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Thinking You’re “Ugly” Can Damage Your Well-Being: It’s So Important To Develop Self Love

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  • The Facts:

    This TED Talk perfectly displays why perceiving yourself as “ugly” can have a negative impact on you and why it’s so important to develop self.

  • Reflect On:

    Does society profit off of our insecurities? Who defines what's "beautiful?" and where did it come from. Why do so many people look down on themselves in this regard?

To start, if you’ve ever looked down upon yourself or spoken the words “I’m so ugly” to yourself, you’re not alone. You could be someone who has an immense amount of self love and still have some self doubt occasionally, and that’s perfectly understandable. We live in a society that perpetuates the belief that beauty is only skin deep, and it can be difficult to ignore that message every moment of every day.

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However, it’s when you start to believe those thoughts fuelled by hate rather than those focused on self love that it becomes a deeper issue. If you feel like your inner thoughts are filled with more body shaming and negativity than they are with positivity and self love, ask yourself: Why do I feel this way, and when did I start to let my outer appearance determine my self worth?

Even if you don’t experience body image issues, odds are that you know someone who does. An astonishing 10,000 people every month ask Google, “Am I ugly?”

I make a point of expressing to my friends just how beautiful they are all the time. I’ve listened to them on countless occasions discuss how perceivably “ugly” they think they are, and it always shocks me. These are my friends, the most beautiful people I know. How can they not see their beauty in the same way I so clearly do? How can they not value themselves as much as I value them?

Sometimes compliments can rub people the wrong way as well. By complimenting one another on our physical appearances, are we giving too much power to the way we look? I personally think that complimenting someone on the way they look can brighten their day, because I know it brightens mine. However, I encourage you to compliment people on their inner beauty as well, because that’s what truly matters anyways.

Part of the issue here is social media. People all over the world are looking at social media constantly, encouraging them to value themselves off of the number of “likes” they receive and the amount of comments left on their posts. This is especially an issue amongst young, impressionable adolescents, who are growing up in a very different world than we did, one that’s engrained in social media and pop culture.

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Even the most perceivably beautiful human being could body shame themselves or have incredibly low self esteem. So many people assume that just because people perceive you as pretty that you have no problems in your life, which is rarely the case. You cannot expect to know someone based on the way they look, which is another huge problem with social media.

The common denominator here is that most people experiencing these internal struggles are giving power to the outside world to determine their self worth. They look toward others to understand the latest fashion and technological trends, and decide that if they don’t follow the status quo, then their self love should lower.

They allow the feelings and beliefs of others to affect their own opinion of themselves. The issue here is that we’re searching for self worth in others, rather than through ourselves. It’s referred to as “self love” for a reason, because it’s all about your sense of Self, not the opinions of others. The beauty of self worth is that no one can determine it but you. Sure, other people can influence it, but only if you let them.

Meaghan Ramsey of the Dove Self-Esteem Project recently gave a TED Talk discussing the prevalence of body image and physical appearance issues in society. The disturbing thing is, they’ve become extremely common amongst children, impacting their education and social lives in surprising ways.

You can watch the full video below:

Final Thoughts 

All of this comes back to us allowing society to shape our opinions and make our decisions for us. We often allow our dreams to die because society didn’t believe in them, and we say “no” to our wants and desires because we’re afraid of what others will think. What if we turned off the little voice inside our head that constantly asks “What will they say?” and instead asked ourselves, “What truly makes me happy?”

The best advice I can give you is to stop searching for the answers outside of yourself and start looking within, because that’s what I did. Get to know yourself, ask yourself deeper questions than those that simply revolve around your personal appearance, and really figure out what you want in life.

Do you want to be a follower, someone who places the responsibility of determining something as important as your self worth on others? Or would you rather search for deeper meaning in your life, regardless of what other people think? Trust me when I say that gaining the approval of others will never feel as good as strengthening your own self love.

I know it’s easier said than done, and I encourage you to constantly remind yourself that self love is not a destination, it’s an ongoing journey. I have to remind myself all the time that I don’t put my self worth into my body image, despite the fact that I know I have a lot of self love. You don’t simply reach a point where you’ll love everything about yourself forever. You’ll change and grow as a person, constantly asking yourself, “Is this the person I really want to be?” And as a result, your self worth and self love will shift as you evolve.

Those of us who are building up our self love have days when negativity takes over our minds too. The difference is that the stronger your self love is, the stronger your ability will be to shut down those thoughts and not give power to them.

Why do we give so much power to our physical appearance in the first place? Regardless of what you look like on the outside, we’re all just human beings. Perhaps part of the reason so many people are a little too focused on the way they look is because their souls are truly yearning for something more.

We let our physicality separate us in so many ways: from the brands we wear and the way we do our hair to some more serious topics like our genders and our races. So many people prefer to identify with different labels and focus so much on their exterior that they forget to face themselves on the inside, going beyond the physical plane.

So, the next time you’re looking in the mirror, I encourage you to look at yourself and tell your body you love it. Your body is your most incredible tool; it’s the vessel you use to explore this life. Without it, you couldn’t play out your human experience. Why not give it the love and appreciation it deserves?

Afterwards, I encourage you to look in the mirror and look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself that you’re beautiful. If you’d prefer, you could even close your eyes so you can truly gaze within. If you’re looking into your eyes or closing your eyes, you won’t be looking at your body, your hair, your clothes, or whatever else. You’ll be peering into yourself on a deeper level; after all, they do say that the eyes are the gateway to the soul.

Tell yourself that you love the inner you, even if you don’t fully believe it yet. Have compassion for wherever you’re at in life right now and understand that your journey is just that — it’s yours. It’s perfect for you, and no one else can fully understand the path you’ve chosen but you. You’re strong, capable, and so very worthy of love.

You are beautiful.

Much love.

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An Animation That Beautifully Explores ‘The War On Consciousness’

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  • The Facts:

    Many feel there is a great effort to suppress human consciousness. Not just our will, but the exploration of who we truly are. This shows up in many ways, originating top-down from corporations to governments etc.

  • Reflect On:

    There is no actual 'war.' This is a state of perception. If we see it as war, we create fighting. Instead, let's simply evolve and expand our consciousness knowing we're more powerful than those who suppress. Spreading knowledge and living it is key.

The animation below is great and Graham Hancock’s message in it is also powerful, but I want to address something important quickly before we start, as what I’m about to say is a crucial part of the message we have been working so hard to convey here at CE since inception.

I get that ‘the war on consciousness’ is a figure of speech in the case of this talk, but with 10 years working in this field of journalism and consciousness, I do see many of us getting caught up in the idea that we have to fight and that there is a war to be won.

I see this as a state of consciousness that will keep us locked in a state of disconnection and loss of power.

Moving Beyond A Key Myth

One of the biggest myths that gets spread around this movement is that we must get angry to change the world. The truth is, some of us might get angry at first, and that’s totally fine! But we have to shift beyond the consciousness of being angry about our world before we can change it in any way that will TRULY cause change.

When we change things out of anger, spite, judgement or anxiety, we don’t create systems from the heart, this we will need to break them down again in a very short time. Not because we have evolved beyond them again, but because they are systems created from a polarized state of being. THIS is what we’re moving beyond in this shift.

Change Starts Within.

This is neutrality in action. This is how we evolve beyond what we see in our world.

What does it mean to evolve beyond it? It’s to be in a state of being and emotion where these events can no longer happen. When you assume you must fight for something, you are saying that there needs to be a fight, thus you are met with a fight. That emotion and idea comes from a disconnected state of consciousness where we can still create that experience.

If we as individuals evolve beyond the need for the fight, it would mean to be in a state of being where we do not need to see the fight. That comes from changing our view and perception of something.

Being present, being here now, and not identifying so strongly with the body, our identity, culture, skin color, struggle etc is powerful. We instead see and live in a state of being where we practice the knowing of our pure potential, living through the heart, collaborative oneness and true heart guidance.

Thus, to evolve beyond it is to change your state of being so that this type of reality no longer exists as it can’t be created from that new state of being. When we achieve this collectively, it no longer exists in our world.

Now that I got that out of the way, one last note is, Graham Hancock will speak of psychedelics in his talk. They have become incredibly trendy today, and while they can help people, research is suggesting this happens when done in specific ways and with specific intentions. Many are starting to put all their power into these plants as if it will do the work for them. They don’t, and won’t.

You can also achieve these exact same insights without the use of these plants. It’s important we maintain a grounded and realistic approach to these plants so they can be used with respect and for their intended purpose. We explore the purpose of psychedelics deeply in an episode of The Collective Evolution Podcast here.

 The ‘War’ On Consciousness

This animation was created by the talented team over at After Skool. You can check out their channel here.

Transcript

What is death? Our materialist science reduces everything to matter, materialist science in the West says that we are just meat, we’re just our bodies. So when the brain is dead, that’s the end of consciousness, there is no life after death, there is no soul; we just rot and are gone. Actually, many honest scientists should admit that consciousness is the greatest mystery of science and that we don’t know exactly how it works.

The brain is involved in it some way but we’re not sure how. It could be that the brain generates consciousness the way a generator makes electricity, if you hold to that paradigm, then, of course, you can’t believe in life after death, when the generator’s broken, consciousness is gone. But it’s equally possible that the relationship — and nothing in neuroscience rules it out – that the relationship is more like the relationship of the TV signal to the TV set, and in that case, when the TV set is broken, of course the TV signal continues. And this is the paradigm of all spiritual traditions, that we are immortal souls temporarily incarnated in these physical forms.

If we want to understand consciousness, the last people we should ask are materialist scientists. Instead, we should look at ancient cultures, like the Egyptians, who highly valued dream states. Many ancient cultures around the world used hallucinogenic plants to understand consciousness and expand their minds.

However, in today’s society, visionary plants are highly illegal because they promote a state of consciousness that does not agree with the agenda of profit. Substances, like coffee, alcohol, sugar and pharmaceuticals, are forced upon the population, but possession of even small quantities of cannabis, Ayahuasca or psilocybin will land you in jail. If we do not recognize the right of adult sovereignty over consciousness, then we can NOT claim to be free.

Look at what our moderns state of consciousness has done. We have destroyed the natural gifts of the earth in pursuit of short-term, selfish gain. We must reconnect with spirit immediately or else we will encounter disaster. Visionary plants could be the remedy for our current sickness.

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Smiling At Cashiers & Other Sparks Of Divinity

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  • The Facts:

    It is possible to have profound experiences in some of the most mundane encounters with others.

  • Reflect On:

    How would your life change if every interaction you had with other people was infused with the conviction that we are all one?

It’s one of the things I like to do, as the receipt is being put in my hand: offer a grateful ‘thank-you,’ and look in the cashier’s eyes for an extra split-second and smile, and see if they are ready to share a spark of divinity that crosses between our souls.

Sometimes they are, as happened to me recently at a ‘No Frills’ express lane. I looked at the girl as she handed me the bill, she looked at me, and then came the recognition in her eyes, in her smile, whether conscious or not, that we are connected, that we see each other, that we are grateful to be alive to have this kind of experience. Magic.

Sometimes the cashier is not ready, and my smile is met with a furtive glance, back to the next matter at hand, the next customer in line. No matter. No effort to connect is wasted. Some of the energy still gets through and gives the person a lift.

Sometimes it is me who is not ready, and the smile from the cashier awakens me into appreciation. Imagine, they are the ones working a long, tiring, repetitive job and they take a moment to wake ME up!

When the cashier is efficient, friendly, light, then my appreciation for what they are doing pours out into that moment. When the cashier is slow, tired, fed-up, it is not so easy for me. But at times, I am prepared to take the opportunity to help reconnect that person to the vitality of life. Have you ever eased a busy, ragged, overwhelmed cashier into a moment of divinity with a warm smile of empathy? Have you ever made a frowning, wrinkled face light up? Try it! This may be the best experience of them all.

Learned Practice

I’m just grateful to have found this practice. It did not come naturally to me. I was always shy, cautious, pensive, ‘in my head’. It was through years of watching a few trusted friends, seeing how they interacted easily and openly with strangers, that I started to try to adopt a new approach.

I had long been a student of philosophy and spirituality. But if the study of esoteric matters remains on the pages, in the words, in the concepts, simply a tool of the intellect to make one feel smart, evolved, superior, then the whole point is missed, not only about spiritual knowledge but about life itself.

At first, the practice for me was about trying to feel connected myself; it served to make me feel more comfortable in the world, especially around other people. As I continued to practice, and expand that practice into other situations, not just with strangers but with friends, loved ones, enemies, it really broadened and deepened my understanding of spiritual principles which I had previously fancied myself an expert in. Perhaps one of the most important realizations I’ve had through all this is that true knowledge is humbling. If one’s knowledge base serves to inflate one’s sense of self-importance in the world in comparison to other people, then it is not true knowledge.

The Unbearable Lightness Of Being

Our lives on this planet are fraught with difficult emotions: fear, sadness, anxiety, and many others. One of the great healing salves is to endeavor to demonstrate to others the knowledge that we are all one. Most likely, you have had this kind of experience in some situations in your life, like smiling at a cashier or hugging a loved one. The key to a great life is to work to expand this experience into all our interactions with people, to overcome the barriers of separation, not only in others but especially the ones within ourselves.

This is the task of the bringers of light. And whether we are conscious of it or not, we are all here to bring our light upon the darkness, and collectively transform our world into our shared vision of harmony.

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Expanding Reality Through Consciousness: A Fascinating Interview With A Neurosurgeon

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  • The Facts:

    Joe recently sat down with Dr. Mario Beauregard for an in-depth discussion into consciousness, current events and how we can begin responding to the emerging desire for change.

  • Reflect On:

    What direction is our global society moving towards with regards to understanding the true nature of consciousness? Is a new consciousness emerging within us that no longer resonates with the 'old world?'

Mario Beauregard, PhD., is a neuroscientist currently affiliated with the Department of Psychology, University of Arizona. He has received a bachelor degree in psychology and a doctorate degree in neuroscience from the University of Montreal. He has also underwent postdoctoral fellowships at the University of Texas Medical School (Houston) and the Montreal Neurological Institute (MNI), McGill University.

Dr. Beauregard is the author of more than 100 publications (articles, essays, book chapters) in neuroscience, psychology, and psychiatry. He was the first neuroscientist to use neuroimaging to investigate the neural underpinnings of voluntary control in relation to emotion. Because of his research into the neuroscience of consciousness, he was selected (2000) by the World Media Net to be one of the “One Hundred Pioneers of the 21st Century.”

In the episode below, Collective Evolution founder Joe Martino and Dr. Beauregard sit down to discuss what transhumanism, AI, near death experiences and our current events have in common, which is consciousness. They all stem from what level of consciousness we are creating these things out of. Joe explores this topic with Dr. Beauregard in a recent episode of The Collective Evolution Show on CETV.

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