Self love can be a difficult subject for many people to address, especially because it’s one that society frowned upon for a while. Strengthening your love for yourself was often viewed as vain, and even to this day it’s mistaken as being selfish.
What we sometimes fail to recognize is that you cannot treat others with compassion and kindness if you cannot even extend that same level of respect toward yourself. How can you be expected to make others feel loved if you yourself feel incredibly unloved, or worse, unworthy of love?
By increasing your own self love, you simultaneously strengthen your ability to connect with others. Being honest and vulnerable with yourself can be difficult, but it’s necessary for growing your self love. By feeling our emotions completely and being more compassionate with them, we develop a greater ability to empathize and be vulnerable with others, thus increasing connectivity in our relationships.
So, where do we start on our journeys? Psychologist Dr. Eli Finkel developed helpful “love hacks” to fix your relationship with your partner. However, after reading them, I believe that these love hacks can also be tweaked and used to strengthen not only your romantic relationships, but your relationship to yourself as well. Of course, love isn’t a “one size fits all” subject, but certainly these could help you along your journey!
The first “love hack” involves physical touch. According to Dr. Finkel, simply touching your partner can help to increase connectivity between the two of you, even if it’s just holding hands. This experiment found that couples who were told to touch one another while watching a video felt more confident in their partner and more loved in comparison to those who were instructed not to touch one another.
Physical touch can work in increasing your own self love and feeling of well-being too, regardless of whether or not you have a romantic partner. Even just hugging another human being can make you literally healthier and happier. When you hug someone or even just hug yourself, you release oxytocin, otherwise known as the “love hormone,” which can improve heart health, decrease stress levels, and more.
Don’t Assume the Worst
Even if you’re super optimistic, occasionally our minds jump to the worst possibility. Whenever this happens, recognize that you are jumping to a conclusion that may not be the truth, and that there’s no way of knowing the truth until it’s discovered. So, you might as well not waste your time worrying about your partner, your job, or whatever else you’re stressing over.
Sure, it’s totally natural to weigh the possibilities, but if a story you’ve created in your mind is causing you unnecessary stress, then it’s probably best to just let that go. If you find that you easily assume the worst in situations, there’s a technique I discovered through listening to a Kevin Trudeau podcast called “cancel-cancel.”
Basically, you allow yourself to live in your stress for a few moments and imagine the absolute worst possible scenario. Then, when you’ve completely envisioned it, you yell “cancel-cancel.” You literally communicate to yourself that you want to cancel that thought, and that you will not allow it to become your reality. Even just screaming can be super empowering, let alone telling yourself that you refuse to believe your own pessimism!
Picture Conflict From an “Outside Perspective”
Sometimes, when we’re so wrapped up in our emotions, we come at everything from a state of “victim consciousness.” This is a term used by Michael Bernard Beckwith, and it basically refers to a state of consciousness in which you always think “poor me” or ask “why me?”
When we’re assuming the role of the victim, it becomes difficult to empathize with the individual we’re having a disagreement with. Try to imagine yourself in the other person’s shoes as best you can, and recognize that sometimes you may not know the full picture. That individual could easily just be projecting their emotions onto you rather than dealing with their emotions themselves.
Instead of matching anger with anger, try meeting it with compassion. Why fight fire with fire when you could literally put it out by using compassion and love? Don’t express anger toward the other person. Instead, ask them why they’re feeling so angry and upset in the first place. Sometimes, when people lash out at us, it’s really a cry for help.
When we take a third party role, it allows us to really see things from a bigger picture. This is helpful in not only romantic relationships, but in all relationships as well, including those that we hold with ourselves.
If I get upset, I’ll often ask myself what the root cause of my anger or sadness is, and then put things into perspective. Do I really need to be wasting my time complaining about the small things, or would I rather live in a healthier and happier state by focusing on the things I love and that truly matter, and not sweating the small stuff?
To be clear, I am not suggesting you suppress your emotions, as it’s important to feel them out. But “letting go” and taking an objective approach is another way to help you understand your emotions better and truly connect deeper with yourself and your partner.
One of the best ways to improve your relationships is by creating more self awareness in yourself. Take CE’s 5 Days of You Challenge to explore yourSELF deeper.
Make a Gratitude List
I can confidently say that when I started to make a gratitude list, my life drastically changed for the better and my self love strengthened rapidly. By writing down all of the things, people, places, etc. that you’re grateful for, you begin to focus on all of the incredible parts of your life and the beauty within this universe, rather than the darkness.
Of course, duality exists for a reason, and it’s important that you face your hardships head on. It’s equally as important, however, that you recognize how incredibly blessed you are to be alive and living your life. If you have difficulty listing off numerous things you’re grateful for, you can start with the stuff we often perceive as being “small” but are actually so incredibly important, like our breath, fresh water, food, and other necessities.
To apply this to your relationship, Dr. Finkel suggests writing down a list of things your partner has done to truly invest in your relationship. What are you grateful for that your partner has done?
Accept a Compliment
Dr. Finkel suggests recalling a time that your partner complimented you, and take not of how you felt when you received it. What does your partner appreciate about you? Often times, we create these fake stories in our heads of why we’re “unlovable,” so by establishing why your partner loves you and accepting that, it could in turn improve your relationship with your partner and with yourself.
If you’re single like me, you could try either giving yourself a compliment or recalling a time you felt loved and appreciated thanks to a compliment. I’m not necessarily referring to a typical compliment like “you look pretty,” but rather a comment that deeply touched your soul and made you feel loved, whether that be a love you felt for yourself or a love you felt from another.
Try just writing down one thing you love about yourself. It could be anything, but recognize that there are so many reasons that you are incredible, starting with the fact that you’re alive. Did you know that there was only a one in four hundred trillion chance that you’d be here right now with your exact DNA? Now that’s a reason to love yourself: beating the insane odds of your very existence.
Celebrate the Small Victories
Dr. Finkel suggests that whenever your partner shares something with you that he/she is excited about, get excited over it too! Sometimes people are so passive towards their partner’s accomplishments, as well as their own accomplishments. that they forget it’s okay to express excitement. You find five bucks on the floor? Great, let’s celebrate! Your partner had an awesome presentation at work today? Let’s rejoice!
This reminded me a lot of Neil Pasricha’s Book of Awesome, in which he highlights some of the awesome moments in life that so many of us fail to recognize. The person standing in line in front of you bought your coffee? Awesome! A random person came up to you and asked for a high five? Awesome! Your grandfather asked you to play a game of cribbage with him? Awesome!
We let so many of life’s most “awesome” moments pass by us without even recognizing the sheer magic within them. Sometimes it’s the small stuff that really makes life so grand. Celebrate the small stuff, people.
Remember, self love is not a destination; odds are that you won’t just reach a point where you love every single thing about yourself forever. It’s completely natural to cast a bit of doubt upon yourself or question your actions and decisions occasionally, and that can actually be a huge part of your growth process. As you’re learning and growing as a person, your self love is bound to shift and evolve with you as time goes on.
Self love is a journey, one that requires constant attention and care. Don’t just tell yourself you love yourself once; remind yourself of how incredible you are over and over again, even if you don’t believe it. Tell yourself that until you start to believe it, and then continue to remind yourself of that so your self love can grow even stronger.
By having compassion for yourself, you can extend more compassion to others. Study after study has shown that the happiest people are those who not only extend a helping hand to others, but will also take the time to use both of their hands to help themselves.
No matter where you’re at in life, whether you have a partner or you’re single, or if your self love is relatively high or low on the spectrum, I think we could all agree that there’s no such thing as “too much love.” So, let’s work at spreading more love throughout the world, and let’s accept that in order to do so, we need to start with building up our own self love first.
How Changes In Collective Consciousness Alter Our Everyday Reality
- The Facts:
Science has demonstrated that there is an energy field that connects us all, and that at its core, all matter is consciousness. Collective Consciousness plays a huge role in how we define our world functions, based on our collective beliefs.
- Reflect On:
What do you believe is possible for yourself and for humanity? Do you feel we are capable of creating a world where we can thrive? Do you find yourself thinking humans are not capable of much? These beliefs affect the world around us deeply.
Want to see change in the world? We have to change collective consciousness. And in order to do that, we must change ourselves.
This has been the core message of Collective Evolution since our humble beginnings in 2009. Why? Because collective consciousness is something at the centre, or core, of what connects all of us. In post material science we are beginning to understand that we are not entirely just a brain inside a body, and that consciousness is who we truly are. Beyond that, consciousness is also at the crux of everything.
We sit at an interesting time in our history where the need and desire to change our world has become something almost all of us feel. Whether we witness the apparent chaos of daily life, the turmoil that happens in areas around the world, or whether we witness the challenges in our own life, we feel this need for change. Deep down, something about the human experience, as it is, seems outdated and almost stale.
We’ve grown tired of suffering, pain, war, poverty, doing the same thing over and over again. We want to experience something new, rich and deep. This is showing up in political activism, the search for who we are beyond our identities, the search for meaning in life and wanting to do careers that we love.
Ultimately, we are searching for peace and a deeper understanding of our reality. So how do we do this? How do we change our world, change the various daily structures we deal with like our economy, government, career paths, as well as the limited idea of what life is and should be. How do we end our suffering and war with one another to truly create a world where we can thrive and have abundance?
If you are gaining curiosity reading this, great. You are feeling something that has been growing within you, and all of us, for quite some time. If you think these ideas are laughable, and that none of this change is possible, then great, because the video below is for you too. Because your disbelief is playing a role in why our world is this way, and it’s time to explore what that truly means.
Collective consciousness is an energy field, if you will, by which groups of people or all humans connect to and share ideas, beliefs and understandings about our world. This is not a physical space, but one that is energetic or conscious.
Below is a video I created to help explain how something called collective consciousness functions, so we can begin to understand why we must change ourselves to change our world, and how our limited belief of what our world is and can be, plays a role in keeping it that way.
Post Material Science & Consciousness
The Princeton Engineering Anomalies Research (PEAR) Laboratory has been trying to wrap their heads around the subject and have concluded that the human mind does, in fact, have a capacity to influence the output of devices known as Random Event Generators (REGs), on a collective scale, or via collective consciousness.
A project that initially started when a student was curious to study the effects of the human mind and intention on the surrounding environment, turned into a rigorous testing lab where Dr. Robert Jahn and his lab assistant spent many hours experimenting to determine whether or not the mind has an effect on our physical world. Jahn and his assistant were able to determine that the human minds interactions with the machines demonstrated a relationship that was not physical in nature. The mind was able to affect and change outcomes of the machine in ways that were beyond standard deviations. In essence, consciousness was having an effect over the physical world.
To determine the effects of the mind’s intention on the physical world, they built several machines called a random number generator. The machine would essentially mimic a coin flip and record the results over time. The machine performed 200 flips per second and produced an average mean of 100 as one would expect. Left unattended, the machine would continue to produce results that suggested a 50/50 chance of producing either heads or tails. The interesting results came when human intention started to interact with the machine. What was once a random 50/50 chance of producing heads or tails began to deviate from expectation as the observer began to intend for the numbers to be higher or lower. While the effects of the mind over the machines was not large, it was enough that contemporary physics is unable to explain what exactly is happening. Perhaps this is where the quantum world can shed light?
The implications of this research on humanity is quite fascinating given it could reach into the realms of creating a world of peace, a thriving world and abundance. If intentions and thoughts can impact something the way it has been demonstrated above, why not explore the boundaries of how far this can go? It is my feeling and understanding that we create our realities with our intentions and state of consciousness and I feel science is starting to confirm this. In time we will realize the true power of our minds and intentions.
The video below is a very brief synopsis of the Princeton Engineering Anomalies Research laboratory of Princeton University, whose research into mind-matter interaction forms the foundation of Psyleron Technology.
If we wish to understand collective consciousness more deeply, and how we are all truly connected, a great place to start is to begin exploring what we are discovering in the field of post material science as we study consciousness.
We have a great deal of content to explore on that by clicking here.
To explore deeply who you truly are, you can listen to this CE Podcast episode.
Princeton PEAR Lab
Who Lucifer Actually Is & Why They Are Here (Part 4: Selling Your Soul)
- The Facts:
According to Hidden-Hand, there is a big distinction between the extraterrestrial bloodlines (Lucifer's group soul) and human bloodlines (the 'Illuminati'). Members of Illuminati families have a soul contract with Lucifer to maintain negativity here.
- Reflect On:
What does it mean to 'sell your soul to Lucifer'? Does it make a difference if one has a pre-existing soul contract with Lucifer?
(Note: If you have not read the first three instalments of this article, I would highly recommend that you first read Who Lucifer Actually Is & Why They Are Here (Part 1), (Part 2: Bloodline Families) and (Part 3: The Harvest), because they provide an essential context for the discussion here.)
Where the rubber hits the road in this discussion about Lucifer is what his true impact is on us as human beings. Is he the bringer of knowledge and enlightenment to us in our quest to evolve? Or is he the cunning enticer who would drag much of humanity down into a well of iniquity? Let’s continue to examine the testimony of Hidden-Hand to see what it reveals.
Distinguishing The Bloodlines
As discussed previously, Lucifer was mandated to introduce evil to the human population by providing a ‘choice’ in the garden of Eden between obedience and disobedience. It was only after this initial choice had been made, however, that it became mandated that Lucifer would incarnate as individual souls to rule the planet:
Now that Free Will had been granted, Yahweh could not retract it, and we have to stay here as contracted to continue to provide the planet with the Polarity choice. Since then, Yahweh has confined us (as a Group Soul) here within the Earth’s Astral Planes (which is very constricting and uncomfortable for a Being of our Wisdom and experience). The Council of Elders gave us the choice to be released (against Yahweh’s will), but at the cancellation of our contract to Serve the planet earth; or to remain and fulfill our assignment, and endure Yahweh’s self proclaimed “Wrath”. We stayed, but as a karmic result of our Group Soul’s confinement by Yahweh, our own individuated Souls were given the mandate (by The Council) to “Rule” over Yahweh’s people during our physical incarnations here on your planet.
Those ‘individuated Souls’ of the group soul Lucifer, which incarnate through ‘extraterrestrial’ bloodlines, need to be distinguished from the human bloodlines. This is in order to clarify what it means to ‘sell your soul’ to Lucifer.
The ‘Extraterrestrial Bloodlines’ consists, quite simply, of the individuated souls of the group soul Lucifer, which as a whole is known as the ‘Family’. Hidden-Hand introduces himself as a ‘generational member,’ which he explains as follows:
It means that one is born into the Family. The Order and its agenda is handed down, from generation to generation. Only in extremely rare occasions, have outsiders been invested into the Family, and then, even these were of other ‘esoterically’ integrable lines.
I presume, though I am not certain, that he means that there are on rare occasions souls who incarnate into the Family who are not part of the group soul Lucifer, but who nonetheless have enough compatibility with that group soul to participate in the agenda. For the purposes of clarity, though, the core power of the ‘Family’ is the group soul Lucifer. And, as Hidden-Hand points out in the following answer to a question, it’s a pretty ‘tight’ family:
Questioner: To what extent has selective breeding been used to preserve the purity of the line?
Hidden-Hand: The breeding is generally case specific, dependent upon the role that the Family members in question are due to grow into. There are no unapproved unions. Our Family will always intermarry between lines, or, what we would term ‘Houses’. Marriages are arranged. In all my years alive, I have never seen or heard of a Family member breaking this code, as far as marriage goes. You do as you are told. One cannot ‘join’ the Family. One is ‘born’, or incarnated into it.
The whole idea that ruling bloodlines have been running our planet since antiquity is hard to fathom for many. The very feasibility that something like this could be happening without it being common knowledge is the source of this next questioner’s skepticism:
Questioner: If this really existed there would be countless thousands of people involved, and any one person could leak.
Hidden-Hand: Thousands? Try Millions. And you have no possible comprehension of the rigorous training and the harshness of the conditioning we undergo from an early age. No one dares to go against the Family. We know what would happen if we did. But that is not the prime motivator. The motivator is unbridled Loyalty to the Family, and our Creator. We understand the importance of what we are doing here, even though most of humanity does not.
If we take Hidden Hand at his word, then we accept that MILLIONS of individuals on our planet work together in a coordinated effort to control and govern the rest of us. By coordinated, I would refer to what we hear from Hidden-Hand that there are local cell groups of families all over the world that are governed by a hierarchy of councils that range from local to regional, national, and global. As with most hierarchies, knowledge of the entire operation and its true purpose increases as one rises up. Hidden-Hand makes the distinction here about where the human bloodlines end in the hierarchy and where the extraterrestrial bloodlines begin:
Then you have the Supreme World Council above them all, with the National Leaders representing their Countries. Above this, is another group I cannot mention, who liaise with the “Hidden Hands”. Then above this, there are many other levels of Leadership, purely from the Power Lines (the ones that are not of this planet). The Supreme World Council only know as much as is “Handed” down to them from us. In our Power Lines, we have a similar structure, with Local and Regional groups etc, though most of us are living in entirely ‘different’ types of communities than you would understand. All I shall say is that we are not “surface dwellers”.
That last point certainly is enticing. It implies that the entire group soul of Lucifer does not live amongst humans on the surface of the planet. Do they live in hidden bases underground? Cloaked in the air? Do they transport to a different planet? A different dimension? Interesting questions, but not fundamental to our conversation here. What is important is to note that the extraterrestrial bloodlines are only really in contact with the highest levels of the human bloodlines, calling the shots, delivering information as needed to those below, being true ‘hidden hands’ of influence, as it were.
There is much that Hidden-Hand disclosed that distinguished the Extraterrestrial Bloodlines from the Human Bloodlines, which would be populated by individuated souls that are part of Yahweh’s group soul.
Questioner: Are these bloodlines the wealthy, as most assume, or seemingly ordinary people (including celebrities and politicians, etc), blending in with society, going relatively unnoticed, but yet contributing to your cause in the grander scheme of things?
Hidden-Hand: The names you know, have no real power. Sure, they “appear” to have lots of power, in the way earthbound souls perceive power. Our wealth makes the million and billionaire “celebs” and corporate bigwigs look like a child’s pocket money. Our wealth is Family wealth, which has passed down through the generations over thousands of years. True wealth however, is knowing deep in your heart, that you and your Infinite Creator, are One. “Seek ye first the Kingdom of ‘God’ (Infinite Creator), and all these things shall be added unto you”.
Questioner: So part of this question could also be, are all of them aware they are part of this bloodline, or are some members oblivious to this connection they have? Are they informed of this at a particular age? For example, how and at what age were you told you belonged?
Hidden-Hand: Yes. If you are Bloodline (Family), you are born into it, and you are raised this way, from birth. There is no other way. I want to be clear on this Bloodline issue. The ones you know, they are of earthly lineage. Yes, they have their place in the Family, but the Real Power lines, do not originate from this planet.
The human bloodlines, then, also seem to have a rigorous upbringing that fosters absolute loyalty to the family. The training and structure for the human bloodlines lead in the discussion about the history of the Illuminati, the Knight’s Templar, the Freemasons, and other such secret societies. Perhaps these societies were founded by the Lucifer group soul or perhaps they were co-opted by them. There seems to be a very substantial structure in place, which uses both fear and an inbred sense of purpose and loyalty, that prevents many of the secrets of these societies from coming out into the open. One exception to that rule is with a person named ‘Svali,’ who broke away from the group she identifies as ‘the Illuminati’ and became a whistleblower of a significant amount of information. Hidden-Hand’s direct comments on her case demonstrate how the human bloodlines do not actually have the same ‘motivation’ for their actions as the extraterrestrial bloodlines.
Questioner: Do people ever try to leave the family? I asked you to comment on the case of one “Svali” in an earlier post. I am still curious if she was one of you or your extended family, or is she just a mis/disinfo agent.
Hidden-Hand: I am aware of her, yes. I’ve not looked at her supposed “revelations” personally, though heard enough from others in my Family. Yes, she was a part of the Family, at the lower levels, from the German Lines I believe. As I understand, she did reveal a lot of truth about the lower levels, but she was only Regional Level in the Earth Lines, so not that high.
She certainly would not have had anything like the “bigger picture”. I understand that she went into detail about some of the training techniques in the lower levels, which to be fair, can be extremely harsh, though as I’ve said, it’s all about reaching the 95% negativity, and when all is said and done, no matter how much one may have suffered in this life-experience, we can never lose sight of the fact that this is a game we are all playing here together, and each incarnating soul has already chosen and agreed in advance the parts they will play in the game. No one really suffers, except in the game, and ultimately, they have chosen these experiences before hand, at a Soul level. No one is ‘forced’ to incarnate into a storyline they do not want to play and learn from.
The German House is renowned for being particularly harsh and severe in it’s training, so much of what she shares may have happened, though my Family have also said that unless her “trainers” were acting “out of protocol” (abusing their power) much of what she ‘revealed’ would not have happened, or has been embellished to some degree, for whatever reason. I cannot comment myself, as I’ve had neither the time or inclination to examine her story.
The world of my own Family is very different from that of the lower Earth based bloodlines. Whilst our (my own) training growing up was very strict and disciplined, we were never abused in any way. We grew up with the bigger picture, and didn’t need any other motivation.
The Earth lines are not aware of the entire picture. They themselves are not of our Lucifer Group Soul, and as far as they are aware, they are out to ‘rule the world’, to Control and Enslave, and create as much suffering and negativity as is humanly possible. That’s what they ‘get out of the deal’. World domination.
You’d have to say with that in mind, they’re doing a great job. But one of the things they don’t know or understand, is that our (Venusian Power Lines) agenda, is ultimately for the Highest Good of all concerned, in providing you with the Catalyst. If they were aware of this Truth, there is a slight risk that they would not have done their jobs properly, and they would miss out on joining us in our 95% Negative Harvest.
They are aware of the Harvest, and the need for them to attain the 95%, to get out of 3rd density, and that is all the motivation they need to help us achieve our ultimate aims.
How they go about it, is not really of too great a concern to us, as long as they are getting the job done. Sometimes we have to step in, where something they may do or plan goes against our desires, but such instances are few and far between.
The actual testimony of Svali is fascinating and worth examining in greater detail, and perhaps we will do so in a later article. For now, Hidden-Hand continues to put things in the context that at a soul level all of us agreed to the parts that we play in the Game. In essence, this means that the human bloodlines are constructed of millions of people who, at a soul level, wanted to participate in the negative polarity of the ascension process, but as human beings, are not consciously aware that they are doing this for the benefit of humanity in the way that the Luciferian group soul is.
Selling Their Souls To Lucifer?
If it is the case that the human (let’s call them ‘Illuminati’) bloodlines are set up to be motivated by power, wealth, and world domination, can it be said that they have ‘sold their souls to Lucifer’? These people have been indoctrinated since birth, and if the testimony of Svali is any indication, it is extremely difficult and rare for someone in the human bloodlines to make the ‘choice’ of leaving their family. Yes, at a soul level they chose to join Lucifer to support negativity; but having been subjected to severe indoctrination in this life, it’s a matter of debate as to whether or not they have ‘sold their souls.’
But what about the case of humans who did not go through this indoctrination? I’m talking about people whose purpose here was to ascend positively, but got completely lured into the web of negativity on the strength of their desires for power, wealth, and pleasure. This is perhaps where a human being can truly be said to have ‘sold their soul to the Lucifer,’ as they have actually chosen ego desires and a service-to-self orientation in contradiction to their soul’s purpose.
As I discuss in the article ‘Why Do The Elites Participate In Child Sacrifice At Bohemian Grove?‘, it would seem that ‘selling one’s soul to Lucifer’ involves a willingness to be slowly lured in rituals like the ‘Cremation of Care’ and other acts of depravity that sever all emotional connection to other human beings, and remove all empathy, care, conscience and sense of morality. This, it seems, not only garners the worldly ‘support’ of the entire cult, it prepares a person mentally and emotionally for their unbridled pursuit of worldly power, fame and wealth.
Lucifer Does Not ‘Own’ Souls
In the context of Hidden-Hand’s testimony, selling one’s soul does not imply that one’s soul becomes the permanent property of Lucifer; it means that that one is bound to the ‘Negative Ascension,’ which involves going to a 4th Density ‘Negative’ planet to work out one’s karma.
Of course in many ways this experience can be considered a ‘hell’, especially for those souls who have less understanding of the process than the individuated Lucifer souls, and likely will face a tremendous amount of suffering and hard work.
There is much more to examine surrounding the esoteric body of knowledge that informs these bloodlines to ‘create as much suffering and Negativity as is humanly possible,’ and has the potency to lure outsiders into the cult. Is this body of knowledge what is known as Luciferianism, which there is so much contentious debate about these days? Let’s build on what we’ve found out here to try to address this in the next installment.
Red Team vs. Blue Team | Toxic Tribalism We Must Transcend
- The Facts:
Public discourse is dominated by a dual-based system of categorization and rigid identity. The end-goal of interaction is not to broaden perspective and work together – but to argue and “win” a debate. It is time to transcend this paradigm.
- Reflect On:
How can we institute a more open-minded framework whereby public discourse can be influenced by a multi-directional approach to sharing information and viewpoints? The need for a new narrative is upon us – we are all a part of it.
We’ve all experienced it. You log on to Facebook and scroll through your timeline – and there it is: a fiery argument where insults are flying freely on a subject that charges you. Though you may aim to steer clear of the sludge and toxicity of social media comment sections – perhaps you decided to lunge into a particular topic that you care deeply about.
Almost inevitably – an argument takes place where emotions reach a crescendo and the “debate” devolves into sophomoric insults where both sides are trying to tear each other’s character down instead of engaging in discourse on the merits of respective viewpoints.
Often, we find ourselves scrambling to score points by reflexively reacting to current events based on agenda and cultural identifiers, (nationality, orientation, race, creed, religion etc..) arguing over semantics, using trigger terms, stereotypes, and gross generalizations to stir the pot of frantic frenzy. There is a primordial root to this way of interacting with each other. From the very beginning of our history on this planet, we were thrust into a world where “the others” were viewed as an imminent danger that must be defeated, lest we be invaded and taken over. In modern times, this tribal notion of “the others” often manifests as an idea, viewpoint, or perspective outside of our own, and it is often perceived as a threat that must be beaten down.
This has come to typify our state of discourse – whether it’s in corporate media, in Congress, on social media, or elsewhere – it has become abundantly clear that we are feeding into endless argumentation that features polarized “sides” of an argument – and there are often only two viewpoints presented as acceptable to latch onto. We anger quickly, posit ourselves in a reflexive defensive posture, and prepare to debate with one another in a way that perpetuates conflict instead of fostering education and cooperation.
The quest to be “right” or to “win” the argument takes precedence over actually listening with an open mind to an alternative viewpoint, robbing us of the opportunity to learn something new, expand our perspective, and integrate new data into our thought process to assist in evolving our consciousness. Scientists call this motivative reasoning: a phenomenon where our unconscious motivations (beliefs/desires/fears) shape the way we interpret information. Some ideas resonate with what we identify with – and we want them to win. Other ideas sound like the “other” side – and we want to denigrate, defeat and banish those ideas out of the discourse. When we apply this to our world we see how the polarizing power of partisanship and deeply held belief-systems influences our perceptions of the world around us.
“Motivated reasoning theory suggests that reasoning processes (information selection and evaluation, memory encoding, attitude formation, judgment, and decision-making) are influenced by motivations or goals. Motivations are desired end-states that individuals want to achieve. The number of these goals that have been theorized is numerous, but political scientists have focused principally on two broad categories of motivations: accuracy motivations (the desire to be “right” or “correct”) and directional or defensive motivations (the desire to protect or bolster a predetermined attitude or identity).” ~Thomas J. Leeper
Even when we think we’re being objective/fair-minded – we still can wind up unconsciously arguing for something with mechanical repetition – even when the empirical evidence shows that there is no sound basis for our argument. We’ve become more adept at crafting and presenting an argument than conducting an actual investigation and critical thinking into the truth of the matter at hand.
But shouldn’t our motivation to find truth be more prominent than our motivation to be “right” or to cherry-pick arguments and articles that reinforce our own views? How can we cut through our prejudices/biases and motivation – and look at data and information as objectively as possible?
Making A Change
Perhaps it begins with shedding overly rigid identities and boxes that have been created for us in order to herd us into predictable boxes. How often do you find yourself parroting a viewpoint or argument that you feel is aligned with your primary identity? Perhaps you identify primarily as a Democrat. If so – should your entire viewpoint be defined by this identifier to where you only agree with policies and/or ideas presented by those on your team (Team Democrat)? If you identify as a woman – is that all you are? If you consider yourself a Christian – must your perspective only be aligned with a narrow prescription of popularized Christian “values”? If you consider yourself part of the “conscious community” – must everything be understood and reasoned through that filter?
This isn’t to say that identity isn’t important. Expressing a sense of who we are is paramount – but that expression is unnecessarily limited when we aren’t open-minded and don’t allow for a full-spectrum experience. Identity politics is always an ever-evolving realm, and many of us attach more value to certain identifiers than others, be it race, gender, sexual orientation, religion, etc.. It’s respectful to be supportive of an individual’s universal right to self-identify (or even their right not to identify at all), but it is also helpful to exercise a level of suspicion about the ability of rigid identifiers and social constructs (like race and gender) to accurately portray the multi-dimensional beings that we are.
“There’s a dangerous corrosive side to identity politics, ie: making one’s gender/skin color/religion/sect/sexuality one’s *defining* trait. Between groups this can divide people rather than unite them, promoting rather than reducing group stereotypes, and therefore increasing discrimination.
Within groups this can lend itself to reinforcing a hegemony for those individual members who refuse to conform to what being a member of that group is *meant* to mean, as defined by that community’s internal power structures. This is like the old trope “You can’t be a true Muslim/black man, and be gay”. ~Maajid Nawaz
Breaking down these constructs and constrictive identifiers will usher in a new framework for discourse. Currently, major media and news outlets rarely put forth effort in facilitating an open-range discourse, and are capitalizing (and in many instances feeding) the toxic tribalism where only two-view points are presented without any real effort to find intersectionality or genuine exchange. We see the phenomena of “both sides of the same coin” playing itself out again and again as it pertains to a polarized duality of public opinion. Thus, the vast percentage of the populace are unconsciously bombarded with polarized view-points that unseat their own ability to find the neutral and to explore new thought-forms outside of the limits of dual categorization.
“An unknown ‘something’ has taken possession of a smaller or greater portion of the psyche and asserts its hateful and harmful existence undeterred by all our insight, reason, and energy, thereby proclaiming the power of the unconscious over the conscious mind, the sovereign power of possession.” ~Carl Jung
It would be prudent for all of us to examine whether our own psyches and intellects have been unseated by an unknown, unconscious force. We are now tasked to get back in the driver’s seat of our own consciousness, turn off cruise-control, and navigate our own vehicles. Just as the fleshly body must be cleansed of parasites and toxins such that they don’t become hosts for worms that weaken the body’s vitality, the mind must go through its own filtration process to clear out intrusions and predictive programming that wane our original core vibrational thought patterns. Otherwise, we are often just passive receivers of whatever the TV is downloading into our minds.
The Need for Innovative Narrative
So who are the new story-tellers who can create a more progressive narrative of universality? A narrative where we seek to understand each other by coalescing in multi-sensory empathy and cosmic commonality? A narrative which rejects that humanity is a simple, basic species that can easily be divided into boxes of artificially devised social constructs. A narrative which recognizes that we are coming out of an age of spiritual amnesia – and many of our societal problems are related to our universal yearning for meaning, truth, and a desire to be connected, balanced, and whole in our relationship with each other and our selves. The need for a new narrative is upon us – and we each bring a unique gift that is required to comprise the tapestry of our immediate position in this time/space.
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