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Venus Retrograde In Scorpio & Libra: Adjustments Around Relationships & Values

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Venus is retrograde from October 5th until November 16th. It has been building up since September 2nd, when Venus entered what is called the “pre-shadow” period. When a planet goes retrograde, our perspective here on Earth makes it appear to be going backwards in the sky.

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Unlike Mercury Retrograde, Venus Retrogrades occur less frequently, every 19 months, but they last about twice as long. Although both retrogrades have some similarities in regards to how they might affect your social life, Venus still presents a much different vibe.

Retrogrades are a time to revisit, reflect on, and make adjustments to things represented by that planet. Venus rules over love, intimate relationships, friendships, values, money, beauty, and overall attractability. It is associated with our passions, creativity, pleasures, and tastes.

Venus begins its retrograde in a square with Mars which has also recently been retrograde. Therefore, much of the Mars related shifts that occurred throughout the summer and up until early October has set the stage for this Venus’ retrograde.

These recent months have been a time of re-orientation of how we assert and apply ourselves.

In some cases this previous Mars retrograde could have been connected to shifts around how we apply aggression, sexuality, and desires. There could have also been surprises, sudden changes, disruptions, or taking action towards some sort of freedom or liberating from a situation.

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Intimate and Social Relationships

For many couples, though not all, it can be a challenging time. Whether challenging or not, however, Venus retrograde can deepen or shift the way love and/or pleasure are expressed between partners. Any new relationships — those shorter than 18 months — may be tested during this period, as it will be the first one experienced as a couple.

Any new developments or perspectives around relationships that have occurred since September 2nd may end up playing out quite differently than expected over the next few months. Consider this an important step in the evolution of your relationship(s). If all is well, it will ultimately be strengthened.

Friendships could be affected in this way as well, minus the intimacy. This could also be a time when people reconnect with friends (or lovers) of the past to further evolve the relationship. It could bring some sort of closure and/or new developments.

New or reacquainted relationships that form during Venus retrogrades can play an important role in evolving how we apply ourselves in relationships into the future. However, for anyone who does enter a new relationship at this time, it would be good to wait until after the retrograde is over before going ‘all in’. At that point, things will then become more clear on how to proceed with matters of love. In some cases a relationship can get more serious or developed in the post retrograde period while in other cases it could come to an end.

Money, Values, Beauty, and Material Things

Depending on what area of your natal chart it is occurring in, and while considering other factors, Venus retrograde could create a shift in what we value and/or how we are valued and what we are attracted to. For some people, there could also be a shift in financial matters that may have begun developing or played out sometime since early September. If so, be mindful of the fact that things could still change over the next few months.

It would also be a good idea to be cautious when doing anything new that involves beauty, decorating, or buying any items related to fashion. There is a greater possibility that eventually you may not be happy with these kinds of choices that you make. However, Venus retrograde can be good for renovations in many cases, especially after October 31st when it returns to Libra.

This Retrograde Starts in Scorpio and Travels Back to Libra

Venus begins its retrograde in Scorpio, and it has been in that sign since September 9th. Developments around financial matters, shared resources, or credit  may have come up since then and can continue to play out. This retrograde could also have to do with a re-orientation of how we spend finances towards fun and pleasurable pursuits.

Scorpio is a passionate, intense, transformative, and primal energy. It can be very calculated and cautious, but once it wants something, it is ‘all in’. As a result,  it can also be possessive, jealous, fearful, controlling, manipulative, and obsessive. Therefore matters of love and romance could be flavoured with those themes.

Venus re-enters its own sign of Libra on October 31st and will end its retrograde there. Because it rules this sign, it amplifies some of the Venus themes already mentioned. In this sign, it could facilitate a re-orientation of how we seek harmony and balance in our love lives, socially, or even financially. Adjustments connected to beauty, style, or anything aesthetic could occur. A shift in our creativity could also occur during this period.

Venus ends its retrograde close to the star Spica, which is traditionally the most fortunate and lucky star. In the week before and after the retrograde, we may notice its energy the most. Depending on how it is interacting with your natal astrology chart, this period can be highly beneficial socially, romantically, financially, creatively, or aesthetically.

Journey of Venus Retrograde – Timeline

*Below, are some of the dates and information about Venus’ aspects othe major astrological configurations during this retrograde. However, I also usually post about other astro energies happening on my social media via Instagram and Facebook, you can follow those platforms for more forecast content.

Earlier dates are for those in Western part of the world and later dates for those in the East.

October 5th/6th Venus retrograde begins at 7:05pm Universal Time.

The days surrounding this period could be a time in which some of the themes mentioned above could become more apparent. In some cases, their could be some sort of development that will play a significant role in how this retrograde plays out for you.

October 10th/11th Venus square Mars.

This can be a passionate time in relationships, however, it can also stimulate tension, conflict, and intensity either in our love lives or socially. Perhaps some developments connected to sexuality may come up. This can also be a period of impulsively or aggressively spending money or seeking pleasures. This energy can also be competitive. Taking action towards anything to do with aesthetics or creativity could occur as well. This energy can start to become noticeable when the retrograde begins, however, it peaks at this period.

October 15th/16th Venus conjunct Mercury.

This can be a good time for anything social. Perhaps connecting with old friends, associates, or lovers could occur. We may put extra mental focus towards Venus ruled areas or perhaps learn something that we were unaware of before. Financial transactions connected to the past may also occur.

October 23rd – 25th  Full Moon in Taurus aligned with Uranus, aspecting Venus, Saturn, and square the Lunar Nodes.

Uranus involved can indicate a period of surprises, changes, new experiences, and even excitement in some cases. Regardless of whatever shift that Uranus could bring, Venus and the Full Moon are also in a harmonious aspect with Saturn, which can still add themes around stability, realism, responsibilities, and commitments around relationships, friendships, values, finances, or anything to do with aesthetics or creativity. This period can be karmic and/or evolutionary, however we can also potentially feel pulled in different directions, and/or between the past and future. The energies of this Full Moon builds up in the weeks prior and also has a strong influence over the following few weeks, especially when some of this gets triggered again around October 30th-31st.

(I will be writing more about this Full Moon in separate article, you can join my mailing list here to be notified when it is published.)

October 25th – 27th  Venus conjunct the Sun (Inferior Conjunction).  

This is a seeding period for areas of life ruled by Venus. Whatever is seeded at this time will build up towards a culmination that will occur in the summer of 2019. This exact alignment occurs at this time, however, the seeding energy can actually last from Oct 20th-31st. This can be a period of significant happenings, however, it is possible that whatever occurs may not seem so until later, perhaps even a few months after the retrograde ends.

October 30th-31st Venus opposite Uranus in Grand Cross with the Lunar Nodes, Venus semi-sextile Mercury.

This triggers some of the same energies of the previous Full Moon mentioned already mentioned. However, this period can be a bit more disruptive or surprising when it comes to Venus matters, and could require adjustments. Like the previous Full Moon, this period can be karmic and/or evolutionary, however, we can also feel pulled in different directions, and/or between the past and future. This can be good for some sort of clarification or communication around Venus matters.

October 31st/Nov 1st Venus retrograde enters Libra.

Venus returns home to its own sign, which can bring more harmony to Venus matters compared to earlier part of the retrograde. However, it is still retrograde and in close aspect to Uranus and the Lunar Nodes as mentioned, so it can still be a bit shaky for some people.

November 2nd – 4th Venus semisextile Jupiter and quincunx Chiron, with Jupiter Trine Chiron.

This can be a period of growth around Venus matters, however, it can also be a time where we need to make adjustments due to wounds and blockages around Venus issues. Jupiter is in a trine with Chiron this week which can be great for healing, learning, and having a greater awareness of our blockages and/or gifts.

November 6th – 8th Uranus square the Nodes while they all change signs. Jupiter enters Sagittarius. 

The Lunar Nodes are going into the Cancer/Capricorn axis and will stay there over the following 18 months. This is beginning a process of changes of how we work with energies of these signs, pushing us towards being more caring, nurturing, and connecting emotionally with loved ones. Uranus changing signs could reflect changes, disruptions, surprises, and perhaps revisiting a theme connected to authentic individuality which has been playing out since 2011. Jupiter enters its own sign of Sagittarius where it will be until December of 2019. This is the beginning of a year long process that could be very expansive around our beliefs, perspectives, and could provide a lot of learning through our experiences, education, and travel. You may have already started noticing these energies beginning to play out sometime during the months prior to this date.

November 8th/9th  Venus trine Mars.

This energy can make us more active socially, romantically, and creatively. This can also stimulate sexual attraction.

November 10th/11th Venus semi-square Mercury.

This can be a more social time. Communication and mental activity around Venus issues could also be theme.  However, it is possible that there can be some difficulties or tension in these ways as well.

November 16th Venus Retrograde Ends Conjunct Spica, Mercury goes retrograde.

Venus comes to a stop and slowly begins to move forward while being blessed by a very fortunate star, Spica. Over the coming weeks and months, the chips will fall into place more clearly as a result of any adjustments or seeds planted during this retrograde period. However, Mercury also begins its retrograde period which is occurring in Sagittarius and Scorpio. This indicates another reorientation in our lives that could be somehow connected to what has occurred during the Venus retrograde.

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When Marilyn Manson Speaks, This Is Why We Should Listen

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    To those who have not heard Marilyn Manson speak, many may conclude on appearance alone that he has nothing meaningful to say.

  • Reflect On:

    What could be the value for people on their spiritual journey to examine the practices and words of someone who so starkly embodies the paradox of darkness and light?

For many people, Marilyn Manson should not be seen or heard. The very essence of his intentional persona–dark, irreverent, grotesque–makes many recoil in horror and disgust. Yet perhaps that is the very reason we may find value in listening to what he has to say.

Fans of his goth-shock rock show aside, individuals seeking to ascend the ladder of consciousness may be able to see in Marilyn Manson a part of their own suppressed fear and darkness turned inside-out. Coming to terms with Marilyn Manson could in some ways help us come to terms with ourselves.

To begin with, most people who have heard Marilyn Manson speak are aware that he is clearly not as he appears to be. In fact, he relishes embodying the paradox of darkness and light like few others. He is thoughtful, soft-spoken, and usually sprinkles in his disarming wit when we are least expecting it. What is undeniable is that he has given much contemplation to the philosophy of life, not in the academic sense as much as with regards to the embodiment of spiritual principles he believes in.

The Rejection Of Religious Dogma

One of the mainstays of Manson’s spiritual paradigm is the recognition that the fundamentalist side of Christianity within Western society is not going to lead to any healing or growth on the part of human individuals. This is because the rituals of Christianity, like going to church and repeating phrases mindlessly, only serve to keep our personal darkness hidden from us. These practices may temporarily assuage our trepidation about our inner chaos, but this is gained at the cost of relinquishing our sense of power to heal ourselves. In the video below, Manson touches upon his views about true spiritual practice:

I think church has very little to do with spirituality. I think it’s something you have to find in yourself, it’s about expressing your deepest fears and emotions, and putting it in something. It’s not about living in fear, and praying, and hoping you’re not going to go to hell, that’s not very spiritual to me.

Manson makes an important distinction between the teachings of Jesus and the trappings of fundamentalist Christianity, and it is a point of discernment that is certainly worth contemplating. He considers himself to be aligned with many of Jesus’ teachings and even suggests in his usual irreverent way that his own life and the life of Jesus have many similarities:

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Usually people hate what they’re afraid of, it’s in the classic story, I think that even kinda goes back to Jesus, you know, they were afraid, didn’t understand him, so they killed him. I think the same thing exists in music, you know, maybe I should just become a Christian, and make them all happy, but, I think if I found Jesus, which–I didn’t know he was lost in the first place–if I did, I don’t think he would probably be that much different than me, you know, he’s a long-haired guy that likes to dress sexy. A lot of chicks were into him.

It’s not that different from what I do, you know, that probably horrifies Christians more than anything to hear that, but, I don’t disagree with a lot of the ideals that he was trying to get across. I just don’t like the way people abuse them to exploit others, and make, even children, feel guilty for having imagination or wanting to be individuals.

It is certainly thought-provoking to imagine how a dark shock-rocker sees similarities between himself and the pure-white savior of mankind. After all, Manson is a strong advocate of Aliester Crowley’s Law of Thelema, “Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the Law.” Does this not contradict the Golden Rule that was espoused by Jesus, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you”?

Walking The Knife’s Edge

Not necessarily. But we need to be able to walk the knife’s edge in order to see how these two aspects can co-exist. And as you come to understand how these aspects can coexist, you are able to resolve the paradox named Marilyn Monroe Charles Manson.

Manson’s rejection of Christianity is based on his own experience that virtues like individuality, self-expression, and creativity are repressed in orthodox Christian practice. Certainly Friedrich Nietzsche, who Manson greatly admires, had the same condemnation for the institution that was the Catholic Church, where he criticizes the church for its attack on individual passion, desire, and by extension life itself. As Nietzsche says in his book Twilight of the Idols,

The church fights passion with excision in every sense: its practice, its “cure,” is castration. It never asks: “How can one spiritualize, beautify, deify a desire?” It has at all times laid the stress of discipline on extirpation–of sensuality, of pride, of the lust to rule, of avarice, of vengefulness. But an attack on the roots of passion means an attack on the roots of life: the practice of the church is hostile to life.

Manson became a flashpoint for many people because he embodied their highest hope: freedom from the restrictive structures of church and state. His popularity among his followers is in part founded on his embodiment of the emancipation of passion, desire, and individual self-expression, no matter that it is an expression of darkness more often than of light.

Humility

I won’t deny that Marilyn Manson is a troubled person that still has many inner wounds to heal, and the outward projection of that trauma can often be angry and violent. That being said, it seems clear that Manson understands the golden rule as self-evident, and when grounded, his orientation is towards being of service to other people. In general, he is humble enough not to take himself as seriously as many others do, and sees himself as a frail and fallible individual who continues searching for ways to find inner peace and fulfillment.

I like to look at all different religions, you know, I find valuable elements in, you know, Judaism, and Satanism, and Buddhism, and in Christianity as well, I think you can take different things that you can apply to your life, but if you follow anything solely, that’s as stupid as listening to everything that I have to say.

The Takeaway

Insofar as Marilyn Manson embodies a person who is willing to be vulnerable and authentically speak his mind, he inspires people to become more aware of who they are and whether or not they are living authentically. His recognition that we all must be willing to express our deepest fears and emotions, and in so doing expose them to the light of consciousness, is the reason we may be able to find some interesting clues within his provocative life about our own healing journey.

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6 Signs Of Growth To Start Giving Yourself Credit For

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  • The Facts:

    Most of us are our own biggest critics in life. And while that self-criticism can at times be helpful when it comes to accountability, it can also be quite detrimental if all we ever do is mentally bully ourselves.

  • Reflect On:

    What does your internal dialogue primarily consist of? Are you giving yourself enough credit for how you've grown over the years, are do you instead choose to beat yourself up for what you're not?

Whether or not you find yourself regularly on the receiving end of criticism from others, most would agree that the old adage that we are our own toughest critics is true. Even when we manage to accomplish one of the many goals we set out for ourselves, it typically doesn’t take our mind very long to find something within it to criticize.

A common reason for this is that the subjective expectation that so many of us set for ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously, is perfection. And while this frame of mind may seem both ambitious and healthy, as Tony Robbins infamously reminds us:

“Perfection is the lowest standard in the world. Because if you’re trying to be perfect, you know you can’t be. So what you really have is a standard you can never achieve.”

While there are plenty of tools, such as affirmations, meditation and the emotional freedom technique, designed to help us cut back on negative thought–which has been found to take up upwards of 70% of our mental chatter–I’ve found that one of the strongest antidotes is concrete evidence of the opposite.

Start Giving Yourself Credit For Your Successes

To assist in creating this, I’ve put together a list of six signs of growth that we all need to start giving ourselves credit for:

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1. You’re Less Impacted By The Opinions Of Others

While part of this certainly comes naturally with age, the ability to genuinely be YOU regardless of what others may think, say or do about it deserves plenty of recognition. This is especially true in the social media driven world that so many of us are entrenched in, where sending and receiving criticism has never been easier.

So even if there are only certain areas of your life where you can confidently say you are not impacted by the opinions of others, each of those areas is a great accomplishment to celebrate.

2. You’re Not Afraid To Say “No”

To some of us, it comes naturally, while to others it’s one of the toughest words to say despite being only two letters and one syllable. This is especially true when it comes to situations in which it must be said to either a loved one or a figure of authority.

The ability to say ‘no’ to situations you would genuinely not be comfortable in, tasks that you do not have the capacity for, and ideas you don’t believe in, is a superpower that if you are lucky enough to boast, is worth giving yourself credit for.

3. You’re Grateful For Your Past

Whether or not a substantial portion of your past has been riddled in hardship, everything that you’ve experienced in life thus far has played a role in making you into who you are today. The ability to recognize that, by seeing the bigger picture to even the most unfortunate of situations, rather than opting to forever dwell in fear, blame or regret is quite the accomplishment.

4. You Trust The Process

One thing is for certain: no matter our age, body of experience, or list of accomplishments in life, we are all consistently a work-in-progress. The ability to recognize that and know that even a rougher today is paving the way for a smoother tomorrow, rather than overreacting to any and all hardship that comes your way is a rare trait to behold and appreciate.

5. You’re Willing To Genuinely Listen

Despite how seemingly natural listening is, it’s amazing how few of us can genuinely classify ourselves as an effective listener. Unsure as to whether or not you are? Think back on the last non-drama filled conversation that you had with a friend or colleague. When not speaking, did you actually pay attention to and process everything that was said to you? Or did you either find your mind drifting to something unrelated or consistently formulating your next response?

If you not only know how to effectively listen, but you recognize the importance of it and how much can be given and gained from it, give yourself credit for that rare skill.

6. You Celebrate Rather Than Compare Yourself To Others

No matter how accomplished you are in life, you will never be the only one to attain goals similar to those that you are striving for–thankfully! And one of the clearest indicators of growth is gauging your reaction when you first discover the successes of others.

Do you choose to be genuinely happy for them and further inspired by their feat? Or do you find yourself riddled in envy? If you are best described by the first option, then be uplifted by your ability to be a true team player.


Originally written for and published by UPLIFT Connect as 6 Signs You’re Making Great Progress In Life.

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Are You A Spiritual Narcissist?

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    Narcissism, in a nutshell, is self-absorption to the extent that it will adopt any set of rationale to protect the ego which often includes a degree of self-deception. Is this happening to many in spiritual trends?

  • Reflect On:

    There is authentic being, and then there is self-absorption which pretending to be authenticity, are we aware of the difference?

We humans often have a hard time finding middle ground. We may be drowning in lack of self-worth one moment, and trampling over other’s with our own self indulgence the next as we struggle to find balance. Narcissism is not simply about enjoying selfies in our social media-saturated world, it goes deeper than that.

It appears as liberation but is a trap that can ruin relationships, increase personal suffering, and keep a person from their true spiritual aspirations. Not surprisingly, increased mindfulness and compassion for this tricky human quirk is the best way to heal it.

What is Spiritual Narcissism?

The capacity to become overly self-indulgent is within all of us, and it becomes increasingly dangerous when we confuse it with spirituality. In many ways it is easy to see that all of humanity is dealing with a certain degree of self-absorption while we desecrate forests and oceans, causing plants and animals to go extinct on our material quests. In his famous book, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, Chogyam Trungpa gave a good foundation for westerners to navigate the pitfalls of our materialistic abundance.

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The capacity to become overly self-indulgent is within all of us

We do not have to be ashamed of what we are. As sentient beings we have wonderful backgrounds. These backgrounds may not be particularly enlightened or peaceful or intelligent. Nevertheless, we have soil good enough to cultivate; we can plant anything in it. – Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

There is a difference between ego-self and the deeper universal soul within us, differentiating the two is important. Sadly, we have spiritual philosophies and religions that have been constructed to feed the ego, inflate self-righteousness, and create division while giving justification for all manner of activities including killing, exploitation, and oppression. Ethical conduct, regardless of spirituality, requires honoring the other and the self as one with each deserving to be respected, heard, and seen with compassion.

No matter what the practice or teaching, ego loves to wait in ambush to appropriate spirituality for its own survival and gain. – Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

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There is a difference between ego-self and the deeper universal soul within us

Finding the Antidote to Self-absorption

Narcissism, in a nutshell, is self-absorption to the extent that it will adopt any set of rationale to protect the ego which often includes a degree of self-deception. Ego is an important aspect of our selves, it is part of self-preservation but when it becomes out of balance it actually has the ability to destroy us and harm relationships.

Many spiritual practices seek to increase our ability to witness and bring mindful awareness to ego drives which allow us to master, instead of being enslaved by our ego. When ego gets too big it can be hard to swallow, yet spiritual liberation invites us to expand our sense of self beyond the ego, beyond time and space.

The goal is to find a balance between the inner experience and the outer reality. How do we embody healthy self-love without becoming an ego-maniac and hurting personal relationships? Meanwhile, self-loathing, and low self-esteem are also manifestations of ego out of balance. Selflessness can often be quite selfish, over-engagement can be as problematic as disengagement socially. Luckily we are here to find this balance through living fully, from making mistakes, and evolving our sense of self-awareness. Healthy self-awareness is the only antidote to self-absorption.

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How do we embody healthy self-love without becoming an ego-maniac?

The Story of Narcissus and Echo

One day Narcissus was walking in the woods when Echo, an Oread (mountain nymph) saw him, fell deeply in love, and followed him. Narcissus sensed he was being followed and shouted “Who’s there?”. Echo repeated “Who’s there?”. She eventually revealed her identity and attempted to embrace him. He stepped away and told her to leave him alone. She was heartbroken and spent the rest of her life in lonely glens until nothing but an echo sound remained of her. Nemesis, the goddess of revenge, learned of this story and decided to punish Narcissus. She lured him to a pool where he saw his own reflection. He didn’t realize it was only an image and fell in love with it. He eventually recognized that his love could not be reciprocated and committed suicide. -Wikipedia

Since intention is subjective, a person is often understood within their community by their actions or image. This becomes extra tricky in our age of social media and the materialism that has found it’s way into yoga, meditation, and spirituality. It is possible to put on a good act, to fool those around us and ourselves (temporarily).

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Narcissus mesmerized by his own reflection

We can have the latest yoga clothes, read the right books and hang out with all the “cool” people, but if our actions are not grounded in a deeper spiritual practice, basic consideration for others, and respect, it is still hollow. A common analogy is the guy who everyone likes but then goes home kicks his dog, or is rude and unaccountable to his wife.

Deep spirituality makes us more sensitive to the feeling of others, encouraging an open stance of courage where we can drop our protective shields and accept the vulnerability to be seen as we are. Narcissistic sensitivity, however, is focused solely on the subtle nuances one’s own internality, and resists looking at hard, uncomfortable truths that may upset the self image. One who is narcissistically sensitive is easily offended by the “coarseness” of others, seeks to make his environment change to align with the contours of his needs, and gets angry or offended when this does not happen. -The Allure of Narcissistic Spirituality, Huffington Post

How to Identify Narcissistic Behavior

The ability to identify narcissistic behavior in yourself and others is the best way to heal it. It is not your job to diagnose others or tell them they are narcissistic if they are not interested in hearing it or healing it. However, if you draw appropriate boundaries for them you will protect yourself and encourage them to become more mindful. This is a loving and compassionate way to handle narcissism.

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It is always healthy to make boundaries and speak your truth in a loving and compassionate way. Whether the narcissist hears it or not is out of your control. Common responses from narcissists will include belittling your feelings, a hollow apology without effort to modify behavior, or ignoring you altogether. Basically, they will use any excuse they can in order to not look at it, or to make the situation your fault. This is your cue to make appropriate boundaries for yourself.

Within yourself be open and receptive when others tell you that you have been inconsiderate of them. Accepting constructive feedback from loved ones is a great way to keep a balance between internal needs and external relationships. This is also how we grow as individuals.

Common traits of narcissism courtesy of BPD Central.

  • Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
  • Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
  • Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
  • Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
  • Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
  • Requires excessive admiration
  • Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
  • Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
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Evolving Unhealthy Patterns

Hopefully, this will help you navigate tough interpersonal relationships and also better yourself. It is a beautiful thing that psychology is allowing us to have terms to identify and evolve unhealthy patterns emotionally. As we learn to live in community, we learn many aspects of love. This is how we help ourselves and those around us grow!

I’m republishing,  for the CE audience, this piece I wrote for Uplift Connect.

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