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How Menstruation Relates To Moon Cycles, Nature & Diets

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    An ancient perspective with regards to a woman's period was far different from what it is today. It used to be related to spirituality and consciousness.

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    It's amazing how connected the human body is to cosmic events. Can cosmic events alter and shift human consciousness in some sort of way?

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When I first got my period, I was thrilled! I viewed it as a right of passage, marking my transition into womanhood, and I welcomed the opportunity to embrace my newfound femininity. However, like many women, over the years I eventually started to resent my time of the month, dreading my painful cramps and counting all of the things I felt I missed out on because of it. Society treats periods as though they’re dirty and shouldn’t be spoken of, and even women look down upon them as well; but, it wasn’t always like this.

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Menstruation used to be celebrated and seen as a gift, an element of the Divine feminine that deserved appreciation and recognition. It’s a beautiful form of detoxification only women get to enjoy and this process allows us to birth life, a miracle that can only be made possible through menstruation.

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Society used to refer to this sacred period as women’s “moon time,” as their cycle was actually synced with the moon. The word menstruation itself is derived from Greek and Latin words meaning month and moon. Menstruation not only ties us to nature, but it can also give women a better picture of their health and their chakra systems. So, how did we, as women, become so disconnected from the sacredness of our moon times, and how can we change the dialogue and the way we experience our periods?

The Divinity Behind Women’s Moon Cycles 

Those few days when women shed their menstrual blood used to be celebrated, as women were not permitted to be on their feet working; instead, they were encouraged to rest and nurture their bodies. Our cycles were naturally aligned with the rhythm of the moon as it waxed and waned. Menstruation would begin around the New Moon and ovulation would occur around the Full Moon.

The feminine energy in the villages was incredibly powerful, as women were experiencing their moon times together. Women were usually able to bond and relax during this time, so they could receive healing energy and appreciate this period of purification and rejuvenation.

To be clear, the fact that menstruation is a detoxification process does not imply women are dirty. In fact, it implies quite the opposite, as menstruation is a gift that only women were blessed with, which can help to detoxify them both physically and emotionally. Menstrual periods should be empowering for women, not embarrassing.

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The image of periods appearing to be “dirty” only gained popularity when we shifted towards patriarchy; but, now that the Divine feminine is coming into light, we’re starting to honour our moon cycles once again.

Toxins stored in the blood and liver have a chance to be flushed out as we menstruate. The liver is the primary detoxification organ of the body, as it’s the organ that’s responsible for filtering out toxins. Our cycles can also cleanse our reproductive systems, releasing bacteria from inside of it and helping the body to discharge excess iron.

This process is both natural and beautiful and it shouldn’t be shunned. There’s so much beauty within the dualistic nature of our moon cycles: The shedding of blood allows us to give life and benefit from the detoxification. However, our periods have shifted over the years, becoming far more painful and in many cases heavier. Many women are no longer connected to the moon, and they view their periods as something to dread rather than an event to get excited over. How did we, as women, arrive at this point?

Why Our Periods Have Drastically Shifted and Changed 

If your cycle isn’t synced with the Full Moon or New Moon, don’t stress! Just because your cycle isn’t in sync with the moon cycles doesn’t mean it’s not doing its job. There are many ways for you to sync it with the moon naturally, but the best part about menstruation is that it’s meant to flow, so it’s best not to try to control it.

This is one of the reasons why birth control is such a huge issue. Birth control literally controls when your period starts and finishes, and so it very rarely moves or experiences irregularities. There are a number of health issues with birth control, including a greater risk of certain types of cancer, depression, blood clots, heart disease, and more (read about it in our CE article here). Since your cycle cannot freely flow, you can’t learn from it in the same way you could if you weren’t on birth control.

Your period is such a gift; it communicates with your body and can tell you when something is wrong or when something needs to be looked at. When you experience PMS, irregular periods, a shift in start time, or any other symptom regarding your menstruation, that’s your body telling you that your health requires attention.

My period has always been synced with the New Moon, and the only time it changed since getting off birth control was after my grandmother passed away, when it synced with my cousins’ cycles on the Full Moon and didn’t shift back for months. I was experiencing other irregular symptoms during my period, forcing me to look inwards. I realized I not only had a health issue affecting my menstruation, but I also had a severe block on my sacral chakra, which was in turn affecting my period. Immediately after I dealt with these issues, my period returned to its regular cycle and started on the New Moon once again.

Everything happens for a reason, especially in our bodies! If you’re experiencing painful menstrual cramps, that’s not just a “regular” symptom of having your period. Whenever we have pain in our bodies, it’s always telling us that we need to look deeper and search for the root cause of the issue.

In Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), the liver is said to govern emotion and anger. Since the liver holds a strong relationship to menstruation, as it’s detoxified during this process, our periods can also reveal the health of our livers. Many women have an emotional reaction to their menstruation, often referred to as PMS, and they express anger or other extreme emotions. Since anger and emotions are connected to the liver, PMS could either mean that we’re experiencing changes within our livers, which is natural during our periods, or that we need to focus more on the health of our livers.

In addition, according to TCM, painful period cramps could actually be a symptom of a hormonal imbalance and a Qi deficiency. In TCM, Qi is believed to be everywhere on Earth, including our bodies. When you’re healthy, Qi is flowing freely through you, whereas when you’re unhealthy, you either have a blockage from Qi or your “Qi tank” is low. If there’s no Qi to move the blood out of your body during your moon time, the body is forced to cramp up and try to expel the blood out itself. You can learn more about this in an Organic Olivia video here.

If you do experience PMS and other symptoms society deems “regular” during menstruation, don’t stress too much. Yes, we need to learn to listen to our bodies more and look inwards more frequently, but to a certain degree, these phases of our cycle are normal.

Our cycles not only relate to the moon, but they also correlate to the seasons experienced in nature. For example, the week we have our period is related to winter, when we experience a little more darkness and feel the need to retreat. The following week, when our period is over, relates to spring, and then we experience summer when we’re ovulating, which is typically the time we feel best during the month. Lastly, the week before our menstruation, we enter into fall, a time when we experience heightened emotions as we start to let things go and fall away, otherwise when some women experience PMS symptoms.

I believe that, to a certain degree, many of these symptoms are meant to be felt, listened to, and learned from, but not to the extremes many women go through now. Many women are severely disconnected from their bodies, which is largely due to societal norms and beliefs and modern medicine.

Birth control is taken by many women, which not only hurts the body but prevents us from connecting with our periods. What’s more, women use toxic tampons and other feminine products that contain pesticides, we’re exposed to excessive amounts of toxins through our environment and our diets, and we suppress our emotional trauma, creating blockages on our chakras.

How Can We Rediscover and Reclaim Our Periods?

So, if you recognize that your period needs some extra attention, how can you give it the love it deserves? First of all, it’s about being gentle and compassionate towards your cycles. If you’re on birth control, experiencing extreme menstrual symptoms, have an irregular period, or whatever else, you must first be gentle with yourself. Recognize how this has served you in the past, and then figure out how you can positively change this.

Perhaps these extremities (severe PMS and cramps, disconnection from nature, etc.) were necessary in order for us to wake up and reclaim the sacredness surrounding women’s menstruation and the Divine feminine once again. Sometimes things need to get so bad that it’s almost a slap in the face, because it can trigger us and essentially force us to change.

There’s nothing wrong with having a period, but that doesn’t mean we need to suffer through it. As Dr. John A. McDougall says, “You should not look for defects in the ‘female design’ to explain the reasons for these epidemics of female troubles, but look rather to your own behavior.” How can you make changes in your own life in order to improve your menstruation cycle?

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Exercise and reduction in weight in obese women can also lower their levels of estrogens. The net result from reducing the exaggerated amounts of hormones found in too many American women down to healthier levels will be better general well-being all the time and relief from troublesome signs and symptoms during menstruation. For example, painful periods and copious bleeding become lighter and less painful.

There is a clear relationship between diet and menstruation; this can be seen when an anorexic woman’s periods stop, or when vegans report experiencing less period pain or lighter bleeding. Dr. McDougall further elaborates on this, saying “Vegetarian women, compared with those who eat meats, excrete 2 to 3 times more estrogen in their feces. Furthermore, the blood levels of certain powerful estrogens are 50% lower than are those in meat-eaters.”

Since periods are a way to detoxify the body, it would make sense that the symptoms associated with menstruation could improve if we’re intaking less toxins. When it all comes down to it, rediscovering our periods means rediscovering ourselves. It means improving the health of your body, reconnecting with nature, and looking inward.

Odds are that through this process, you’ll find that your period does sync with the Full Moon or the New Moon, as many women have reported this for centuries, including myself. So, what’s the difference between having your period sync with the Full Moon versus the New Moon?

Author Miranda Gray says:

A woman with the White Moon cycle, bleeding with the dark (new) Moon, becomes linked to the deepest levels of her awareness, reminding her that there exists more than just the world she sees, because she is the carrier of the seed of life. A woman with a Red Moon cycle, bleeding with the full moon, brings the energies and mysteries of her inner darkness out into the world around her as a gift and an offering of the depths of her learning.

I personally resonate with this answer, as I can see when these trends emerged in my own life. But, then again, every woman’s period is different, so if this article doesn’t resonate with you, then trust your own intuition. That’s the beauty of menstruation: It’s free flowing and changing, and has something different to teach each and every woman.

Additionally, if you’re interested in learning more about the Divine feminine and the sacredness of menstruation, I’d recommend the books Rise Sister Rise by Rebecca Campbell and The Red Tent by Anita Diamant. Much love!

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New Moon In Aries: Taking Bold Action

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We are having a New Moon in Aries during the later hours of April 11th in the Americas and on the 12th everywhere else in the world. This is initiating a 29.5 day lunar cycle and new wave of energy for the coming month; however, the astrological configurations mentioned throughout this article will be more prominent over the following two weeks. This cycle will include a Full Moon in Scorpio on April 26th/27th.

Aries season began at the Equinox (on March 20th globally this year) as it always does, as per the framework of the Tropical Zodiac. Being the first of twelve signs, and initiator of a transitional season, it begins the Astrological New Year. However with this New Moon actually occurring in Aries as well, it will crank up the energies of this sign even more so in comparison to the previous weeks that were part of a lunar cycle initiated by a New Moon in Pisces.

Aries is the domain of self, independence, and individual needs. As a Cardinal Fire sign ruled by Mars, it is assertive, courageous, direct, pioneering, and leading. It is initiating, quick, bold, energetic, and warrior-like. Negatively, this energy can be inconsiderate, selfish,  hot tempered, combative, restless, impatient, aggressive, and overly competitive. Aries lacks thoroughness due to its quick forward energy.

New Moon Conjunct Mercury & Venus In Aries

This New Moon is close to both Mercury and Venus. This can reflect a period in which our social interactions and engagement with others can be more lively. Both Mercury and Aries have a busy moving type of energy and we may feel more active, physically and/or mentally, as a result.

The conjunction of both of these planets with this New Moon also means it is tied into cycles that each of those planets have with the Sun. Venus recently joined the Sun in the last week of March and it is now travelling ahead of it in zodiacal position.

In recent weeks this has been a time in which we experienced shifts, developments, endings, beginnings, or more clarity around Venus areas of friends, love, social dynamics, values, worth, or financial matters in some cases. This New Moon and the weeks following can continue this process, especially when it comes to beginnings or newer ways of expressing ourselves in these areas.

Mercury is now approaching the Sun as they will make their conjunction on April 18th/19th. At that time we may experience developments, which may be significant, connected to what has transpired during its previous retrograde in February and how things have unfolded since then. From there, these things may develop further with a better perception, or circumstances may indicate lack of sufficiency, not what was anticipated, or that something needs to change.

Planets In Aries Square Pluto & Sextile Mars Trine Jupiter

This New Moon, along with Venus and Mercury, are in a square with Pluto and sextile with Mars and Jupiter. Pluto combined with Aries and Mars energy can reflect a period of intensity. However, it can also play out as issues around power, control, manipulation, jealousy, insubordination, or subversion.  It can also be revealing, psychological, compulsive, transforming, and purging.

The sextile with Mars in Gemini adds to the lively, assertive, instinctual, and energetic expressions of Aries. The Aries’ planets sextile to Jupiter, which is also trine Mars, can be good for applying ourselves in a way that is expansive, optimistic, educational, philosophical, explorative, freedom seeking, or centered around beliefs. New doors may open up and it can even be lucky for some people.

Uranus square Saturn (mentioned here in a previous article) is still in the backdrop as it will be throughout the year. Although it’s not in one of its strong periods, themes of ‘freedom/rebellion/revolution being at odds restrictions/limitations/traditions are still playing out. This may get activated in different ways by this new lunar cycle and the Aries energy that has already been present over the previous weeks following the Astrological New Year.

Making Intentions & Things To Consider

How would you like to grow and expand and what do you need to change to get there? In what areas do you need to be more bold or courageous? What have your relationships shown you in recent weeks? What is important for your individuality? What are your personal needs? What do you stand for and should you be fighting for it? Do you need to be a leader in any aspects of your life? Are there any new things that you want to explore?

These are just some examples of what to consider or focus your intentions on at this time. However, it is good to reflect on anything else that is coming up for you. It is generally best to make any intentions within the first 24 hours following a New Moon. The exact moment it will occur is 2:31am Universal Time on April 12th. You can click here to see what that is in your time zone.

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A Symbiosis of Humans & Technology – Changing The Conversation

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Have you ever noticed that discussions about transhumanism tend to focus on technology more than humanism? The journey to reaching our highest potential as a species is usually focused externally on the technology rather than internally on our conscious evolution. This is probably because people assume that conscious evolution is more about spirituality whereas technology is more having to do with the things humans create. The two paths are interdependent so we need more conversations between experts in each of these fields. It will only be through a recognition of the symbiotic nature between humans, their technology, and the environment that we will avert self-destruction.

trans·hu·man·ism (n.) 1. A belief that humans should strive to transcend the physical limitations of the mind and body by technological means. 2. A movement of people who espouse such a belief.

Standing at a Crossroads: The influence that technology has on society and culture is called, technodeterminism. Most of us carry mini supercomputers in our pockets called smartphones. These devices act as external brains which seamlessly integrate into most aspects of our life. Most of us are completely dependent on them for travel, work, communication, entertainment, and beyond. Take a moment to consider the future implications of augmented reality, artificial intelligence, machine-learning, mass surveillance, automation, genome editing, nanotechnology, and their potential influences on society, culture, and our environment.

When I think about these things, I can’t help but ask:

Why aren’t people like the Dalai Lama, Deepak Chopra, and Dr. Andrew Weil conversing more with people like Ray Kurzweil, Elon Musk, and Steve Mann?

Ancient Futures: It will become increasingly imperative for our most advanced technologies to be informed by the natural ethos of indigenous people blended with the emotional-intelligence of our enlightened spiritual masters. We must remember that the first humans who captured fire to light their cave, stay warm on a cold night, or cook their food were using technology. Anthropologists proudly call us humans “tool-makers” as one of the attributes that make us distinct from most species.

Paradigm Shift: Conscious evolution will require a concerted effort to communicate across silos and disciplines. Cooperation and collaboration towards collective goals will need to take the place of competition for personal gain. What are we hoping to accomplish, and at what cost? We are a risk-taking species and that drives us to exceed all our limitations. Let’s make these be calculated risks because with our technology also comes a great responsibility.

Start Within: Even our most sophisticated technology does not possess the complexities of organic systems. Computers and machines can do many things for us but they will never be able to feel for us. The realm of emotion is central and unique to our human experience yet it is only now starting to be recognized as a valuable form of intelligence.

Emotional intelligence (EI) is the ability to recognize one’s own and other people’s emotions, to discriminate between different feelings and label them appropriately, and to use emotional information to guide thinking and behavior.” -Andrew Coleman A Dictionary of Psychology

Research in multiple fields of study shows that curiosity, creativity, taking initiative, multi-disciplinary thinking, and empathy are skills that will redefine traditional beliefs about intelligence. The ability to accommodate new information requires a certain level of mental flexibility, humility, and ultimately character. It is through our ability to feel and process our emotions that our higher intelligence flourishes.

SuperHumans: Any sports fan knows that there are individuals who possess superhuman gifts. Think of popular sports stars like Michael Jordan, or any of the various extreme sports heroes who somehow manage the seemingly impossible. We also have the various musical or art prodigies who express the skills of a master before the age of 10. We have seen humans walk on red-hot coals with bare feet, walk a tightrope between skyscrapers, and exhibit mind-boggling feats of mental-focus, and will-power. Did you know that Wim Hof ran a half marathon barefoot on ice and snow, with a time of 2 hours, 16 minutes, and 34 seconds? Humans are capable of amazing things when they channel discipline, practice, creative brilliance, fearlessness and focus. We have barely scratched the surface of what is possible!

Global Meditation: This simple practice of quieting the mind, and bringing presence to one’s breathing has a long list of documented benefits that include enhanced neural connections, deep feelings of connection and well-being, as well as a strengthened immune system. When we compound this focused intention to include tens of thousands of people all over the world, we begin to literally shift planetary magnetic resonance. The science does not lie, we are potent electrical beings with the ability to focus consciousness and create beyond our wildest imaginations.

Everything technology offers is a reflection of the technology that we, as humans are. Learning to laugh at ourselves a little while delving into our emotions and to make room for possibilities beyond our currently held beliefs is essential for this journey. In order for us to create technology that is aligned with all of life and our planet, we must first become aligned with ourselves and each other. Global meditation is where we practice together!

We can no longer claim that a technology is advanced if it is destroying our skies and rivers or perpetuating harmful practices like war and domination. These are examples of misguided technologies. Our DNA has been informed by countless generations of evolution. It is time that we focus our consciousness towards the natural wisdom kept by indigenous people, while embracing the presence of enlightened spiritual masters. This will allow us to infuse our science and highest technological advancements with ecological and emotional intelligence for the benefit of all life.

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A Proven Technique To Neutralize Draining Emotional Reactions

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    We'll explore a simple scientifically proven technique to help neutralize emotional reactions that often drain our energy and reduce our ability to think clearly and make effective decisions.

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    How often do you check in to how you're are feeling? Do you feel you are able to self regulate your emotions easily?

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Do you notice that you sometimes feel tired or fatigued but are not sure why? Maybe you can have a restful sleep and still wake up having a sense that your energy is not quite there? Maybe you notice yourself being reactive, having a short fuse and feeling unclear about what decisions to make? Maybe you say things to friends, family or people online that you later regret or didn’t truly mean. Much of this can have a lot to do with how we’re feeling emotionally on a regular basis. Emotions that are happening just a touch outside our conscious awareness.

Let’s just do a very quick check in to see what I mean. If you stop a take a moment right now to ask “how am I feeling?” What do you notice? Are you feeling good? Energized? Do you have a background tension? Are you a bit stressed? Annoyed? Are you relaxed and calm? Are you perhaps relaxed yet feeling blah? When we do these check ins we bring awareness to how we might be feeling. This is something we typically don’t do that often and thus are simply not consciously aware of how we feel. If we were a bit more consciously aware of how we felt, we’d have a greater understanding of what we could do to feel better as we know where we’re at.

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This is important because one of the greatest unrecognized sources of prolonged stress, fatigue and physical wear and tear on our bodies comes from living our day to day lives in a state where we consciously or subconsciously experience what we might call ‘draining emotions.’ These are emotions like worry, fear, anger, resentment, or sadness etc.

For each of us, we’re likely going to experience these emotions at some point in life, and this is normal. Typically when we experience these emotions, we’re getting an insight into ourselves. Since what triggers these emotions can often be subjective, we can learn something about our current self by paying attention to these emotions. For example, someone might cut us off while we’re driving on the freeway. On one hand, one person might react aggressively and become very angry, while another might simply see it as a mistake on the part of the other driver and move on with their day.

Why some of us react and others don’t typically comes down the the story we’re telling ourselves about why that person cut you off. Perhaps they take it personally, perhaps they see it as an attack in some way – who knows? You. Only you know, and you can get closer to knowing what that is so you don’t harbour that draining emotion for the rest of the day, and even remove the trigger to begin with so you don’t necessarily have to go down that angry road every time something small like this happens.

I want to be clear here, we’re not looking to avoid emotions or never experience them, we’re looking to gain awareness around why they come, and ultimately have the choice over what gets us bothered and what might be better to simply let go. There is a difference between momentarily feeling an emotion like this, and letting it become a ‘background state’ of being that slowly begins to shape our attitude towards unhealthy and draining tendencies.

We can likely go on all day about where we should ‘honor’ some emotions in some situations or stand up for ourselves in others – I’ll let you decide that within yourself for each situation, but what the focus here in this piece is to simply look at how we can neutralize an emotional experience so we can stop it from draining all our energy and gain greater clarity on why it might be happening.

The exercise below is geared towards improving our self awareness around situations and how we feel, so we can learn to self-regulate emotions at anytime, as well as turn off triggers that might not really be the greatest to have to begin with.

Remember, we’re going to stick with a situation where we are cut off in traffic, but you can use these steps for anything. Maybe you realize you are fearful about a situation. Maybe you notice ongoing worry about something that’s happening or may happen – whatever it may be, the steps can be applied.

A Quick 3 Minute Exercise

We’ll go through the steps, this might seem long at first but it’s actually very short once you get the hang of it. This method is based on decades of scientific researching involving the heart and the benefits of creating coherence through good heart rate variability. You can learn more about that here under the section “Coherence & Optimal Function.”

1. The first step is becoming aware of the fact you’re having the emotional experience. What we’re doing here is by reading this we’re setting up a bit of an increased self awareness in our minds that can help us remember to check in when we next have an emotional reaction to something. Perhaps the car cuts us off while driving, and we react, but then shortly after we remember that we want to have a closer look at that emotional reaction and perhaps choose a different response instead of going down an energy draining rabbit hole. So the first thing we want to do is become aware that the experience is happening.

2. The next step is accepting the experience that’s happening. What this means is, if the person in front of us cuts us off while driving and we get angry and realize we’re angry, bring to your awareness that this is OK. We’re not looking to create a judgement about what happened or what we’re experiencing, instead we simply want to see it for what it is, an experience that happened and we’re now aware of and sitting as an observer of it. What this does is it empowers us to be able to look a little more closely at what we’re feeling and why. After we become aware, take note of the emotion you’re experiencing and name it. Is it anger? Is it worry? Is it fear?

As a small kicker to this, just imagine that the intention here is to turn down the intensity of the emotion so we can go in a take a look at what’s going on in the same way that a firefighter will spray water onto a burning house to stop the fire and cool it enough to go in and assess what the source of that fire was.

3. Next we’re going to take a moment and place our hand or a couple fingers over the areas of our chest, around where your heart is, and use the placement of your hand as something to focus on. With your eyes open, take some comfortable yet slightly deeper breaths. Feel your breath moving in and out of the area of your heart (where you hand is). To do this, don’t worry too much about how perfect the breathing is or whether it’s exactly going in and our of your heart area, just sit with a gentle focus that your breath is moving in and out of the area of your heart. Our goal here is to bring awareness to the physical heart and begin to influence its rhythms ever so slightly. Breath into your heart for about 30 seconds.

4. Next we want to continue our heart focused breathing while also imagining the feeling of calm or ease enter into our bodies. Spend the next 2 minutes or so breathing in the feeling of calm or ease into your heart with comfortable breaths. Notice the calm and ease come over your mind and body. What this stage does is it shows us that we have the ability to produce our own emotional regulation by creating a physiological state that is more synchronized and favorable for introspection and clarity.

After step 4 you should feel a lot more neutral in your feeling, but it may be possible you’re still annoyed or upset about the situation, this is great and in many ways the point of the exercise. Remember the firefighter analogy.

If it’s a really small situation, this awareness might already help us choose to simply let it go. If it’s a larger situation, this exercise helps us reduce the intensity so we can gain a bit more clarity about what’s going on and stop us from simply circling the experience over and over again in our minds, potentially increasing our anger and draining our energy.

Now as a final step, you can take a moment to just assess, what is the story you have been telling yourself about the situation? What might be a more effective way to approach or think about the situation? In the case of getting cut off in the car, was it really personal? If so, how do you know? If it was a mistake, is anger helping you or just providing an undesirable experience? If you had the freedom, would you choose anger at the other driver or to just let it go and maintain better health?

The point here is that with awareness we get clearer on who we are and how we function. This inevitably gives us a choice in how we choose to react.

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