Have you ever thought this to yourself? Maybe when times get rough, or you’re not feeling as sexually attracted to your partner? I believe in full transparency and asking ourselves the difficult questions that some like to hide from at all costs. Even if things aren’t on the rocks, what’s the harm in asking yourself an honest and valid question? Is this relationship serving me in my highest good?
Being clear and checking in with yourself is a powerful tool to create a deeper and more sacred connection. Thoughts of doubt can seep into our actions and words which then have an impact on our relationships, so it’s important to be mindful of our thoughts and create the space we need to find clarity for ourselves.
Below are some questions to reflect on if you’ve been wondering if your relationship is the right one or not.
Do You Challenge Each Other?
A sign of a great partner is that they celebrate your successes and challenge you to be the best version of yourself. Long story short, you mirror one another! Getting along, having a great time and being attracted to each other are all very necessary elements to a thriving relationship but if we’re not showing up for each other, celebrating and challenging each other to be our best selves, are we truly thriving?
Challenging one another doesn’t mean arguing or fighting. It means being transparent, honest and forward. My partner and I constantly check in with each other, our emotions, goals, the relationship and our personal lives outside of our relationship.
Are You Attracted To Each Other?
It’s important to keep physical intimacy alive, although a relationship should not be built around it, it’s a strong energetic exchange that keeps you feeling connected on another level. Sometimes this might be the string that holds you two together through a difficult time.
Do You Respect Your Partner?
You respect and admire your partner for who they truly are; mind, body and soul. There is no judgement or no secrecy, but transparency and love.
Is There Trust?
You have trust in your partner and don’t project your insecurities onto them. You allow your partner the space to explore other friendships and celebrate them creating experiences outside of your relationship. When you’re in love, you don’t fear unfavourable outcomes. You are not consumed with feelings of doubt and you want to see your partner thrive.
Do You Feel Free Within The Relationship?
We often forget that we are two separate beings living two separate experiences. We have agreed to be together but we don’t have ownership over the other and we don’t have expectations of our partners. You allow your partner to just be, you receive anything your partner has to offer as a gift rather than expecting it of them.
What If You Are Unsure?
If you read through this article and felt that your relationship could improve, that some aspect of you is feeling out of alignment, then maybe it’s time to make some new agreements together. Most of the time our partners are unaware of what it is that we need. Sometimes a simple conversation can spark a new and exciting time in the relationship.
I coach relationships to build new agreements, stop projecting their shit at each other and choose a life of joy and abundance together. Contact me at dereklovellcoaching.com if you want to work together 1-on-1 or 2-on-1.