’s contributing to this rise? Are there more miserable people now because we basically spend our lives doing what we can to survive while ignoring what our hearts want? Are we not giving enough time to our wants and desires beyond the material world, and do we even have time to do so?

Josh sums it up quite well in his first paragraph:

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“Why must we all work long hours to earn the right to live? Why must only the wealthy have access to leisure, aesthetic pleasure, self-actualization…? Everyone seems to have an answer, according to their political or theological bent. One economic bogeyman, so-called ‘trickle-down’ economics, or ‘Reaganomics,’ actually pre-dates our 40th president by a few hundred years at least. The notion that we must better ourselves – or simply survive – by toiling to increase the wealth and property of already wealthy men was perhaps first comprehensively articulated in the 18th century doctrine of ‘improvement.’ In order to justify privatizing common land and forcing the peasantry into jobbing for them.”

My favourite part of that excerpt is the fact that he calls attention to the fact that all of us are simply working for a small group of elite people that, through the corporations they run, basically control almost all aspects of our lives. Their idea of “globalisation” or a “New World Order” is one that requires our participation, and our consent. This type of system, one in which basically all of us are economic slaves, is one that we’ve become accustomed to.

A great quote comes to mind here:

“Humans are so strange. We can climb mountains, explore the deepest oceans and travel to space. But for some reason we can’t move past this idea that we need political overlords who tell us what we can and can’t do with our own lives.” –Unknown

While we blindly continue to follow others, the world has experienced something it has never really experienced before. A massive paradigm shift is happening, a shift in the way we view, feel, and perceive our world and the current human experience. Not everybody is happy, and how could they be? When living on a planet where you die if you cannot pay for your life, our passions and heart’s desires slowly drift out of sight, unless we do something about it.

While we’ve remained complacent, and simply accepted the human experience for what it is, those that created our current economic model continue to destroy our planet and have absolutely no regard for preserving the integrity of the planet and all life on it. At the same time, large amounts of information are kept from us, all we know of our world is what’s given to us by the same people who designed this life for us: the corporate mainstream media.

Information alone is a threat to so many corporate interests.

This shift has come as a result of new information that’s now hitting the eyes and minds of millions, if not billions. This became evident when alternative media sites that cover global corporate corruption, as well as new discoveries in various fields that are ignored by the mainstream, like new energy, started to receive up to a billion views per year. Furthermore, whistleblowers like Edward Snowden and organizations like Wikileaks have also helped out hugely.

That all stopped when some of these sites, like CE, were labelled as “fake news.” An ironic title from mainstream media, isn’t it? They even appointed who they felt just to determine what’s real and what isn’t, as well as started a massive campaign to censor information that does not come from mainstream media news networks.

There is a lot more to the world than what we are presented with. Being so busy with our 9-5 and trying to survive, many people still can’t be bothered about it. When presented with information that’s outside the box, it’s common for cognitive dissonance to sink in.

What’s most frustrating about the current human experience is that it doesn’t have to be this way. This is where Buckminister Fuller comes in. Fuller, one of the most creative and interesting minds in modern history once said that “One in ten thousand of us can make a technological breakthrough capable of supporting all the rest. The youth of today are absolutely right in recognizing this nonsense of earning a wage.” 

This is something we at CE are well aware of. We’ve personally come across technologies that can revolutionize the planet. Although it depends what consciousness is operating behind that technology, it exists. Our entire planet could be, in a modern way, completely off the grid. There are so many wonderful creations and ideas out there that make a utopian society possible, it’s so simple that most people have a hard time believing it. The idea that we don’t really have to work to live on this planet and live a good live is still impossible to imagine for most, and that’s because we’ve been indoctrinated to believe that the current world economic model and globalization are the only way for humanity to move forward, when it’s doing the exact opposite. In my opinion, food, clothing, shelter and more should not require little pieces of paper along with a bits of our soul to receive it, a human experience that utilizes all of our developments instead of concealing them, one in which our leaders look out for humanity and the best interests of our planet instead of following the orders of their financial masters is desperately needed. Michael Jackson’s famous line, “they don’t really care about us,” rings true, but it’s not true for everyone.

Along with this consciousness shift, this realization that the wool has been pulled over our eyes, is the fact that consciousness interacts with our physical material world in ways that are not yet understood, and that is an encouraging thought given humanity’s change in thinking with regard to concepts that might not have fit the frame approximately a decade ago.

I won’t go into any specific examples. I’ll let you ponder how a utopian society would work, or how all of our needs could easily be provided for. Scarcity is something that doesn’t have to exist, neither does supply and demand. These were all creations by what’s known today as “the 1 percent.” The system was designed to benefit them, not us. Something new needs to be created, a new way of life that requires the complete shut down and change of our current economic model. Just as Fuller said:

“You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.” 

Fuller did not believe that we need to have wage earning jobs to live, and that if we do, we are not able to pursue our passions and interests unless they are for monetary gain. That’s an interesting thought, since when we grow up there are several “careers” to choose from. Is this simply the illusion of free will? We already have set paths chosen, there are only so many options, and our entire purpose of being “educated” or, as I like to call it, indoctrinated, is to make money. Do we really love what we do? Or do we just tell ourselves that? Can we even determine or identify our passions, wants, and needs in this world? Or are all of our wants, needs, desires, and passions given to us from the corporate world in the form of mass media, advertising, and marketing? Why is it that so many of us are all into the same material things, acquiring the same material things, yet never questioning the human experience? Have we become too comfortable? Change is never easy, and always greeted by ridicule. This is exactly what the human race is going through: we are recognizing the need to change currently on that path.

In New York Times column on Russell’s 1932 essay “In Praise of Idleness,” Gary Gutting writes, “For most of us, a paying job is still utterly essential — as masses of unemployed people know all too well. But in our economic system, most of us inevitably see our work as a means to something else: it makes a living, but it doesn’t make a life.” Bertrand Russell, a prominent British philosopher, mathematician, historian, writer and political activist agreed, stating that “Immense harm is caused by the belief that work is virtuous.”

Jones puts it well:

“In far too many cases in fact, the work we must do to survive robs us of the ability to live by ruining our health, consuming all our previous time, and degrading our environment. In his essay, Russell argues that “there is far too much work done in the world, that immense harm is caused by the belief that work is virtuous, and that what needs to be preached in modern industrial countries is quite different from what has always been preached.”

I agree. We do tend to glorify the idea of “hard work” as something to be proud of, without ever really taking a step back and looking at this human experience through an observer’s lens.

Russell referred to this type of an existence as a “slave state” operated by “those who give orders.” He calls it politics, which he elaborates on as having no real “knowledge of the subjects as to which advice is given, but only to manipulate: the art of persuasive speaking and writing.” This reminds me of the Sophists in ancient Greece, who used their intelligence and their ways with words to make life difficult for people.

“What is work? Work is of two kinds: first, altering the position of matter at or near the earth’s surface relatively to other such matter; second, telling other people to do so. The first kind is unpleasant and ill paid; the second is pleasant and highly paid…in a world where no one is compelled to work more than four hours a day, every person possessed of scientific curiosity will be able to indulge it, and every painter will be able to paint without starving, however excellent his pictures may be. Young writers will not be obliged to draw attention to themselves by sensational pot-boilers, with a view to acquiring the economic independence for monumental works, for which, when the time at last comes, they will have lost the taste and capacity.” (source)

His stuff has been talked about for decades:

“The conscious and intelligent manipulation of the organized habits and opinions of the masses is an important element in democratic societyThose who manipulate this unseen mechanism of society constitute an invisible government which is the true ruling power of our country. We are governed, our minds are molded, our tastes formed, our ideas suggested, largely by men we have never heard of.” – Edward Bernays (“the father of public relations”), Propaganda, 1928

So, you see? Our lack of questioning and/or complacency has led to an interesting experience, one in which many are desiring change.

Can We Really Do What We Love In This Type of Human Experience?

So, is it possible to do what we love? Well, it might be a task to even figure that out when we are given our choices and paths in life. Furthermore, we have to pay rent, put food in our stomachs, and provide ourselves with the basic necessities. Even individuals with full time jobs are struggling to do this. These jobs take up to 8-10 hours of our lives every single day, so if you come from the belief that you cannot pursue your passions, you are in the company of many, including the two brilliant minds listed in this title.

To pursue something you love in this world, and are extremely passionate about it, it won’t be for monetary gain all the time. But we still have time to pursue the things we love as opposed to spending that time going to bars, or partying with friends. No matter how many excuses you have, if you love something there is always time to pursue it, but tell that to someone who just came home from a hard day’s work and has no mental/physical energy.

I am a big believer in the power of manifestation, meaning that one can manifest experiences into their lives with a shift in consciousness. Sure, the current human experience is a very hard one. It’s not easy, and for a soul to thrive here means they are very strong, especially if they will not quit in their pursuit to follow the call of their heart. That being said, what happens if you let the fear go and just start doing what you love, as much as you can? What if you take that road, and if you do so without worry, things workout for you? I believe if we want something badly enough, through the power of consciousness, we can manifest our own human experience, especially if it is something that’s rooted in the desire to do good for all. Based on all the science, history, philosophy and most of all, my intuition, this is something I firmly believe.

I’ve been able to be part of the CE team for several years now, and prior to it, it’s what I dreamed about. Being part of a team and having a platform to share information that we’ll never see in the mainstream media and to be in a position to bring new ideas and information to the world is all I wanted to do. I wanted it so bad that it’s what I did during school and when I had to work another job. I was always engaged in my passions, yet always heartbroken that I could not go through life solely pursuing what my heart beats for. But look at me now – I’m doing it.

I had a tough experience waking up to facts I was once unaware of, and on top of that was the normal human experience that just wasn’t resonating with me. What helped me manifest my experience?

The first thing was changing my perspective of the human experience. Instead of seeing it as a slave-like system, and labelling it as that, I chose to view it as an experience. I believe that this short lifetime is not our only one, and that this is my opportunity to “play” within the human experience. I looked at it as a challenge, and an opportunity to overcome many obstacles.

This helped my outlook on life big time, and instead of taking on a victim role where I felt hopeless and unable to change anything, the very perception of me looking at life as an opportunity is what helped me.

Life is too short to not put forth the effort into pursuing what your heart beats for. Yeah, it’s not easy I know, and it’s not hard to see why so many people believe it’s downright impossible when we have so many other duties to tend to.

Personally, I never perceived it as impossible. I was willing to die, go homeless, or whatever. There was no fear in me. We even have modern day science conforming that factors associated with consciousness, like thoughts, feelings and emotions, can actually affect our physical material world.

If you believe it’s possible, it is. If you don’t, it isn’t. The last thing I would say to you is that it’s not going to be easy, and will provide your life with a number of challenges/opportunities for growth. The joy lies within the journey itself, not the in the ends.

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New Moon In Aries: Taking Bold Action

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We are having a New Moon in Aries during the later hours of April 11th in the Americas and on the 12th everywhere else in the world. This is initiating a 29.5 day lunar cycle and new wave of energy for the coming month; however, the astrological configurations mentioned throughout this article will be more prominent over the following two weeks. This cycle will include a Full Moon in Scorpio on April 26th/27th.

Aries season began at the Equinox (on March 20th globally this year) as it always does, as per the framework of the Tropical Zodiac. Being the first of twelve signs, and initiator of a transitional season, it begins the Astrological New Year. However with this New Moon actually occurring in Aries as well, it will crank up the energies of this sign even more so in comparison to the previous weeks that were part of a lunar cycle initiated by a New Moon in Pisces.

Aries is the domain of self, independence, and individual needs. As a Cardinal Fire sign ruled by Mars, it is assertive, courageous, direct, pioneering, and leading. It is initiating, quick, bold, energetic, and warrior-like. Negatively, this energy can be inconsiderate, selfish,  hot tempered, combative, restless, impatient, aggressive, and overly competitive. Aries lacks thoroughness due to its quick forward energy.

New Moon Conjunct Mercury & Venus In Aries

This New Moon is close to both Mercury and Venus. This can reflect a period in which our social interactions and engagement with others can be more lively. Both Mercury and Aries have a busy moving type of energy and we may feel more active, physically and/or mentally, as a result.

The conjunction of both of these planets with this New Moon also means it is tied into cycles that each of those planets have with the Sun. Venus recently joined the Sun in the last week of March and it is now travelling ahead of it in zodiacal position.

In recent weeks this has been a time in which we experienced shifts, developments, endings, beginnings, or more clarity around Venus areas of friends, love, social dynamics, values, worth, or financial matters in some cases. This New Moon and the weeks following can continue this process, especially when it comes to beginnings or newer ways of expressing ourselves in these areas.

Mercury is now approaching the Sun as they will make their conjunction on April 18th/19th. At that time we may experience developments, which may be significant, connected to what has transpired during its previous retrograde in February and how things have unfolded since then. From there, these things may develop further with a better perception, or circumstances may indicate lack of sufficiency, not what was anticipated, or that something needs to change.

Planets In Aries Square Pluto & Sextile Mars Trine Jupiter

This New Moon, along with Venus and Mercury, are in a square with Pluto and sextile with Mars and Jupiter. Pluto combined with Aries and Mars energy can reflect a period of intensity. However, it can also play out as issues around power, control, manipulation, jealousy, insubordination, or subversion.  It can also be revealing, psychological, compulsive, transforming, and purging.

The sextile with Mars in Gemini adds to the lively, assertive, instinctual, and energetic expressions of Aries. The Aries’ planets sextile to Jupiter, which is also trine Mars, can be good for applying ourselves in a way that is expansive, optimistic, educational, philosophical, explorative, freedom seeking, or centered around beliefs. New doors may open up and it can even be lucky for some people.

Uranus square Saturn (mentioned here in a previous article) is still in the backdrop as it will be throughout the year. Although it’s not in one of its strong periods, themes of ‘freedom/rebellion/revolution being at odds restrictions/limitations/traditions are still playing out. This may get activated in different ways by this new lunar cycle and the Aries energy that has already been present over the previous weeks following the Astrological New Year.

Making Intentions & Things To Consider

How would you like to grow and expand and what do you need to change to get there? In what areas do you need to be more bold or courageous? What have your relationships shown you in recent weeks? What is important for your individuality? What are your personal needs? What do you stand for and should you be fighting for it? Do you need to be a leader in any aspects of your life? Are there any new things that you want to explore?

These are just some examples of what to consider or focus your intentions on at this time. However, it is good to reflect on anything else that is coming up for you. It is generally best to make any intentions within the first 24 hours following a New Moon. The exact moment it will occur is 2:31am Universal Time on April 12th. You can click here to see what that is in your time zone.

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A Symbiosis of Humans & Technology – Changing The Conversation

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Have you ever noticed that discussions about transhumanism tend to focus on technology more than humanism? The journey to reaching our highest potential as a species is usually focused externally on the technology rather than internally on our conscious evolution. This is probably because people assume that conscious evolution is more about spirituality whereas technology is more having to do with the things humans create. The two paths are interdependent so we need more conversations between experts in each of these fields. It will only be through a recognition of the symbiotic nature between humans, their technology, and the environment that we will avert self-destruction.

trans·hu·man·ism (n.) 1. A belief that humans should strive to transcend the physical limitations of the mind and body by technological means. 2. A movement of people who espouse such a belief.

Standing at a Crossroads: The influence that technology has on society and culture is called, technodeterminism. Most of us carry mini supercomputers in our pockets called smartphones. These devices act as external brains which seamlessly integrate into most aspects of our life. Most of us are completely dependent on them for travel, work, communication, entertainment, and beyond. Take a moment to consider the future implications of augmented reality, artificial intelligence, machine-learning, mass surveillance, automation, genome editing, nanotechnology, and their potential influences on society, culture, and our environment.

When I think about these things, I can’t help but ask:

Why aren’t people like the Dalai Lama, Deepak Chopra, and Dr. Andrew Weil conversing more with people like Ray Kurzweil, Elon Musk, and Steve Mann?

Ancient Futures: It will become increasingly imperative for our most advanced technologies to be informed by the natural ethos of indigenous people blended with the emotional-intelligence of our enlightened spiritual masters. We must remember that the first humans who captured fire to light their cave, stay warm on a cold night, or cook their food were using technology. Anthropologists proudly call us humans “tool-makers” as one of the attributes that make us distinct from most species.

Paradigm Shift: Conscious evolution will require a concerted effort to communicate across silos and disciplines. Cooperation and collaboration towards collective goals will need to take the place of competition for personal gain. What are we hoping to accomplish, and at what cost? We are a risk-taking species and that drives us to exceed all our limitations. Let’s make these be calculated risks because with our technology also comes a great responsibility.

Start Within: Even our most sophisticated technology does not possess the complexities of organic systems. Computers and machines can do many things for us but they will never be able to feel for us. The realm of emotion is central and unique to our human experience yet it is only now starting to be recognized as a valuable form of intelligence.

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognize one’s own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.” -Andrew Coleman A Dictionary of Psychology

Research in multiple fields of study shows that curiosity, creativity, taking initiative, multi-disciplinary thinking, and empathy are skills that will redefine traditional beliefs about intelligence. The ability to accommodate new information requires a certain level of mental flexibility, humility, and ultimately character. It is through our ability to feel and process our emotions that our higher intelligence flourishes.

SuperHumans: Any sports fan knows that there are individuals who possess superhuman gifts. Think of popular sports stars like Michael Jordan, or any of the various extreme sports heroes who somehow manage the seemingly impossible. We also have the various musical or art prodigies who express the skills of a master before the age of 10. We have seen humans walk on red-hot coals with bare feet, walk a tightrope between skyscrapers, and exhibit mind-boggling feats of mental-focus, and will-power. Did you know that Wim Hof ran a half marathon barefoot on ice and snow, with a time of 2 hours, 16 minutes, and 34 seconds? Humans are capable of amazing things when they channel discipline, practice, creative brilliance, fearlessness and focus. We have barely scratched the surface of what is possible!

Global Meditation: This simple practice of quieting the mind, and bringing presence to one’s breathing has a long list of documented benefits that include enhanced neural connections, deep feelings of connection and well-being, as well as a strengthened immune system. When we compound this focused intention to include tens of thousands of people all over the world, we begin to literally shift planetary magnetic resonance. The science does not lie, we are potent electrical beings with the ability to focus consciousness and create beyond our wildest imaginations.

Everything technology offers is a reflection of the technology that we, as humans are. Learning to laugh at ourselves a little while delving into our emotions and to make room for possibilities beyond our currently held beliefs is essential for this journey. In order for us to create technology that is aligned with all of life and our planet, we must first become aligned with ourselves and each other. Global meditation is where we practice together!

We can no longer claim that a technology is advanced if it is destroying our skies and rivers or perpetuating harmful practices like war and domination. These are examples of misguided technologies. Our DNA has been informed by countless generations of evolution. It is time that we focus our consciousness towards the natural wisdom kept by indigenous people, while embracing the presence of enlightened spiritual masters. This will allow us to infuse our science and highest technological advancements with ecological and emotional intelligence for the benefit of all life.

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A Proven Technique To Neutralize Draining Emotional Reactions

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  • The Facts:

    We'll explore a simple scientifically proven technique to help neutralize emotional reactions that often drain our energy and reduce our ability to think clearly and make effective decisions.

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    How often do you check in to how you're are feeling? Do you feel you are able to self regulate your emotions easily?

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Do you notice that you sometimes feel tired or fatigued but are not sure why? Maybe you can have a restful sleep and still wake up having a sense that your energy is not quite there? Maybe you notice yourself being reactive, having a short fuse and feeling unclear about what decisions to make? Maybe you say things to friends, family or people online that you later regret or didn’t truly mean. Much of this can have a lot to do with how we’re feeling emotionally on a regular basis. Emotions that are happening just a touch outside our conscious awareness.

Let’s just do a very quick check in to see what I mean. If you stop a take a moment right now to ask “how am I feeling?” What do you notice? Are you feeling good? Energized? Do you have a background tension? Are you a bit stressed? Annoyed? Are you relaxed and calm? Are you perhaps relaxed yet feeling blah? When we do these check ins we bring awareness to how we might be feeling. This is something we typically don’t do that often and thus are simply not consciously aware of how we feel. If we were a bit more consciously aware of how we felt, we’d have a greater understanding of what we could do to feel better as we know where we’re at.

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This is important because one of the greatest unrecognized sources of prolonged stress, fatigue and physical wear and tear on our bodies comes from living our day to day lives in a state where we consciously or subconsciously experience what we might call ‘draining emotions.’ These are emotions like worry, fear, anger, resentment, or sadness etc.

For each of us, we’re likely going to experience these emotions at some point in life, and this is normal. Typically when we experience these emotions, we’re getting an insight into ourselves. Since what triggers these emotions can often be subjective, we can learn something about our current self by paying attention to these emotions. For example, someone might cut us off while we’re driving on the freeway. On one hand, one person might react aggressively and become very angry, while another might simply see it as a mistake on the part of the other driver and move on with their day.

Why some of us react and others don’t typically comes down the the story we’re telling ourselves about why that person cut you off. Perhaps they take it personally, perhaps they see it as an attack in some way – who knows? You. Only you know, and you can get closer to knowing what that is so you don’t harbour that draining emotion for the rest of the day, and even remove the trigger to begin with so you don’t necessarily have to go down that angry road every time something small like this happens.

I want to be clear here, we’re not looking to avoid emotions or never experience them, we’re looking to gain awareness around why they come, and ultimately have the choice over what gets us bothered and what might be better to simply let go. There is a difference between momentarily feeling an emotion like this, and letting it become a ‘background state’ of being that slowly begins to shape our attitude towards unhealthy and draining tendencies.

We can likely go on all day about where we should ‘honor’ some emotions in some situations or stand up for ourselves in others – I’ll let you decide that within yourself for each situation, but what the focus here in this piece is to simply look at how we can neutralize an emotional experience so we can stop it from draining all our energy and gain greater clarity on why it might be happening.

The exercise below is geared towards improving our self awareness around situations and how we feel, so we can learn to self-regulate emotions at anytime, as well as turn off triggers that might not really be the greatest to have to begin with.

Remember, we’re going to stick with a situation where we are cut off in traffic, but you can use these steps for anything. Maybe you realize you are fearful about a situation. Maybe you notice ongoing worry about something that’s happening or may happen – whatever it may be, the steps can be applied.

A Quick 3 Minute Exercise

We’ll go through the steps, this might seem long at first but it’s actually very short once you get the hang of it. This method is based on decades of scientific researching involving the heart and the benefits of creating coherence through good heart rate variability. You can learn more about that here under the section “Coherence & Optimal Function.”

1. The first step is becoming aware of the fact you’re having the emotional experience. What we’re doing here is by reading this we’re setting up a bit of an increased self awareness in our minds that can help us remember to check in when we next have an emotional reaction to something. Perhaps the car cuts us off while driving, and we react, but then shortly after we remember that we want to have a closer look at that emotional reaction and perhaps choose a different response instead of going down an energy draining rabbit hole. So the first thing we want to do is become aware that the experience is happening.

2. The next step is accepting the experience that’s happening. What this means is, if the person in front of us cuts us off while driving and we get angry and realize we’re angry, bring to your awareness that this is OK. We’re not looking to create a judgement about what happened or what we’re experiencing, instead we simply want to see it for what it is, an experience that happened and we’re now aware of and sitting as an observer of it. What this does is it empowers us to be able to look a little more closely at what we’re feeling and why. After we become aware, take note of the emotion you’re experiencing and name it. Is it anger? Is it worry? Is it fear?

As a small kicker to this, just imagine that the intention here is to turn down the intensity of the emotion so we can go in a take a look at what’s going on in the same way that a firefighter will spray water onto a burning house to stop the fire and cool it enough to go in and assess what the source of that fire was.

3. Next we’re going to take a moment and place our hand or a couple fingers over the areas of our chest, around where your heart is, and use the placement of your hand as something to focus on. With your eyes open, take some comfortable yet slightly deeper breaths. Feel your breath moving in and out of the area of your heart (where you hand is). To do this, don’t worry too much about how perfect the breathing is or whether it’s exactly going in and our of your heart area, just sit with a gentle focus that your breath is moving in and out of the area of your heart. Our goal here is to bring awareness to the physical heart and begin to influence its rhythms ever so slightly. Breath into your heart for about 30 seconds.

4. Next we want to continue our heart focused breathing while also imagining the feeling of calm or ease enter into our bodies. Spend the next 2 minutes or so breathing in the feeling of calm or ease into your heart with comfortable breaths. Notice the calm and ease come over your mind and body. What this stage does is it shows us that we have the ability to produce our own emotional regulation by creating a physiological state that is more synchronized and favorable for introspection and clarity.

After step 4 you should feel a lot more neutral in your feeling, but it may be possible you’re still annoyed or upset about the situation, this is great and in many ways the point of the exercise. Remember the firefighter analogy.

If it’s a really small situation, this awareness might already help us choose to simply let it go. If it’s a larger situation, this exercise helps us reduce the intensity so we can gain a bit more clarity about what’s going on and stop us from simply circling the experience over and over again in our minds, potentially increasing our anger and draining our energy.

Now as a final step, you can take a moment to just assess, what is the story you have been telling yourself about the situation? What might be a more effective way to approach or think about the situation? In the case of getting cut off in the car, was it really personal? If so, how do you know? If it was a mistake, is anger helping you or just providing an undesirable experience? If you had the freedom, would you choose anger at the other driver or to just let it go and maintain better health?

The point here is that with awareness we get clearer on who we are and how we function. This inevitably gives us a choice in how we choose to react.

For more information on this and to build a bit of a deeper practice, you can check out a short course I produced in our members area called CETV. The course is called Improving Daily Self Awareness, Presence & Connection. 

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