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Parables For The New Conversation (Chapter 29: The Astrologer)

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The following is a chapter from my book ‘Parables For The New Conversation.’ One chapter will be published every Sunday for 36 weeks here on Collective Evolution. (I would recommend you start with Chapter 1 if you haven’t already read it.) I hope my words are a source of enjoyment and inspiration for you, the reader. If perchance you would like to purchase a signed paperback copy of the book, you can do so on my production company website Pandora’s Box Office.

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From the back cover: “Imagine a conversation that centers around possibility—the possibility that we can be more accepting of our own judgments, that we can find unity through our diversity, that we can shed the light of our love on the things we fear most. Imagine a conversation where our greatest polarities are coming together, a meeting place of East and West, of spirituality and materialism, of religion and science, where the stage is being set for a collective leap in consciousness more magnificent than any we have known in our history.

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Now imagine that this conversation honors your uniqueness and frees you to speak from your heart, helping you to navigate your way more deliberately along your distinct path. Imagine that this conversation puts you squarely into the seat of creator—of your fortunes, your relationships, your life—thereby putting the fulfillment of your deepest personal desires well within your grasp.

‘Parables for the New Conversation’ is a spellbinding odyssey through metaphor and prose, personal sagas and historic events, where together author and reader explore the proposal that at its most profound level, life is about learning to consciously manifest the experiences we desire–and thus having fun. The conversation touches on many diverse themes but always circles back to who we are and how our purposes are intertwined, for it is only when we see that our personal desires are perfectly aligned with the destiny of humanity as a whole that we will give ourselves full permission to enjoy the most exquisite experiences life has to offer.”

29. The Astrologer

On a clear night on the island of Allandon, the astrologer was peering through the telescope in the village observatory when the scientist walked in.

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“How’s the view now?” asked the scientist.

The astrologer stepped away from the telescope and turned to the scientist. “Brilliant! The changes you made to the lens are perfect. Everything is so much clearer.”

“I’m glad to hear it’s working well,” said the scientist.

“Yes, I don’t know how I can repay you,” said the astrologer.

The scientist moved up to the telescope. “Oh, I don’t know,” he said casually as he peered quickly into the eyepiece. “Perhaps you could, you know, do one of those chart things you do.”

The astrologer was surprised. “You would like me to do your birth chart?”

“Oh, just for fun, you know,” he said. “I don’t really believe in those things.”

“Uh-huh,” she replied with a smile.

“Now don’t get me wrong. I mean no disrespect. But isn’t it completely irrational to think that the position of the stars could really have anything to do with our lives?” he asked.

“Perhaps it is,” she said.

The scientist frowned. “That’s not what I wanted to hear.”

“No?”

“Well, I was hoping that you could give me some proof that this stuff is real.”

The astrologer looked into his eyes. “Do you have a feeling inside you that wants it to be real?”

“Yes, I suppose I do,” he conceded.

“Look there for your proof,” said the astrologer gently.

In life there is no getting away from duality. As I have said, it is a requirement of existence itself. However this does not mean that it is ever necessary for us to identify firmly with one side of a duality and be in opposition to the other. We don’t need the battles of the sexes, the pitting of Democrats against Republicans, the wars of opposing ideologies. We have started to become so overtly aware of the damage caused by polarization that we are getting very clear in both our hearts and our minds what will be required of us to heal our divides.

As we bridge the rift between the West and the East, the material and the spiritual, reason and faith, innovation and tradition, both sides benefit. I am reminded of a movie I saw a few years ago entitled The Painted Veil, in which Ed Norton plays a bacteriologist and physician who has volunteered to go to a remote village in China to help stem a major cholera epidemic that has broken out. Through a series of deductions he realizes that the village’s water supply is continually being contaminated as a result of a local spiritual tradition to bury the bodies of the dead within the banks of the river. His orders to remove the dead bodies from the river banks are met with fervent opposition by the locals, who can’t comprehend that this is actually contributing to the outbreak. It is only when his reason-centered approach is allowed to influence their faith-based tradition and that the outbreak is brought under control.

On the flip side, our society is seeing a growing number of people of reason looking to people of faith, openly searching for something they realize is missing in their lives, something they cannot find through rationality alone. I personally have benefited from learning that I was sometimes best to follow my intuition even when the prudence of reason spoke otherwise. Living life not only through the intellect but also through the heart has made me much happier, more self-aware, confident, and perhaps even a little more humble. I have seen much of my fear fall by the wayside. I no longer feel the need, as I did up through university, to express my cynicism and outrage at all the darkness that I felt around me. My optimism about life today is unlimited. My life is no longer just about strategies to cope with fear and isolation, but also about connecting to a unity that has been there all along, just waiting to be discovered.

We begin to fulfill our potential as human beings when our reason and intuition both have a voice, when we develop both the left and the right sides of our brain, and perhaps more importantly when they are working together. We can move from our heart saying one thing and our head saying another thing to a more integrated experience. This is what it means to feel whole. I truly believe these two forces were made to complement each other, and when our rational and intuitive sides are both active and in harmony, we are positioned to have the most sublime experiences life has to offer.

On a larger scale, I believe the healing of the planet is also the bringing-into-balance of two sides, a profound merger in all facets of life of East and West. This is the last great synthesis, which promises to bring together the two fundamental ways that we look at life. This synthesis does not always unfold as smoothly as the harmonious interplay of yin and yang in the East. Neither, however, is it the fully confrontational battle of thesis and antithesis in the West’s Hegelian dialectic tradition. The tone of this final resolution of materialism and spirituality, of atomism and holism, of reason and intuition, of individuality and communality, appears to be borrowing from both systems of thought. Perhaps this is a good indication that the healing of these two polarities is well underway.

In our society, what is occurring in the healing arts and sciences themselves is a prime example of how this synthesis is taking place. The ways we seek to cure what ails us, physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, have started to converge. This is notwithstanding the fact that many proponents of the Western medical model have been fighting the rise of Eastern medicine in our society at every turn. Our health coverage is still designed to advantage practitioners and patients of Western medicine over the so-called ‘alternative’ modalities offered by Eastern practitioners. But over the last few decades, Eastern modalities are no longer considered ‘alternative’ as such, and are ever gaining on Western medicine as the preferred choice for treatment and prevention. Note that the term ‘alternative’ was first popularized when people who had been given no hope by Western doctors for chronic and often life-threatening illnesses searched for an alternative approach.

Western medicine is atomistic, based on the principle of dividing an organism into its component parts and dealing directly with the part that is diseased, so that this inherently bad part can be eradicated. Cancer, for example, has generally been treated in one way: if a tumor is found, the doctor will look for ways to excise it, shrink it, or render it inert and stop its growth. There has been little consideration given to the complex organism—the human being—that the cancer emerges out of. Now truth be told, the undistracted attention on the part rather than the whole has led to significant expertise in some areas. Surgical techniques that have saved the lives of many and improved the quality of life of countless others are the product of a Western mindset. So is the development of prosthetics, hearing aids and artificial organs, to name just a few important innovations. The focus of Western thought on the individual and the separateness of all things has honed the skill of the Western doctor in dealing with the minutest detail of an individual event or symptom—at the expense of gaining expertise on how to deal with the person as a whole.

Eastern medicine, by contrast, is holistic. That means that any organism is considered to be more than the sum of its parts. The interrelationships of the parts with one another and with the organism as a whole are the focal points. For this reason, the Eastern practitioner may treat identical cancer tumors located in exactly the same spot in two patients quite differently. The tumor itself is not the focus of treatment, since the tumor is considered a symptom of a deeper illness. The focus is the state of the organism and the conditions that gave rise to the tumor in the first place. The tumor itself is not considered bad; it is simply the manifestation of dis-ease, a message from the consciousness of the organism that its system is out of balance. And so the Eastern practitioner strives to help bring the organism back into balance, such that once the balance is restored, the organism is empowered to deal with the symptom of imbalance, in this case the cancerous tumor.

Up until very recently in the West, we only saw the doctor as a kind of ‘fixer’, a dispassionate expert whose words and prescriptions were not to be questioned. He was somehow above us rather than in some kind of relationship with us. It is not a surprise that Western doctors were typically known to have very poor bedside manner, and would speak to us about our disease conditions impassively or at best with misguided sympathy. There was no relation, for the Western doctor, between our condition and the emotional impact of the doctor’s behavior towards us or the actual manner in which the treatment was conducted. If there is cancer, it was thought that it will either grow or be killed off solely based on the efficacy of the radiation, chemotherapy, or surgery.

In contrast, the Eastern doctor is the ‘healer’ who forms a partnership with us to restore balance. It is more common for the Eastern practitioner to get to know us in areas other than those directly related to our medical condition. Their concern tends to be not only our physical but also our mental, emotional, and spiritual balance. The manner in which treatment is administered is often an essential aspect of the treatment itself.

The proposition that Eastern and Western modalities could work together, hand in hand, has only started to come about recently. On the one hand, many Eastern practices have been modernized and enhanced by Western technology and diagnostics methods. On the other hand, there have been a growing number of pioneers in the West who, while still grounded in the practice of Western medicine, believe that Eastern practices and techniques can be used in conjunction as complementary modalities. As an example, Western-based Cancer Centers are popping up that understand that illness must be addressed on the multi-dimensional levels that make up a complete human being—not just because it is what patients want, but because treating a patient as a whole person and not just a collection of body parts is becoming recognized as an effective component of healing. This is backed up, by the way, in clinical studies.

Individually we are becoming aware that healing is not just taking a pill or applying a cream to mask symptoms or give temporary relief. It is not painting a happy face over a legacy of pain and sorrow. And so too in the world, healing does not take place when one force tries to annihilate another, or when a society’s external order masks the internal suffering that rises from discrimination and intolerance. Healing is really getting to the source of our pain, bringing our darkness out into the open so that we can look at it and allow it to be. It is in acknowledging that we have fear and giving ourselves the opportunity to shine our love on it that healing occurs, for in submitting our fear to the light of love, it suddenly is transformed.

The transformation of our fear is complex, and occurs at many levels. If we follow the Eastern vision, the universe is a single living organism that we as human beings are a part of. We are also ourselves an organism made up of smaller organisms—heart cells and liver cells and blood cells, all with a life of their own but which contribute to the functioning of the larger organism. These organisms are therefore all interrelated by purpose. That is why our own personal path is inextricably linked with the journey of humanity, and the destiny of the universe. We are all on a common path—a healing path—back to the full unity of the Dao. We each have a unique pattern of light and darkness, of Love and Fear, and are on a path to let go of our darkness. When we have let go of all of our darkness then we will have let go of our individuality too, for our individuality is the ultimate illusion. As a being of pure light we would become self-identical with the Dao. This is the melting of the island into the ocean from whence it came.

But the Western vision sees the transformation of our fear differently. From the mechanistic standpoint we are separate and distinct. Our evolution is certainly not driving to dissolve our individuality but rather is seen as strengthening it. We wear the overcoming of our fear like a badge of courage, emblematic of our personal growth. We are not going back but rather we are going forward, evolving on the leading edge of consciousness.

In the final synthesis of East and West there must be a sacred merger of both of these visions into one. Perhaps our path is not simply a return of the island back to the ocean, but also the flowering of the island into increasing complexity. When a part of us heals, we could say at one level that we let go of darkness, but at another level we could say the darkness is transformed. We can see it as a maturing of the character of our Ego Self, making the veil of the illusion of our individuality finer, more transparent, and yet at the same time stronger and more sophisticated. In this way it is possible to move towards greater individuality while moving closer to a unity with the Dao at the same time.

It is as though we are each a sacred abode for the Dao, and our maturation moves us from simple to complex. At one time in our history we could be compared to simple caves and now are each becoming magnificent cathedrals. As caves, it would have been very difficult for the light of the Dao to penetrate into our limited consciousness. In fact we would practically have to go outside ourselves to become aware of the light of the Dao. But imagine us now becoming grand cathedrals, vast, spacious, with colorful stained glass windows on all the walls, letting in the light of the Dao. Our expansion from the cave to the cathedral is our move towards enlightenment. It is the march of consciousness. As our abodes become more complex, more intricate, more sophisticated, the more they allow in the light of the Dao. And so the more they become cherished houses for the Dao to experience itself from a particular perspective—our individuality.

As the flow of life moves us into ever-greater complexity, we will experience our grandeur as never before. If the purpose of life is to provide each one of us with the most exquisite experience possible, one could equally say the purpose of life is to provide the Dao with the most exquisite experience of itself through us. We are at a time in history where our cathedrals are undergoing major transformations, to give us more space and bring in more light for our experiences.

For now, it is enough to be aware that we stand on one side knowing that part of the truth is held on the other side. And if we can begin to see the possibility of having a foot in both camps, of thinking two ways in parallel, then we are indeed participating in bringing humanity through a watershed in the evolution of our consciousness. To get there we must become beings who can stand comfortably in discomfort, loving our own fear and accepting our own judgment. This move to greater complexity is our true coming-into-balance, the healing of the dichotomy that makes up who we are. And the more we are healed, the better we are placed to allow the source of all Creation to shine through us and fulfill the highest expression of ourselves, as beings of boundless creativity.

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Manifesting Your Vision Through “The Law of Attraction”

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The Law of Attraction is based on the principle that all matter is made up of pure energy, which is in a constant state of vibration and spin.

The LOA implies that thoughts and emotions are also energy, each having a unique energy signature. Every energetic frequency is in a constant state of attraction or repulsion with all others. With the recent emergence of quantum mechanics, this notion has been largely supported at a micro level.

The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like,” and we are in a constant state of creating our reality through the energy we emit in the form of thoughts and emotion. We continuously interact with the fabric of reality (or quantum field), through thought and emotional energy, and whatever we focus on is likely to manifest. We are each creators of our own reality, and what we put out is what we will attract.

3 Things You Need to Know First

1. A key factor missing from the LOA is that we are creating on both a conscious and subconscious level. This accounts for the seeming contradiction between “opposites attract” and the major principle of LOA, “like attracts like.”

We are still attracting the part of the whole that has been splintered and repressed into the subconscious mind. Basically, the actively repressed traits within ourselves are still charged, and this suppressed energy is also a point of attraction. Until we acknowledge and integrate it, it will still play a role in the creation of our external reality.

2. Our belief systems alter our manifestation process. If you want to manifest $10,000 in one week, but your underlying beliefs are largely identified with a state of lack, you will only manifest more lack.

This is because Law of Attraction works with both thought and emotion, and if you try to think your way into something that you don’t believe, your emotional reaction will support your unconscious beliefs more than your conscious thoughts.

If you try to affirm, “I will be abundant,” but don’t believe it, those beliefs will surface via an emotional response that insinuates the opposite feeling. At that point, you are literally putting the gas and the breaks on at the same time, making manifestation very difficult.

One great tip to overcome this, as stated by Abraham Hicks, is to “start general, and then get specific” with your manifestation process. Start with what you can believe, and continue to expand as you see evidence of your manifestations taking place. This allows your thoughts and emotions to be in resonance rather than dissonance.

3. We are always manifesting according to our highest values. Renowned behavioural development specialist Dr. DeMartini (who was also featured in The Secret) discovered that we all have an inherent set of values that is largely governing our behaviour. DeMartini is quoted as saying, “All of our actions are strategies to align with our values as efficiently as possible,” along with, “all of our positive and negative emotions are feedback as to whether or not we are living in our highest values.” Essentially, the things we value the most filter our perception at a subconscious level. They are governing the way that we manifest, and the reasons we do.

This is why, for example, someone might set a new year’s resolution to lose weight and never achieve their goal. If one of their highest values is social connection, their unconscious will perceive that taking the time to exercise and eat right actually conflicts with the time they would rather be spending at social events with others.

The trick, then, is to change your perception by tying in how exercise and diet actually support your high value on social connection. For example, you might feel more confident meeting new people when you are healthy and strong. Or you can approach it from the other end by tying your value into your goal. In this case, you could try to engage your value of social connection by going to the gym or to nutrition classes with your close friends.

What You Need to Know During Active Manifestation

These are some useful tips if you are meditating on your vision, or practicing visualization.

Clear your mind. To speed up the process of manifestation, presence and focus are key. If your attention is scattered, your manifestation will be too. Write down on paper whatever is bothering you, and vow to leave it outside of your visualization. This will help you stay present.

Open your heart for the process. Connect with the feeling of gratitude as you begin. This can be done by writing a short gratitude list, or by thinking of people/events that you are truly grateful for.

According to the HeartMath Institute, “The heart generates an electromagnetic field roughly 60 times greater in amplitude than brainwaves do.” This field is measured by an electrocardiogram (ECG), and brainwaves were measured using an electroencephalogram (EEG) during these findings. The heart is a major point of attraction.

Be clear. The law of attraction is described as a law. This means it responds to everything, without exception. If you are mixed in your emotions or vision, it will slow the process. The clearer and more detailed you are, the faster your vision will come to life.

Engage your senses. Did you know that the brain can’t actually tell the difference between experience and visualization? This is why visualization is so useful for athletes. This principle applies directly to the LOA. What do you see, hear, smell, touch, and feel when you have arrived at your vision? Feel each sense distinctly, and don’t be afraid to sit with each one individually.

Engage emotion. This is how to charge your vision. Emotions are the driving force behind manifestation.

Align your intention with your values. Tie what you want to manifest into your highest values. More simply put, make sure you can see how your goals support the things that matter most to you in life. This will help you manifest congruently from both the conscious and subconscious mind.

Don’t be desperate. Try to imagine that you are gently requesting. If you are being needy or desperate in your request, you are coming directly from an emotional space of lack. The emotional feeling of lack will counteract your thought-energy, and you are more likely to stagnate.

What You Need to Know After

Take action. Taking action will create momentum, while also building evidence toward creating the belief that your manifestation is unfolding.

Act as if it has already happened. “I AM” is a creative, powerful phrase. If you conduct your behaviour as the person you have already become, you are more energetically aligned with your goal.

Be aware of your internal dialogue. Remember, you are in a constant state of attracting or repulsing what it is that you want to achieve. Your internal dialogue is always creating a point of attraction, along with the emotional reactions it produces. Be congruent!

Allow! You must fully release your vision in order for it to manifest. If you are too attached to it, your need for control can actually stunt the process. Faith and belief in the process are key. It can be helpful to think in terms of being at a restaurant. Once you’ve placed your order, you have to give it time to be cooked up and served to you!

We are all creators, and we all deserve to live an inspired life. The Law of Attraction is a beautiful tool that enables us to consciously put our creative powers to use! In the words of George Bernard Shaw, “Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.”

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My Thoughts On “Spiritual Narcissism”

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In Brief

  • The Facts:

    Narcissism, in a nutshell, is self-absorption to the extent that it will adopt any set of rationale to protect the ego which often includes a degree of self-deception. Is this happening to many in spiritual trends?

  • Reflect On:

    There is authentic being, and then there is self-absorption which pretending to be authenticity, are we aware of the difference?

We humans often have a hard time finding middle ground. We may be drowning in lack of self-worth one moment, and trampling over other’s with our own self indulgence the next as we struggle to find balance. Narcissism is not simply about enjoying selfies in our social media-saturated world, it goes deeper than that.

It appears as liberation but is a trap that can ruin relationships, increase personal suffering, and keep a person from their true spiritual aspirations. Not surprisingly, increased mindfulness and compassion for this tricky human quirk is the best way to heal it.

What is Spiritual Narcissism?

The capacity to become overly self-indulgent is within all of us, and it becomes increasingly dangerous when we confuse it with spirituality. In many ways it is easy to see that all of humanity is dealing with a certain degree of self-absorption while we desecrate forests and oceans, causing plants and animals to go extinct on our material quests. In his famous book, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism, Chogyam Trungpa gave a good foundation for westerners to navigate the pitfalls of our materialistic abundance.

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The capacity to become overly self-indulgent is within all of us

We do not have to be ashamed of what we are. As sentient beings we have wonderful backgrounds. These backgrounds may not be particularly enlightened or peaceful or intelligent. Nevertheless, we have soil good enough to cultivate; we can plant anything in it. – Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

There is a difference between ego-self and the deeper universal soul within us, differentiating the two is important. Sadly, we have spiritual philosophies and religions that have been constructed to feed the ego, inflate self-righteousness, and create division while giving justification for all manner of activities including killing, exploitation, and oppression. Ethical conduct, regardless of spirituality, requires honoring the other and the self as one with each deserving to be respected, heard, and seen with compassion.

No matter what the practice or teaching, ego loves to wait in ambush to appropriate spirituality for its own survival and gain. – Chögyam Trungpa, Cutting Through Spiritual Materialism

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There is a difference between ego-self and the deeper universal soul within us

Finding the Antidote to Self-absorption

Narcissism, in a nutshell, is self-absorption to the extent that it will adopt any set of rationale to protect the ego which often includes a degree of self-deception. Ego is an important aspect of our selves, it is part of self-preservation but when it becomes out of balance it actually has the ability to destroy us and harm relationships.

Many spiritual practices seek to increase our ability to witness and bring mindful awareness to ego drives which allow us to master, instead of being enslaved by our ego. When ego gets too big it can be hard to swallow, yet spiritual liberation invites us to expand our sense of self beyond the ego, beyond time and space.

The goal is to find a balance between the inner experience and the outer reality. How do we embody healthy self-love without becoming an ego-maniac and hurting personal relationships? Meanwhile, self-loathing, and low self-esteem are also manifestations of ego out of balance. Selflessness can often be quite selfish, over-engagement can be as problematic as disengagement socially. Luckily we are here to find this balance through living fully, from making mistakes, and evolving our sense of self-awareness. Healthy self-awareness is the only antidote to self-absorption.

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How do we embody healthy self-love without becoming an ego-maniac?

The Story of Narcissus and Echo

One day Narcissus was walking in the woods when Echo, an Oread (mountain nymph) saw him, fell deeply in love, and followed him. Narcissus sensed he was being followed and shouted “Who’s there?”. Echo repeated “Who’s there?”. She eventually revealed her identity and attempted to embrace him. He stepped away and told her to leave him alone. She was heartbroken and spent the rest of her life in lonely glens until nothing but an echo sound remained of her. Nemesis, the goddess of revenge, learned of this story and decided to punish Narcissus. She lured him to a pool where he saw his own reflection. He didn’t realize it was only an image and fell in love with it. He eventually recognized that his love could not be reciprocated and committed suicide. -Wikipedia

Since intention is subjective, a person is often understood within their community by their actions or image. This becomes extra tricky in our age of social media and the materialism that has found it’s way into yoga, meditation, and spirituality. It is possible to put on a good act, to fool those around us and ourselves (temporarily).

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Narcissus mesmerized by his own reflection

We can have the latest yoga clothes, read the right books and hang out with all the “cool” people, but if our actions are not grounded in a deeper spiritual practice, basic consideration for others, and respect, it is still hollow. A common analogy is the guy who everyone likes but then goes home kicks his dog, or is rude and unaccountable to his wife.

Deep spirituality makes us more sensitive to the feeling of others, encouraging an open stance of courage where we can drop our protective shields and accept the vulnerability to be seen as we are. Narcissistic sensitivity, however, is focused solely on the subtle nuances one’s own internality, and resists looking at hard, uncomfortable truths that may upset the self image. One who is narcissistically sensitive is easily offended by the “coarseness” of others, seeks to make his environment change to align with the contours of his needs, and gets angry or offended when this does not happen. -The Allure of Narcissistic Spirituality, Huffington Post

How to Identify Narcissistic Behavior

The ability to identify narcissistic behavior in yourself and others is the best way to heal it. It is not your job to diagnose others or tell them they are narcissistic if they are not interested in hearing it or healing it. However, if you draw appropriate boundaries for them you will protect yourself and encourage them to become more mindful. This is a loving and compassionate way to handle narcissism.

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It is always healthy to make boundaries and speak your truth in a loving and compassionate way. Whether the narcissist hears it or not is out of your control. Common responses from narcissists will include belittling your feelings, a hollow apology without effort to modify behavior, or ignoring you altogether. Basically, they will use any excuse they can in order to not look at it, or to make the situation your fault. This is your cue to make appropriate boundaries for yourself.

Within yourself be open and receptive when others tell you that you have been inconsiderate of them. Accepting constructive feedback from loved ones is a great way to keep a balance between internal needs and external relationships. This is also how we grow as individuals.

Common traits of narcissism courtesy of BPD Central.

  • Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others
  • Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements)
  • Has a sense of entitlement, i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations
  • Is interpersonally exploitative, i.e., takes advantage of others to achieve his or her own ends
  • Is often envious of others or believes others are envious of him or her
  • Requires excessive admiration
  • Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes
  • Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions)
  • Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
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Evolving Unhealthy Patterns

Hopefully, this will help you navigate tough interpersonal relationships and also better yourself. It is a beautiful thing that psychology is allowing us to have terms to identify and evolve unhealthy patterns emotionally. As we learn to live in community, we learn many aspects of love. This is how we help ourselves and those around us grow!

I’m republishing,  for the CE audience, this piece I wrote for Uplift Connect.

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New Moon In Libra: Seeking Balance

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We are having a New Moon in Libra on October 16th throughout most of the world and in the morning of the 17th in the East. This is initiating a 29.5 day lunar cycle and new wave of energy for the coming month; however, the astrological configurations mentioned in this article will be more prominent over the following two weeks. This cycle will include a Full Moon in Taurus on October 31st/November 1st.

This New Moon occurs days after we have reached the halfway point of Mars’ retrograde in Aries which concludes mid-November. It is also days after Mercury began its retrograde which is currently in Scorpio and moving backwards into Libra before it moves forward again post November 3rd. Both of these planets being retrograde at the same time reflects a period of significant adjustments pertaining to how we express these planets, the signs they are in, and how they are configured to our individual astrological blueprints (natal chart).

Generally Mars retrogrades are a period in which the circumstances, developments, and our inner guidance is helping to facilitate a shift in how we apply ourselves and take action in specific areas of our lives. This is something that happens approximately every two years, which is less frequent and usually more significant than Mercury’s retrogrades. I wrote separate articles for each of them, you can read more about Mars Retrograde here and Mercury Retrograde here.

Libra season began on September 22nd/23rd, just over three weeks prior to this Lunation, and will end on October 22nd/23rd when Scorpio season begins. However, this New Moon (along with other planets) will still carry some of its Libra themes into the first week of Scorpio season prior to the Full Moon.

This is a good period of working with and co-creating with the energies of this sign. As an Air sign, Libra is socially and mentally oriented. Ruled by Venus, it is associated with relating, relationships, charm, harmony, compromising, art, creativity, and aesthetics. There is a big focus on others. Libra is also diplomatic as it seeks to find balance, equality, fairness, and common ground.

Negatively, Libra can be overly codependent, passive aggressive, superficial, insincere,  indecisive, vain, and judgemental. Although this sign is about politeness and harmony, retaliation can be triggered when imbalance and unfairness is perceived. Libra is also associated with people-pleasing which can have either positive or negative implications.

New Moon Aligned With Spica, In A Hard T-Square Pattern

This New Moon has an interesting mix of energies. It is tightly aligned with the fixed star Spica which is known to be the most benefic and fortunate star. However, it can be tricky to interpret how a star’s energy can manifest, especially in this case considering other astrological factors that are quite different.

Like Libra, Spica is connected to art and creativity, but also has spiritual, scientific, and inventive qualities. It is associated with harvest season and represents the ‘gifts of harvest’, both metaphorically and literally. However, it can also reflect unfruitfulness (depending on other variables) and injustice to innocence according to legendary astrologer Vivian Robson.

This New Moon is opposite Mars Retrograde in Aries which are both in a T-square with Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn in Capricorn. The Sun has been in an opposition with Mars in the week before this New Moon (peaking on the 13th/14th) which has been a significant part of the Mars retrograde process in influencing how we assert ourselves.

However, this energy is also configured into this New Moon and can play out as conflicts (internally or externally with others), impulsiveness, aggression, anger, competitiveness, or sexual tension. Mars in Aries wants to assert individuality, ego, personal needs, and self identity while the New Moon in Libra is looking for consideration, common ground, diplomacy, equality, and fairness.

This opposition in a square to Jupiter, Pluto, and Saturn in Capricorn can reflect power struggles, obstacles, and issues pertaining to beliefs, opinions, and perspectives. Saturn has the most power as it is strongly placed in its home sign (ruling Jupiter and Pluto) as the Sun and Moon are also moving towards a square (strong on the 18th/19th) with it while separating from the aspects to the other planets in this configuration. This calls for a need to be realistic, cautious, practical, disciplined, structured, or orderly. The combination of this and all the retrograde energy can call for some sort of refinement.

Venus Opposing Neptune, Trine Planets In Capricorn, and Square The Lunar Nodes

The ruler of this New Moon, Venus, has been in Virgo in the previous two weeks and will be there until October 27th/28th. Venus ruled areas of values, love, relationships, friends, social life, pleasures, money, aesthetics, beauty, art, taste, sensuality, desires, and attractiveness can be expressed in ways that are practical, conscientious, discerning, picky, detailed, organized, analytical, health oriented, productive, efficient, adaptable, or fault finding/surfacing.

At the time of this New Moon, Venus is moving towards an opposition to Neptune and trine to Jupiter which have been in a sextile over the previous weeks. This energy is strong from October 18th-19th and can be good for creative or artistic efforts as well as social interactions that have spiritual, compassionate, broad, or philosophical themes. It can also reflect expansiveness, growth, morals, optimism, idealism, along with confusion, deception, escapism, and delusion affecting Venus areas of life (as mentioned in above paragraph).

Mars retrograde will also be in a square with Jupiter at that time which could also reflect conflicts around beliefs, opinions, and judgements. Excessiveness, overconfidence, and spreading ourselves out too much can also play out. Mercury retrograde will be moving towards an opposition to Uranus (peaks 19th/20th) which can make it harder to focus and can bring disruption, changes to plans, and perhaps communication problems.

Venus approaches a square to the Lunar Nodes on October 20th/21st. We may be reflecting on the past and future, or perhaps at a crossroads, when it comes to relationships and values. Venus is then in a trine with Pluto (October 21st/22nd) which can bring an empowering, deep, intense, or insightful energy to things associated with Venus. Following this, it moves to a trine with Saturn (October 24th/25th) which can have a committing, strengthening, supportive, responsible, practical, or stabilizing effect on these areas.

Making Intentions & Things To Consider

What can you do to improve how you relate with others? Is there a need to compromise, find common ground, or achieve fairness and equality? What has come up for you in the week leading up to this New Moon? Should you change the way you assert your needs or individuality? Are circumstances in your life pushing you to think differently about something? What can you learn from any obstacles that have been coming up in your life? Is there anything that needs to be restrained?

These are just some examples of what to consider or focus your intentions on at this time. However, it is good to reflect on anything else that is coming up for you. It is generally best to make any intentions within the first 24 hours following a New Moon. The exact moment it will occur is 7:31pm Universal Time on October 16th. You can click here to see what that is in your time zone.

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