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5 Steps To Getting Out Of Your Own Way

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Have you ever felt like you get in your own way? That, when working toward your goals, your path always follows the frustrating sequence of one step forward, two steps back?

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We all get in our own way at times, particularly when it comes to the areas in life that we struggle with the most. Getting in your own way can make it difficult to take the actions that will improve your situation.

For example, if you struggle with your weight, you likely get in your own way by not exercising regularly or eating well. If saving money is the problem, you likely have adopted a mindset that isn’t conducive to creating long term wealth.

Whatever your struggle is, getting in your own way suggests that you may not have a healthy relationship with yourself in that area of your life. As such, taking action toward the goals that you set will feel difficult (at times, impossible), and you’ll often struggle to find the motivation necessary to get things done.

Below you’ll find five suggestions for getting out of your own way. Commit to improving in one of these areas, and you will likely upgrade the others as well. Self-growth is a whole process, greater than the sum of its parts, and improvement in one area will lead to transformation in another.

1. Eliminate negative self-talk.

 You’ve probably heard before that negative self-talk can inhibit your ability to achieve a goal. There are many reasons this is true, but here’s one of the most important.

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All human behaviour is the result of you choosing to either avoid pain or seek out pleasure. Think about any behaviour you engage in regularly, and you likely can deduce which one it is for you.

It’s important you understand, then, that negative self-talk is painful on a level that only we can create for ourselves. When you demand perfection, or when you berate yourself because things didn’t go perfectly or how you imagined they would, your brain associates these negative feelings with your experience.

This could be why you avoid the activity that will help you reach your goals. Show more compassion to yourself and remember that achievement is a journey. No matter who you are or where you’re from, you will experience failure at some point, but failure is necessary for growth and, as such, should be embraced rather than feared.

2. Take a new approach to stop doing things you know you shouldn’t be doing.

Have you ever found yourself doing the thing you had, just moments ago, said you wouldn’t do? Most of us are all-too familiar with this scenario.

If that’s the case, I encourage you to flip your own script and take control in another manner. Instead of focusing on the things you shouldn’t be doing, focus on the things you should. Begin referring to these things as your “non-negotiables.”

For example, if your goal is to build a business, your non-negotiables each day might be:

  1. Cold call or cold email five prospective clients
  2. Spend one hour developing or growing your business
  3. Write one new blog post for your social media outlets

In this scenario, you take the focus off the minutiae that you sometimes get distracted by or caught up in — checking social media, answering emails, improving your website, etc. — and place it instead on getting your non-negotiables, the things you SHOULD be doing, done first. Whatever happens after that happens. You’ll have peace of mind knowing that you moved the needle and advanced yourself on that day.

Apply this to any area of your life and watch how this shift in focus destroys your tendency to do exactly what you think you shouldn’t.

3. Wisely choose the people in your life that you spend time with and take advice from.  

It’s a simple solution, but if you feel like you are getting in your own way, take a look at the people closest to you. If you find that your social circle enables you to make bad choices or live in a manner that is out of alignment with the vision you have for your life, you need to change that. Going out several nights a week or doing things that violate your values or beliefs for the sake of convenience is not doing you any favours.

While I’m not suggesting that you dramatically delete anyone from your phone who isn’t helping you reach your goals, I do recommend you start consciously limiting the time you spend around them. As with suggestion #2, your goal is to achieve peace of mind. What level of exposure to your friends and family will give you peace of mind and keep you effective at the same time?

Like it or not, the people that are closest to us influence our moods, beliefs, and actions. The people around you can help you reach your goals or can be a major reason why you never get there. Only you can decide what is right for you. Just remember, when it doesn’t feel right, it’s time to make a change.

4. Negatively perceiving your past failures.

 A surefire manner of getting in your own way is to believe that the future will be just like the past. When you think about it, it’s kind of a dumb belief. If we were all doomed to repeat our mistakes, why would we ever bother trying to improve ourselves?

Deep down, you know it might be similar. There’s a good chance you’ll struggle with the same one or two things that beat you up last time. But the outcome can always change. Achievers understand that failure is a form of feedback. When you fail, you’ve learned another way that isn’t going to help you reach your goals, and that it’s time to move on and try something else.

Make it a goal to give yourself a clean slate for your new journey every time you start something new. Stop associating past failures with new ventures. If anything, look deeply into what went awry last time and seek solutions that are specific to those problems before you get started again.

5. Getting ‘unstuck’ from the cycle of stress and self-doubt.

This last one is for people who have chronically struggled with something — weight loss, making money, breaking bad habits, improving their personal lives, etc. If it’s been years and you still haven’t gotten results no matter how hard you’ve tried, you might understand what it’s like to feel like you’re in a “cycle” of failure.

  Typically, the cycle goes like this:

  1. Something external motivates you to get started again.
  2. You make a grand plan that you’re sure is going to be the solution to your problems.
  3. Day 1 comes, and you’re confident in your abilities and excited to get moving.
  4. Day 3 hits, and you’re not as confident as you were when it started. Things get hard.
  5. Day 4 comes, you fall off the wagon, slip up, or don’t take any action.
  6. Days 5-7 are typically spent feeling depressed, upset, or stressed. For some, they are also the times when you binge.

 Wash, rinse, repeat. Three to four weeks go by, and you start the cycle all over again.

The solution here is this: Break your pattern by taking bold action toward your outcome. What could you do that would prevent you from turning back? Book a spot at a workshop? Throw out all the junk food in your pantry? If excuses were not allowed, what would that action be? Leverage that understanding and do all that you can do make it happen.

You’ll be surprised at how quickly you realize that the old cycle you were stuck in no longer seems as inevitable.

Final Thoughts

While getting out of your own way can’t be solved overnight, it can be eradicated over time if you strive for small advancements in the areas you struggle most. Consider it a win if you catch yourself before falling into old habits even once.

Be objective with your experiences and don’t get upset, even if you’ve never seen anything other than nominal success followed by failure. The truth is, you are entirely more capable at this point than you’ve ever been before because of what you’ve been through. With that in mind, strive for continual 1% improvements each day. You’ll be surprised how quickly the transformation comes.

Ultimately, it’s up to you to have the difficult conversation with yourself that will serve as the catalyst for progress. Don’t be afraid to pull up the hood and look for the problems. For all of us, that’s the start of getting out of our own way.

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Who Lucifer Actually Is & Why They Are Here (Part 1)

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    Lucifer is etymologically defined as the 'light bearer' and 'morning star', the bringer of light and wisdom. Yet Lucifer is also widely considered as the embodiment of pure 'evil.'

  • Reflect On:

    How can we come to understand Lucifer in a way that reconciles the apparent contradictions about who he is? It's time we view their role in a neutral light to begin to understand their purpose in our reality.

Of all subjects to venture into, writing about Lucifer could be among the most contentious of them all. Many readers will likely come into the discussion with pre-conceived notions and emotional triggers that are difficult to lay aside, even just for the amount of time it takes to read this article. But put them aside we must, if we are to have a fruitful conversation.

I am not out to convince anybody about an opinion. I am out to elaborate upon an understanding of who and what Lucifer is that I find best explains the entire body of information that is out there about him. Further, this explanation resonates the most with the paradigm I currently hold about spirituality and my understanding about why we are here on the planet at this time.

Some of my information comes from a forum thread between a self-proclaimed “generational member of a Ruling Bloodline Family,” and forum members who pose questions to the person going under the moniker ‘Hidden-Hand.’ I found this information particularly, ahem, illuminating.

Context

A general understanding that I work with about our life here on the planet is that we have incarnated into this ‘3rd density’ reality to evolve, individually and collectively, to the 4th and higher densities. David Wilcock and others speak about our ascension into the 4th density as an event that was slated around the end of the Mayan calendar in December 2012, and remains imminent, as he speaks about in his book The Ascension Mysteries.

This ascension of our individual and group souls, unfolding in accordance with astrological cycles that our solar system is tied into, is the quintessential spiritual ‘movement’ of all sentient beings in our universe, whether they are focusing on their own advances up through the densities, ending in a return to oneness with the supreme creator, or holding themselves back by choice to help other beings rise out of those lower densities. This is the ‘game’ that has been set up, to give life its vitality, direction, and purpose.

Creation

A very simple way to explain how ‘Creation’ works within this context will help in our understanding of who Lucifer is. Basically, the one ‘Supreme Creator’ did not create all there is as such. The one ‘Supreme Creator’ created many ‘sub-creators.’ A sub-creator (also known as a ‘logos’) could then create ‘sub-sub-creators.’ In other words, there is something of a hierarchy or ‘chain’ of creation that goes from the unmanifest ‘Supreme Creator’ all the way down to us as individual souls, who are also ‘creators’ in our own right. Simply stated, there are creator-beings who are creators of planets, suns, galaxies, and even universes.

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When asked who directly created us, Hidden-Hand replies thusly:

Your Creator, the one you have called ‘Yahweh’, is not “God” inasmuch as your bible refers to him as being “the One True God”. He is ‘a’ Creator (or Sub-Sub-Logos) rather than the One Infinite Creator. He is not even a Galactic level Logos, but rather, is the Planetary Logos for this one planet.

Stay with me now. If we can entertain the possibility that creation is multi-leveled, and that at the ‘planetary’ level the ‘creator’ of a planet has free will to create as they choose, then the stories we hear from the book of Genesis take on far more meaning. Apparently, Yahweh decided to create a nice planet that was somewhat of a paradise, because essentially evil didn’t exist there and the human beings lived in a state of reverence and obedience towards Yahweh, who was providing humans all they needed.

Nonetheless, in the absence of conflict, challenge, or stress, neither the humans nor Yahweh himself were evolving towards reunion with ‘Supreme Creator,’ which as we previously mentioned is the ‘game’ that we all signed up for. Humans did not have any ‘free will’ because in the absence of evil in their world things were ‘all good’ and they had nothing to choose from.

Enter Lucifer.

Lucifer  

According to Hidden-Hand, Lucifer (the ‘light-bearer’) is an advanced 6th-density being (or ‘group soul’) that agreed to descend into 3rd density on planet Earth to provide the ‘context’ by which human beings could experience free choice. That context was made possible by the introduction of ‘evil.’ In the face of ‘evil’ humans would for the first time be able to choose ‘good’ over something else.

Hidden-Hand describes how polarity and the presence of evil first came into mankind’s experience:

Yahweh agreed that we would introduce the concept of Free Will to Earth’s inhabitants, by offering them an initial choice, as to whether they ‘wanted’ it or not. Hence, “The Tree of the Knowledge of ‘Good and Evil'” (or more accurately, the Knowledge of Polarity, of Positive or Negative).

Yahweh takes his inhabitants to a new ‘garden’ and tells them you can do anything you like, except this one thing, thus creating the desire to do the one thing there are told they cannot. Hence, a “Choice”. We provide the Catalyst by telling them the benefits of attaining Knowledge, they eat from the tree, and the rest is history.

Hence Lucifer ‘tempts’ humanity into polarity, as polarity is the one context through which knowledge can be acquired. In essence, Lucifer has agreed to play a very challenging role on our planet in order to be a catalyst for our evolution into the higher densities.

Not An Endorsement Of Luciferianism

If you are still with me, you undoubtedly agree that conversations like this require a high level of discernment between what is being said and what is not being said. While Lucifer has so far been characterized as a highly evolved bringer of light and knowledge, for example,  there has been no support given to the principles or the practice of Luciferianism or the ‘Luciferian Doctrine.’ I hope you will rejoin me when we deal with those concepts in Part 2.

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Why Is Everyone Getting Offended All The Time? This Explains It

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  • The Facts:

    We get offended because we're hopelessly trapped in our ego's, beliefs and identities. We are being trained to be this way, but also have a huge learning opportunity through this current reality. Listen to the podcast for deep details.

  • Reflect On:

    Are you finding yourself getting offended easily? Is it true that we can ever truly be free if we can allow someone to offend us at all times? Is it not ourselves who choose to be offended?

“I’m so offended by that.” “Wow, that was so offensive!”

Think about it: People become enraged every day about things they read online, hear in the news, or witness on social media, about topics ranging from the words people use to gender politics, race, sports teams, diet, perceptions, etc. It’s everywhere! It appears as though everything is offensive and everyone has something to say about it.

Whether it is social justice warriors going to extremes to try and make everything safe or whether it’s is us personally getting upset at someone around us who says something we don’t like, the reality of how offended everyone is getting these days comes down to something very simple: we’re hopelessly trapped in our ego’s, beliefs and identities. And this is happening systematically for multiple reasons.

The good news is, it’s also happening so we can evolve.

This is going to go a bit deeper than some societal outlooks on what is taking place today, but we need to as we need to get to the core vs just looking at it like we typically do which is to just simply say things like “Ahh people are too sensitive etc” This is about taking it to the core of why we truly operate the way we do. 

It breaks down into two key things: creating the division purposely at a high level, and the opportunity for consciousness evolution that also exists within that division.

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Note: You can listen to the podcast episode here if you prefer. I only cover a few larger overview details in the article, the podcast has much more.

The Systematic Design of Division

Part one of the reason we are so offended all the time is that we are being trained to. There is a Deep State working to maintain control of a populace, whose consciousness is shifting and raising as each day goes by, and they are fearful of how much humanity is changing. This is causing them to work much harder to divide the public through getting everyone all tied up in their ego about various issues. Media is used to put out extreme situations with extreme sides so as to get people to buy into one side or another. Then we see a ton of attention being given to the battles and wars that are caused via these issues in order to further push into even greater battles.

Part of the play is to create a narrative people identify with via race, gender, age, culture etc. Then within those identities, we further divide ourselves by other factors, thus causing us to always see the differences in other vs the similarities. The narrative is then for people in each subgroup to FIGHT for what they want, causing subgroups everywhere to disagree and fight with one another.

From this point of view, this is about getting people to stay away and mad at one another so we cannot unite collectively. This also helps keep us so distracted that we cannot focus on things that truly matter. We are meant to focus on small minor issues that often take up time and energy so we do not see the big picture of what is truly happening on our planet and who is causing it. It appears the more truth comes into awareness of the public, the more distractions that come and follow.

Further, when it comes to the FIGHT, when has fighting in that way truly changed anything?

The Evolutionary Opportunity

Of course, within this landscape comes the opportunity for an evolution in human consciousness. What does this mean? When you have so much bubbling to the surface, and you have outbursts of emotion, you begin to see where people are at, what they believe, how they feel and so forth. Most importantly we get to see this about ourselves. And in that we have the opportunity to reflect on a number of things; how we identify, how much our ego and mind are in control, and what we believe about certain situations. It shows us what our perceptions look like and how we color situations and don’t allow ourselves to see them clearly.

When we get upset or offended, we see where we give up our power, our power to stay in a state of peace within ourselves. Wouldn’t it be nice if someone could walk up to you and say “Republicans are all idiots!” and you, as a Republican, are able to just observe and feel unmoved emotionally? Of course! But instead we go off in anger, judgement of another and we race to find a comeback. This unconsciousness is what not only keeps the cycle going but is also what is being brought to the surface through this entire journey of people becoming intensely offended about EVERYTHING!

I go into much greater detail in the podcast as I mentioned above, this article is simply a look at some of the more high-level reflections. Please consider listening to the podcast below.

 

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8 Comics Showing How Much Today’s Childhood Differs From Ours

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  • The Facts:

    The childhood experience today is inevitably affected by--and sometimes even centered on--technology.

  • Reflect On:

    What is technology giving to our children, and what is it taking away? Should we be more proactive about our children's exposure to technology?

When I was a child, there was no shortage of getting told by our parents and other adults about how much better we had things than they did when they were children.  Stories of having to walk for miles to go to school, sleeping in the same bed until they became an adult, having the same food all the time, and having only a few simple toys to last them several years were not uncommon at all. There was a definite sense that as society modernized, things were getting better for children.

And as children we certainly didn’t disagree — hearing our parents’ stories did indeed make us feel that we were better off than they were. We certainly would not be inclined to exchange our childhood for their more rugged, austere version. And yes, to some extent these stories gave us a bit more ‘appreciation’ for what we had, despite not showing enough of it to satisfy our parents.

How About Today?

Today, I’m not sure that familiar line of conversation that has spanned many generations is going on anymore between parents and children. As the father of a 4-year old, the most immediate difference I notice is that we seem to have less time for our children than our parents did, especially if both parents are working full-time, which is just about a requirement these days.

The other major difference is the level of technology children have access to. And in some ways, technology has come in and ‘filled the gap’ where a parent’s attention is absent. Now, undoubtedly, there are some benefits to technology for our children. But when we take time to reflect on it, we might recognize that we have come to a particular stage in the modernization of our society where most of us are not sure that ‘newer, bigger, faster, more convenient’ is necessarily better, especially with regards to the type of childhood that serves as a foundation for a happy and prosperous adult life.

Here are 8 pictures comparing childhoods then and now, where technology has become ubiquitous in the lives of our children. Do you think our children have it better than we did?

Are they having more fun?

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Are they being more creative?

Are they more ambitious?

Are they healthier?

Are they understanding consequences better?

Are they feeling things more deeply?

Are they experiencing more frustration?

Is their sense of wonder being cultivated more?

How Did You Score It?

How you answer these questions might give you some insight into how much you want your children’s early experiences to be influenced by technology. As everyone knows, childhood is the most formative time of a person’s life, which is why, as parents, some of the choices within our control that we make about our children’s exposure to technology might have a significant impact.

Drawings courtesy of Sergey Raskovalov.

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