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5 Steps To Getting Out Of Your Own Way




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Have you ever felt like you get in your own way? That, when working toward your goals, your path always follows the frustrating sequence of one step forward, two steps back?

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We all get in our own way at times, particularly when it comes to the areas in life that we struggle with the most. Getting in your own way can make it difficult to take the actions that will improve your situation.

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For example, if you struggle with your weight, you likely get in your own way by not exercising regularly or eating well. If saving money is the problem, you likely have adopted a mindset that isn’t conducive to creating long term wealth.

Whatever your struggle is, getting in your own way suggests that you may not have a healthy relationship with yourself in that area of your life. As such, taking action toward the goals that you set will feel difficult (at times, impossible), and you’ll often struggle to find the motivation necessary to get things done.

Below you’ll find five suggestions for getting out of your own way. Commit to improving in one of these areas, and you will likely upgrade the others as well. Self-growth is a whole process, greater than the sum of its parts, and improvement in one area will lead to transformation in another.

1. Eliminate negative self-talk.

 You’ve probably heard before that negative self-talk can inhibit your ability to achieve a goal. There are many reasons this is true, but here’s one of the most important.

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All human behaviour is the result of you choosing to either avoid pain or seek out pleasure. Think about any behaviour you engage in regularly, and you likely can deduce which one it is for you.

It’s important you understand, then, that negative self-talk is painful on a level that only we can create for ourselves. When you demand perfection, or when you berate yourself because things didn’t go perfectly or how you imagined they would, your brain associates these negative feelings with your experience.

This could be why you avoid the activity that will help you reach your goals. Show more compassion to yourself and remember that achievement is a journey. No matter who you are or where you’re from, you will experience failure at some point, but failure is necessary for growth and, as such, should be embraced rather than feared.

2. Take a new approach to stop doing things you know you shouldn’t be doing.

Have you ever found yourself doing the thing you had, just moments ago, said you wouldn’t do? Most of us are all-too familiar with this scenario.

If that’s the case, I encourage you to flip your own script and take control in another manner. Instead of focusing on the things you shouldn’t be doing, focus on the things you should. Begin referring to these things as your “non-negotiables.”

For example, if your goal is to build a business, your non-negotiables each day might be:

  1. Cold call or cold email five prospective clients
  2. Spend one hour developing or growing your business
  3. Write one new blog post for your social media outlets

In this scenario, you take the focus off the minutiae that you sometimes get distracted by or caught up in — checking social media, answering emails, improving your website, etc. — and place it instead on getting your non-negotiables, the things you SHOULD be doing, done first. Whatever happens after that happens. You’ll have peace of mind knowing that you moved the needle and advanced yourself on that day.

Apply this to any area of your life and watch how this shift in focus destroys your tendency to do exactly what you think you shouldn’t.

3. Wisely choose the people in your life that you spend time with and take advice from.  

It’s a simple solution, but if you feel like you are getting in your own way, take a look at the people closest to you. If you find that your social circle enables you to make bad choices or live in a manner that is out of alignment with the vision you have for your life, you need to change that. Going out several nights a week or doing things that violate your values or beliefs for the sake of convenience is not doing you any favours.

While I’m not suggesting that you dramatically delete anyone from your phone who isn’t helping you reach your goals, I do recommend you start consciously limiting the time you spend around them. As with suggestion #2, your goal is to achieve peace of mind. What level of exposure to your friends and family will give you peace of mind and keep you effective at the same time?

Like it or not, the people that are closest to us influence our moods, beliefs, and actions. The people around you can help you reach your goals or can be a major reason why you never get there. Only you can decide what is right for you. Just remember, when it doesn’t feel right, it’s time to make a change.

4. Negatively perceiving your past failures.

 A surefire manner of getting in your own way is to believe that the future will be just like the past. When you think about it, it’s kind of a dumb belief. If we were all doomed to repeat our mistakes, why would we ever bother trying to improve ourselves?

Deep down, you know it might be similar. There’s a good chance you’ll struggle with the same one or two things that beat you up last time. But the outcome can always change. Achievers understand that failure is a form of feedback. When you fail, you’ve learned another way that isn’t going to help you reach your goals, and that it’s time to move on and try something else.

Make it a goal to give yourself a clean slate for your new journey every time you start something new. Stop associating past failures with new ventures. If anything, look deeply into what went awry last time and seek solutions that are specific to those problems before you get started again.

5. Getting ‘unstuck’ from the cycle of stress and self-doubt.

This last one is for people who have chronically struggled with something — weight loss, making money, breaking bad habits, improving their personal lives, etc. If it’s been years and you still haven’t gotten results no matter how hard you’ve tried, you might understand what it’s like to feel like you’re in a “cycle” of failure.

  Typically, the cycle goes like this:

  1. Something external motivates you to get started again.
  2. You make a grand plan that you’re sure is going to be the solution to your problems.
  3. Day 1 comes, and you’re confident in your abilities and excited to get moving.
  4. Day 3 hits, and you’re not as confident as you were when it started. Things get hard.
  5. Day 4 comes, you fall off the wagon, slip up, or don’t take any action.
  6. Days 5-7 are typically spent feeling depressed, upset, or stressed. For some, they are also the times when you binge.

 Wash, rinse, repeat. Three to four weeks go by, and you start the cycle all over again.

The solution here is this: Break your pattern by taking bold action toward your outcome. What could you do that would prevent you from turning back? Book a spot at a workshop? Throw out all the junk food in your pantry? If excuses were not allowed, what would that action be? Leverage that understanding and do all that you can do make it happen.

You’ll be surprised at how quickly you realize that the old cycle you were stuck in no longer seems as inevitable.

Final Thoughts

While getting out of your own way can’t be solved overnight, it can be eradicated over time if you strive for small advancements in the areas you struggle most. Consider it a win if you catch yourself before falling into old habits even once.

Be objective with your experiences and don’t get upset, even if you’ve never seen anything other than nominal success followed by failure. The truth is, you are entirely more capable at this point than you’ve ever been before because of what you’ve been through. With that in mind, strive for continual 1% improvements each day. You’ll be surprised how quickly the transformation comes.

Ultimately, it’s up to you to have the difficult conversation with yourself that will serve as the catalyst for progress. Don’t be afraid to pull up the hood and look for the problems. For all of us, that’s the start of getting out of our own way.

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A Proven Technique To Neutralize Draining Emotional Reactions





CE Staff Writer 9 minute read

In Brief

  • The Facts:

    We'll explore a simple scientifically proven technique to help neutralize emotional reactions that often drain our energy and reduce our ability to think clearly and make effective decisions.

  • Reflect On:

    How often do you check in to how you're are feeling? Do you feel you are able to self regulate your emotions easily?

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Do you notice that you sometimes feel tired or fatigued but are not sure why? Maybe you can have a restful sleep and still wake up having a sense that your energy is not quite there? Maybe you notice yourself being reactive, having a short fuse and feeling unclear about what decisions to make? Maybe you say things to friends, family or people online that you later regret or didn’t truly mean. Much of this can have a lot to do with how we’re feeling emotionally on a regular basis. Emotions that are happening just a touch outside our conscious awareness.

Let’s just do a very quick check in to see what I mean. If you stop a take a moment right now to ask “how am I feeling?” What do you notice? Are you feeling good? Energized? Do you have a background tension? Are you a bit stressed? Annoyed? Are you relaxed and calm? Are you perhaps relaxed yet feeling blah? When we do these check ins we bring awareness to how we might be feeling. This is something we typically don’t do that often and thus are simply not consciously aware of how we feel. If we were a bit more consciously aware of how we felt, we’d have a greater understanding of what we could do to feel better as we know where we’re at.

Energy Loss

This is important because one of the greatest unrecognized sources of prolonged stress, fatigue and physical wear and tear on our bodies comes from living our day to day lives in a state where we consciously or subconsciously experience what we might call ‘draining emotions.’ These are emotions like worry, fear, anger, resentment, or sadness etc.

For each of us, we’re likely going to experience these emotions at some point in life, and this is normal. Typically when we experience these emotions, we’re getting an insight into ourselves. Since what triggers these emotions can often be subjective, we can learn something about our current self by paying attention to these emotions. For example, someone might cut us off while we’re driving on the freeway. On one hand, one person might react aggressively and become very angry, while another might simply see it as a mistake on the part of the other driver and move on with their day.

Why some of us react and others don’t typically comes down the the story we’re telling ourselves about why that person cut you off. Perhaps they take it personally, perhaps they see it as an attack in some way – who knows? You. Only you know, and you can get closer to knowing what that is so you don’t harbour that draining emotion for the rest of the day, and even remove the trigger to begin with so you don’t necessarily have to go down that angry road every time something small like this happens.

I want to be clear here, we’re not looking to avoid emotions or never experience them, we’re looking to gain awareness around why they come, and ultimately have the choice over what gets us bothered and what might be better to simply let go. There is a difference between momentarily feeling an emotion like this, and letting it become a ‘background state’ of being that slowly begins to shape our attitude towards unhealthy and draining tendencies.

We can likely go on all day about where we should ‘honor’ some emotions in some situations or stand up for ourselves in others – I’ll let you decide that within yourself for each situation, but what the focus here in this piece is to simply look at how we can neutralize an emotional experience so we can stop it from draining all our energy and gain greater clarity on why it might be happening.

The exercise below is geared towards improving our self awareness around situations and how we feel, so we can learn to self-regulate emotions at anytime, as well as turn off triggers that might not really be the greatest to have to begin with.

Remember, we’re going to stick with a situation where we are cut off in traffic, but you can use these steps for anything. Maybe you realize you are fearful about a situation. Maybe you notice ongoing worry about something that’s happening or may happen – whatever it may be, the steps can be applied.

A Quick 3 Minute Exercise

We’ll go through the steps, this might seem long at first but it’s actually very short once you get the hang of it. This method is based on decades of scientific researching involving the heart and the benefits of creating coherence through good heart rate variability. You can learn more about that here under the section “Coherence & Optimal Function.”

1. The first step is becoming aware of the fact you’re having the emotional experience. What we’re doing here is by reading this we’re setting up a bit of an increased self awareness in our minds that can help us remember to check in when we next have an emotional reaction to something. Perhaps the car cuts us off while driving, and we react, but then shortly after we remember that we want to have a closer look at that emotional reaction and perhaps choose a different response instead of going down an energy draining rabbit hole. So the first thing we want to do is become aware that the experience is happening.

2. The next step is accepting the experience that’s happening. What this means is, if the person in front of us cuts us off while driving and we get angry and realize we’re angry, bring to your awareness that this is OK. We’re not looking to create a judgement about what happened or what we’re experiencing, instead we simply want to see it for what it is, an experience that happened and we’re now aware of and sitting as an observer of it. What this does is it empowers us to be able to look a little more closely at what we’re feeling and why. After we become aware, take note of the emotion you’re experiencing and name it. Is it anger? Is it worry? Is it fear?

As a small kicker to this, just imagine that the intention here is to turn down the intensity of the emotion so we can go in a take a look at what’s going on in the same way that a firefighter will spray water onto a burning house to stop the fire and cool it enough to go in and assess what the source of that fire was.

3. Next we’re going to take a moment and place our hand or a couple fingers over the areas of our chest, around where your heart is, and use the placement of your hand as something to focus on. With your eyes open, take some comfortable yet slightly deeper breaths. Feel your breath moving in and out of the area of your heart (where you hand is). To do this, don’t worry too much about how perfect the breathing is or whether it’s exactly going in and our of your heart area, just sit with a gentle focus that your breath is moving in and out of the area of your heart. Our goal here is to bring awareness to the physical heart and begin to influence its rhythms ever so slightly. Breath into your heart for about 30 seconds.

4. Next we want to continue our heart focused breathing while also imagining the feeling of calm or ease enter into our bodies. Spend the next 2 minutes or so breathing in the feeling of calm or ease into your heart with comfortable breaths. Notice the calm and ease come over your mind and body. What this stage does is it shows us that we have the ability to produce our own emotional regulation by creating a physiological state that is more synchronized and favorable for introspection and clarity.

After step 4 you should feel a lot more neutral in your feeling, but it may be possible you’re still annoyed or upset about the situation, this is great and in many ways the point of the exercise. Remember the firefighter analogy.

If it’s a really small situation, this awareness might already help us choose to simply let it go. If it’s a larger situation, this exercise helps us reduce the intensity so we can gain a bit more clarity about what’s going on and stop us from simply circling the experience over and over again in our minds, potentially increasing our anger and draining our energy.

Now as a final step, you can take a moment to just assess, what is the story you have been telling yourself about the situation? What might be a more effective way to approach or think about the situation? In the case of getting cut off in the car, was it really personal? If so, how do you know? If it was a mistake, is anger helping you or just providing an undesirable experience? If you had the freedom, would you choose anger at the other driver or to just let it go and maintain better health?

The point here is that with awareness we get clearer on who we are and how we function. This inevitably gives us a choice in how we choose to react.

For more information on this and to build a bit of a deeper practice, you can check out a short course I produced in our members area called CETV. The course is called Improving Daily Self Awareness, Presence & Connection. 

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Hypnotherapy: Is This Healing Modality Being Overlooked?





5 minute read

In Brief

  • The Facts:

    Hypnosis comes in many different forms and has been used to help people with personal development, trauma, and much more. This article discusses one perspective of hypnosis.

  • Reflect On:

    Hypnosis and other 'therapies' have been used for thousands of years, along with many other mindful interventions. Why has modern day society encouraged popping a pill for mental issues when there many other solutions?

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Within the scientific and cultural discussion, there is a lot of research today about the healing powers of the heart, mindfulness, meditation, yoga, and even naturally-derived hallucinogenic compounds such as DMT and psilocybin.

However, I feel the most exciting one of all is the amazing healing power of hypnosis.

What is Hypnosis?

Hypnosis does not have one simple definition. It can be defined as a state of suggestibility, deep focus (a trance), or as an altered state of awareness, consciousness, or brainwave activity.

If we define hypnosis as a state of suggestibility, then we can consider ourselves constantly in hypnosis. We know that our culture and community shape our beliefs, advertising works on a deeper level, and even dreams affect our mood.

If we add a deep focus (a trance) to the definition, then we are no longer considered in hypnosis during our normal everyday lives. Therefore hypnosis is considered to begin once we move into an altered state.

The hypnagogic trance begins when the human brain moves from BETA (thinking) into ALPHA (relaxation) and then into THETA (the dream-like state between sleep and awake) where we become increasingly connected to our subconscious.

Therefore, I would define hypnosis as the exciting practice of deepening our connection to our own subconscious.

The History of Hypnotherapy.

Nearly all ancient cultures, including the Sumerian, Persian, Chinese, Indian, Egyptian, Greek, and Roman, had shamans, priests or practitioners employing the hypnotic trance state (hypnagogia) for healing.

In the 18th century, enough doctors, surgeons, psychiatrists, psychologists and psychotherapists were working with hypnagogia that the British Medical Association (BMA) unanimously endorsed the therapeutic use of hypnosis in 1892.

Scottish surgeon James Braid introduced the terms ‘hypnotism’ and ‘self-hypnotism’ in 1841. In 1845, Scottish surgeon James Esdaile gained recognition for his painless surgical procedures on the battlefields of India using hypnotism (out of sheer necessity). At the beginning of the 20th century, French psychologist Émile Coué developed the concept of autosuggestion, a self-hypnosis technique making use of what we now call placebo effect, and American psychiatrist Milton Erickson, specialising in medical hypnosis, founded the American Society for Clinical Hypnosis (ASCH) in 1957. The UK National Occupational Standards (NOS) for Hypnotherapy were published in 2002.

Thanks to a 2016 Stanford study, we now have scientific evidence that hypnosis causes physical changes in the brain that enhance “somatic and emotional control.” It has taken time, but hypnotherapy today is a fully recognised medical practice, and the healing that can be carried out in this state continues to develop.

Modern Uses of Hypnotherapy.

Today, hypnotherapy is often used by people to stop smoking, lose weight, stop worrying (for anxiety and depression) and to get better sleep (for insomnia). Language, suggestion and placebo in the hypnotic state are enough to help people overcome phobias, and addictive habits like smoking, eating or overthinking.

The healing power of hypnosis becomes even more amazing when we explore how hypnotherapy is also used to invite the subconscious to do the healing for us.

Parts therapy, for example, is a well established modality in which different parts of one’s own subconscious communicate with each other to end addictive behaviours, resolve problems or issues, and overcome past trauma.

The subconscious communicates with itself, the person in hypnosis, and with the guide (the therapist) via ideomotor responses, such as finger movements.

In past life regression therapy, people visit significant memories from previous lives and the subconscious is asked to disclose the importance of these memories.

Whether imagination or actual memory (see the work of Dr. Ian Stevenson and Dr. Jim Tucker from the University of Virginia School of Medicine), past lives therapy provides real insights and healing for the person in this life.

The Future of Hypnotherapy.

There is so much more to learn about the healing power of the hypnagogic state. It can be explored in lucid dreams and out-of-body experiences (OBEs), with plant medicines like ayahuasca, and deep meditation (self-induced or with a hypnotist).

Future life progression can take people to spaceships, other worlds and to experience themselves as alien life forms, and even that state of euphoria experienced in the deepest levels of meditation can be induced by a hypnotist, and is known as the coma state.

I practice a unique type of content-free hypnotherapy, which means I don’t need to know what the problem actually is, and you don’t either, because your subconscious already knows.

First, we ask the subconscious to release any negative images, emotions or sensations that are stored in the body. This release of stress can have a profound positive effect on the body and mind. This includes increasing mood, clearing past trauma, and removing physical pain.

Next we go on a mystical, magical journey based on the insights gained during the emotional cleaning. Along the way, we ask the subconscious to show you memories, people and situations that give knowledge and insights to help you be healthier, happier, and in best alignment moving forward.

I offer on donation hypnotherapy sessions to anyone, so everyone can experience the incredible healing power of hypnosis.

Everyone who participates in a session with me is welcome to join the free weekly Sunday morning meditation sessions where we learn to meditate and use self-hypnosis to heal ourselves.


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How To Master Your Critical Thinking Skills





CE Staff Writer 12 minute read
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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    We're in a time where truly making sense of what is going on around us has become incredibly important as more consequential decisions are being made in our world based on faulty thinking.

  • Reflect On:

    Increasing self awareness leads to a better understanding of ourselves and how we think. Can we better explore our relationship with the world, each other, society, nature and more when we are more self aware?

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Imagine a world where we can talk about ideas and not be at each others throats when we disagree. Imagine a world where even as we disagree, we can still decide how to synthesize information and decide how to move forward without conflict. Imagine a world where news and media wasn’t always trying to manipulate you into believing whatever the news outlet’s agenda was. You might think this imagined world is not possible – but it is – we simply have to be willing to get there. And before you start worrying whether everyone else is willing to get there, you simply have to ask, are you?

I can say I knew this before, but it really became evident in 2020 to me: our culture has truly lost the art of critical thinking. For regular readers of alternative media, you may or may not have had the thought: “wow, ya so many people fell for bogus mainstream narratives in 2020.” But the truth is, I see critical thinking challenges in crowds that both work in and consume alternative media as I do with mainstream media. Last year I wrote an essay on the subject of conspiracy, bringing to light the reality that conspiracy does exist in our world at times, but often times people can begin to believe everything is a conspiracy or that everything from alt media is true while mainstream media is always wrong. This is faulty thinking. We might also have difficulty understanding what evidence supports a conspiracy vs. what someone simply believes is evidence when in fact it’s not.

Given so many huge decisions are being made in our world right now based off of faulty information, and the consequences of the those decisions are huge, knowing how to arrive at effective decisions through facts and proper dialogue is a really important skill to develop.

Since the inception of Collective Evolution back in 2009 I’ve always felt that what is playing out in our lives, physical world, current events, politics, relationships etc is a reflection of our beliefs, worldviews and thinking – believe it or not, this is a more of a spiritual experience than we might realize. Current events is s reflection of our current level of consciousness.

Think of it this way, what does meditation lead you towards? What does having a greater sense of self awareness lead to? What do we do with increased peace in our minds and physiology? How do we use those states of being to make decisions in our world and in our lives? The spiritual skills we choose to develop lead to changes in how we think about almost everything in our day to day lives, yet very few people associated spiritual development with thinking and current events – instead, those subjects are often avoided and thus our inner spiritual work doesn’t always translate into the deeper changes in our societal world as we’ve set up a barrier as to how we apply our level of consciousness.

For example, an average meditator usually wants greater peace in their lives, and in a lot of cases also wants to see a more peaceful and thriving world. At the same time, they might carry the judgment that news is negative, and therefore never engage with it. Thus when it comes to how to engage with how we can change the way society functions to create that thriving world, we might not have many thoughts come to mind as we’re not used to applying our greater sense of awareness to asking questions about how our world works and why. Given that asking these questions gives us an understanding as to how we can change our world, it’s crucial that we take this step, and not just leave our heightened awareness on the meditation pillow.

Let’s look at it another way. In much of personal transformation, we are seeking solutions to self soothe and create change in our lives. The pathway to doing this is through getting to know ourselves, how we function, what our subconscious patterns are etc. We bring these things to our awareness, raise our consciousness around them, and then know how to take action.

The same can be said for how we view our physical world and current events. How do things really work? Do we really know what we’re voting for? Do we really know what we’re investing in? Are we capable of something we’re not being exposed to? How would we know or find out if we choose not to explore?

In essence, in many ways we must ask deeper questions about how our world works than what is commonly explored in mainstream media, because this will tell us where we’re at. We’ll also gain insight into the human condition and culture behind the choices that are made and whether some of it comes from conspiracy – so that ultimately we can know how to move forward. Note, this isn’t about judging what is happening and seeking revenge on anyone who might have done something wrong, it’s simply a process of bringing to awareness what might be going on so we can recognize the need for change and take the right actions.

Critical thinking then, is a process of looking at situations, relationships, ideas and real world pieces of information and understanding what’s going on, what’s behind it, and what to do with that information. It’s understanding our personal and collective relationship to our world. It’s part of how we participate in creating the world we see out there.

There are several ways to begin mastering our critical thinking so that we can make more effective decisions in our personal lives and as a community. Let’s go over a couple below.


One of the best ways to improve our critical thinking is to better hear what is actually being said. Whether we are reading, watching a video, listening to a podcast, or in conversation, truly taking the time to HEAR what is being said seems a lost art. It’s why we place the exercise at the top of all of our articles that invites each of us to become more present and physiologically coherent. This simple 60 second exercise literally changes our physiological state into one that can hear better, discern better, empathize better, and navigate information better.

What state are we in when we are listening to something? How about when someone says something we don’t quite like? Do we start sighing, judging, responding back to the screen saying things like “oh man you don’t get it?” Does this change the way we listen and what we hear? Do we miss all of the areas that we actually agree with the person on in favor of seeing the one or two things we don’t agree with? Were we open to learning something new?

Listening is a huge part of improving our critical thinking because it allows us to actually hear what someone is saying and where they are coming from, and it by nature keeps us more present. This in turn also helps us move past some of our own bias’.

In order to improve your listening while consuming content or in conversation, take a moment to breathe, become present, and notice your surroundings. Truly be there and bring your awareness to the idea that you’re committing to listening to someone, holding off your response and truly hearing them.

This sounds simple, but you’ll find this muscle of truly listening is not one we flex all that often. Especially in our fast paced world.

Understanding Our Bias

Bias is something we all have, it’s a distortion in our thinking that can often make it so we begin to disengage with what someone is saying because in some sense we have been triggered by something we already believe, and we now shut off any further inquiry into new information. Bias also affects how we see news and information, as well as situations and our relationships, and even affects decisions we make.

For example, imagine someone is biased toward a political affiliation, maybe they like Democrats over Republicans. That person will likely speak more positively about politicians that are Democratic, and more negatively about Republicans, regardless of what each politician might truly stand for. The only reason for this is because the person identifies and has a positive bias towards the Democratic politician.

The issue here is we are making something, with no real value in making an impactful decision, very important. Not only that, but we culturally begin to focus on these unimportant details so much that we all begin to argue over them and divide ourselves by them, pulling us away from truly getting to the bottom of what is really going.

In a spiritual sense, we’re taking an incredible being that we are as an awareness having an experience, and confining it to an incredibly limiting box that states “I’m a progressive” or “I’m a conservative.” Does that truly tell someone who you are and what you believe? Is that label in practice actually serving our culture?

Here are CE we don’t recommend listening to just one news source, multiple, from different perspectives, is always better. But if you choose only one, which most do, make sure they have ZERO political affiliation. Political affiliation means you are hearing filtered information that distorts the truth 100% of the time. Virtually all mainstream and alternative media aligns with one political side.

We feel overcoming bias is so important in improving critical thinking and creating a thriving world that we developed a 5 week course called Overcoming Bias & Improving Critical Thinking. It’s designed to help us shed light on our own bias, recognize it in others, and improve our self awareness – all so we can think more critically and make more effective decisions. This course begins March 16th 2021, and we invite you to check it out here.

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Asking Questions – Ease, Playfulness, & Curiosity

Another key to improving critical thinking is taking a quick look at what our state of being is with regards to learning about and exploring new information. In essence, what’s your frame of mind and emotions when you’re consuming media?

Think for a moment when a kid is learning, they are often playful, curious and move about with ease. They aren’t finding ways to disagree, trying to argue all the time or identify with a particular position. These are learned habits that we develop as we take note from cultural norms and form a certain sense of identity around how we think about what we believe. While some might argue this is natural, is that really true? Is it optimal? Does it mean that we can’t change this pattern? Or perhaps we can ask, where has that belief in this pattern led us? Is our society peaceful? Do we make sense of things effectively? Are we working together or are we divided by our beliefs?

My research and experience in working on myself and with others for the last 14 years has led me to a simple truth: we are all capable to expanding our awareness past the fickle form of identity that sees us as our beliefs. In fact, I’ve seen people free themselves from this level of thinking so deeply that they begin to synthesize information so much more effectively, and they can communicate with others much more deeply without all the arguments and disagreements. Why? Because they are free from the idea that someone is attacking their beliefs. They are free from the idea of needing to be right or wrong. They instead are at play and hold curiosity and ease enough that they can keep asking questions.

Questions are key. When we hear bits of information and ask more questions as opposed to simply jumping to conclusions, we pull our thinking and awareness even deeper. We begin to see where else things might go vs. simply stopping at whatever an analyst on TV might have told us.

Often times people feel that getting to answers is all about researching and hearing what others are saying. But what questions did they ask themselves to arrive at the answer they are giving you? We must learn to ask the right questions, if we want to get to answers that are more impactful and meaningful. This is often times the biggest factor in why mainstream, and even a lot of alternative media, is failing to provide people with experiences of arriving at useful answers. The questions being asked are often built from a bias, therefore they are faulty questions or questions that seek only to bring answers that fit into our existing bias.

The way we choose to operate with our media here at CE is to invite the habit and skill of questioning and critically thinking in every piece we create. This is done by posing questions, inviting deeper inquiry and pushing beyond existing worldviews.

This is another reason why we have put so much love and care into our upcoming course, we feel that aside from gaining a sense of presence and self awareness, knowing how to ask the right questions is one of the most important things we can do to slip past bias and improve our critical thinking greatly – something we so deeply need in our society right now.

If you’re looking to take your journey of improving critical thinking and self awareness to the next level, check out our new course. We’ll be starting March 16th and moving through the course as a group. Q&As and discussions will be taking place with all like minded course takes via our private social network called CE Connect as well. Click here to learn more.

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Click below to watch a sneak peek of our brand new course!

Our new course is called 'Overcoming Bias & Improving Critical Thinking.' This 5 week course is instructed by Dr. Madhava Setty & Joe Martino

If you have been wanting to build your self awareness, improve your.critical thinking, become more heart centered and be more aware of bias, this is the perfect course!

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