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Researchers Show What Spanking Your Child Can Do To Their Personality & IQ

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It’s natural to wonder how we became the person we are and where, or when, our insecurities and fears first took root. More often than not, we turn to our childhood for answers and try to determine when certain seeds were planted that inspired doubt or hesitancy in our personalities. As we grow older, we come to better understand our childhood environment as we get to better know ourselves and our family relationships. We may come to realize that certain habits of our parents marked on our home and shaped how we handle the world today. Simply put, how you were raised directly impacts the person you become, whether you recognize it or not.

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Some new parents may harbour fears about this very fact. In some cases, they don’t want to be like their own parents, but they also don’t want to spoil their child. New parents seek all forms of alternatives, all forms of raising a child in the best possible way they can, and when it comes to punishment in particular, there are plenty of schools of thought. You may say to yourself that you were hit as a child and turned out fine, but that was your norm, and it’s difficult to pin down just how it affected you. Research suggests this kind of punishment does leave a mark, however.

The late Dr. Murray Straus dedicated his life to better understanding the negative effects that corporal punishment has on the psyche of a child and how it can affect them as an adult. Having authored hundreds of scholarly papers and 15 books, including Behind Closed Doors and Beating the Devil Out of Them, he is an internationally recognized sociologist and founded the very field of family violence research. Dr. Straus was the co-director of the Family Research Laboratory and a professor of sociology at the University of New Hampshire. 

Spanking and IQ

A relatively new study by Straus explores the link between spanking and IQ. Supported by the University of New Hampshire and presented by Straus, along with Mallie Paschall, a senior research scientist at the Pacific Institute for Research and Evaluation, to the International Conference on Violence, Abuse and Trauma in 2009, it reveals a troubling trend. “All parents want smart children. This research shows that avoiding spanking and correcting misbehavior in other ways can help that happen,” Straus says. “The results of this research have major implications for the well being of children across the globe.”

The duo studied samples of 806 children ages two to four and 704 children ages five to nine and then retested both groups four years later. The IQs of children between the ages of two and four who were not spanked ranked five points higher compared to those who were spanked in their same age group. Children who were five to nine years old that were not spanked were 2.8 points higher in IQ four years later compared to their spanked counterparts.

“How often parents spanked made a difference. The more spanking the, the slower the development of the child’s mental ability. But even small amounts of spanking made a difference,” Straus reveals.

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Nationally

Straus and colleagues collected data on corporal punishment in 32 nations among 17,404 university students who experienced spanking when they were children and found lower national average IQ in nations where spanking was more prevalent. Those whose parents used corporal punishment on them even into their teen years showed the strongest link between the behaviour and their IQ. Their data determined two explanations for the relation of corporal punishment to lower IQ:

  1. Corporal punishment is extremely stressful and can become a chronic stressor for young children, who typically experience corporal punishment three or more times a week. For many it continues for years. The research found that the stress of corporal punishment shows up as an increase in post-­traumatic stress symptoms, such as being fearful that terrible things are about to happen and being easily startled. These symptoms are associated with lower IQ.
  2. A higher national level of economic development underlies both fewer parents using corporal punishment and a higher national IQ.

This research doesn’t surprise me. When a parent chooses to discipline in the form of abuse or aggression, it can only display to the child poor conflict resolution skills, as the outcome for ‘bad behaviour’ is only determined by the abuser and implemented physically rather than by verbally engaging the child and helping them to realize why their acts were not appreciated or accepted.

According to Straus:

The worldwide trend away from corporal punishment is most clearly reflected in the 24 nations that legally banned corporal punishment by 2009. Both the European Union and the United Nations have called on all member nations to prohibit corporal punishment by parents. Some of the 24 nations that prohibit corporal punishment by parents have made vigorous efforts to inform the public and assist parents in managing their children. In others little has been done to implement the prohibition. . . .

Nevertheless, there is evidence that attitudes favoring corporal punishment and actual use of corporal punishment have been declining even in nations that have done little to implement the law and in nations which have not prohibited corporal punishment,

Personality

A study published in the Journal of Family Psychology by researchers at the University of Texas at Austin and the University of Michigan claims that children who get spanked are more likely to “defy their parents and to experience increased anti-social behavior, aggression, mental health problems and cognitive difficulties.“

And this study was more comprehensive than most. Researchers explain “it is the most complete analysis to date of the outcomes associated with spanking, and more specific to the effects of spanking alone than previous papers, which included other types of physical punishment in their analyses.” This study is based off of a meta-analysis of 50 years of research involving over 160,000 children.

The analysis focuses on what most Americans would recognize as spanking — an open-handed hit on the behind or extremities. When any parent chooses to spank their child, more often than not his or her intention is to create long-term obedience, but in reality, it only creates immediate obedience. “We found that spanking was associated with unintended detrimental outcomes and was not associated with more immediate or long-term compliance, which are parents’ intended outcomes when they discipline their children,” says Elizabeth Gershoff, an associate professor of human development and family sciences at the University of Texas at Austin.

Undoubtedly, parents only want what’s best for their children, so their intention of course isn’t to cause long-term harm through what they’ve always believed to be an appropriate form of discipline. That’s why it is vital for all parents to recognize the impact they could unknowingly be having on their offspring.

“The upshot of the study is that spanking increases the likelihood of a wide variety of undesired outcomes for children. Spanking thus does the opposite of what parents usually want it to do.”

— Co-author Andrew Grogan-Kaylor, an associate professor at the University of Michigan School of Social Work

Most people would say that there is a clear distinction between physical abuse and spanking, but both were associated with the same detrimental child outcomes in the same direction and nearly the same strength. As Gershoff explains, “our research shows that spanking is linked with the same negative child outcomes as abuse, just to a slightly lesser degree,” and “no clear evidence of positive effects from spanking and ample evidence that it poses a risk of harm to children’s behavior and development.”

Another problem with spanking is that the cycle of harm is most likely to continue. The study explains that adults who were spanked as children were more likely to support physical punishment for their own children.

Unfair Situations

Researchers with Tamagawa University and the National Institute of Information and Communications Technology in Japan published a paper in the journal Nature Human Behavior that describes possible implications for those who suffer from depression relating to unfair situations. As reported by Medical XPress:

In the study, volunteers were asked to play a video game in which rewards were offered—some of the volunteers were given more than half of the rewards, some were given less than half, and a third group got the same as other players. As the volunteers played the game, the researchers watched blood flow in the brain courtesy of an MRI machine. The researchers focused on the amygdala and hippocampus because they have been associated with  in people. They report that the way those brain regions responded when players felt the game was unfair toward them offered a reliable means for predicting depression levels in those people a year later—and that was regardless of whether the volunteer had scored as a pro-social person versus an individualist on a test before playing the . They also found that among the brains of volunteers who received more than their share, they could only predict depressive levels in pro-social people.

I find this information to be relevant because, from the perspective of a child, when an adult resorts to physical punishment to amend an issue, the child is likely to feel that something took place that wasn’t right or fair in regards to how a person is to generally be treated. While I agree more research should be done to investigate these suggestions, I think we inherently know that abusing a child, in any way, is wrong, and we don’t need research to prove this.

“It is time for psychologists to recognize the need to help parents end the use of corporal punishment and incorporate that objective into their teaching and clinical practice. It also is time for the United States to begin making the advantages of not spanking a public health and child welfare focus, and eventually enact federal no ­spanking legislation.”

– Dr. Murray Straus

Gentle Parenting 

What does this approach look like?

Rebecca English wrote an article in The Conversation that provides some tips for parents looking to take a different approach to discipline.

Below is an excerpt from the article.

Here are a few steps that parents take to encourage a partnership with their children:

  1. They start from a place of connection and believe that all behaviour stems from how connected the child is with their caregivers.
  2. They give choices not commands (“would you like to brush your teeth before or after you put on your pyjamas?”).
  3. They take a playful approach. They might use playfulness to clean up (“let’s make a game of packing up these toys”) or to diffuse tension (e.g. having a playful pillow fight).
  4. They allow feelings to run their course. Rather than saying “shoosh”, or yelling “stop!”, parents actively listen to crying. They may say, “you have a lot of/strong feelings about [the situation]”.
  5. They describe the behaviour, not the child. So, rather than labelling a child as naughty or nice, they will explain the way actions make them feel. For example, “I get so frustrated cleaning crumbs off the couch.”
  6. They negotiate limits where possible. If it’s time to leave the park, they might ask, “How many more minutes/swings before we leave?” However, they can be flexible and reserve “no” for situations that can hurt the child (such as running on the road or touching the hot plate) or others (including pets). They might say: “Hitting me/your sister/pulling the dog’s tail hurts, I won’t let you do that.”
  7. They treat their children as partners in the family. A partnership means that the child is invited to help make decisions and to be included in the household tasks. Parents apologise when they get it wrong.
  8. They will not do forced affection. When Uncle Ray wants to hug your child and s/he says no, then the child gets to say what happens to their body. They also don’t force please or thank you.
  9. They trust their children. What you might think of as “bad” behaviour is seen as the sign of an unmet need.
  10. They take parental time-outs when needed. Before they crack, they step away, take a breath and regain their composure.

The bottom line is, we are the ambassadors for our children. They look up to us, they depend on us, and they can only assume we will make the best possible decisions for their safety and happiness. I believe we owe it to them to do our own research and to be proactive in creating a dialogue with them, gauging their reactions and responses to discipline, and, most of all, being patient. Being a parent is an endless process of growth and transformation for you and your child, so let’s make it a beautiful one.

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Newly Discovered Crop Circle Has A Message For Humanity (July 2018)

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  • The Facts:

    A new crop circle was recently discovered in the UK on July 8th, 2018. It was the exact depiction of the chemical weapons warning symbol.

  • Reflect On:

    Does this serve as a message for us to put down the chemical and nuclear weapons for good? Do we need to be using these weapons? This may also cause us to consider the poisoning of our planet in other ways.

A new crop circle was recently discovered on July 8th in Coneybury Hill, Nr Stonehenge, Wiltshire. This circle is the exact same as the chemical weapons warning symbol.

Interestingly this crop circle was found shortly after the death of Dawn Sturgess who had come into contact with a deadly nerve agent.

While we can’t know for sure, this crop circle certainly appears to be a message to humanity about the dangers of chemical weapons and the catastrophic damage they can cause, regardless of who you believe made it. Perhaps this circle symbolizes the fact that these weapons have no place in our world, and it’s time we got rid of them, for good.

Check out some amazing drone footage of this newly discovered crop circle below.

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ET Intervention?

It is not all that surprising to see this message show up in a crop circle, as in the past we have seen deliberate ET intervention when nuclear weapons would have otherwise been used. We have covered this topic before, and the following is an excerpt from an older article,

One of many previously classified reports -out of the thousands in existence -that is now available in the public domain is the intrusion at Minot Air Force Base in North Dakota, on August 24, 1966. Air Force personnel were concerned about a light in the sky. A team went to check it out and confirmed the object, then saw a second white object while doing so. The object was tracked on radar and moved vertical several times; each time it descended, an air force officer in charge of a missile crew found his radio transmission interrupted by static. The object eventually descended to ground level, and the Air Force sent a team to check it out. They saw the object either on the ground or hovering very low. According to the official report:

“When the team was about ten miles from the landing site, static disrupted radio contact with them. Five to eight minutes later, the glow diminished, and the UFO took off. Another UFO was visually sighted and confirmed by radar. The one that was first sighted passed beneath the second. Radar also confirmed this. The first made for altitude toward the north, and the second seemed to disappear with the glow of red.”

Here are a couple of more articles that go into greater detail regarding the connections between UFO’s and nuclear missiles:

“The United States Tried To Detonate A Nuclear Weapon On The Moon & Somebody Responded When We Did”

“Strong Evidence Shows Extraterrestrials Have Been Shutting Down Nuclear Missiles Worldwide For Decades, But Why”

Why Are They Stopping Nukes?

It seems that these extraterrestrials know just how damaging nuclear weapons can be to our planet, and possibly to our entire solar system. There is information that says that UFO’s have been deactivating nuclear weapons since we created them and started to show up a lot more often when we were testing the atomic bomb. Thankfully, someone or something has our back and is helping to stop us, humanity from making a huge mistake.

As Far As Crop Circles Go, You May Be Interested In These Detailed Articles That Go A Little Deeper Into The Phenomenon

Some Scientific Facts About Crop Circles That Nobody Really Knows About

Who Could Make A Face Like This & Include A Binary Code Message In The Middle Of The Night?

44 Years Ago Sagan & NASA Sent A Message Into Space – 27 Years Later We Got This Response

An ‘Eclipse Like’ Crop Circle That Showed Up Three Days Before The Solar Eclipse

Stunningly Complex New Crop Circle Appears In Cley Hill, Warminster July 18, 2017

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The Deep Truth Behind Why Trump Is President

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  • The Facts:

    Since Trump's presidency, we have seen many of humanities shadows thrust into conversation. Not just shadows of Trump, but each and every one of us. The media has been aggressively opposing Trump almost all the way through.

  • Reflect On:

    What is Trump's presidency showing us about ourselves? Why are we seeing a full out media attack on Trump? Is the cabal losing power? Are we beginning to see the first stages of big shifts away from oppressive regimes?

A little backstory before we get into the video below. Back in 2016, following the election, we had stated that there seemed to be a pretty large shift in power given that Trump made his way into office. How did this happen? Here is a brief outline.

There is a divide taking place within the Cabal/Deep State. This divide is causing power struggles as some facets work to move away from the entirely destructive means of the previous many decades, and instead work towards a different path. Is this an entirely ‘good’ path? No, but we’re going to see this as a HUGE welcome improvement as we continue to shift our consciousness.

This divide works its way through intelligence agencies whereby ‘white hats,’ as you can call them, begin to bring forth leaks, information and dealings that help break apart the extremely oppressive end of the cabal. White hats are essentially everyday individuals, like Snowden was, who work inside intelligence agencies and who are also having a shift in consciousness within themselves. No longer do they wish to support the ways of the old, the ways it would have been if Hillary made it into office.

So we begin to see a power struggle, one that is obviously coming as a result of having an ‘outsider’ in office that is shaking things up QUICKLY.

How Did Trump Get In?

First off, what I mentioned above is a big part of it. On top of that, was the flip in electoral college manipulation that usually takes place when a president is chosen. Was Hillary Clinton furiously angry after the election because she didn’t get enough support from the general populace? No, she was furiously angry because her side of the Cabal/Deep State, who promised her a win and bought the entire media to help make it happen, flipped in part, causing enough of a change to have Trump get in.

Now typically people tend to think that when you talk about things in this manner it means you are in favor of Republicans and Trump. But this is primitive thinking in that it only looks at one tiny layer of what’s happening to apply an explanation we can then be comfortable with. When in reality, all that is happening here is we are looking at what is ACTUALLY happening, not what we are being told what is happening.

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You do not have to be pro Trump, pro Republican, or even in support of politics at all, for that matter, to see what’s truly taking place here.

Regardless, questions have been coming in for months and months to CE, asking what we think about Trump, whether we are in support of him and what all of this ‘chaos’ means. Of course, some, because we speak about things honestly and from a neutral perspective, tend to think we side with Trump because SOME of the actions of his administration and who’s behind him are actually in favor of humanity, and we report on them.

But regardless of the amount of explanation we have tried to bring to this somewhat complicated situation, I felt we needed something VERY clear. So I created a video expressing what Trump’s presidency truly means for our collective consciousness and 3 very big factors that are being brought forth through his time in office. This video will answer the topic this article is titled as.

Please take the time to watch and digest this, as it will answer so many questions regarding Trump and what is taking place.

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Brazil’s Proactive Plan To Fight Poverty By Preventing It Through Neuroscience & Parents Love

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    The first 1000 days of a child's life are the most important for the proper development of their brain. Many parents lack this knowledge and understanding of what it truly takes to ensure their children are getting what they need.

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    The outcome of this massive experiment from Brazil may change the way parents are raising their kids worldwide. Children who come from loving, supportive, attentive families will have a better chance of creating a good life for themselves.

For nearly two decades Brazil has undergone the world’s biggest experiment to prove that by teaching poor parents how to love and nurture their infants it will dramatically influence what kind of people they become as adults. Through this guidance and support, Brazil is hoping to change its current trajectory of violence, inequality, and poverty through a method of prevention through love and care.

It is no secret that babies need to be loved and nurtured, but over the years there have been many other opinions and popular books about the Cry It Out method, or leaving babies to fend for themselves, placing them in their crib alone, out of the danger/fear of potentially smothering your baby in their sleep. Also, there is a general lack of knowledge and understanding about how crucial your time, care and attention is to a developing baby.

Because of this, many babies and children haven’t received an adequate amount of love and care as is needed for healthy brain development. In fact, babies can’t fend for themselves, and when they are left to cry they have drastically increased levels of cortisol, which can have a detrimental impact on their development, potentially altering who they could become later in life.

The leader of this project, Osmar Terra, became obsessed with the question of how humans develop about 30 years ago. He was a cardiologist in the 90’s and would often read research papers about the neuroscience of early childhood. After entering politics and becoming mayor of Santa Rosa in Rio Grande do Sul in ’92 he continued to ponder this question, leading him to a master’s degree in neuroscience. Terra wanted to find a way to tackle poverty head-on.

“In every single activity, I always ask myself, ‘What is the public policy that can be more transformative?’” he says. “How can we most dramatically improve the quality of life for our citizens, their health, their education?”

After much research, he came to realize that the answer to that question starts at the very beginning, during the pregnancy and the first few years of a child’s life.

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There is a ton of groundbreaking research that shows how love and a sense of safety experienced by a baby will directly impact how the child brain will become wired. Adversity, especially that which is persistent and stress-triggering such as neglect and abuse will hinder development. This can result in poor mental, emotional and physical health, educational attainment and even early death. All of this important information and research is ultimately what led Terra to create Crianca Feliz, a highly ambitious parent coaching and guidance program that was launched in 2017. The goal is to try and reach four million pregnant woman and children by 2020.

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“If a child feels emotionally safe and secure and attached they explore the world in a better way. The safer they feel, the safer their base, the faster they learn,” he says.

“I believe that this is the solution, not only for Brazil, but for any country in the world in terms of security, public security, education, and healthcare,” says José Medeiros, a senator from the state of Mato Grosso who heads the parliamentary committee on early childhood development. “It’s a cheap solution.”

Terra’s claims are more dramatic. “We will change the world, starting from the very beginning.”

The First 1,000 Days

Scientists have discovered that the first 1000 days of life are the most crucial for brain development.

According to Quartz.com

Many people, rich and poor alike, have no idea what infants are capable of. Psychologists and neuroscientists believe they are creative geniuses, able to process information in far more sophisticated ways than we ever knew. But for that genius to show itself, the baby needs to feel safe and loved and to have attention.

Medeiros explains how he viewed parenting before he went to the Harvard program.

”I raised my kids as if I were taking care of a plant,” he recalls. “You give them food, you take care of them.” He says he did the best he could, but “I did not have all this information. If I had encouraged them, stimulated them more, I would have been able to contribute much more to their development.”

He is hardly the exception. A 2012 nationally representative survey in Brazil asked mothers, 52% of whom were college educated, what things were most important for the development of their children up to three years of age. Only 19% mentioned playing and walking, 18% said receiving attention from adults, and 12% picked receiving affection. “So playing, talking to the child, attachment, it’s not important for more than 80% of the people who are interviewed,” says Harasawa, the director of Criança Feliz.

What Can We Take Away?

Could a lack of knowledge around what it really means to be a parent and raise a child be one of the biggest contributors to the crime, domestic violence, poverty and a wide array of other damaging behaviours that we are seeing globally? Could it really come down to parenting and the care that is given during the first 1000 days? It is very likely.

Unfortunately, many of the parents without the knowledge were likely raised by parents who didn’t have this knowledge either. Brazil’s ambitious plan will serve as a powerful experiment that the whole world can take note of. This truly has the power to give parents the tools they need to raise their kids in such a way that they have a better chance of reaching their highest potential. Let’s not forget that the children of today are the leaders of tomorrow. This is very important work, Bravo Brazil for leading the way for this powerful potential for real change!

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